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His ex wife indeed.

These Fulani herders are becoming nuusance

JessicaRabbit:
Your advice is not only unhelpful, it's downright harmful! Telling the woman to be "thankful" for this abuse and suggesting she needs to "win his commitment" through submission is perpetuating harmful stereotypes and victim-blaming.

A comment from typical not self aware woman.

Your type will always claim exception to your brutal nature until you find yourself In a situation where you will fvck badly and be blaming the devil after a simp guy have awaken your inactive poisons by not loving, treating and leading you right..

Let her break up since you believe the relationship is toxic

You don't treat a woman the way she wanted to be treated, you treat her the way she ought to be treated..

Next time clear her doubt..

She want to self destruct help her to it.. person wey dem suppose dey stalk Na she dey stalk person..

Next time clear her doubts, nack the girl, no rape oo, nack the girl as per side chick

Na Iranu dey your eye..

Nothing is special in having access to a conquered territory

She failing in her role and you are enabling her..

That hole must be blocked..

This is why women past should never be overlooked..

Create boundary and she must maintain it.

Na gay marriage and same sex marriage you dey promote.

Why

Date your woman right,

Feminity is malleable

You should be thankful you meet him..

He is calling your attention to your responsibility in relationships. I hope he doesn't overdo it..

But hear yourself as well.

Picking a call from a man in his presence.

Wearing a gift another gave you for another man anniversary.

He is calling your attention to the boundaries you should have naturally created..

Win his commitment, you are on the path. Use power of foresight.

You should respect him and show signs of submission.. if he does his things and you do yours well, you will eventually win him.

Now that I have read the story..

I can say the guy didn't vet the lady properly, he is rushing to fast to settle down.

The girl is playing a marriage script for the guy.

The guy is preparing to dig his own burial while still alive by having plans to take the girl where she will be emboldened by damaged women like herself and empower by government to show the guy shege promax..

He should thread carefully.

Normally, in a natural society, A woman will treat you as a king until you discover her secrets,

Now imagine in a society where things are tilted in her favour, my brother use your tongue to count your teeth.

Women, you should understand your past is important to men as a man future is important to you.

Do well within you not to have a rotten past, resist all forms of temptation or guide your chastity jealously.

And if eventually, you unfortunately make your past horrible especially sensually, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT ABOUT YOUR PAST.

Nature will do it thing wether to judge or forgive you.

God is nature

We lie on everything is cost.. it truly is, but not to the point we all resort to extorting ourselves..

At most that meal should not exceed N400.

pocohantas:
When we tell you to fight for your marriages, you won't listen. A man that is not ready to endure has no business getting married. Go learn from your fathers how to endure. That is why marriages of old lasted.

It is actually vice versa....

Women are the most wreckers of marriage institutions.

Men maybe flawed but woman are brutal naturally in matter of mating

You have not earned your wife, you bought her

Ed12:
Thank God for your redemption..

But you still need to understand women nature..

When you forgive a woman for offence that she know she shouldn't commit, she will punish you for it and still blame you.

When you forgive her for what she should scolded for, you emboldened her and she will blame you.

Women are so brutal when they want to move on.

A woman knows that she MUST not cheat when in relationship or marriage, that is why she tries so hard not to be caught when she indulge in cheating..

Society will shame her and be against her if caught.. why must you as the guy she cheated on forgive and still carry on with her..

A woman will treat you like a king until you discover her secret..

Do not take back a cheating woman that has been caught, she is a dangerous woman. You can forgive, but take her her back is not advisable, even she herself understands she is not fit for you anymore when caught..

woginid967:
Errrm she cheated with a younger boy who was a junior staff, whose gf was her colleague.

Her reasons was I was too strict and i wanted to know her wherabouts and I corrected her often, so she confided him the guy and used him secretly as back up, for 6 years, till the guy publicly insulted me and i fired him.

Then the truth came out.

I left her quietly, till now I wonder how i kept forgiving her MANY misgivings till she got confident enough to do this 🙄

Anyway now she is for many guys and being used by rough guys, i leveled up, got wealthy, converted the pain to purpose. Moved on with firm resolution never to give my strength to women again. Its been years now and my growth has been massive,

Thank God for lessons learned.

Thank God for your redemption..

But you still need to understand women nature..

When you forgive a woman for offence that she know she shouldn't commit, she will punish you for it and still blame you.

When you forgive her for what she should scolded for, you emboldened her and she will blame you.

Women are so brutal when they want to move on.

It should be a NO..

You did not fall down on earth all by yourself. You both need their blessings. If anything is between you and your parents, settle it before you decide to marry.

Men,
Be careful of marrying a lady that doesn't have regards for her parent, it's only a matter of time she will show you shege banza.

Women,
Becareful of marrying a man doesn't speak good of his parent, he will probably not lead you right, he will awaken your inactive poison as a woman and make you a damaged woman.

Pls thread carefully

Badgers14:
It depends on why?

It is not a straight answer, you have to dig deep to understand why they broke ties with their parents , then think if their reason is "reason " enough before making a decision.

No why can justify anything...

This is cool spiritually and culturally compare to same sex marriage.

You will notice None of the parties involved will be dragged just maybe because it appears natural,

I still don't understand how the west convinced us that polygamy is bad and same sex marriage and gender/body modification is cool..

When if you are capable, pls marry more than one wife

You or your friend should know that he is fast growing past that stage where learning income skills are easy for him.

At his current age, he should have started earning even if it is a meagre amount..

His focus should be on improving his finance and not just beginning to learn how to get his finances.

Like someone pointed out, your friend or you have chased pleasure for too long in a lifetime, now you are looking for where to sow little and reap more...

Anyways..
Things will be difficult for him, he should know that but he can manage his way, nature cures us all with time..

He need unwavering focus and determination, his own body will want to fail him alot, because they have being dictating for him so long.

Not the he need to take charge and find his feet, his body will want to rebel.

He should stand his ground against his body dictation for pleasure and for on skills that he do for the next six, to eight month,

The day that you will realised that women don't care about your struggles, you will sit up as a man.

Next time, tell her frankly to buy the most baby things with the money other preferences will be met later, and if necessary.

God forbid,

If you go broke, your marriage story will change again. She will frustrate you

BloomingDale:
After the first wife had finished slaving for him, which aged her he went to get a fresh young wife. Nigerian women, how many times I call una?

Ndi feminist..

The image you share is crap..

If you fail to use your God given talent of foresight and you choose to marry rubbish

Maybe you are be clouded by your emotions because of money and materials things.

When a finished woman settle for a finished man.. they blame everyone but themselves.

Truth be told, there is nothing like one Nigeria when all citizens are not treated equally.

I hate to say it, those guys up north are 1st citizen

Sadly your problem is spending..

In reality of present naija society, things truly cost.

But 400k if well spent can STILL sustain you.

1. Deal with your impulse spending habit
2. Set a financial or investment goal
3. Live below your means (rents, food, school etc )
4. Start savings and join a reliable cooperative
5. Set up your woman for business but never depend on it...

Set a goal and work to achieve

Never forgive a woman for what she knows that she shouldn't be forgiven.

Cheating has never been a mistake. It's always deliberate and international.

Op she wants to come back and finish you. She herself is not self aware of her nature.

Break every contact with her, and don't give her a chance to play a good girl script on you...

Always remember shege banzah...

'what has come over you' will not be your portion..

Yes

Blaze14k:
I've noticed people prefer monipoint

That's because it's simply the best of dem all

Tell her wetin you want..

Don't care how she gaslight you, tell what you want

The money is valueless truly.

But attachbsome perceived value of not easy to get back before you spend..

This may sound selfish for men..

But what you describe in your post, with your level of education and a less social media brouhaha, my dear that's beautiful..

It's a great stock that you have in your arsenal. Pls don't throw it away.

Men will trade valuables for it.

Just be feminine, submissive and loyal to who you allow date you, the guy go dey thank God low key