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|Family / Re: Help: What Could Be The Cause Of Death In My Family? by elektra(f): 6:10am On Aug 03, 2020|
I’m sorry for your loss.
The reality is that death is EVERYBODY’s portion. There is no amount of money and prayer that can make death not be your portion.
|Family / Re: Did Your Parents Flog You In The Middle Of The Night?(share Your Experience) by elektra(f): 4:26am On Jul 02, 2020|
I swear, parents change with their grandchildren. My own nieces and nephews get away with so much sh.t. I can’t believe my ears when my mum is saying we shouldn’t flog them. SMDH.
|Family / Re: My Younger Sister Or My Boss Daughter ?? by elektra(f): 2:43am On Jun 20, 2020|
The two options are risky. Use the masters money to pay for professional child care and have peace of mind.
|Family / Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by elektra(f): 5:54pm On Jun 17, 2020|
Can people just be reasonable for once?!
So because she was born with a vagin.a, she must ENJOY doing chores?
Did we read the same story? Even when she is sick she should enjoy doing chores?
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|Family / Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by elektra(f): 2:44pm On Jun 17, 2020|
Your sister should be taking care of your when you are sick. She was wrong to yell at you about chores while you are sick. She seems like the kind of person that will deliberately delay your progress because she wants to keep you as a free housegirl.
You need to find something that takes you out of the house ASAP. Join a trade, start learning and start planning your exit from your sister’s house.
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|Family / Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by elektra(f): 1:28pm On Jun 16, 2020|
If you don’t care about race/nationality then I recommend joining a church in the US where you live.
There are some churches here that operate like cults (not trying to be mean just saying the truth). Everyone in the church marries within the church and live church-approved lifestyles.
It is usually a small-medium sized church where everyone knows everyone and the women are extremely conservative (something you seem to prefer). The rate of divorce in those churches are 0%.
I doubt this suggestion with help with your age stipulation though, cos even conservative <26year old girls in US will prefer to marry someone in their age group. Good luck.
|Family / Re: Should The Man Pay It? by elektra(f): 1:58pm On Jun 15, 2020|
You and Your family are a bunch of entitled clowns.
Why should your husband be paying your parents salary? Are they his employees? What are they doing for him? Your mouth did not even heavy you to ask, seeing as you are a not bringing in any income. Your head is not correct at all.
Your father sef! When he was insisting on >500K he did not think of the future. Now the same fate has befallen his son. Shame did not catch him to demand money from his in-law? Your father is a shameless man.
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|Family / Re: Maltreatment Of Maids by elektra(f): 11:18pm On Jun 12, 2020|
I get so uncomfortable whenever I visit Nigeria. Family members will be maltreating their maids in your presence. I said something once and was accused to “becoming Americanized”.
And these same people spend so much time in church. Gods name is always on their lips. I just tire.
|Career / Re: How Old Were You Jobless, Staying At Home And How Did You Make It? by elektra(f): 12:39am On Jun 12, 2020|
Where did I mention that I did not plan my life?
|Career / Re: How Old Were You Jobless, Staying At Home And How Did You Make It? by elektra(f): 8:23pm On Jun 11, 2020|
I haven’t been jobless since I after secondary school.
I worked as a cashier during undergrad, then I got paid to go to grad school.
The most jobless I’ve being was during NYSC, the government agency I was posted to did nothing. All we did was gist all day long, even the directors and full time staff were gisting with us.
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|Family / Re: My Brother's Girlfriend Is Disrespecting My Mum by elektra(f): 3:11pm On Jun 09, 2020|
Did your mother give the bag to the girl and she refused? I guess the girl should have read her mind.
All this useless matters introduce unnecessary strife to a family. Now your entire family is complaining about handbag. Shebi shame is not catching your people?
If your mother has an issue carrying her own bag then maybe she should leave the bag at home.
|Family / Re: Genotype: The Reason For My Unhappy Marriage. by elektra(f): 2:21pm On Jun 09, 2020|
Wow, I had no idea church testimony is equivalent to scientific evidence.
|Family / Re: My Sister In-law Tried To Scam Me. by elektra(f): 8:35pm On Jun 01, 2020|
You didn’t do anything wrong. If you had fallen for it, your husband and his family would’ve still blamed you. Just ignore them.
My family has been scammed by various family members. The interesting this is my parents are still cordial with all the scammers. They still call and visit each other like nothing happened. This is the kind of behavior that emboldens these scammers. They know their family member will forgive them. SMH
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|Family / Re: Please I Need Help On How To Manage A Child With Ss Gene by elektra(f): 2:26am On May 28, 2020|
Use prayer first and foremost, then consider medication later
Religion has fried your brain
|Family / Re: Can You Marry Someone Like Your Mom Or Dad?? by elektra(f): 5:12pm On May 26, 2020|
There was a thread like this one long ago.
Most men wished to marry women like their mothers
Most females hated the thought of marrying someone like their fathers
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|Family / Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by elektra(f): 11:20pm On May 23, 2020|
She has gotten a maga. You sef you are paying.
She is not suited for business. Tell her to get a job and seriously limit the spending money you give her.
|Family / Re: Is marriage worth it?I urgently need your advise. by elektra(f): 5:59am On May 23, 2020|
Since the is no law firm around you, have you thought of starting a business? You need to start making money.
|Family / Re: My Friend Threatens To Divorce Wife Over This Issue by elektra(f): 11:01pm On May 22, 2020|
If it was the man that bought car for his mother, nairaland men will not let us hear word about their perfect mothers and how they deserve the entire world.
The lady should have discussed with her husband. It appears the husband’s ego has blocked his common sense, because this matter never reach divorce level.
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|Romance / Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by elektra(f): 1:37pm On May 22, 2020|
At bolded, STOP LYING.
You want him to make money for your own benefit. So you can finally present him to your family as a suitable husband material. Now that people are calling you out on it you have change mouth. For his mother and siblings indeed. *rolls eyes*
You should use all this energy to analyze your own life and make money. You are hell bent on marrying next year but you don’t have any income, no job or business. So what will you be bringing to your husband’s house? Let me guess, you will bring your dreams. Josephine the dreamer.
My friend when all your dreams and businesses start bringing in 90k/month then you can start dishing out advice. Right now You have zero experience in making money so why on earth do you think you are qualified to direct this young man’s life? That is like the blind leading the one-eyed. You better pause the dreams and start working.
|Romance / Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by elektra(f): 11:55pm On May 21, 2020|
You have dream, you have dream.
What are you doing about your own dreams
Abi your work is to be dreaming up and down?
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|Family / Re: Reply As A Nigerian Mother by elektra(f): 12:21am On May 19, 2020|
Add more, since your father's family own milo factory.
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|Family / Re: Family At War,urgent Advice Needed by elektra(f): 12:18am On May 19, 2020|
This one is above our pay grade on Nairaland.
|Family / Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by elektra(f): 10:37pm On May 18, 2020|
Did your read anywhere that the brother is suffering from “negativity and psychic attacks”?
|Family / Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by elektra(f): 10:28pm On May 18, 2020|
I knew it. SMDH.
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|Family / Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by elektra(f): 10:18pm On May 18, 2020|
|Family / Re: My Brother On Hard Drugs: 18 Years Of Pains And Sorrow. I Need Help! by elektra(f): 10:17pm On May 18, 2020|
Wow, we are addressing drugs madness this one brought her own religious madness. Madam, let us finish with this one first, we will tell you which hospital to get your own treatment.
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|Family / Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by elektra(f): 9:53pm On May 18, 2020|
Many Nigerian families abuse first borns. The first borns sef internalize the abuse and it becomes part of their identity.
Their self fulfillment now comes from seeing the younger siblings succeed. Sometimes to the detriment of their own progress.
Your husband clearly has no ambition of his own.
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|Family / Re: Please Help, My Two Years Old Boy Put Hand Inside Hot Semo From Fire.... by elektra(f): 9:44pm On May 18, 2020|
Stop using home remedies and get this child to an hospital. Don’t be an irresponsible parent. The smell could be an indication of infection which could escalate and cause amputation/sepsis e.t.c
|Family / Re: Please I Really Need Your Advice On This by elektra(f): 6:41pm On May 18, 2020|
You already know the solution to your problem but you are not willing act on it. Even if we talk on nairaland from today till tomorrow, so will still not act until you are ready.
But for now, start practicing how to say NO. Use mirror, look yourself in the eye, say NO and maintain eye contact. Practice many times. NO, NO, NO!
NO is a complete sentence, no need for further explanation. And Nigerians need to learn how to say NO, especially to their family members.
When you are ready to take action. Give your sister date that her load will be taken out of your house (I recommend short time interval like 2 weeks). She will shout and complain and insult. Just keep saying NO. Any further requests to assist them in a way that impedes your own progress, what will you say? NO.
When the 2 weeks reach, what will you do? You will not chicken out. Repeat after me, I WILL NOT CHICKEN OUT. If you like, chicken out. You will continue to live with load someone else’s load.
From your story it appears your parents are also contributing to this menace. You can use this experience to learn more on how to deal with narcissistic, parasitic, Oliver-twistic and choosing-beggar family members.
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|Family / Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by elektra(f): 7:28am On May 17, 2020|
Are you okay?
Help how? Na dem born am?
All of them should have stayed home to raise the 26 year old last born?
|Family / Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by elektra(f): 5:26pm On May 13, 2020|
I treat my in-laws the same way their son treats them. Any complains? Direct them to their precious son. You didn’t raise a son that cooks and cleans and kisses your ass? Too bad.
I also treat my in-laws the same way their son treats my parents. If you visit my parents once in a blue moon, cross your legs and drop money without any effort in building a relationship, that’s exactly what your parents are getting from me. Any complains? Take a look at the mirror.
|Family / Re: My Wife Is Too Insecure by elektra(f): 4:23pm On May 13, 2020|
Get her into therapy.
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