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I watched a real life documentary movie 'Tinder Swinder' on Netflix, it was a very interesting movie about Shimon Hayut who met women on Tinder before swindling them for millions of dollars after catfishing them into believing his name was “Simon Leviev” and that he was the son of Israeli diamond tycoon Lev Leviev.

Here are my reasons why Nigerian women can't fall for the tinder swindler unlike the white women

1Rolake:
Please I need nairalanders advice. I'm in dilemma.

I'm sorry the story is long please take your time and sorry for any mistakes.

My sister and her husband got married late 2018, she was pregnant then.
Few months after their marriage the husband lost his job. He was sacked because he embezzled over 5m from his company.

Note: he dated my sister for only a year before their marriage and only bought a phone (infinix) for my sister during their courtship. He has no car nor a house from this money.

We got to know that he is a chronic gambler. He can bet 200k on a single game.

For 2 years he was out of job, my sister supported him and never complained, we also do not have problem in my family. We didn't even act as if we know that he was out of job for that 2yrs. After my sis gave birth the MIL stayed with them for a year with my sister footing the bills, the MIL eats only Amala every night and my sister covers every damn expenses and still cook for the house. She takes care of her family without complaints.

The problem is that the husband is never satisfy, never appreciate my sis for a day and always complain anytime she did not cook for those 2yrs. He has pushed my sister to collect loans of 40k twice from LAPO without paying back. He sold almost all the properties at home for betting, they have no TV, nor fridge.

In late 2021 he got a job in a restaurant with a salary of 80k and he promised to be given my sister 25k every month. Since then until now he has never given my sister 1penny from the 25k, he has never bought a clothe nor shoe for his child since he was born. He use his salary to either womanize or Bet. He has borrowed money in almost all the loan apps and my sister keep receiving messages from this loan apps almost everyday, I've also received a message from them before. Their landlord asked then to leave his house because they couldn't pay for house rent and he kept receiving messages from this loan Apps too. He doesn't talk to my sister, they live as neighbors in the house. They only share greetings at home unless he wants to ask my sister for money. They behave as strangers, always shut my sister off.

His company kept 150k with him for 2days and he used the money to play betting not until they start chasing him with calls before he borrowed the money from his sister to settle the bills.

He no longer go to work again, he told my sister yesterday that he has resigned because he's working on a project that will give him twice his investment. We're suspecting that he was sacked (job not up-to 6months)

So last year I advised my sister to start a Thrift so that she can be saving her money and use the money to start a business this year.

My sis called me today and told me that her husband has resigned. He no longer go to work and I advised her to get an apartment outside and give the man space. She has advised him so many times, pray for him, supported him. Uptil today we've never questioned the man, we just want him to treat my sis right but he's not ready to change.

Please nairalanders what do you think we can do? Do you think I gave my sister the right advice?

I don't really want my sis to divorce her husband. But she cries almost everyday.

How old is your sister's husband?

Emer00:
Please let God use you to help me, I'm not scam but there no way to prove it and it's getting worse.... You will be helping my entire generation by giving anything. There is no where to even borrow again and being kicked out is imminent.... I need like than 500k to solve all these problems...
May God reward you for your kindness and generosity please help..

You are a lazy man. You think most men here don't have financial challenges and it is only you that is broke. 500k? Just like that! You think money is picked on the tree? Who cares if your wife is pregnant or hungry? In fact, it shows you are an irresponsible man.

You better go to site and do bricklayer jobs. You will be paid per day. Then, you can FEED your pregnant wife and children rather than sitting your ass on the chair with your phone and hoping for someone to give you money you didn't work for.

LAZY MAN

Fantastic. Investment in railway transportation is critical to our economy.

Seriously, osinbajo is the best candidate for APC to contest against PDP. Tinubu is not loved by south south and south east. But osinbajo won't have such problem

Humans are very cruel. Tolerance is very important.

TheKingsmann:
But she done hit menopause already, I don't think she will ever get pregnant

Have you heard of IVF? She can still born through IVF.

There is nothing like blood money in reality. It is nollywood that started such nonsense

Restroom:
My brother cars dey o......just know the one you are going for and the purpose you have in mind.

Like here ,I got a good one for 180,000. A friend sold to me. Generally, i observe that tokunbos are more expensive. Cheap cars can be anywhere from 150,000 to 500,000 depending on how fortunate you are.

Some have plenty cars in their compound ,wasting away. Sometimes when they see abuyer, they just give it away.

My advise,.meet some mechanics around. You will be surprised how cheap some even big cars are when you price from mechanics. If you have 200k to 300k you go see a good car ,even though not the type that can do Uber. Add something to it, you can get.clean Uber type ones from mechanics if you are forunate for 300-400k.

But mind you, keep small thing for general maintainenance.

The secrets na mechanics.

Tell them your budget....they will get cars for you, na you go tire especially January or February like this so.

Lol . 300k for a car?? Na jalopi it can buy and not a good car. Definitely you don't know how much cars are sold in Nigeria.

Lush100:
Lies
Lies.
U can still get @ 150k @ Abule-Egba.
Minus agent

You can't get mini flat at 150k at Abule Egba. The least you can see is 250k annual rent minus agent.

UyaiIncomparabl:
LMAO @ audio millions.

Let me not say anything on here. That will be me trying to prove a baseless point. When I am ready, I'll send a personal message to those who I pledged to give, including you if you care. I didn't promise NLs money. I only said I was giving out cash on the betting thread which I have found to be needless anyway. I have those in mind who I have pledged to give. Like I told you that day, I have your moniker bookmarked. Adios for now.

Let's not ruin this beautiful thread. I'm not ready.

Abeg oh, count my moniker out of the giveaway. I am too rich for such. Nevertheless, I admire your passion for chelsea fc as a female. Keep it up.

Klass99:
But, not impossible either.

My current crib with the cool landlord, came without agency or legal fees involved.

Did you do that giveaway on the 1st of January, like you said?

Seeing this post above just made me to remember @UyaiIncomparabl. Shebi you were running your mouth at me and boasting about doing giveaway on new year day to nairalanders with your audio millions? Why don't you reply her back about it? Na you sabi.

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Cokahot:
I lost 6m in August,got depressed till November.

You made a bad investment decision or misplaced the 6 million?

Isacar:
Bro someone just said his/her own way, it's kinda wrong on ur part to discredit it, even if it were impossible, which I know it not

Why should posting the bet code of the winning bet hard for her? Abeg I no fit shout.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Liar? I hope everything is alright with you over there?

I did a rollover of 10k on 3 odds to a million and it materialised 2 nights ago. Or, is that alien to you again?

And yes, betting can either make you a millionaire if you follow a good strategy or send you back to your village when you get stupidly greedy and don't have a leash.

you are funny. Na so roll over of 3 odds easy to win?? Post the betting code of your one 3 odds winning. If na so to win 3 odds easy, banks sef go dey play bet9ja to triple their money instantly.

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UyaiIncomparabl:
I'll delete this in 15 hours.

I just got financial freedom last night with a million naira and some thousands.

How? By betting. Don't follow my footsteps oh. I just got lucky.

Liar. Post the betting code of your winning bet. It is people like you that gives some youth the illusion that betting can make them millionaires.

Very funny videos. Kids of this generation are becoming bold ohh to talk to adults.

Lekki is classy and beautiful. It is the future of real estate and tourism in Lagos.

Whereas magodo is at its peak. It can't develop more than what it is now.

sisisioge:
Our men made them single parents....women havent been able to breakthrough the self impregnation phenomenon yet....a sperm that belongs to a man must be involved,whether through natural copulation or artificial insemination. Either way, na collective effort.

Women still call the shots whether to get pregnant after sex or not. She can decide to use birth control pills like postinor etc.

Also, If a lady noticed she is dating a man scared of marriage or commitment, why get pregnant for him and become a single mother?

The final choice on single parenting is still majorly decided by women.

BitterSoul:
I work in the building sector. Facebook add gave me clients that paid for contracts worth millions of naira. In fact the very first week of running the add, my first client paid almost three million... Facebook add needs being creative.

I'm a very private person. I've revealed much about myself on with this Monika. If I spell out my business here people can easily reconcile it with my main Monika that has my face; my identity. That's why it seems like like I'm not being open with my business

Finally, bro please like how much did the Facebook advert cost you in total? And for like how many weeks did you run the facebook ad? I am contemplating on Facebook ad too for my business.

You don't need to reveal the nature of your business.

BitterSoul:
Hello nairalanders, this is one year and few weeks since I created this account. You all remember this post? https://www.nairaland.com/6249966/lamentations-bitter-man#95936848

Well the last days of 2020 was literally hell to me. Thanks to few people like pcguru1 (I don't know what happened to that Monika) that helped me to survive after reading the post above. God bless you wherever you are. Let me briefly tell my 2021 story so that everyone can learn.

The challenges
December 2020, I was as broke as harmattan forest. I left my 20k monthly job out of frustration few months earlier and just settled for a 10k monthly job because it has a future. I remember one day on the last week of December 2020, I had just N10 left with me, no food, no water and no hope. I'm that kind of person that can't ask for help unless anonymously. I was chatting with random old friends and one conversation led to another and in the end one person sent me 3k the other 2k, so I had 5k. Immediately I went out, withdraw the money and bought garri, beans and bread. Thank God I had gas in my cylinder. That was how I became"rich" again.

Few days later, I went to my alma mater to enjoy my private time with nature since everyone else have traveled for Christmas holiday. So while alone, something strange happened; I got an sms that I have been selected for the federal government loan that I applied for. I clicked the linked and provided my BVN. Few days later I got alert of about 280k. That was how 2020 ended.

January 2021...
I cracked my brain on what type of business I could do with that money. While on that, feeding and some other expenses was sapping the money. In the end I settled for POS business. Being that I had spent most of the money on feeding, bills, repaying loans and acquiring everything needed for the business, I had just little money left for the business. I couldn't run the business myself because that my 10k job which later became 15k was very important to me; it had something I was looking for for the future, so I had to employ salesgirl that I would pay salaries to.

Now I needed loan to keep the business afloat. The emergence of UGM in Owerri made POS business risky so I was careful about collecting the loan. At the end of April, I felt it was the right time to collect the loan. A friend offered to loan me 150k in which I will pay 500 every single day till whenever I will return the capital (at his request). I agreed on collected the money on the 30th of April.

The big problem
On the 1st of may, my salesgirl was defrauded of 96k from the 150k. I sourced for money elsewhere to fund the business, and two months later on July, armed robbers attacked at broad daylight and collected everything. By October my salesgirl left, I employed another one but barely two weeks into the job, wayo people attacked her, collected all the money on her including my two ATM cards with her and the pin to the cards. Before her eye cleared, they have zeroed my account. That was November 2021

The testimony...

After all the disappointment and heartbreak, I am ending the year on a good note.

Firstly, I have just paid for a one bedroom apartment for two years in advance; paid for upholstery and will be fixing everything else before the end of this year. Remember the 15k job? It started yielding results already.

Secondly, apart from someone I'm owing 50k and federal government, I'm no longer owing anyone else.

Thirdly, I've found a love

NB
When you're broke, you don't reason normal. But please don't let desperation lead you into something bad. I've had to visit native doctor at a point...(check my post before this one). I would have considered suicide if not for my strong nature. But at last, I see hope.

Don't underestimate the power of the internet. Few thousands of naira for Facebook add was a major game changer for me.

When you're in bad situation, see it as a dark cloud that must give way for the sun at dawn. I do not have fat bank account; I may not even travel for Christmas, but I've moved from despair to hopefulness. If I could make it, YOU can make it.


Please share your 2021 experience with us in the comment section

How was the sales conversion of the Facebook ad you did? Did it bring more sales to you? Cause I heard nowadays Facebook ad is a waste of money.

I am thinking of advertising my business too using Facebook ad. I want to learn about your experience using Facebook Ad if it worths it.

rotecch77:
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Can 35 million totally complete this project on a dry land? Excluding land cost.

pocohantas:
Congratulations to her!

I commend her for this move.

Dearest Naija women, this is 2021. If you want a child, no husband forthcoming, fck societal rules and get that child.

Even if it takes stealing sperm, steal it!

After all, they always use lux soap to waste it inside bathroom. Is it that 1 drop they gave you that will kill them?

Don’t stay and be asking “did you come inside?” at 38. Or drinking postinor 2 upandan.

Children would love you in good and bad. Dirty mummy, fat mummy, stretch marks mummy, mummy is mummy.

Don’t allow hypocritical Nigerians dictate how you live your life. Especially when you are not harming anyone.



Why are you guys pained?

Shebi men don’t benefit from marriage? Oya give us small sperm na. Ntoorr!

How do you tell a child they are from sperm donor?

It will be interesting on how INI Edo explain to her daughter when she grow up?

This is Africa you know. The child can be stigmatized by her mates..

FineDragon:
This is my first post on nairaland and I'm deeply an introvert, I actually have a young family that I'm raising, my son just completed a year and I'm trying very hard to always provide food for my family, but my hustle is very risky because I'm a crypto trader, and that's all I have, but I'm not deep into it, I just deal with gift cards and sell bitcoins only, but I still struggle, why?? Because I do have vices though but I'm looking to have other streams please what advice will you give me

is crytocurrency trading riskier like sports betting?

People should be careful of spreading rumours. And let the Nigerian police do their investigation. Surprisingly, the hotel owner could be innocent.

jaksmillioniar:
hello rooms. I have a problem and is paining me. am a mature guy who know what is singleness and maried .most mock me but I got married.we got a baby last year a corona baby. am not ashame to say it dat at my age am still a mummy boy and she is my number one but I respect my wife. wen I want to marry my wife Neva gree dat I got a house close to my mum place. I feel very bad but I want to make her happy so we move far my mom was angry as she know my wife force me. wen I born my wife mum came for omugo instead of my mum and dat made her so sad dat she cried and ask if am a barstard dat let dem steal her right. i begged her.she came for naming and left same day I notice d way my wife was acting rude too cos her mum is pushing her. I now told my wife dat mum is angry let visit buy her gift cost her place is now far. she keep posting dat her body is not strong for 5 month as I think she took me and my family as a fool. I got angry and slap her twice. as she saw am really angry she begged me. so we go and see her we are all happy and settle all. as my child reach 10 month I tell her to tell her mum to go cos shes now strong almost to walk. the mum go but my mum want to come spend holiday as she Neva do dat since I born. wen I told my wife I see how she change face . wen my mum come i travel she Neva cook for her but warm soup in freezer to give her. my mum hate dat called me and was crying dat will she do dat to her mum. so I pretend noting happen as I got back I buy things from eatry for family so my mum left afta 2 weeks
I now bring d issue up and she just ansa me anyhow dat way wrong in giving her second hand food dat she will give her mum too. I now got angry and beat her. I Neva injure her. all and some other thing . I love my wife I cant be beating her all d time she promise to change yet non. becos of bad caracter I refuse to take her to eatry. she now want to deny me sex until I slap sence into her. marraige has challenge is not easy.

Seriously, how will you feel if your wife were to be your sister and you hear her husband slap and beat her frequently? This is domestic violence in case you don't know. The earlier you stopped it, the better. Your wife is your partner and not your slave.

Are you not the same jakande trying to woo sisisioge via nairaland? If I am not mistaken? Omo, sisisioge better thank her stars for rejecting you.

What the fvck!

ahnie:
I don't know how to reduce pictures.i 'm achaic when it comes to things like that.

But the firewoods cooking was bae,my body just dey smell smoke smoke

Hope you set the firewood fire very well? Firewood smoke can blind eyes ohh.

southniyikaye:
Saw a thread that made fp about depression..

https://www.nairaland.com/6862535/fg-job-how-name-replaced

I wish to keep this post as short as possible but it seems it's gonna be a long read..

I was the first to comment and people say I should share this story even though I have promised to never share any of my stories on nairaland again, this might just be the last one...
This is not to woop up sentiment or a self pity thread, just want people to be careful when you try to cyber bully people thinking you are catching cruise.
So last year from around Feb to may, I was an ardent begger on nairaland that I was even nicknamed the nairaland's president of begger, he no get where my account no dey.. Every begging or giveaway thread, I dey...
But around may or June last year, God came through for me.. I want to make this post as short as possible..
Firstly when I wrote about being suicidal, alot of nairanders came through. I thank Mr Bello, that man sent me total of 110k.it was like magic cos what we talked about was around 30k to start business..
Stupidity (this is a moniker on nairaland) too gave me 20k.i made about 15k from giveaway threads.
Then a brother of mine abroad came through and gave me approximately 1.3m..
All these came in a space of 1month..
Let me say this, you might not believe in prayers but alot of fasting and prayers happened in my life from January till God answered my prayers.. Mr Bello was God sent.. Apart from the money, he gave me alot of encouraging words, gave me directions and how to channel my prayers..
To the purpose of this thread..
Believe this or not, I spend more than 250k helping others both online and offline..
I tried about 3 businesses that failed and I was left with about 500k till I finally did a retail business that gave me more than 2m savings.
I was supposed to travel to South Africa around August, I was given a visa already but I was supposed to do some things in Lagos for like a month before moving to S.A.
So I sold my retail shop(first mistake) even though alot of people adviced me seriously against it, but I already made up my mind since I won't be needing it anymore..
I was in Lagos when my host told me I won't be coming to S.A again due to unforseen circumstances,na from there I know say I Don enter one chance..
The plan was to open a fabrication shop for me in S.A, accommodation will be provided.
This host was my bro who sent me money, he sent me a separate money for S.A processing and the plan was going on smoothly till I got to Lagos..
So I had to come back to ibadan but business was gone so I improvised...
Now, I and my wife settled our differences, I won't be gojng into much details but families intervened and not being a father figure in my kids life was painful to me as they are growing and always wanted to be with me..
So I got an apartment in ib, furnished it to taste(atleast ) and moved my family to ib, everyone was happy..
I know people might want to refer to my previous thread about family but everything was cool now as I prayed over it in 3-4 diff places..
I am leaving alot of details out cos the post is getting long already..
She has something good doing before coming, she was making good money in her work place, (she left the bar for a decent job) and she told me she can't come to me and be jobless.
She told me what she will like to do and I told her I got everything covered..
Plan was in motion and my new area has an advantage of doing same retail business I was doing before and the way am seeing it, the sales will be more than my former place..
I got a space for my fabrication job and everything seems perfect until my brother in S.A had a serious health issue.
This is someone that came through for me twice, this health issue was already developing that's why he didn't want me to come to him..
I sent everything I could gather and even borrowed more just to make sure he is OK..
That's how my financial mess started..
My family is already here and to feed became a serious issue. My wife has nothing doing, we've spent every penny she saved on kids school fees and feeding, she cries everyday and this breaks my heart.
She tried looking for work and none was forthcoming.. I too tried looking for job and what am being offered is nothing to write home about.
I even put up my big generator, big fridge I bought for her business and some other new house hold things for sale and the prices people are offering me heenn, it is well..
About 2weeks now, I was talking to someone when I started stammering, then I lost my voice... I was trying to make hand gesture to the person that have lost my voice when I started folding from inside, then I collapsed..
It took more than an hour to resuscitate me but believe me, I wish I died and be done with this world.. (was told it was an extremely low BP).
People will not understand the financial pressure am in and the fact that I made my wife resigned from her work to just live as a family and she is now jobless and crying everyday breaks my heart..
She tried her best cos everybody know what it takes to feed nowadays, now imagine feeding a family of four!
Last week, someone who knows me offline but I don't know was making jest of me on this platform, saying derogatory words..
No matter what, you don't beat a man that is already down. I was just getting myself from that collapse when he made that statement...

So, this is what I went through in the space of a year..
I didn't go into details and I know people will want to know the type of business that gave me such amount withing a year.. Not gonna hide anything but if I mention it, alot of people will know who I am cos I know alot of those in my area and even my previous customers are on this platform.
About my brother's issue, it is more serious than I wrote here but that too is supposed to be confidential..
Cc tmksouth, I don't know how far your reach in S.A is but I will appreciate if I can contact you and pls anyone that lives in cape Town..

What made me seriously depressed is this, this is the 3rd time am at the point of my breakthrough that this type of shit is happening and each phase of it is worse than the previous..
I have never been diabolical but shey my head no need washing and setting like this?
Abi shey I no go go ask why always me? Shebi na people Sha dey do long time business and succeeding without issues..

My advice to people is this, yoruba will say, MA titori pe o gbo kun kun Ojo ko da omi agbada nu.. (no becos say u believe say rain go fall make you troway drum water).
If i had leased my business and not sold it, I would have something to fall back to now..

Another is, always resist the urge to shalaye and keep your life private as much as possible, he get why. Expecially your success story or propose successes...

Ishilove
Pocahontas
I purposely tagged these two people cos they are familiar with my story and to let them know say, person wey do you bad today fit make you happy tomorrow..

Your monicker is quite familiar to me on nairaland majorly for begging even though I am a quiet member. No need for your essay or pity stories again. That is always how you start your e-begging on this forum.

All men have some challenges in real life.

ThinkDigitally1:
Clear and open your eyes and reread all over again

is the business training online or physical class at edc enterprise center ajah