Ybaby:


Now let me explain even further..... except you plug your fan into the socket the fan cannot get electricity - this means that while on the surface it looks like it is the plug that is giving and the socket is receiving ...... in true life it is actually the plug receiving and the socket giving. ( think about it)

Now while on the surface the man is giving his sperm ...... in true life he is getting a child .... a lineage.... a home.

Every nation that honours and respects their women thrive....
while
All nations that dishonours and disrespects their women suffer greatly...

(GO & VERIFY)

Woman is the socket and without her no fan, no TV, no man or children ....... (let me burst your brain) NO HUMAN will thrive in nations where women are belittled because God has given woman many gifts that human need to turn prosperity on e.g intuition.

Every Chess player knows it is the queen that holds the game...... go after the queen and all other will perish.

Instead of men asking thier wife for money..... ask her for peace, for joy, for a happy home, for insight, for love, for wisdom, for vision.....

Men are strong they donot need a woman's money (young men today think they do) Men need qualities that make him think clearly and he will bring the money.

Dusties I cannot e-fight o. Just aired my opinion and shared some wisdom.

Madam. Longest time

A wise man leaves an inheritance to his children's children. - Proverbs 13:22

All this fears of squandering the wealth only arises when the parents fail to do their job as parents.

Lumosk:
Let's analyze the man's expenses.
2.5k daily for food for 30days=75k
Fuel for car and gen 1.5k/day=45k
Rent.........................................= 70k
Contribution for health insurance=10k
Contribution to vacation................=40k
Contribution for children trust fund=40k
Man had only 20k left, so you understand now?

He is the man here. it is his responsibility to curtail the expenses according to his pocket. with your analysis he is living beyond his means. It is too early into the marriage to put that much financial strain on the woman.

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

she dodged a bullet. a mule is what you're looking for. not a wife.

this is 80k for goodness sake. If at the barest minimum she spends 1K everyday on feeding and transport. 30k is gone. the contributions you demand of her will definitely finish the remaining 50k. she has nothing left to spend on herself as a woman or on miscellaneous expenses she doesn't want to bother you about. And in addition to all that she'll also be the one to cook and clean.

on top wetin?

what kind of a man are you? would you wish this on your sister?

You can't tell me you love that woman. this is a marriage of convenience for you. If you were earning a million you will not choose her. so let her be abeg.

Marriage is not by force, you're clearly not ready to create the lifestyle you want for your family hence why you need to depend on a woman. hustle more or find a woman earning 200k+ to work with this your budget.

N.B: If any alpha male wannabe devoid of common sense and cursed with a brain that can only formulate the word simp quotes me I will swear for you and your generation. this is a new year.

Excel70:

Please I will need materials

You don't need "materials". the probability that you'll get lost and discouraged is high.

Go to w3schools.com and start with HTML, CSS, then Javascript.

Once you have acquired the foundational knowledge with the technologies above then it should start making sense at that point and by then you would have figured out if its something you see yourself doing or not and if you decide to continue you will have enough knowledge to decide on which specialization interests you the most.

It's not for everyone but if you put in the work it's definitely worth it. and if money is a motivation for you. just know that making over 2 million after just about three to four years of professional work experience is very viable in the industry.

this is coming from a former Andela engineer.

ExRedpiller:


You hit the spot.
I've been reading Nietzsche and I've been thinking. As men we love control, it's very evident in our fickle human nature.
It's almost as if the redpill doesn't want women to have a life of their own. But women are humans, they'll surely want to have their way. There's nothing anyone can do about it. But you can either choose to hate on and get angry about women for having their way or not.

Women do want to be dominated though. dominated to a point where they feel safe. not oppressed. I don't know if you're spiritual but the scriptures confirms this; thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. - Genesis 3: 16.

A man dominating a woman could be a cause or a blessing depending on the circumstance but at their core they crave to be dominated by the man in their life.

Women are usually happier when they can respect and trust their man at a very deep level. once they feel safe around you to trust your leadership they generally submit to that man. In many ways they are like children. they are really not designed to be independent of men and roam the world like nomads. they should be free but the man(husband, father) in their life should be the most powerful force in their life even more powerful than their desire for freedom. at the end of the day every privilege(freedom) women have today was given to them by men.

The problem with the red-pill is that in a bid to adjust the modern woman. It forgets that women generally reflect the state of their men. so Women with all their flaws needs fixing no doubt but men have to look inwards first. take control of your life first before you attempt to fix others. whining and complaining about women, baby-mama's, child-support will only make you oblivious to your own issues and you claim to be the leader.

Men that complain 90% of the time about women are mediocre men.

Klass99:


Okay!

At least we don't go running in the other direction looking for firmer bodies and stronger dicks. We stick with you, balding head and all, because we don't even feel comfortable in our new skin and bodies to go searching.

Having 4 or 5 kids is not just about the trends in post pregnancy weight loss and body firming, for me. It is about the overall physical health of a woman, about preventing or reducing chances of high risk pregnancies, that may come with complications or even death in extreme cases.

My friend had 2 kids (a boy and a girl) she started worrying hubby for a 3rd child. He resisted until he couldn't and she took in, the pregnancy was a high risk and life threatening one.

Fortunately, mother and child survived but the only reason she kept pressuring hubby was because their family friends Ted & Lucy, had another baby (their fourth) and she thought they should try for a 3rd child as well, because, them Lucy had one more. Whenever she visited Lucy, holding the baby made her yearn for her baby of her own.

Are you seeing reasoning? Because, Lucy had one more, me too I want. Is it a competition? I told her the next time you feel that way, get a job at a baby creche or become a nanny.

If, we had lost her nko? Or the baby came with a disability or deformity nko? When I talk I am thinking beyond post pregnancy weight loss and body forming, because I lost a relative through child birth (her first pregnancy) and she was just 29.

The more, the greater the chances of a high risk pregnancy.

You keep talking about your friends. You're not married yet have a lot of opinion on marriage.

My mother has 5 children. four boys and a girl yet she is still better looking than women decades younger than her. so what do you say regarding that. If a woman takes pride in how she looks. she will devise a strategy to ensure what she needs as a woman does not go unmet. Boarding a flight is of higher risk than getting pregnant but I believe that will not prevent you from jetting off to Dubai when you get the chance so I do not understand your point about holding off pregnancy because of the risk. You have clearly never been pregnant.

and if your desire for a firm body is so you can cheat when your man goes astray then it's better you stay unmarried. We do not need more toxic relationships.

Majority of men who attach themselves to this red-pill ideology are losers. not all but majority. It is usually an illusionary escape hatch for men that have failed in life. just like feminism is an escape for women that have failed with men in life. or the men in their life has failed them.

I can never take seriously a man who derives undiluted joy in always being bitter, complaining about women, almost like as though they hate being a man just because they cannot measure up with society's expectation for a man. so they wish to be a woman. 99% of their conversation is centered around women. They tell you not to pedestalise women when that is exactly what they're doing without even realising it. Their entire ideology revolves around reacting based on how women behave as opposed to setting the tone in your life and ensuring everyone in your life(women and children) follow suit.

The problem I have with my Nigerian brothers that carry this red-pill on their head is that majority of its grievances does not even apply to our local environment in many ways. how many men pay child-support in Nigeria, how many men loose half of their life's work in a divorce in this Nigeria. how many women do you even see on a daily basis that calls themselves a feminist.



Misery indeed loves company. When you lead a miserable life you are much more prone to latch unto anything that makes you feel better about your lot even when it does not remotely applies to you. It likes laughing like a hyena at a joke that you do not understand just because you want to feel among. these kind of men have no inner direction in life, they will be swayed by everything and anything that makes half sense as far as it makes them feel good.

Ekakamba:
Like the age category, you fall into.

19, Andela

paulavon:
Marriage involves shared responsibilities.
Both parties must contribute to the union to make it work.

An average man feels proud and happy to see his wife takes up some little bills and responsibilities here and there without being told.

Citing examples of billionaires like Dangote and Otedola in this discuss doesn't really hold water.Every man must not have the kind of money they do in other to have a decent and responsible home.
A man paying 100% of the bills doesn't translate to a happy home.

The sad reality is that, any woman who wants to have this entitled and feministic mentality of subjecting the man to foot 100% of the bills in the home will quickly wears the man off and ends up a widow.

Yeah. that is why he will always be average. It is one thing for a man to not be financially buoyant and another thing for a man to speak and act like he has given up on himself and his manhood.

Mastakija:
i dont like ppl like this
Honestly
They disgust me

This kind of guy/girls/gays repulses me to my bones. Any time I'm scrolling through explore page on IG he's always on there applying lipstick. I have never clicked on his video to even hear how he sounds like.

I don't want to use the word "hate" but. I hate them abeg. I can't even sugarcoat it.

Astrid4:



Whether my mumsy nah tear rubber or okirika e no concern nah my papa you go ask

Now let's be truthful with ourself...most of these women marrying this days are just fvcking hoes as in we have lost our morals...during our fathers it wasn't like this I remember it was shameful thing to be non virgin I mean a whole disgrace to the family of the bride...we have rationalize this lack of moral values to be a normal and it trash...as young inquisitive dude growing up I remember talking to my grandfather's friend a particular morning and asked him before the advent of DNA how do you know if a child is theirs and they told every family have their own tradition/rituals and it is conducted to know if a child is not yours it actually be revealed and the child will die...see we really need to get our moral values back and this lies greatly on the women you spent alot of time with this children teach them good values and manners the level of moral decadence is actually alarming but who will teach ??...is it gonna be mother whose every dick and Harry have slept with hell no !! you can't give what we don't have...we are African and African culture should be imbibed...am sure you are gonna ask if am a virgin.. well I think it doesn't matter cos my dignity as a man is not in my virginity it my ability for to provide for my woman and my home that actually matters...though I would advice a man to be virgin too cos it actually bring some certain discipline.. it not as important to women now let's go the Bible the word "virginity" has always be ascribed to women you can check no male character has be qualified with the word "virginity"...it more like a women thing.

Let them keep on deceiving their self. It's their type that'll come on hear to be asking for DNA test.

The audacity of these modern women to put on white gown after doing snake in the monkey shadow with who knows who is just mindboggling and the foolish man will think he has won in his mind.

Honestly, I question the mental state of a man who question the virtue of virginity. Many times I feel they are lacking in some areas as the Man so they turn a blind eye to it.

Virginity is derived from a French word that originally meant "maiden" . So there's nothing like virginity for a man. A man doesn't have a hymen, A man is either sexually experienced or not.

Triumphant - Olamide feat Bella Shmurda
I no fit vex - Burna boy
Bebo - Burna boy
Time flies - Burna boy
Bank on it - Burna boy

mrsteel:

But that same partner misled Adam & even created issue between God & Adam, which made God to lay curse on Adam that has landed us in the mess we are facing in d world today! Fact is marriage is not for everyone & doesn't mean a married man will live a fulfilled life.

Adam was not deceived. He failed to reprimand and lead his partner when he needed to.

You guys always like to relieve yourself of personal responsibility but always make it about the woman using a warped understanding of the scriptures.

DenreleDave:
Wow

Thank God this wasn't discovered in India, the home of weird creatures

India, Indonesia. wetin be the difference

thebosstrevor1:


doing what a woman is suppose to do will make the woman see you as weak and a easy means of manipulation

Self suficient and independence is good for a man but atleat when it comes to stuff like cooking and cleaning the home, let her do it.

True. There have to be polarity.

Allow the woman excel in her role so you focus on being the best provider and leader of your home.

BrutusOj:
Lol .who doesn't know it was all format by his father? That very statement cost Kidd his chance to final. How can his father decide for him how to spend his money? As a father's pet or what?

You're not smart. That's why it will be hard for you to have his kind of money.

He made that statement to ginger Erica fans to vote for him not what you're insinuating up there.

ubunja:
how can it be onetitis when it's the girl seeing me as her dream guy?
In average I get 1 or 2 girls give me green lights everyday. Even if I were to pursue that totals a lot of pussy each month. Most guys don't even know what a greenlight is.

Guys with a high SMV don't go after women. Women come to them.

I see many guys will never understand the concept to let women choose. That's why pim.ps stand alone at the top because only them (and Players) fully understand this concept to the core. A prostitute will die for her pim.p but a wife will never die for her husband. Because hubby didn't wait to be chosen. If a woman Chooses you, there's no limit to the things she will do for your welfare.

Give women the power to choose. You'll understand the game better.

You are the supposed leader in the relationship but you want your woman to die for you?

What kind of a man expects that from his woman.

I think you'll agree with me that redpill teaches that women in many ways should be treated like a child. And here you're saying that same child should love you so much to die for you? How does that work. Is that not contradictory?

The strong men of 1950's that you'll agree are alphas. They fought wars while their women sat back. They understood and took up the responsibility that comes with being the leader.

I understand you might be speaking figuratively. But the point is you want the benefits that comes with being the leader but not the responsibility. How noble is that?

The perfect balance is the man loves more, the woman gives deep respect. The only woman that would and should love a man enough to lay down her life for him literally or figuratively is the mother. 99% of relationships where the woman loves the man more results in nothing but heartbreak and misery for that woman. It pitiful to see. But I guess that doesn't matter as long as the man gets a free ride

This is one of the many aspects of redpill I have issues with and it's very similar with the Nigerian version of feminism. It's all about what's in it for me. It's great when the goal is to just have sex and be a player but It's not a recipe for a long lasting, healthy relationship.

backbone503:
The alpha male is not a macho man. He is one, in whom the male and female energies are harmoniously balanced. The male who is strong, yet kind. Confident, but humble. Powerful, but tempered and calm. Firm, yet highly flexible.

Sometimes, a better way of showing how powerful you're is by not showing it (at least, in the manner expected of you).

Not necessarily alpha. But definitely the way of the superior man

Leafflet:


I don’t know it but your music choice is class. That I no fit vex for you, Leriq murder the production.

That one just dey burst my head since yesterday. My best from the album so far.

Burna is miles ahead abeg.

Kingdemi212019:
Twice as tall what? I wasted my data downloading the album, I only pick out wonderful out of the album

You no Sabi, listen to I no fit vex, comma, the one with stormy, onyeka, oluwa Burna, time flies.

lilyheaven:

She can say whatever sout her , she has people running errands for her, offering and tithe money is giving her account alert

The overall objective is to have those women lining their pockets every Sunday. any so called man/woman of God that preaches material prosperity is fake. 100%. that was not Jesus' message when he walked the earth.

Nuttella:
What is the proper planning that can be put in place cause the last time I checked, money diminishes if it is not replaced.

The loss of a partner is not what anyone expects or prepares for ideally. If you're even going into marriage with this kind of mindset, preparing for the ultimate worst from the onset, then nothing I say will make sense to you.

Even if both partners are working. It would surely take its toll except the man was nothing to write home about. But if there was love and transparency in the marriage. The woman would have access to all finances so in the midst of the grief, she's not entirely lost, she has something to start a business to keep the family afloat, and even at that. will you tell me you've not seen families where the man still provides from the grave via investments?

There are men who pride themselves in taking care of their families. They love doing it, they lead their homes, not control despite being the breadwinner and they appreciate the intrinsic values a woman bring into their life.

I know you can't relate but get out of your toxic circle. They do exist.

Nuttella:
My dear, a child that will turn out bad will do so even if you are a 24/7 housewife, moreover children tends to get tired of their parents always being there, that is why children dont have respect for their housewife mothers.

Housewifes are not doing the best for the society, that married nurse putting her life on the line during covid19 is the one making the world a better place, that married soldier fighting war is making the world a better place.

So with this your thought process. Why bother getting married then. since upbringing has no effect on children.

Are you that old or ugly that you really think the ultimate value a woman has is in the corporate world?

Children don't respect their mothers that are housewives?

You're messed up, honestly

Nuttella:
God forbid the man mistakenly die, how will the housewife cope, I dont understand why people dont think of the future.

Can you just shut up with the `what happens if the husband dies` question?

It's a possibility anyone could die anytime but does that mean each and every decision we make should revolve around the fear of death?

Proper planning can be put in place to mitigate unforseen occurrence regardless of how the incomes come in.

But what's worse is seeing your children become degenerates because both parents were relentlessly pursuing careers.

The first and foremost duty of the family unit is raising, healthy responsible children. And the role of the woman as a homemaker is very crucial to achieving that objective.

Chii59:

Just as your mom isn't.

My mom only knew my father sexually. That can't be said of you.

Zzor:
only a virgin man deserves a virgin lady,no prostitute patroniser should dare desire a virgin lady.

Do men even have virginity? It should not be hard keeping the value God bestowed on you for the man that you'll marry.

Chii59:

Yawns

You're not a virgin!!!!!

Chii59:

Now I'm sure I like the way you reason.

Yeah. Sure you do, when you're not a virgin

MrBrownJay1:


its called spec/opinion, and like a butthole, everybody got one...

the majority of men want a virgin woman because of low self esteem. the simple reason why they want one is because they CANT accept that their woman has been with another man. they CANT take the fact that their woman had a life before them. they CANT accept that they wont be their woman's first.

if a man wants a virgin because he believes of the purity of the body, then unless he is a virgin himself, he is just talking NONSENSE! there is a TON of insecure/low self esteem men in Nigeria.

A man who wants a virgin has low self-esteem?

Not a wise submission.

keepingmum:
Wheres your location....fyi new one on jumia is 150k

Nah. It's over 200k. It's a really good tv. I have one as well. Comes with Netflix, Amazon prime and Youtube. You'd really enjoy it if you have unlimited wifi, you might even do away with your decoder except for live match.