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Amarabae:
Why do some people see one million as big thing?

Because it's big to them

Amakavula:
My secondary school friend recently reach out to me. Jane and I have been really close but after secondary school we drift apart. She had struggled with admission to study Medicine so had to settle for Nursing in Lagos.

But that's not the story, Jane reach out to me about her life. She wanted to commit suicide as the guy she was dating dumped her after countless sex and an abortion. The fact is, she has dated several others, Corpers, Doctors, nurses and a local chief , and they too used and dumped her. One even cut her laps with razor, and made her bleed while she cried.

The last guy, was a Nurse like her, even proposed, gave her a ring but left her for a Cameroon lady he meet after moving to Texas ( he had promised to send for her )

So during the time, I encouraged and supported her. But Jane is a little too desperate for marriage -- given her experience with the Nurse guy. But during the time of encouragement my Male friend Chuka got to become close with Jane.

I warned Chuka about Jane's condition and her bad experiences and that if he wasn't for real he should leave her in peace. But Chuka still stayed supporting Jane and they starting dating behind me. He loved and supported her and Jane chats me up everyday to thank me for Chuka. That he has helped her spirit heal.

I wasn't angry but welcomed it but after a while Chuka starts to complain about Jane. And How she was pressuring him for marriage. He has taken her to meet his mom, and brothers, and has spent the nights at her place to show seriousness ( they even had sex although Chucka told me he didn't )



But it all went South, This Sunday. Chuka called me to tell me Jane had left him to go see a Doctor in Abuja who was ready and serious for marriage since Chuka wasn't. He had begged her and asked her not to go but she still did.

But after all the traveling, She had reached back at him to beg and said she didn't see the doctor and she was sorry for her stupidity and they are about to begin reconciliation.

Then I got a WhatsApp message from Jane, about the meeting and how it had gone sour, the Doctor drugged and raped her. She was crying in the voice note she sent me.



Now I am confused as Hell. Chuka is my close friend, a family friend and a great guy who loves her, but telling him would definitely break it off. But then Jane is a manipulative liar , she has still refuse to be honest with him ( told me her body count is 50 after that doctor ) and other lies, but I am afraid for her life.

She is currently in Abuja, and talking to Chuka but I fear if I tell him and he abandons her she would commit suicide. I am currently talking to her but Chuka is asking for advice about taking her back . I am confuse.

I believe in the truth. The truth has a way of making things right, though at first it may seem disastrous but it will come out good at the end for everybody.

Chuka will definitely find out someday. Trust me, u don't wanna be an enemy to Chuka, and u don't wanna postpone Jane's judgement day. The sooner the better...she needs help, help her.

SweetBuns:
This story sounds somehow

Its true

@Op, ya voice has nothing to do with the way girls treat u but rather ya attitude gave then d leverage.

What I think you should do?

1. Be unpredictable. No one should be able to guess ya next move. Easier said then done.

2. Unpredictability and availability goes together. Make ya self scarce.

3. Scarcity increases want. Be more busy. U can b very busy doing nothing but it's better to do something.

4. Whenever u do come out, talk less. Give lesser explanation to any question directed towards u.

5. No when to walk away from any gathering. It's best to leave with a bang. Leaving with a bang keeps people wanting more.

6. Know when to talk, when to be loud, silly, cheeky etc. This presents u as someone with different sides. Different sides makes one curious... Girls r like cats. Curiosity killed the cat.

7. Be honest. Always appear honest, never be caught lying. This makes u dependable n trustworthy.

8. When asked bout d ladies...say nothing, just smile and change d topic.

9. Most importantly, love your self and love ya voice.

nairalandboy:
O boy I can't advice you on this o.

Hahahahaha....u r very wicked! Y u come be FTC?

Nor b voice trainer u dey sell self

www.cheaplacewig.org

Or

www.verycheaplacewig.mobi

He's no different from me. I don't know why I do this kinda things....I know I love her so much; I'd love to b around her all the time but I'm busy, like very busy.

You know he likes u, and it seems that u guys are a bit far from each other. It could be that he's not the calling type like me or he's so busy with work and church activities like me, and maybe the best times in his day is when he sees ya call coming in. He's probably so happy that he has finally found someone that thinks about him as much as he thinks about her.

Forget about d "yes or no" to his question. Explain to him how u feel about him not calling as much as u would like. Tell him a text isn't bad either if he can't call.


I hope u make d right decision

Poor man thief money, we burn am for market

Rich man thief money, we dey hail am like dummy...

Na u talk am o, I no talk am o.

#TALK

ikuoma4rea:
My wife just developed an attitude that is quite disturbing.just because l get her involved in any project in the house by contributing her own share because she works so that we can get something better for the family.Anytime time l control her she says stuffs like after all my money was involved.but her income is more than mine but l ensure that the rent and running of the house is been handled by me except for the cooking that sometimes l just give her what l have to add to what she has.l could not watch a program just because she was watching a program and when l insisted she disconnected the television set and left with the cord to her room after all l joined my own money in purchasing the television set.she is always against me going to club and hanging out with friends,did that last nite and when l got home she refused to open the door and l had to put a call to the mum before she opened the door at 4am.she is working and earns more than l do but can't l have peace in my own house without her throwing tantrums on me even without been worried about our neighbors.what do l do to have my freedom and respect back because l don't get any respect from her anymore.little things she tells the mum and she calls to start advising me which l find uncomfortable .confused right now.we have 2 kids now.need good advice.

Wetin married man dey go do for club

Bros, work on ya self first before u bash d woman

Ok

There is no point trying to understand why they do the things that they do. Just let them do it to keep impressing us.

Yes, I said it. Women live for us (men), they live to pls us and they won't accept it. No problem, women rule the world... That's what they tell themselves.

They also tell themselves that they are not looking good for us but for themselves, and yet when a husband fails to complement his wife's new dress or hair, that's trouble

No, u mustn't.

Did u mention that to him while u were still in school?

Anyway, pls marry out of love and not out of pity. But pls put it to him calmly.

O

See wetin dem girls done cause...b breaking boys heart anyhow.

Signs of the end time. Give ya life to Christ

K

Why?

Ok

Is it just me or does her name looks like "SHITHOLE" at first glance?

Tapiwa Sithole

Ok

In other words, she is trying to tell y'all that she has a price tag.

Most Women can't hide the fact that their body is just a mere commodity.

If only we still have women with dignity in Africa

I couldn't finish the first paragraph before I got tired.

There r 3 possible things I could deduce from the little I read;

1. If the man loves her, then he should show her how to loose weight by being with her all thru d exercise.

2. If she decides to loose weight for him, he's gonno ask her to do something else again in the name of "saving the relationship." This might continue until she can no longer sacrifice anymore. He'll probably blame her for d failed relationship.

3. If she wants to loose weight, let her do it for herself and for no one else. Loving and accepting oneself is the first step in getting others to love and accept u.

OK... No, it's not your fault that ya loud but it's ya fault that ya not making any sense

Ihedinobi3:
My post was a biblical argument.

In the Bible, some people lied to save the lives of people God favored and God blessed them for it. That is not something I said. It is something the Bible itself says. If you have issues with it, it is the Lord God Himself with Whom you must take it up, not me.

I believe you are talking about Abraham referring to Sarah as his sister. Gen. 20:2
But what most people don't know or choose to ignore is that Sarah was indeed Abraham's sister. Gen. 20:12 She is the daughter of Abraham's father but not Abraham's mother.

There is no justification for a lie, just as a spade will always b a spade and never a shovel

Ihedinobi3:
Hi there.

I am a Christian committed to following the Bible wherever it goes.

This question may be serious or it may just be a game, I don't know. But I answer whatever I can that may be of value to someone seeking to understand the Bible.

There are a few instances in the Bible where lies were told to save lives, especially the lives of believers who were in danger. In each of those cases, the Lord God blessed those who lied.

There were the Hebrew midwives who refused to kill the newborn sons of Hebrew women (Exodus 1:15-21); Rehab of Jericho, a prostitute who lied to protect Hebrew spies who came to gather intelligence on the city (Joshua 2, 6:17, 22-23; Matthew 1:5); the woman of Bahurim who lied to protect David's two spies during Absalom's rebellion (2 Samuel 17:17-21). Only in the last case do we lack information on what God did for them as a result of their goodwill toward His favored king.

It is obvious that such examples are rare in the Bible. This is because such situations where lying is sanctified by God are extremely rare in history. They are tests of faithfulness for those who experience it.

However, it may be necessary in cases like the above to protect one's wife with lying. Just like killing to defend oneself and one's family from criminals or killing in war to destroy enemies who threaten the peace of a nation. These are things the Bible does not prohibit.

Sir/madam, pls calm down. Don't get carried away. God hate lies. God has seen it all, He knows it all, and at all times He expects us to do what's right; tell the truth. People who tell lies are children of the devil.

You do not know the future but God does. You can't tell if they were about to meet their Waterloo or not. But they just chose to take matters into their hands because of lack of faith.

@op, by grace we are saved not by works. Ask for forgiveness and at will be well

adoyi8:
Don't worry, you will meet father Abraham there. he also lied to king Abimelech that Sarah was his sister so that Abimelech will not kill him Gen 20:1-18

Actually, Sarah was Abraham's sister as well as his wife

octopusfreaky:
I just admire their doggedness and ruggedness, to make money ain't easy sha. Cute guys though.

And u won't even consider dem if dey wanna ask u out

whytfaz:
And who told you every young boy that drives a Benz had to steal pants or do ritual to buy it. It’s funny how people think sometimes , you better tell us the true story that your girlfriend fo for the boy and it’s paining you. Na only you Benz Dey hit twice from behind , Issokay

Then he should have a legitimate source of income. Pls don't tell me bitcoin or gift card

I was once insulted by one of these yahoo boys at my place of work. He was shouting n bragging that he can pay my salary if I don't attend to him. I simply smiled and carried on with my job.

@op, ya right. A time will come n we'll buy our own luxury cars for our wives n parents.
BTW I believe that all I need right now in life, I've got it. No need to fast forward.

I think she's intelligent.

She simply passed her message, calling a spade its true name without stepping on any toes.

Ebonko4life:
WEARING OF TROUSER AS A WOMAN IS UNACCEPTABLE BY GOD.(HOLINESS AND OUTWARD APPEARANCE).



… For man looketh on the outward appearance, but the lord looketh on the heart.(1 Samuel 16:7).



you have just read one of the most misunderstood and misapplied scriptures in the entire bible. I cannot tell you how many times this scripture has been quoted (or misquoted) to me to prove that God does not care the snap of His finger for the externals of holiness.

This verse has been lifted completely out of is context to imply that God does not care how a man and a woman looks in regard to hair, clothes, etc., when in reality it is an instruction to Samuel not to anoint a man to be king because he is tall or good looking. The children of Israel were no doubt impressed with their first king, Saul, because he was a big man physically (1 Samuel 9:2).God was conveying the message to Samuel in (1 Samuel 16:7) that he was not impressed with men because of their physical stature, he was looking at the heart, or spiritual stature of a man. God does care how his people look on the outside.



One of the devils tactics today is to cause people to look hideous. For proof of that, go to your local records sales counter and view the pictures of the rock music stars. They make themselves look hideous why? man was created in the image of God. The devil does not want people to look good. Demons have no body and they hate the body we have. When they look at us, they are reminded that Jesus Christ came in the form of a man(Romans 8:3,Phillipians 2:5,cool,hence, they want to cause us to look as far removed from what God wants us to appear as possible.

“Too many people major on minors”. Have you ever heard a statement like that?, is God interested in even the smallest way in how people look?, isn’t it true that to preach and teach that God requires certain standards of dress is to keep believers under the law?. Let us now take a few moments to find out what the New Testament teaches about externals of holiness. “Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of god (2 Corinthians 7;1.). We notice here that to perfect holiness as God requires means there must be a conscious cleansing effort made by us as individuals, without as well as within. We can also readily see that Gods word mentions flesh before the spirit. There is a good reason for this. If we cannot cleanse that which we and others can see, then it will be even harder to cleanse that which no one can see. The word flesh here is taken from Greek word which means in this case, the body as opposed to the soul, or spirit, or as the symbol of what is external as opposed internal. Keep this in mind :if people are willing to compromise what you see then it is probably they are compromising even more that which you cannot see.” Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God. Be not deceived, neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulteress, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).



I want to zero in on the word, “effeminate.” The dictionary definition of the effeminate means having unsuitable feminine qualities: unmanly. The Greek word that is translated effeminate means of uncertain affinity, soft. God hates anything that destroys the distinction between sexes.” The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man…”(Deu. 22:5), (Revelation 21:27).the fifth verse of Deuteronomy 22 is part of the moral law that is carried over into the New Testament. why is it immoral for a woman to dress like a man or woman? Because it breaks down the distinction between sexes and fosters homosexuality and lesbianism. The modern day homosexual revolution did not just appear on the scene suddenly. Much of it started during the second world war when women donned men’s clothing and went to work in the factories. The next step was to cut their hair like a man. The great argument today is that slacks have been made famine by putting the buttons or zippers on the sides or the rear of the garments. That is ridiculous as saying a dress could be a man’s dress because it buttons or zippers around the waist instead of the front ,back, or side. This perversion of clothing started with idol worshippers. Men wore the dress of women when they presented themselves before the star of Venus. Women wore men’s clothing when they presented themselves before the star of mars. Idols were frequently represented with the features of one sex, but the dress of another. The worshippers of these idols wanted to appear as their gods did. Notice the description of monsters given in the bible … and their faces were as the faces of men. And they had hair as the hair of women…(Revelation 9;7-coolis it any wonder why God hates that which destroys the distinction of the sexes?. It is easy then to see the importance of the following instructions “doth not even nature itself teach you that if a man have long hair it is a shame unto him?, but if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her for her hair is given her for a covering(1 Corinthians 11:14-15.) I knew...



AN EXCERPT FROM “WHAT IS HOLINESS” BY WILLIAM F. HILL.

Powerful words

obembet:
What will you do if you invite your girlfriend to an expensive club and she comes with 10 of her friends?

I love me so much. I'll simply pay for two (me n her). If she ask bout her friends, I'll ask her who invited dem.

There's no point sugarcoating rubbish. If I'm having a get together, no p. If I want an alone with my girl, den so b it.

Life nor get stress. If she opts to stay out with her friends, I'll call a friend of mine to come around. Na gf she b not wife. No time for drama