To know where to go when they get pregnant for you. What is the point of having a girlfriend that doesnt know where you leave.

We all know men lie alot and you can be yarning her big lies. You can tell alot about a man by his home

I hope this is love and you are not just carried away with the things he buys you and that most men your age do not have their businesses yet.

Personally i like men my age cos older men tend to be more controlling and we are probably not going thru the same phase as one another. For how to build his parents a house and I just want to go clubbing.

If i am anxious about something he might not really understand cos he has had the expereience so long ago he expects you to get over it quickly not to say it doesnt work for some but i am not a fan.

You cannot have a good argurment cos you feel you need to respect him. Its like having another dad my original one did a good job thanks very much dont need one in marriage i need a partner on equal level

I used to feel like the odd one out but i see that many women are older than their spouse ( he is four months younger).

I am as well. Most relationship whereby the man is younger tends to work the beckhams prince william and Kate ( but time is yet to tell on theirs)

dady issues

Inked_Nerd:

[b]@OP:[/b]Nice post! I personally like older men too. I have no particular age preference but I generally gravitate to men who are at the least, 5 years older than I. The past guys I have been with were older than I with the exception of one guy who I was older than by a year. In fact, even the guy I lost my virginity to was 5 years older than I. There's just something about being with an older guy that find appealing. Often times, people generally like to make assumptions about girls who date older men. For example, it really irks me when people think that a girl who dates an older man has "daddy issues", a gold digger, or that the guy is your sugar daddy

You are on your own for this one dont event know what to advise. Congratulations for your unborn babies

Just wait

because you are a sinking sand

Women let men think they are smarter

it depends on the type of life you want to lead it is not for everyone but it is a beautiful thing if you get it right.

Most women who love older men are suffering from daddy issues. I like my age mates or thereabout 3 years is my max.

tashanja:

@OP: Abeg, follow your lust, smash de babe and get it out of your system before its too late. Anyway, by the time you return to 9ja its unlikely you can pursue the relationship any further and neither would your gf get to know - unless of course you tell her, or else you will forever for the rest of your life be left wondering what if?

Most realistic reply so far make sure you use a condom o you know you want to

How about tatooing your partners name on your forehead

you are even lucky she has a degree some men sha are you intending to marry her for her money?

@ oladcity no offence taken but i dislike it when men come to a public forum to disregard women.

Men should learn to identify what they want and stick to it after all that is what courtship is about learning to know yourself if you realise that this woman isnt the superwoman you want and will need the assistant of a househelp then do not MARRY her. But another man will

the fact that all women should be all round everything for me doesnt work. If your wife is working and you still cant afford to maintain a balance house then with her agreement she probably needs to stop work and you do your natural role as the bread winner

safarigirl:

Hmm, men pls stop b.i.t.c.h.i.n.g and start helping out, i was raised in a balanced family, everyone did their part, my dad cooks sometimes, he does his laundry and pays the bills, same as my mum, slavery is OVER, my husband MUST be a freak in the kitchen, don't expect your mother's clone as a wife, you're looking for your better HALF, not a whole. MAN UP AND GET WITH THE TIMES.:-P

Nayah you can learn alot from Safarigirl

i dont know why the men in the house are loosing their cool.

It is simple if you want your woman to be your all in all you be the bread winner and she doesnt go to work and supply all her needs . Dont now call her a gold digger cos that is what you want. Men should learn what it is to be a bread winner and not expect women to do everything

If you want a career woman be prepared to share the house chores; it is that simple. Even if she is a teller at the bank she wakes up in the morning goes to work like you can come back almost the same time you do sooooo,  why should you come back home and put your legs on the stool while she slaves away in the kitchen.

Well all women are not tellers am a Manager and i employ husbands and fathers

you dont you just flirt with him he will soon get the mesage

Nayah you love suffer o when they are easier ways you always chose the hardest life is too short to be unhappy o. i was once like you but you will change you will remember aunty ebony said so on NL.

@ poster yes you can live happily ever after in a long distance relationship but it will be SEPERATELY with one partner doing one thing and the other doing another cos that is the only happy ending you are going to get.

you will just chose to believe whatever story you are being told cos the alternative is to die young.

I suggest you do the same as Goodluck but not all men share your views.

And look at how she has now become an international embarassment to him; have you heard of house help if your wife cant do it and you cant help her you should invest in some house help which will help both of you free up more time for romance without anyone feeling frustrated.

I have a cleaner, lesson teacher, take clothes that will be ruined in the washing machine to the dryclearners, my girls go to finishing school and am a better wife for it. Some times i get the caterer on weekends to cook the complicated food that i cant and my husband loves it we go on holidays and i still have the energy not just a miserable being you need to think of womens needs

if it is that easy why dont you go to work and cook for your wife every evening and clean the house as well what u wouldnt do dont expect your fellow human to do it . she is not your slave

sexkillz:

Errrmm! Sorry, but the last time i checked, i dont report to you, or anybody, you dont own me, You dont pay my internet bills, you dont know what goes thru my mind, you dont tell me what to write or how to write it!
You definitely have NO RIGHTS whatsoever to suggest to me what words to use, where to use them or how to use them! I hope you understand! Be your self, use your own words, let me be myself and use my words! I'm NOT on NL to amuse you nor dance to your whimsical tunes! Cheerz!

And you may want to check the meaning of that word!

Thanks for the suggestion killz but i perfectly know the meaning of the word; i find you very pretendious and you hide under a handful of what you deem as confusing vocabulary words to make yourself look / sound intelligent. I obviously do not cotrol what you post on line it is just a feed back which i am entitled to.

My observation my post

i dont kneel down to greet anyone thst include my husband i didnt kneel down to greet him when we were in a relationship and do not intend to start now. And moreover how does it help the man

sexkillz:

discombobulated!

Stop using this word it wearing thin now almost all your post has it

@OP I suppose you want a carreer woman who will be a domestic goddess as well if she is willing to go out and work you must be willing to help out with cooking and cleaning once in a while as she is helping you with the bills.

If your bent on having a domestic goddess marry a housewife and be the single bread winner you shall have no problem. Sometimes men make me laugh they want super woman when they are not ready to be Superman

bagodin:

Once debee!! forever debee!
that's my babe.
infact,na you yarn correct.

seconded that is it in a nut shell

Nayah you remind me of these young young girls that go into marriages on fairy tales and end up very quickly in divorce courts cos they soon realise they didnt get it right.

A man cannot be a man if he can provide for his family just as a woman cannot be a woman if she cant have kids even if she has an understanding partner all her life she will still hope and dream one day she will wake up and things will change.

No self respecting man will enter a marriage without a job only one that is ready to use u. Dont enter a marriage with this mentality cos you might be desperate for a boyfriend or getting old and not getting the basics right.

If it is too long for you to wait for him to get a job how long do you think you will be waiting in marriage for him to get a job the fact remains that yo will be marrying a depressed man who will look for a woman who he is higher that to boost his ego and that is why these men with high flying wives cheat.
Dont try to change a man cos it doesnt matter it like saying it desnt matter if my man cannot make love marriage is not about se, x

Nayah: are you married to know so much abput being married.

Marriage is not sweet without money and that is for those already in it. NOw you want to start at floor level all you will get is frustration abeg let a married person share their opinon then i will take it

@ NAYAH : You want to turn your marriage to Amnesity International or you want to marry a man out of pity. If a man is telling you that type of lie i rebuke the devil in your life

See i am married and will never marry an unemployed man why start your life like that why not wait yes unemployed people deserve love not marriage love them in a relationship.

If you are married and your husband losses he job so be it some men will stay with you for the money cos they have none and move on to greener pastures let you man love yo when he has money then you have a man that know his mind not one that cannot say anything cos he doesnt have pa!

whats your own she properly likes kinky stuff

sexkillz:

i dont expect a Woman to marry me if I'm jobless, even if she has a Job and wants to!. . .

well said couldnt have put it any nicer

its good to wait till u find someone you love / after marriage.

Anytime above 17 /18 is okay

who wants to marry him apart from 'makozi'

you only do this when you want them to know your life is moving on better than theirs and want them to see what they have lost