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Family / Re: My Mom Rejects Every Woman I Introduce To Her by elektra(f): 2:31pm On Oct 02, 2019 |
Since it is looking like your mother will never accept your choice of wife, you have only two options. You either marry Hauwa, or your mother’s choice. If you go ahead and marry hauwa, be ready to grow some balls and protect your wife. It is obvious your mother will try to frustrate the girl. You have to be ready to stand up to your mother and put her in her place when the need arises. In-laws can really destroy peaceful marriages and should not be underrated. Hauwa, if you are reading. Please seriously reconsider if this is the family you want to spend the rest of your life with. I am a firm believer in wives loving their husbands family as their own and vice versa. Even with families that love and accept you, problems will arise talk less of families that are obviously against you. Think very well before you enter oh, marriage is hard enough without all this other stress. 28 Likes |
Family / Re: I Need Advise On What To Do. I'm Tired!!! by elektra(f): 3:47pm On Oct 01, 2019 |
Has your family done anything to try and claim the child. Since they don’t have money, have they at least visited the girl? Have they been in contact with the girl’s family? |
Family / Re: Rest In Peace Dad by elektra(f): 2:20pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
I’m sorry to hear that. May he Rest In Peace. |
Family / Re: Lala Looses Dad! by elektra(f): 3:05am On Sep 25, 2019 |
My condolences. May he Rest In Peace. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by elektra(f): 10:56pm On Sep 24, 2019 |
abbey621: If he is unable to be an active participant in the child’s life then he should leave her with her mum. I said what I said because he is clearly not present, yet he is trying to yank the child from her mother and dump her with a relative. He clearly thinks his only responsibility as parent is providing, but you are both wrong in believing that. If he is going to take the kid from her mother, he should be ready to fill her shoes. By the way, there are many parents (both mums and dads) that provide and parent at the same time, both of which is their responsibility. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by elektra(f): 7:43am On Sep 24, 2019 |
MYDEBBY: If you follow through with this you will be the evil one. There is no reason why a child should be raised by a relative when both parents are alive and kicking. You are not even interested in raising you own child, yet you claim her mum, who is raising her, is evil. You need to take a good look at yourself and realize that you are a parent and it is your responsibility to raise your child! In your current arrangement, how actively involved are you in raising her? how often does she come to live with you at your place? Do you take her on weekends? How many weekends a month? How involved are you in your child’s life? If you are being a father to your child it will be difficult for someone to siphon money off you because you would already know what your child needs. Even the grandmother can still use your child to siphon money off you, the only way to avoid this is to be an active parent. 19 Likes |
Family / Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by elektra(f): 4:16pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Maybe you should try buying her the kind of clothes you want her to wear |
Family / Re: What Is The Best Approach To Catch A Cheating Wife. by elektra(f): 6:36pm On Sep 21, 2019 |
modernWays: Go and meet the person that told you the bolded and ask them for approaches that are specific to women In all the replies you got for your topic, I have not seen any approach that can only be used on women. They have all pointed out methods that are used to catch cheats in general. Shouldn’t that tell you that both genders cheat the same way? Yet, You have chosen to continue deceiving yourself that women’s cheating is different is different from men’s. That is how you men will be playing father to kids that are not yours because your wife will cheat and still ‘love’ you while you keep holding on to groundless fallacies. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: What Is The Best Approach To Catch A Cheating Wife. by elektra(f): 9:31pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
genq: Look at pot calling kettle black. Show me where in this thread you answered the question posed by OP. How are you different from the people you call foolish? 19 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: What Is The Best Approach To Catch A Cheating Wife. by elektra(f): 7:33pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
Don’t search her phone or monitor her movement. You will just find what will make you angry. If you find out she is cheating then what? Even if you leave, how are you sure your next wife won’t still cheat on you. Oga just face your work and your children. Or do you want to break up your happy home? Also, watch War Room and pray for your wife instead of all this detective work. Shallom. 22 Likes |
Family / Re: Ngozi Okonjo-iweala's Family Fight Over Next In Line To Late Father's Throne by elektra(f): 10:47am On Sep 17, 2019 |
They like that word eh... Sacrilegious |
Family / Re: Is It Right For A MIL To Bring Food For Her Son (he's An Only Child) & Recently by elektra(f): 5:32pm On Sep 12, 2019 |
Look at what I am looking for in my life, someone is rejecting. I go just relax, enjoy free delicious food. My mom and mother-in-law will work for me oh. I want them to cook us food, watch the kids, e.t.c. They are always happy to help. I plan to have child-free summer holidays as long as our parents are able to watch the kids. Ship them off to grand-parents and enjoy my life. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Over Thinking About The Future Is Ruining Me by elektra(f): 11:13pm On Sep 11, 2019 |
AntiMCU: Lol, Don’t listen to this guy. Drinking as a coping mechanism no be am. It costs money and is unhealthy. Better you find a hobby that could be profitable. |
Family / Re: Over Thinking About The Future Is Ruining Me by elektra(f): 11:03pm On Sep 11, 2019 |
You are just living life, everyone is thinking about their life. Even Bill Gates is worried about how to spend his money. I realized this when my boss who was CEO got fired! At 55, after climbing to the pinnacle of his career, the man said he is still thinking of how to navigate the job market. So thinking and making decisions never ends, even the people wey you think say don make am are thinking and worrying about something. Just take it in stride and keep moving forward. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Complusory Gay & Trans Sex-Education To Be Taught To Children From 5 Years Old by elektra(f): 6:01pm On Sep 11, 2019 |
But are they lying? Are there no same sex parents? Are there no trans relationships? What is wrong with telling children the truth? 1 Like |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 1:59am On Sep 10, 2019 |
lagosminded: Na my fault oh. Imagine someone up there crying that women have the option to abort and men do not. Na man dey talk this one oh, man with peni.s no be bobrisky type. I told him to go and have abortion na, he is telling me the choice to abort lies on women. Well, duh � Only the person with womb can abort! Then they be bringing up MGTOW every chance they can. Men have the choice to go their own goddamn way! Person hold them? When women were agitating for certain rights, they were laughing. They turn feminist to insult. Now that eye has tear them they are screaming MGTOW at every turn. Hahahahaha. Dem never see anything. They want to hold on to Abrahamic family structure in 2019. God will help them. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 6:38pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Regiomontanus: LMAO I said let’s agree to disagree, you quote me insisting you want the discussion to continue. Discussion continues, you are now agreeing we can never agree. Confused people every where. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 6:15pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Regiomontanus: LOL, did you even bother to read the links? You are just blindly arguing for argument sake. Sure, the man should go and abort whatever kid is in his belly. A raped man can get out of child support! He needs to proof he was raped and relinquish rights! Same as women, even in the case that the man was CONVICTED RAPIST, it did not stop the courts from ordering joint custody in favor of man. TF is wrong with you insisting people are lying. I know there is nothing I will say that will make you agree that the courts DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR SEX, THEY RULE IN FAVOR OF CHILD! 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 6:08pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
I just want to add for people on here that think I am "lying and manipulative" against men. I am not. I want fathers to know and enforce their rights. I welcome the MGTOW movement. I like that men are beginning to see that the traditional family set up (especially in the current economy) is unfair to either sex. It is unfair to expect men to be 100% responsible for financial burden of the family, it is also unfair to expect women to be 100% responsible for the chores and raising children. |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 5:53pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Regiomontanus: https://nypost.com/2017/10/09/convicted-rapist-gets-joint-custody-of-victims-child/ https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/alabama-abortion-ban-rape-victims-rapists-parental-rights-a8951751.html Fathers have rights in the courts too. I don't know why you people are angry about fathers having rights. The courts have ruled that a mother share custody with her CONVICTED RAPIST. The courts are not actively trying to screw men over. The courts do not care about either parent, they rule in favor of the child. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 5:19pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
hopefulLandlord: I feel like we are going around in circles now. There are cases where the courts are unfair to fathers, there are cases where the courts are unfair to mothers. The courts are not actively looking to screw only men over. The courts do not care about either parent, they rule in favor of the kid. Let's agree to disagree. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 4:58pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
hopefulLandlord: LOL, I understand where you are coming from but I am talking about the FAMILY COURTS SYSTEM. As long as the child gets born, the courts will rule for what is best for the child, regardless of whether it is fair to either parent. Now, both parents have the responsibility to enforce their rights. If the female rape victim does not want the child, it is their responsibility to get an abortion or get the baby adopted. If the make victim does not want the child, it is their responsibility to go to the court and relinquish parental rights. Both parents have rights and options. I am not trying to argue against men, I just want MEN to know that they have RIGHTS TOO! And even though the court may seem to be against men, they are actually for the child and could care less about either parent. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 4:33pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
hopefulLandlord: I say in some states because abortions are not accessible in some states. Some states only have one center that carries out abortions in the entire state. If a raped woman is unable to abort the fetus or give the child up for adoption, THE COURTS WILL ALSO RULE THAT SHE TAKES RESPONSIBILITY OF SAID CHILD. Like I said, the courts will ALWAYS rule in favor of what is best for the CHILD. They don't care if it is fair to either parent! In the article you cited, the man can give up parental rights to avoid paying child support. Since he was raped it is understandable that he will want nothing to do with the child. He said in the article that "He wants to be in his daughter's life and is willing to pay child support going forward". If he wants to be in the child's life he will be required to pay child support because THE COURTS ARE NOT FAIR TO PARENTS! 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 4:01pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
hopefulLandlord: Nobody is shocked here. It goes both ways. If a man rapes a woman and she gets pregnant, in some states she is required to go through with the pregnancy. Family courts always advocates for what is BEST FOR THE CHILD. They are not in the business of gender wars. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 7:39pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Martinez39: Where is the lie? Point out the lie in my post with facts. But no... you are suddenly bringing up MGTOW. And women are the emotional ones.. Okay You can choose to continue blaming women for your inability to play your role as a father or you can educate yourself on your rights. In the US you have rights as a father! And it is your responsibility to get them enforced! He didn’t even bother to ask where I live. |
Family / Re: Children Of "Deadbeat" Fathers. Time To Think. by elektra(f): 7:13pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Regiomontanus: LOL, it is paining you so much that women have rights in the US, that you refuse to educate yourself on the rights of fathers. Fathers have rights in the US courts too. A father has enforceable visitation and custody rights to his child. A woman can go to prison for keeping a child away from their father. But a judge is not going to come to your house to help you get your rights. It is up to the father to make out time to visit his kids and plan activities with them. It is up to the father to go to court to apply for joint custody. It is your responsibility as a father to participate in your children’s life. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by elektra(f): 3:13pm On Sep 07, 2019 |
apotek: People that talk like this have never seen vagin.a before in their life 2 Likes |
Family / Re: When Inlaws Don't Want To Leave. by elektra(f): 8:14pm On Sep 05, 2019 |
roaringlamb01: Unbelievable That is unacceptable behavior from your wife's people. I don't even understand why your wife had to use your people coming as the reason for them to leave. I would have asked my brothers to leave after the initial stipulated time and my reason would be that IT IS NOT THEIR GODDAMN HOUSE. |
Family / Re: Should A Wife Submit Her Salary? by elektra(f): 12:40am On Aug 31, 2019 |
jarmy: Why shouldn’t she? You yourself should be thinking of the aftermath of your own death. I don’t understand why a lot of Nigerian men act like they are immortal. Oga whether you think of it or not, you will die! And you don’t know when it’s going to happen. Anyone (both men and women) with young kids should give some thought to what’s going to happen to their family when they die. And if they can, they should have some plan (save money, invest, build house e.t.c) to cushion the suffering of their offspring when they die. This is common sense, but you see Nigerian man, the moment wife starts talking about will, he will say she is trying to kill him. Mtchew. 11 Likes |
Family / Re: Please Have Mercy On Your Children by elektra(f): 3:48pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Antinatalist: Lol. Pray tell, what is my view? Look through your thread and tell me where I stayed my view on having children. |
Family / Re: Please Have Mercy On Your Children by elektra(f): 3:14pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Antinatalist: Okay, go an arrest them. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Was I Wrong To Leave? by elektra(f): 1:41pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Akious2k2: Pray tell, what other option should she opt for? 2 Likes |
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