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I’m sorry for your loss. The reality is that death is EVERYBODY’s portion. There is no amount of money and prayer that can make death not be your portion. |
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GboyegaD: I swear, parents change with their grandchildren. My own nieces and nephews get away with so much sh.t. I can’t believe my ears when my mum is saying we shouldn’t flog them. SMDH. 3 Likes |
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The two options are risky. Use the masters money to pay for professional child care and have peace of mind. 1 Like |
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Greatzeus: At bolded, Can people just be reasonable for once?! So because she was born with a vagin.a, she must ENJOY doing chores? Did we read the same story? Even when she is sick she should enjoy doing chores? 22 Likes 1 Share |
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Your sister should be taking care of your when you are sick. She was wrong to yell at you about chores while you are sick. She seems like the kind of person that will deliberately delay your progress because she wants to keep you as a free housegirl. You need to find something that takes you out of the house ASAP. Join a trade, start learning and start planning your exit from your sister’s house. 29 Likes 3 Shares |
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If you don’t care about race/nationality then I recommend joining a church in the US where you live. There are some churches here that operate like cults (not trying to be mean just saying the truth). Everyone in the church marries within the church and live church-approved lifestyles. It is usually a small-medium sized church where everyone knows everyone and the women are extremely conservative (something you seem to prefer). The rate of divorce in those churches are 0%. I doubt this suggestion with help with your age stipulation though, cos even conservative <26year old girls in US will prefer to marry someone in their age group. Good luck. 3 Likes |
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You and Your family are a bunch of entitled clowns. Why should your husband be paying your parents salary? Are they his employees? What are they doing for him? Your mouth did not even heavy you to ask, seeing as you are a not bringing in any income. Your head is not correct at all. Your father sef! When he was insisting on >500K he did not think of the future. Now the same fate has befallen his son. Shame did not catch him to demand money from his in-law? Your father is a shameless man. 755 Likes 47 Shares |
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I get so uncomfortable whenever I visit Nigeria. Family members will be maltreating their maids in your presence. I said something once and was accused to “becoming Americanized”. And these same people spend so much time in church. Gods name is always on their lips. I just tire. 4 Likes |
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smeag0l: Where did I mention that I did not plan my life? 1 Like |
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I haven’t been jobless since I after secondary school. I worked as a cashier during undergrad, then I got paid to go to grad school. The most jobless I’ve being was during NYSC, the government agency I was posted to did nothing. All we did was gist all day long, even the directors and full time staff were gisting with us. 43 Likes 1 Share |
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Did your mother give the bag to the girl and she refused? I guess the girl should have read her mind. All this useless matters introduce unnecessary strife to a family. Now your entire family is complaining about handbag. Shebi shame is not catching your people? If your mother has an issue carrying her own bag then maybe she should leave the bag at home. 6 Likes |
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bjprodint: Wow, I had no idea church testimony is equivalent to scientific evidence. 2 Likes |
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You didn’t do anything wrong. If you had fallen for it, your husband and his family would’ve still blamed you. Just ignore them. My family has been scammed by various family members. The interesting this is my parents are still cordial with all the scammers. They still call and visit each other like nothing happened. This is the kind of behavior that emboldens these scammers. They know their family member will forgive them. SMH 300 Likes 20 Shares |
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Bola146: See logic Use prayer first and foremost, then consider medication later Religion has fried your brain 1 Like |
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There was a thread like this one long ago. Most men wished to marry women like their mothers Most females hated the thought of marrying someone like their fathers 53 Likes 3 Shares |
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She has gotten a maga. You sef you are paying. She is not suited for business. Tell her to get a job and seriously limit the spending money you give her. 1 Like |
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Since the is no law firm around you, have you thought of starting a business? You need to start making money. |
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LMAO If it was the man that bought car for his mother, nairaland men will not let us hear word about their perfect mothers and how they deserve the entire world. The lady should have discussed with her husband. It appears the husband’s ego has blocked his common sense, because this matter never reach divorce level. 20 Likes 1 Share |
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Acmepreneur: At bolded, STOP LYING. You want him to make money for your own benefit. So you can finally present him to your family as a suitable husband material. Now that people are calling you out on it you have change mouth. For his mother and siblings indeed. *rolls eyes* You should use all this energy to analyze your own life and make money. You are hell bent on marrying next year but you don’t have any income, no job or business. So what will you be bringing to your husband’s house? Let me guess, you will bring your dreams. Josephine the dreamer. My friend when all your dreams and businesses start bringing in 90k/month then you can start dishing out advice. Right now You have zero experience in making money so why on earth do you think you are qualified to direct this young man’s life? That is like the blind leading the one-eyed. You better pause the dreams and start working. 1 Like |
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You have dream, you have dream. What are you doing about your own dreams ![]() Abi your work is to be dreaming up and down? 8 Likes 3 Shares |
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Add more, since your father's family own milo factory. 9 Likes 1 Share |
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This one is above our pay grade on Nairaland. |
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charleybam: Did your read anywhere that the brother is suffering from “negativity and psychic attacks”? 2 Likes |
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Anni3e: I knew it. SMDH. 12 Likes |
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adontcare: Wow, we are addressing drugs madness this one brought her own religious madness. Madam, let us finish with this one first, we will tell you which hospital to get your own treatment. 14 Likes 1 Share
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Many Nigerian families abuse first borns. The first borns sef internalize the abuse and it becomes part of their identity. Their self fulfillment now comes from seeing the younger siblings succeed. Sometimes to the detriment of their own progress. Your husband clearly has no ambition of his own. 181 Likes 8 Shares |
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ephapras: Stop using home remedies and get this child to an hospital. Don’t be an irresponsible parent. The smell could be an indication of infection which could escalate and cause amputation/sepsis e.t.c 4 Likes |
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Oga, You already know the solution to your problem but you are not willing act on it. Even if we talk on nairaland from today till tomorrow, so will still not act until you are ready. But for now, start practicing how to say NO. Use mirror, look yourself in the eye, say NO and maintain eye contact. Practice many times. NO, NO, NO! NO is a complete sentence, no need for further explanation. And Nigerians need to learn how to say NO, especially to their family members. When you are ready to take action. Give your sister date that her load will be taken out of your house (I recommend short time interval like 2 weeks). She will shout and complain and insult. Just keep saying NO. Any further requests to assist them in a way that impedes your own progress, what will you say? NO. When the 2 weeks reach, what will you do? You will not chicken out. Repeat after me, I WILL NOT CHICKEN OUT. If you like, chicken out. You will continue to live with load someone else’s load. From your story it appears your parents are also contributing to this menace. You can use this experience to learn more on how to deal with narcissistic, parasitic, Oliver-twistic and choosing-beggar family members. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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nautybride: Are you okay? Help how? Na dem born am? All of them should have stayed home to raise the 26 year old last born? 29 Likes |
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I treat my in-laws the same way their son treats them. Any complains? Direct them to their precious son. You didn’t raise a son that cooks and cleans and kisses your ass? Too bad. I also treat my in-laws the same way their son treats my parents. If you visit my parents once in a blue moon, cross your legs and drop money without any effort in building a relationship, that’s exactly what your parents are getting from me. Any complains? Take a look at the mirror. 1 Like |
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Get her into therapy. 1 Like 1 Share |
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