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@ JohnDoe

I now understand what your problem stems from; you confess you are a virgin hence where is the wife you are beating? Or you are married to a woman who wouldnt let you touch her but you can beat her that doesnt sound right somehow. More like she will give you marathon slapping just for altering the work 'how are you'

As i said earlier your anger stems from the lack of women around you hence you are making things up in your head. You are probably an illegitimate child of an unknown father whose mother dumped soon after birth. Try finding her and beating her up to teach her the lesson first. And if you have already done that beat her the second time for not installing manners into your brain

SORRY 190FAN

Not only rich men beat their wives even the poor uneducated ones in the village do the same.

^^^ lets spread AIDS in the process heh!

I havent harbour anything he is well aware of the situation. I am just contemplating wheather me not leaving is out of fear of being alone or pity. I know it is not because of love

I think it is highly over rated the first few years are the best and it is down hill after that if you go into a marriage with expectation make sure that they are fully stated prior to the wedding.

Somany time people take their vows not knowing the others intentions this is the begining of arguements which if not check can later on lead to complication like divorce.

I have falling out of love with my hubby and he has seriously tried to make amends but it doest seem to help. I caught him cheating once but honestly I have gotten over that.

I am seriously contemplating divorce but I am thinking am I too hasty but i have been thinking this for two years dont know if i should go for it or not. I have my reasons many I cant say here but i am really unhappy within my soul.

Constructive advice please

I am ashamed to be a decent of a country where majority of the men think like this as it is evident in this blog thread.

I am confident a man wouldnt beat me one cos I wouldnt allow it and two the laws of the land wouldnt allow it either. I just pray the one day women get financially secure all over the world and get confident enough not to endure such a criminal act.

The civil law already makes these accommodation women just dont fight for their rights because of family ties, lack of financies and shame which arent reasons to kill your self in my view

BET MEN LIKE YOU DONT EVEN HAVE WOMEN TO SLEEP WITH NOT TO TALK OF BEAT.

You are just a lonely frustrated guy taking your anger out online, it is probably your fantasy to beat women and they obey you but guess what it is only going to happen in your head otherwise a place waits for to you in the jail.

I dare you to give a woman you have beaten my log on on nairaland and see how fast your azz gets to jail; if you brave enough do it.

I will fight you with everything i have i will really like to see you in jail if you are really proud of beating women.

@ johndoe200

if i knew you i can assure you you will be in jail by now. You dont need to be amongst people you need to be in the cave or jail where you can show other men how strong you are and they can tame you like a puppy.

IF YOU WANT A PUPPY WHY NOT MARRY ONE INSTEAD OF A WOMAN. ODE

@ LOMOMIKE

And men are not naughty

^^^ everything

Johndoe shut up and go and beat your wife to show how masculine you are

^^^^ spoken like a tru angry hungry man. because you just aint cutting it

@ fabby

I agree with you men need respect a woman cannot respect a man below her status.

No because there will always be men who are divorced with kids and by the way who said it is by force to get married. If i am laid off work, i need to get another one or start a business. If i go for a man below my status one i will over burden his already empty pocket and i dont think men are pay checks

My grand dad died when my grand mother was in her early 30's and she chose never to remarry. She died last year at the age of 85 she had lots of children around her that kept her busy. You guys see marriage as a do or die affair.

i would rather fucckers like you hold your so called backward love and direct it to a male their own size.

If you beat a woman because you love her what will you do if you hate her. I would rather be hated and alive than loved and brused or dead.

I hope your wife slaps you constantly out of the extereme love she has for you. Guys like you must think women have basket brains and leave religion out of this many women are surpressed cos of so called religion

No sorry o I as a woman I wouldt marry a man below my status. My personal prefernence

to Mr Foolish Johndoe200

I surppose you are one of those insecure men who think your masculinity comes from how hard you can beat a woman. I hate men like you and thank God my husband doesnt have the same backward mentality as you. he wouldnt even think of it otherwise at worst we will both find ourselves at the burial ground and at best divorce court.

What gives you the right you married this woman on the pretence you love her only to get her in to your house and treat her like your slave. I hope you have girls and all your son inlaw turn your children into a daily punching bag and see how happy you are and i hope one even gets killed in the hands of her spouse.

Miserable ba$tard

Any woman in an abusive relationship shoud refer to my thread on 'Advice for women in an abusive relationship'

Anyway this is how it starts

To all the ladies in the house if your man should beat you all you need to do is to go into the kitchen, find the biggest knife and insert it very deep into a non fatal part of his body ie his thigh, upper arm or face.

Beating / slapping women is for cowards and men who have inferiority complex and cant handle their anger. If a man is to beat me he has to make sure i die in the process otherwise th at fight wont finish. I will fight him with anything I find pots bottles pans knives etc.

And for the man that wants to slap me never in your life eat my food again o. That is why IBO husbands die young cos they dont stop beating their wives and as a favour the wife kills them since there is no divorce.

Some people will now turn around and say it is because he loves you; if he beats you cos he loves you what will he do if he hates you. My father through out when he was alive didnt beat me God help the man that does.

@Maryando

Your guy is married and you are dupemu (ask a yoruba person to translate)

Useless soprano waiting on women for his next meal you are not a man but a mouse your mother will be ashmed of you I pray you only have girls and men can treat them as you mentioned in your lifetime muppet. No self respect

@ SOPRANO

You are just a GIGOLO; and as long as you can cook, wash for the woma clean the house take care of the children bath them do their assignment and take them to school. You have to be at home when she comes back to listen to allher boring work day

Plus the nightly duties without ever complaining while your wife watches soap opera after work you deserve the money you get.

@ Ujujoan

i feel you

May be has time goes by i would want to take a less pressured job but if i had the opportunity now i wouldnt work my kids are still young and i really would like to build that bond with them.

I work in a highly pressure job and sometimes  feel am letting them down. I dont blame my husband cos we both chose our lifestyle.

I dont know where in the world you live but where i am the salary of a chairman is over 40x that of a caterer.

The guy is not complaining he loves his job neither is the wife. Where as your own ideology come from.

She enjoys the being there for her family and the man has authority both at work and at home

I dont see the problem. I work because my husband cannot carry the family responsiblities alone if he could i wouldnt

@ poster stop making excuses for this man you are begining to annoy me.

If you dont like it say no. Na by force you are doing something you dont like and expecting other people to take parnadol for you.


Haba

@ mrbrownjay.

I mean exactly what i said if my husband can afford it (not at the expense of him slaving away) i would stay at home.

I would give you a senario my boss is American and the head of his department for him to relocate the wife has to leave her job as a caterer and look after their five kids two are grown in college two in secondary and one primary. They most of the time never get to see their dad regularly ie he is in brussels, moscow, paris, copenhagen etc.

If that woman should get a job that is it family destroyed rich kids growing up without parental guidance (good receipe for disaster). Why cos she wants to be a caterer.

Now she even helps her husband as most of the time clients want to know the managers personally and often request private dining at his home which he can organise last minute.

This can only work for a woman if the situation was reverse the man will be unable to take up that role and the better advise will be for the woman to spare some capital for him to establish him self.

I would love to spend more time with my kids instead of the few hours i see them every night and weekends i hardly spend quality time with them at the weekend either as it all down to shopping cleaning meeting etc.

@ mrbrownjay

Yes depending on the situation moreover womens role are different in a relationship. If she choses not to work and bring up your kid good on her she musst depend on you for everything. As long as you can afford it.

I wish I was a stay at home mum looking after my kids

@ poster

Your naive innocent heart will not kill you o. There are lots of people out their that will take take take and take from you without feeling bad and actually boast about it.

Dont be used as mugu o; i have been in this situation and i know it is hard. A geniune relationship does not have money demands atleast till you are engaged or married.

This man survived before you meet and if you dont give him this money he wont die. It is at best emotional blackmail and at worst abuse. He should be a man and borrow money from his friend that is if he actually as the intentions of paying it back.

We women get confused with out roles and think cos you are giving your b/friend mooney you are helping it is a lie. If it was your husband ok and even then shine your eyes unless you want to be the bread winner in your house.

Trust me if that is the case you will loose respect for your husband and he will hate you for not being submissive. The man is said to be the head for a reason and it has been like that for centuries

@ mediatrix8

you are a woman after my heart. i agree with you 100%