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Jim99:
I wish your husband could see this. So he knows who he married and be prepared

Don't worry. All of my future husbands will be informed. In the event of a divorce, they will get primary custody of the kids.

Fountainofyouth:
Beautifully typed!!! When I saw the taking the kids to her parents, I knew Op is delusional, is it her parents or relatives that produced the semen that birth the kids? Men will be claiming "I am responsible, I am responsible" but some are not responsible enough to single handedly take care of their own kids, na only for money dem fit claim "head of the family" smellos.

Can you imagine?
These men truly believe the woman is responsible for raising the man's offspring. If the woman is indisposed, then her own family must step up and fill in for her. As if the kids are bearing the woman's name.
Meanwhile the men and their families will relax till the kids are grown before they come to claim the kids. Bunch of cowards.

The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

Which one is marital alter again? Y’all keep coming up with new sh.t everyday

I’m curious. How did you find out you were sterile? Functional men don’t randomly check for sperm activity. Since you are not married, what could have prompted you to check?

missimelda01:
Oh wow, I'm playing assistant jesus because I know porn will ruin his life. I don't know how you raised/want to raise your child but encouraging pornography is a NO NO for me. I'm sure there are better ways of managing the hormone thingy and I'm ready to explore other options.

Porn will not ruin his life.
ADDICTION to porn is what will. Addiction to ANYTHING is bad, not just porn.
You are free to raise your child however you want but you have limited authority over someone else’s child. I don’t know why you are flexing your child raising muscles over this kid.

Leave him alone!
He is at the age to explore these things.
Why should he be slapped for something that is completely normal at his age? The way you people treat kids like they have no feelings. It needs to stop!
What he needs is education about his raging hormones and encouragement to explore other outlets (playing sports, music, etc).
Everyone went through this stage but instead of identifying with the boy, you are busy playing assistant Jesus. Mtchew.

Opeyemiebun:
Smiles, thanks alot Madam but for the record my wife is not a Single Mother, she loves her marriage and her husband, she is not a feminist and she actually appreciate all the things her husband also bring to the table.
I am getting her the car with my own money as adviced by more experience people on here

I put it to you that your wife is a feminist.
That is why she is inclined to buy her car with her own money. That is why she is contributing financially to the household, while also being the primary caretaker for your kid. If she wasn’t a feminist, she would have made your life a living hell until you cuffed out your money to buy both those cars.

But please, don’t let me burst your bubble about what you believe feminism is.

Opeyemiebun:
Hmm, thanks alot....i will take your advice and let only her get for now.
My reasons are numerous, aside the economy Families will believe we have the money stocked up somewhere . We both take care of numerous responsibilities in our extended homes

Why can’t you people learn to say NO to your families for Christ sake?
You have no problem saying NO to your wife spending HER OWN MONEY on a car, you know she really needs. Why is it then hard for you to say NO your family? Ehn?

Mehn, some Nigerian women dey suffer for this thing called marriage.
On top of her own money oh! This id.iot husband is about to keep this woman and her kid in unwarranted sufferness.
And if care is not taken this hard working single mother will refuse to get herself and her baby a car because of “submission to head of house”.
I hope she her eyes open to see she is married to a selfish idio.t who only thinks about his own comfort and and wellbeing.

RisenPhoenix:
No. You sir have parasitic tendencies. You married your wife for her paycheck it seems (making her remain at work because of 'economy'), and you don't even want her to have the necessary tools to ease her way of getting that paycheck. A man should be responsible for his family's expenses, yet you force her to work. You still want to use her money to invest in your business. Later, you will come and complain about how she does not respect you as head of the home.

Why should she? And how are you the head of anything as you stand now? You're not. From her perspective, you're functioning literally as her non-performing debtor as well as an average occasional gigolo.

This!
Couldn’t have said it better.

I love to see a woman’s family stand up for her .
Some idi.ot men think women drop out of thin air to come and slave for them and their family.
Just look at the way this husband is throwing around insults. Calling his wife foolish,idiot. How can you treat someone’s child like this? You think her family raised her to come and be collecting insults?
And the mad man went to tell everyone around town that his wife spent 400K on “feeding”.
Did you send separate money for hospital bills? No.
Did you think your baby’s treatment is free? Is it your father that own Garki hospital?
Did you send separate money for transportation? No.
Just look at the way he is complaining about money. The way these men will be talking you will think they are providing some kind big money. That is why when men are making mouth about providing money, I just laugh. Most of them are like this idi.ot husband. They will give their wives crayfish money and be expecting afang soup with assorted meat from her.

But what does any of this have to be with being a lady?

madgoat:
Smmmhhh... If u were my sister-in-law, i would sleep with you not only once but several times and heaven would not fall. Its just sex for crying out loud

Why wait for sister-in-law? Fvck your sister and mother first, charity begins at home.

Call your dad and report him.
Leave his house first thing in the morning but

Leave HIS child with him

That child, and the one in the hospital are his responsibility and he should assume it fully. Those kids are bearing his modafokin name. Him and his family should step up and take care of their goddam children. Let’s see if he’ll sleep with his modafokin sister. Ragged Dog

Youngjohnosas:
thanks.its obvious you are a slowpoke,so need trading words with you, because your mom is ignorant and dumb of business ideas doesn't make other women bereft of ideas.

probably u have a mom that spent all her years doing olosho business and couldn't achieve anything tangible before accidentally giving birth to an slowpoke of a son, that's why you are so pained of other women succes stories.

Loooool!

I wish men talked about it more. Then they will get the help they need. One reason the focus is on abused women is because they speak out more.

You fix it by separation. It is unfortunate but just like physical abusers, you can’t change people. The abuse will likely continue until you leave.

Oluneutral:
Wow!


I'm afraid of modern women!


So, if a man make his wife angry, the next thing is for the woman to unleash verbal bullets on the man?

And I'm sure that if it's the other way round, you would have advised that the man should walk away.

Talk of double standard!

No. We have seen it too many times on this forum and in real life. If it was the other way around, you and others will ask the woman to stop what she is doing to make the man angry. You will say it is only a mad man that abuses without cause. She must have done something to make him angry and she need to stop doing it.

chiommy123:
Stop doing things that will make her angry.

LOL!
Of course this flew over some people’s heads.
Can’t you mofos recognize your own advise?

What I want to know is what kind of parenting YOU are practicing.
Because it seems your wife is the only one making parenting decisions. The easiest way to fix this is for both of you to make parenting decisions together.

Why TF are you people still debating Meghan and Harry? Are they your family members?

A 35 year old married man decided to move out of his grandmother’s house and set up his own business. Why is this unfathomable to you lots?

Especially some Nigerian men. This matter has really pained them. They cant believe that a man like them will actually ‘leave and cleave’ like the holy book asked him to.

I suspect this is an oyinbo couple’s story. Only in the abroad do wedding lists work.

Why is it such a problem? If your wife offers to help your mother in your family’s house will you have a problem with it?
I’m sure if your wife does the exact opposite and does not offer to help in your family’s house you will still come and open thread to cry about it.
Even sef, if your wife offers to help you family with money (the one thing you men say is your sole responsibility). You will have no problem with it.

I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

Run away from this girl and her family the first chance you get.

I will tell my husband to ask his mama for my own food oh! How can she be cooking for him alone. If she like sef, she can take over cooking for the whole family. E no worry me.

As long as my husband remains as unbothered about me collecting money from my father every month.

fineboynl:
you are out from the topic. a woman cannot share many husband. It's not in the evolution of human existence nor biologically and physically fit.

If that were the case, vigin.a would have been created for only one pen.is for a lifetime. But alas, vagin.as can enjoy a plethora of penis.es. All kinds of shapes and sizes fit just fine.

fineboynl:
Father stands

1, the father loves all the wife's
2, the father loves all the children
3, the father wish love among the wife's
4, the father wish love among the children
5, the father wish unity among the children.


Mothers stands

1, the mothers love the father
2, the mothers love only their children
3, the mothers don't wish love among the wife's
4, the mothers don't wish love among the children
5, the mothers don't wish unity among the children.

The reflexes of this all is that the children grows up with disunity and hate among themselves even while living in the same house and cook from the same pot.
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From the narrative above we can see that women cannot love or take good proper care of a child that is not theirs, But a man can. If children from the same mother can grow up with same love among themselves i see no reason why they cannot love the same from different mother's if their growing up was same.

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I grow up in a family which one of my brother was not my biological brother, but I never knew. The love was like as if it was my immediate blood brother. It was when we grow up and he traveled to stay with his mother faraway that I get to find out only because he lost his father while he was a baby. And even if I knew he was not my Biological brother before hand but the way we grow up with unity in the same house wouldn't have made any difference.
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From the above context we can see that women are the primary evil and difficult to live among other children.

At the bolded. But your own mother was able to treat you and your brother equally and foster unity. So your mother was the angel that loved a child that was not her own, but all other women are the witches that hate children they did not birth. Why una dey always exclude una own mama when you decide to generalize about women?

Trouble dey sleep

How old is the child?
I suggest she channel her energy into raising her kid away from your Uncle’s evil eyes right now.