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Grasscutter:
They're strong reasons for me/family to relocate. It is all tied to my so called blood brother. The babalawo was plan B, when plan A to kidnap my wife or twins for ransome was not feasible.

Am consedering sharing the whole saga here for mature input but not sure. Am still in shock 2 months later

Wow. I read somewhere that most kidnappings are an inside job. I can’t believe your own sibling will try to orchestrate one.

I personally do not like to spend all of my recreational time with my significant other, even if he is the most interesting person in the world.

Maybe the both of you should agree on a designated day of the week to do couple activities. Then any other days can be for individual activities.

LMAO
You are in the house but you are calling somebody in the market to come back and give you food. Does that make sense? What happened to your hands? She is splitting bills with you, but you find it beneath you to make food for your own self? I just tire.

You see dem? Awon “watch war room and pray” crew

I identify more as agnostic than Christian. I go to church once in a while to mingle and make friends.

I have dated a Nigerian guy that knew that I was not much of a churchgoer. After a while, he started questioning why I don't go to church.
Every Sunday, after I tell him I did not go to church, he will remind me that he wants his wife to be a prayer warrior.
But this person NEVER WENT TO CHURCH EITHER.
I have not even finished praying for myself. I wish him good luck wherever he is.
This particular Nigerian had no interest in going to church, yet he expected the complete opposite from his spouse.

mysticwarrior:
make I speak pidgin for you because e clear say you no go school, because if you go school you would know that I gave my analysia based on reasonable evidence, but you already draw conclusions out of preconceived bigotry, na people like una dey give men wahala for house with una bad character, what a Jezebel gosh.

Where is the evidence? Like I said, provide evidence of the man chasing money or SIT THE FVCK DOWN!

You quoted me first with insults yet it is ME that has bad character? I will show you bad character today. Provide your evidence oga FBI or SHUT UP! Monkey banana.

mysticwarrior:
wow how did you escaped from a psychiatric home, you already concluding guilt without evidential analysis, did you see the man with your two eyes sleeping with someone els? Idiot.

LMAO @ bolded, awon FBI.
I will show my evidence when you present your own evidence of the man chasing money.

Until then, SIT THE FVCK DOWN!

mysticwarrior:
just listen to how you sound like a clown, "join her in spending time with the kids" so he should abandoned the time he uses to fetch money to take care of the family and sit at home with the wife and children abi? You try well well, clap for yourself.

Shut the fvck up, you piece of sh.it!
He was fetching money at the time he was chasing and sleeping with someone else abi? Foolish Goat!
Time that he could have used to build his family, he used it to woo and fvck pvssy. Then this monkey above is telling me he was chasing money. Chasing money kee you there!

What is it with men neglecting their families then turn around and start playing the victim?
Isn't it the man neglecting the family in the case?
Should she ignore the triplets to appease a grown man?
Doesn't it make more sense for the man, the supposed 'head of house', to join her in spending time with their kids?

Water don pass garri

sholay2011:
The actual meaning of the full version of the emboldened quote is the opposite of what people think it is: "The blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb".

The adopted son is the first son.

Woah! I had no idea.

bukatyne:
Nigerians we are not ripe for many things sha.

I keep realizing that we cannot use oyibo methods to solve most of our problems.

Adoption means the child is yours.

If you are still asking who the first son is after adopting a son, there is a problem.

BTW, doesn't the child have the family surname?

That the question even crossed the parent's minds is bad enough, they are even debating it with extended family. Unbelievable

The first son is the adopted kid because he was born first. TF is wrong with people?

You should have left her the day you found that girl in a pool of her own blood. That is a terrible environment for your kids to grow up in. Imagine what lessons your kids are learning from these violent acts.

She is evil and manipulative. You should get out of there ASAP!

Hold up. I see a face I recognize, Kitchenbutterfly!
Very well done documentary. Great job!

Withdraw you report, find a crèche for your baby and allow the woman to enjoy her MRS title. You cannot help someone that is not ready to help themselves. People like that woman will only leave when she decides to leave.

She’s adorable

emmaodet:
You are a known anti-marriage advocate. Seems you are either a lesbian, probably a loser in relationship due to been infected with diseases like HIV etc, maybe a ruptured womb because misery loves company like you once quoted or poir background e.g barrack raised or ghetto raised, single parent raised etc.
Pls, Live and let's live

How can you type the bolded and then follow it up with "Live and let live"? Are you Bipolar?

emmaodet:
- because you don't fancy it doesn't mean others don't.

That is the entire point of this thread. If everyone (especially people like you) agreed with her opinion, it wouldn't be unpopular, would it?

BTW, you are a perfect example of her first point.

If they tell men to contribute to house chores and to raising their own children, they will complain: it is a woman’s job.
Women is now doing said job, they are now crying.

Pick a struggle.

FrLukas:
We are all gods. But covered in flesh, we have forgotten that we are gods.

I’m intrigued. What fuels this belief?

I believe that ALL pastors are liars and manipulative. The moment anyone proclaims "I am a pastor", anything they say is taken with a pinch of salt.

I believe that religion has ZERO effect on people's behaviors/attitude/values, rather upbringing/societal influence are what shapes a person's values.

I believe that se.x work should be legal, there I said it. It should, however, be strictly regulated by the government (of course Nigeria is not the best country to implement this since it will be abused, but in saner countries it might allow these men/women to get proper healthcare and stop hiding in the shadows)

I believe CARROTS do not belong in FRIED RICE! It doesn't enhance the taste in anyway.

123sophocles:
Sorry for your hurt and take it easy ma'am. Every relationship or marriage has its own issues. Please watch War Room.

You should also try going to see a marriage counselor together.

Somebody needs to make an equivalent of War Room for men
A movie that will provide solution for all their marital problems.
Women cannot be enjoying magical movies alone

He continues to disrespect and yell at you because it is working.

You need to train some people like dogs, with positive and negative reinforcements.

This is what I’d do. Next time he shouts at you to do a particular thing, leave it undone. If he shouts at you clean the table, tell him calmly “remember what we talked about shouting at me?” Then leave the table dirty for as long as you can. If he shouts to you to bring food, leave the food in the kitchen and walk away. He will be angry, but he will learn that shouting at you will not result in anything good.

When he talks to you calmly to clean the table, put on you best smiling face and clean the table. He will learn to associate respect with good results.

You are going to have to train him like a puppy.

Your wife doesn’t understand herself? How does that relate to pregnancy and abortion?

MrBrownJay1:
I think it has to do with the fact that many are quick to call themselves feminist (when it fits their selfish agenda), yet in the same instance will turn around and expect a man to pay for their food (or be offended when asked to go dutch)

I agree with this assessment. If you identify as a feminist, you best be ready to pay your bills.


_{I don't understand why a lot of Nigerian women love it when men buy them food. What is so great about that? But that is a story for another day}

chii8:
This is Nigeria and we have customs and tradition. I have seen a scenario where a married woman went to a barber to cut her long hair,the barber declined and told her to come with either her father or husband, the woman was surprised, she tried coercing the man but he bluntly refused, the woman had the go home, used scissors to cut her hair, then returned to the barber to put finishing touches to the hair.
A doctor did an abortion for a married woman without the husband's consent but cannot do a CS operation for a pregnant woman without the husband's consent

There's something I don't understand, is it that a higher percentage of women on this page support this woman's behavior

"customs and traditions" are not the same thing as laws and are not enforceable in court. If you sue someone for not following "customs and traditions", you are likely just wasting your money.
You can say the doctor should be sued on the grounds that abortions are not legal in Nigeria but not because the husband was not informed.
I don't see anyone supporting the woman's behavior, every post has tried to answer OPs question and provided possible reasons why the abortion was performed. That doesn't mean they support her.

They need to publish what constitutes as hate speech now oh, before they say any criticism of Buhari is hate speech

God, I see what you are doing for others...

I wonder why some people think they possess some kind of authority to tell others how to live their lives.

Evangkatsoulis:
Forget that child and move on. The baby is an error. At least the girl's family have made it easier for you to walk away.

It is you that is the error. Monkey banana.

Maybe it’s time to change model y’all have going. Have a joint account and personal accounts. Each person will pay a certain amount to the joint account and use joint account money to take care of joint responsibilities. The personal accounts can be used to do personal stuff.