It is a difficult situation i have seen many many marriages break up because of this it takes real diplomacy to m ake this work.

At first it would be let me go and we will visit each other am doing it for the money for the family and eventually they both grow apart.

do the partner that has just gotten the job really have to take it ? can he not get a better job where the family is currently? with the family adjust well if the go back to nigeria? schools, friend? money isnt everything? is every member of the family keen on the idea? i have lived in western world for almost 20 years now and the max i can stand nigeria is 3 weeks without becoming very irritable.

Personally i wouldnt i dont mind getting a divorce over it ( that is how strongly i feel on the issue) but different strokes for different folks

i dont blame the girl she is simply confirming and ensuring the man is thinking long and hard of his marriage responsiblities and not just assuming everything id going to be okay after marriage.

I have seen many thread of people saying did i marry the wrong guy, my husband is not taking care of me. atleast there is no pretence and they are both away of what they are in for.

a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage i wished i asked that question before i got married

Mr, Cork:

***However motherhood comes to you, it's a miracle ****

For once in my life i agree with you

assuming your niece or nephew dont have parents parentless children too need help.

I am married and have kids and will adopt if i had the opportunity so will my husband but saying that we have our own children i can sympatise with those that want their own

@tellwisdom but that is not the question.

she said should you adopt presummely the partner has already agreed to stick around

Money and influence - no insults please

they can adopt as well as have kids of their own i am a parent iand i know people dont feel fulfilled if they dont have kids if one can there is no reason purnishing the other especially when they are willing to stand by their partner

i presumme you are in the UK you cant sack her for being sexy just face your work men shaaa

if it is the woman that is pregnant and the man is kind enough to stay i would say they should get a sorrogate and go for IVF at least the man still has a child and the woman will still be the baby's legal guidian. if you are in the western world if you are in Nigeria just adopt nigerians always long things.

If it is the man that can have kids they can go to a spe,rm bankd and still IVF at least the woman has her kids and if they dont tell anyone no one will know the child is not the man's

moderators what are you doing the same thread twice a day by same OP

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=771126.msg9243037#msg9243037

Kindly delete

@ jennykadry can you atleast read? i know you are practising a profession i said the way to deal with physcopaths isnt aggression or violence dont know how you qualified if you cant read.

ebonyvibe:


I have dealt with many physcopats before and trust me most of them are cowards and just looking for attention. Aggression and violents is 99% not the way making the feel they are in control normally stop them

the hardest thinfg to do is to violation a girl that has AIDS, if you are a coward wait and expect the best in my experience you have to fight it unless it will fight you.

If he trully loves you and wants you on side he will not harm the only time he will do that is if you shot him out or think you are with somelse who is better than him. let him think he dumped u

I have dealt with many physcopats before and trust me most of them are cowards and just looking for attention. Aggression and violents is 99% not the way making the feel they are in control normally stop them

the police or sss are not going to stop him from hurting or killing you they are only going to arrest him if he does.

dont go all OTT on this guy.

make him feel he is the one that is dumping you

are you related to this lady by any chance

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-771101.0.html

if this guy is a raging maniac the only way forward is to take my advice

I dont know and i dont think you want to find out take the pill and forget the guess work if it is not 3 days yet if it was more than three days ago.

There is not you can do now just hope for the best and dont kill yourself with worry. plenty of time to do that if you become pregnant

have many female friends without the intention of asking them out the closer you get the easier it will be to ask them out

when did it happen?

if it was in the last three days if you are in the uk go to the pharmacist and ask for morning after pill if you are in Naija ask for postinor 2 (it think it is the right spelling) but they will know what you mean. check the expiry date if you are in naija

take it within three days dont be silly again this only protects you from getting pregnant not stds

You have to cure madness with madness

'tell him you are so in love with him and you cant let him go move into his house come up with a big story of why you cant stay where you currently are.

Above all make a big dinner be extra nice tell him you have something to tell him in the evening all day.

when it come to it tell him you had chlamydia for about 2 yerars and your doctor says there is only a 5% chance that you will ever have kids and you are already undergoing treatments. better still you can say you have AIDS

And see how the bas,tard flies

sexskills has skills my best is ms chima i read her posts and i get her instantly

@ Mr cork well i am indifferent

You just like being taken care of you are looking for mummy

Apologies to kokoye thot you were telling me off

Friends? ( am eating hummble pie)

Dear NLanders?

Could you give your views on who the best posters are in the romance sections.

I quite like mrs chima, nayah your views welcomed

@ poster and your point is?

I kknow many old guys that no woman will touch and these ones have never being married. One of them doesnt even deserved to be married as he is a complete tosser but the rest of them have given their lifes to their carrer and have made money now all their mates are married the young girls are only after their money.

Women had age limit men do to but if you really find the one you love age is nothing but a number. it is people like you that make people insecure. One of my friends married at 37 a man of 40 they have their kids now and leaving happily there is nothing like sell by date.

has any lady given up herself to a man to sleep with and the man in return say nooo o you have passed your sell by date

Hmmm, he is married in the states so he is married are you dyslexic.

You are wife number two if that is your stand ride on but you know your marriage will be illegal and your would be husband could go to jail for bigamy. That should be a good start for a marriage

@ nursery 1 but you are alive and not protecting and i repeat what is the point of you in the not so distant past men had to fight and the man the won will get to marry the lady.

This was done as it was a symbol that the man will be able to protect his wife in the time of trouble. Blah blah blah the woman wont want to yes she will want to i have seen many women survive after the death of their husband am yet to see a man remain single after the death of his wife

I dont know about a cure but this will really help

To get over a man Get on top of annother man fast

This is a rhetorical question i think all of us would

@ stagger

really do churches really demand this na wa for nigerian churches o intruding your lifes before you ge married.

@ op it is advisable to with regards to HIV test i will asumme you are not sleeping with your presummed wife already otherwiise what is the use of an HIV test now? you should have done that before you started dating.

and as of genotype if you are really really inlove i dont think this will inder you. As i said and will reiterate it is advisable and sensible but when it comes to love all these things dont really count

Men do not normally discuss their relationships with other especially about women the care about,

But unfortunately this is the norm for women they discuss every detail of their relationship with their friends

if that is the kinda girls you attract you need to check yourself you must be doing something wrong.

Women are probably attracted to you becos of your money not who you are and you need to change that maybe you brag about how much you are or are worth which puts sincere ladies off and makes you a magnet for Gold diggers

The only person you can change is yourself