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I am also experiencing same.
It seems graduate school and dating don't seem to go very well together.

Here are some of the places I've tried maybe they will work for you.

The gym- suggested to me by one of my friends. I have been a member for 1 year now. I go 2-3 days a week. I have made 3 female friends and 0 male ones. I think I spoke 5 words to the male gym attendant last week so that's a step in the right direction.

Game rooms: You know, those places with pool tables, foosball and table tennis. I heard its a good place to meet guys and start friendships. Whenever I remember that I have another life goal to accomplish other than graduating, I watch a few YouTube videos on how to play these games, then get dressed and go. So far, I have succeeded in establishing a parasitic friendship with the stray cat that hangs around there. My case is not completely hopeless you see.

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I suppose the victim has been tempting the perpetrator by his indecent dressing. Men should learn how to dress decently in order not to attract rapists.

obowunmi:
Kind
Smart
Well traveled woman.

Okay, so what makes you good husband material?

What qualities are you looking for? And what qualities do you have, that you feel will make you a good husband?

It is only after sh!t hits that fan you'll hear them calling God's name.

AfricanApple:
no need to go through that long process, just follow this thread, form conversations yourself and ask for the meaning by tagging someone

I have no problem with reading and forming conversation. My problem is with fluency, I currently have to think about what I want to say before I speak.

Barkanmu da yamma!

I need help!

I'm so glad I found this topic. I just got invited to an interview for a job that I applied for based on the fact that I can speak Hausa.
The problem though is that my Hausa is not the best. I am from kaduna but grew up in Lagos, so I can only speak my dialect (kagoro).
I am going to be interviewed wholly in Hausa so I need to practice my spoken Hausa. However I am in the US so it is tough to find other Hausa speakers to practice with.
Please if anyone is willing to practice with me while correcting me, send me an email talk2katz @ yahoo .com. I will be very grateful! I will be making all the calls so it is no cost to you. Infact, ban damu na biya kudi ba.

I hope to hear from you guys!

Everfrank:
Take your search further and you shall find him if he is alive. If he isn't you can still locate your siblings and family.
His surname confirms he is a riverine Rivers Ijaw man of Kalahari extraction. The KURO is a suffix used to form a compound name like Tamunokuro, Woyinkuro etc. among the core Kalabaris. Narrow down your search to the core Kalabari areas of Buguma, Degema, Abonnema and surrounding areas.
I suggest you circulate your case and the picture to the several "kalabari" "Buguma" "Abonnema" "Degema" groups on Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp and other social media.
You need to be accepted into these groups though. That means you need to create your accounts in each of these social media then request to join these groups.

NB
I am sorry to say that the Kalabaris are highly tribalistic and prideful and as such you may not be accepted into such groups with your surname Sarki. If so you may need to create accounts with neutral Christian names.
Zaki Iya amfani da suna irin nasu ma. Kuma kiyi hankali akwai 'yan damfara sosai a dandalinnan. Kar ki yarda ki biya ko kwabo ga kowa don ya taimaka miki. Allah ya bada sa'a.

Everfrank. I sent you an email through nairaland. Please respond. Thank you

wheesin:
my advice..just seize all of it.. tell him to stay away from sex and mastur.bate often.. is that the advice you want. ? abeg give the young man his condoms..you want make conji kill am

May he quench his conji on your daughters.

TooNoisy:
I will say it again, marriage by itself is discriminatory. If you do not want to discriminate then you will marry the first person you meet. We are not talking about discriminating for a job position or a sports competition, we are talking about who you will spend the rest of your life with. You sure have to discriminate.

I will say if you meet a guy or a lady that is from a broken home please do a bit more research and find out the cause of the divorce and house your bf/gf sees it
If he/she is still very bitter and hates a father, and even wishes the father evil, then be careful. The bad thing about very bitter divorce cases is that the kids are told so much nonsense by the two parents in order to make the other look like the devil.

I did not say one shouldn't marry from a broken home, all I said was do more research before you go ahead and make sure that person you want to marry has not been brain washed. 60% of what we learn about marriage is what we observed from our parents marriage. If that marriage was Sooo bad then that person has a little more to learn.

Even research has shown that children from broken homes are more likely to get divorced. It's just a statistic but it tells you something.

For those saying most married people are liars who are living like strangers. I say that is a lie. How many have you seen? There will always be challenges in marriage so the fact that a marriage is going through a challenge does not mean they hate each other. The couple just believe they can together overcome the challenge and most times they do.

Some of the points you have discussed are not exclusive to people from divorced parents.
- everyone should research their future spouse whether or not the person is from a broken hone.
- married couple bad mouth their spouses to the kids all the time. This is not an exclusive to divorced parents
As many people have mentioned, a couple sticking together does not mean their marriage/home is a healthy environment for children. I think the most important thing is to treat everyone as the individual they are and assume stuff about them based on their parent's marriage status.

TooNoisy:
I see the emotional part of you had taken over from the logical. Not here to debate you. I only stated my opinion.

This was unnecessary and very shallow of you.

harsysky:
I don't pay tithes because of my pastor; I pay because Christ has directed I should. Whether the pastor becomes a billionaire and isn't helping anyone, that his own cup of tea. He alone awaits his judgement ,and I'm not meant to judge him. Op, you're entitled to ur own opinions; you will corrupt people's mind with ur epistle. But the wise know the miraculous things paying tithe has done for them.

Christ never directed anyone to pay tithes!
Please show me the chapter and verse where Jesus Christ opened his mouth and said Christians are to pay tithes. You can do what you want with your money, just don't come on here and start saying things that are not true!

raumdeuter:
We share the bills in the house and whatever remains of her salary is her business

I can offer suggestion on some investment opportunities but thats it

I earn mine you earn your, we pay the bills jointly and whatever is left, the other person is free to use for whatever. if we have a joint project she also contribute to it

Great ideas as long as husband and wife are both contributing equally to the house chores as well.

FemiFaniKayode:
who be this one?
Na plane food we dey talk oooo no be food whey dem share for party ooooooo

Who are you? Why does it matter who I am?

FemiFaniKayode:
hey which flights are you talking abt first now on ur local flights in Nigeria if u can afford to buy an airplane ticket for at least 10kNGN why should you have a problem turning down that puff puff and all those tins they put in der if u arent hungry at the time it was offered? if u are poor dont get on a plane if u are hungry eat on the plane if u can afford to get onboard one

It was antoinne that said that people who take food out of planes are hungry and cannot afford to buy food. I was directing my question at him since he believes that someone who paid for a flight cannot afford food.

Chai! Poor people have suffered in this world. If I am poor I should not get on a plane?Which text book are you getting all these rules and regulations from biko?

Antoinne:
Poverty is no excuse for lack of refinement. Dignity, dignity please.

You said in many of your posts that people taking put food are hungry. Right? People taking out food don't have money to buy food. Abi?
So I'm too poor to buy food and I take out food I was given, that belongs to me, to eat later.
How is that not dignified? Would you rather I go and steal? Would you rather I come and beg you?

Antoinne,

You keep saying people that take out food are hungry. SO?
Since when is it a sin to be hungry? Since when is it "uncultured" to be hungry?

So I took food out of a plane because I could not afford to buy one where I'm heading. So freaking what? Is it a crime to be poor?

You point at other people's struggles and ridicule it, not because they hurt someone but because they are trying to feed? I honestly think that a mentality like yours is true poverty.

ellab:
happy Sunday every one.
so,mbc have brought out nomination lists early this year for the 51st baeksang arts award.

http://koalasplayground.com/2015/04/26/nominations-are-out-for-the-51st-baeksang-art-awards/#more-66547

some are

Best New Actor
Byun Yo Han – Socialphobia
Jo Bok Rae – C’est Si Bon
Kang Haneul – Twenty
Lee Min Ho – Gangnam Blues
Park Yoochun – Sea Fog

TELEVISION NOMINATIONS
Best Drama
Heard It Through the Grapevine
Kill Me, Heal Me
Misaeng
Punch
Yoo Na’s Street

Best Director
Ahn Pan Seok – Heard It Through the Grapevine
Kim Jin Man – Kill Me, Heal Me
Kim Jung Min – Bad Guys
Kim Sang Hyup – Mama
Kim Won Seok – Misaeng

Best Screenplay
Jin Soo Wan – Kill Me, Heal Me
Jung Sung Joo – Heard It Through the Grapevine
Kim Woon Kyung – Yoo Na’s Street
Noh Hee Kyung – It’s Okay, It’s Love
Park Kyung Soo – Punch

Best Actor
Jo Jae Hyun – Punch
Ji Sung – Kill Me, Heal Me
Jo In Sung – It’s Okay, It’s Love
Kim Rae Won – Punch
Lee Sung Min – Misaeng

Best Actress
Kim Ok Bin – Yoo Na’s Street
Lee Yoo Ri – Come Jang Bori!
Moon Jung Hee – Mama
Park Shin Hye – Pinocchio
Song Yoon Ah – Mama

Best New Actor
Do Kyung Soo – It’s Okay, It’s Love
Kim Dae Myung – Misaeng
Lee Joon – Heard It Through the Grapevine
Park Hyung Sik – What’s With This Family?
Im Si-wan – Misaeng

Best New Actress
Baek Ji Yeon – Heard It Through the Grapevine
Go Ah Sung – Heard It Through the Grapevine
Han Sunhwa – Rosy Lovers
Kim Seul Gi – Discovery of Love
Nam Ji Hyun – What’s With This Family?


few names I know there.Who do u think 'll win for each category.

BEST DRAMA: Miseang!

BEST SCREENPLAY: Noh Hee Kyung – It’s Okay, It’s Love!

BEST ACTOR: Jo In Sung!

BEST ACTRESS: Anyone but Park Shin Hye! I seriously dislike her acting. She is pretty much the same character in every drama she is in; the same facial expressions, same mannerisms, don't even get me started on that eye lass batting thing she does in EVERY DRAMA!

ellab:
looking forward to new dramas.
the producer
jeju Gatsby (can't recall d new Name)
orange marmalade
vampire scholar
school 2015

currently watching missing noir.. kang haneul is a good actor.

I am sooooo looking forward to the producers. I love Gong Hyo Jin, she is a superb actress. I like kim soo hyun too

Annyeonghaseyo everyone! Its been a while. I finished watching Healer some weeks back. It is a beautiful drama. I highly recomment it. Now what to watch next?

You don't need advice. You need a shrink. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expect a different result. How about you stop praying about leaving this man and actually LEAVE?

Look at the way you are flexing as if you are the one that got cheated on. Your only job as his friend is to support him in this difficult time, not give him nonsense ultimatums. If you are not there at the introduction the world will stop spinning abi?
Let him make his decision, he is not stupid, then you can tell him what you think about what he decides.

Lovat. Your write-up is seriously flawed! Freecocoa and the rest are correcting you but you no wan hear.
Nothing a woman does should warrant her rape. Nothing at all. Indecent dressing? What about Muslim women(with their burkas) that are raped? The children nko? We should start dressing our kids in complete overalls abi?
Don't walk in the dark-women that are raped in broad day light nko?
The best way to reduce rape is to educate the MEN! Especially men like You, lovat! Educate men to lear to control themselves! Educate men not to blame the woman for their lack of self control! Also, studies have shown that rape is more about power than konji.

Henrodah:
@eleckra, I saw boyhood yesterday, and I will tell you this, you have 'an ear' for good music.... Nice pick.

Thanks

The most recent soundtrack I like is Hero by family of the year.

kallmemrB:
Hi Elektra...hows ur day going..

we welcome you into our kdrama family fold on Nairaland...you get to interact with great minds and intellects in the group...the family is full of fulfilled interactions,news,updates and lots more...feel free to interact/chat with anyone...you can also get any of ur favorite kdramas on www..com...you can request on here if u need any kdrama u wanna watch....

Ur welcome once more...stay safe ....shalom

Thank you. I'll definitely stick around

hilda90:
WOW, welcome to korean drama land. seems you are new to korean drama.i started watching kdramas in 2012. my first korean drama was lee min ho's boys before flowers which was recommended by my lil sis, since then i dropped hollywood series. my favorite kdramas are empress ki and city hunter. is its okay, thats love really interesting. who is the lead actor?

I started boys over flowers but I found it boring. Maybe because I've watched Heirs, which was my first kdrama. I dreamt of Lee Min Ho for weeks after that drama.
It's Okay, That's Love is by far the best drama I've ever watched. The chemistry,the story, the script, everything was perfect! The lead actor is Jo In Sung(that winter the wind blows). He did an amazing job too.

Aida13:
Welcome! I remember when I started on K-dramas just around this time last year lol. It's OK That's Love is the next drama series I'm thinking of watching after I finish Master's Sun.

You'll find a lot of news, info and reviews here to help you choose your next fave....

Thank you. You'll love Its okay That's Love. I highly recommend it.
I've seen master's sun, I'm in love with Gong Hyo Jin

Chai! See other Nigerian kdrama fans, I've only been watching kdramas for about 6 months and i am addicted! I'm currently watching Pinocchio. My favourite Kdrama so far has been 'Its okay, that's love'.

5minsmadness:
I've mentioned them before. Let me say the ones I know.

1. Welcomes the child into womanhood. Same for guys.

2. Gives her respect as a woman in her society.

3. She is allowed to speak in matters affecting the community she is in.

4. Some women says it beautifies the female genitals.

5. She is allowed a woman's share of inheritance in her family. If not circumcised she will still be given a share but as a girl and not a grown woman

6. She is married off with respect and the full support and backing of her kinspeople.they will always look out for her in the marriage.


Cultural wise, it was a part of a people's identity and maybe shouldn't have been swept underfoot just like that. They should have made it better, safer, less traumatizing, and more humane for those who practice it.

Thank you for outlining the benefits.
However, none of these 'benefits' will enhance a woman's life in the society we are now in. So why keep the practice alive? If a cultural practice is not contributing positively a society do they keep it alive just because it is cultural?

5minsmadness

Please educate me on the benefits of FGM. What is its cultural significance? Why should it be kept alive?