 Family / Re: Who Owns Me? by elsomm(m): 8:22pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
LegendDrogba:
She is not really angry with him, just that accepting him also mean accepting the whole of the family knowing fully well that he is now the head of the family after my dad's death. And rejecting the family means rejecting ur uncle. Let her know that too. God was willing to forgive Sodom and Gomorrah if He could find but one righteous man. She's not God. And its just a family not a nation. Let love lead 2 Likes |
| Family / Re: Who Owns Me? by elsomm(m): 8:18pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
keepingmum:
It takes more than semen to be a father. It takes more than blood to be family. Are you swayed simply because your biological father's family are well off? If they were rural farmers/herbalists/drug dealers/touts would the decision still have being difficult?
Where was your uncle who stood with your dad/mum when your mum was going through the trauma? No where!!!
If your dad's biological family all had kids/grandkids would they have come looking for you?
Its only when Nigerian families (the men especially) learn that you CANNOT abandon a child with their mother UNDER ANY circumstance and assume that "well she will suffer with the child and when the child grows, he/she will come looking for me".
If your stepdad hadnt trained you and shown you love as though you were his biological child, would you have thrived healthily, academically and mentally to the point of graduating and qualifying to work in an oil coy?
I find it insulting that your biological family think money answers all. Its even more insulting to your stepdad that they are saying they would train his children. Why didnt they train you? Why didnt they come looking for you all these years? At least they knew your mother and her family.
It would be very disappointing after all the heartache your mother went through, after all the sacrifices your DAD (the person you call step -dad had earned the right in every aspect to be called and respected as your dad) for you to throw all that away because of money.
When you were sick, who stood up all night supporting your mum emotionally whilst footing your bills - the man you call step dad
I suggest you go back to work. Tell your biological family that you need time and would appreciate they give you space/
Your dad has already given you the perfect answer, you are now a man. Choose wisely You're right but through the story, I feel his uncle never abandoned him. Looks like he lost contact with them. And for his chairman at the office to make such investigations on him and connect him with his uncle, suggests they have been looking for him. Probably if not for the altercation that made him discover his true identity (everything happens for a reason), the chairman might not have linked him with his biological family. This suggests that they might have been looking for him but couldn't find him because of the name he bore at first before changing to his biological family name. Let love lead 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Who Owns Me? by elsomm(m): 7:59pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
[quote author=LegendDrogba post=49292586][/quote]
Remind your mom of your late dad's commitment to her and you. And also ur uncle whim with ur dad never abandoned her. Let her have pity on ur late dad. You need to keep his name alive. And also console your uncle. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Who Owns Me? by elsomm(m): 7:51pm On Sep 12, 2016 |
LegendDrogba:
I am not a writer and I don't intend being one, so please just pay attention and you will definitely understand this my life story. My life is playing out before me like a nollywood movie and am so confused right now.
I finished service late last year and got a job early this year in an oil&gas marketing firm in Port Harcourt. Everything were going fine until July this year, my immediate boss called me to his office one good day and informed me that chairman(owner of the firm) would like to see me the next day, he asked me to be in the office as early as possible. Now prior to this time, I had been opportuned to see the chairman once, can't really remember what necessitated our meeting but immediately he saw me I could see surprises written over his face. He stared at me for a while, it was as if he saw a ghost. The day we were to meet came, dressed like never before and I made sure I was smelling nice, got to the office and discovered he was already in the office. 30mins after my arrival, I was sent a message that the chairman was ready to see me,got to his office, do I need to tell you that I was scared as hell. He asked me to sit, then after staring at me for about 10 seconds, he asked me of my full name, told him, by now my armpits were already getting wet. I became apprehensive when he started asking me about my personal family background, my state of origin,local govt, grand parents and even went as far as asking me if my dad was alive. I was surprised though but in all honesty I told him everything about me. I could see a smile in his face after hearing me, he then asked me to leave that he would call me again when he needs me. 2 days later, my boss called again that Chairman was around and he wants me in his office immediately, got to his office, he was with somebody, the person sitting in his front meaning the person was backing me. I greeted him, not even minding who was with him, was probably scared of what Mr chairman wanted this time around. In a split of seconds, I saw my chairman telling the other person sitting.. "Austin see your lost brother" fellow nairalanders, immediately this man turned to me, sitting in front of me was an advance or should I say a matured version of my humble self,though he was chubby and keeps afro, unlike myself that was still growing and also keeps low cut. He was an exact replica of me, he called me by my tribal name, now nobody aside my mom calls me by that name. He asked me to come closer, he hugged me,within a twinkling of an eye, he was shedding tears. He asked me of my mom, where have I been and all sorts of questions I can't really remember now. I could not even answer any one of the questions, you sure know how I was feeling now, didn't even know what waproduct on. He thanked our chairman, with the way they were joking and talking, it was obvious they were childhood friends... I was asked to sit and I immediately turned to one sort of a new born baby the way this man was talking to me, holding my hands,rubbing my hair and telling me how grandma would be so happy to see me. Didn't even know what brought my boldness back, I immediately asked him, who are you sir and whats going on here? He paused and looked at me and told me was my late dad's brother, he was my uncle. I stood up immediately and freed myself from his grip, dashed out of the office and headed to my house immediately without even carrying my back pack from my office since my phone was in my pocket. Called my mom and explained everything to her, she ordered that I take the next available flight back to Lagos. Was getting ready when i heard a knock on my door, my colleague in the office walked in, followed by our chairman and the 'sudden uncle'.
MY CHILDHOOD STORY.
Let me quickly take you back to my story, I was a product of teenage pregnancy, mom was rejected by my dad's family, she was only supported by my dad and his immediate brother, others were against my dad accepting his responsibility, even my mom's family rejected her with the excuse that she has brought shame to the family. In all of this, my dad and his immediate brother stood by my mom, rented an apartment for her and visits her often. Long story cut short, my mom gave birth to me and her family accepted her back. According to my mom, my dad was a comfortable young man then in the early 1990s cause he was a tanker driver. Tragedy struck when I was 2months old, my dad died in an accident. My mom was left to cater for me alone, though she was being assisted by my dad's brother. In all of this, my dad's other siblings and parents did not one day pay my mom a visit or even asked of me. All of this was explained to me after my mom was embarrassed by my dad(step-dad) younger ones after a disagreement they had with my step-dad. I was 18 before I knew that the man I grew up with to know as my dad was not really my Dad, my siblings were surprised to also know that we don't share the same father. My step-dad was such a nice man that I didn't lack anything, prior to his fight with his siblings, I was regarded as the first born, he was responsible for my schooling from nursery to university level, we were nine in the family and also a one big united and happy family. Even after the fight with his siblings, nothing changed at all, aside my surname that my mom advised me to change. I started bearing my dad's family name.
BACK TO PRESENT
now fellow nairalanders, here's the problem, my uncle (my dad immediate brother)has suddenly found me through my office and chairman, several family meeting has been held, they(my dad's family) want me back, they said they wants me to further my academic career abroad, take full responsibility of what they didn't do when I was kid. All they need is for my mom to forgive them, and let them have access to me when they want and also be a part of their family cause that was the promise they made to my dad a year after his demise. My mom's family has also joined them in pleading with my mom, my mom has sworn not to forgive any of them for what they did to her when she was a teenager. All of this happened (my mom's ill treatment happened in my mom's village back then before she relocated to Lagos and remarried. Now my mom has threatened to disown me and lay a curse on me if I dare accept them as my uncles or aunts or have anything to do with them. They are stinkingly rich cause my dad's immediate brother is into oil business and he has promised to sponsor my siblings (step-siblings) to university level, my step-dad has declined this offer, telling them he could take care of his family and he does not need anybody's help.He (step-dad) has refused to say anything concerning my dilemma, he told me i was a grown man now and should take responsibility for my life and make the best decisions I feel suitable.
Fellow nairalanders am at a cross road here, am confused and don't know what to do, presently am in with an uncle (mom's brother) my career has been haulted, am just confused and need your advises. What should I do? My mom is on my neck, sane with dad's family members. From the numerous family meetings, I got to know that am the only grand child in the family, non of my dad's siblings has given birth despite some of them being married for up to 10years now. They are six in numbers and four are married with no kids... Am the only hope(for now) of sustaining the family name.
I just need your input, how do I come out of this?
Am a very popular commenter here, especially in politics section, just created this moniker to get unbiased public opinions so this place won't turn to a place of hearing the word zombie or wailer. Am in my mid twenties.
Pls help me. Such a touching story and I feel for you. All the new things and revelations you have to take in at once. First, your step dad is a good man. Never forget that. Love him like ur father...he is indeed ur father. Your late biological dad and his brother, are good men too. They took care of ur mom during her crisis. Have pity on them. Then your mom has suffered much and is bitter. Understand her. In all, everyone has learnt their lessons and it's you that has both the yam and knife. Whomever you cut and share to shall partake. Share to all. Tell ur biological dad's family to give you time to sort things out. Like ur dad pointed out, you're a grown man now. You can make ur own decisions. By sorting things out, try to soften ur mom's heart. Let her know ur love and loyalty lies with her and ur dad. By dad I meant, the man whose house you grew under. He forever remains ur dad. If you leave abruptly, he will feel like a man who lost his son. So assure him of ur love. Get ur mom to understand as a man, ur inheritance lies with your biological father's side. Point out the issue of ur dad's relative telling u, u are not one of them. You already bear the name of ur biological family. If ur forgives them and allows u to go to them, ask for her blessings to reverse the curse. You can then be with ur biological family but NEVER forget ur 'real' dad and mom and siblings. Always return home to them. Give ur biological family sense of belonging. Not cos of wealth but they even though rejected u needs ur love now and have remorsefully come for u. You might be the key they need to open the increase in human resource in their family. Let everyone win. Let love lead. Follow ur heart and mind. Be strong! 2 Likes |
| Business / Re: The Exit Of Shipping Firms From Nigeria by elsomm(m): 6:55am On Sep 11, 2016 |
oduastates:
When you have nothing to sell and cannot afford to pay for the conspicuous consumption.
All this means nothing to me apart from making the country have a rethink on how Nigerians engage the world.
Perhaps one place to start is to start trading locally made goods in the west African market
Did you even reason at all before spewing that? How will the goods to be traded between West African countries be transported? By road alone? |
| Celebrities / Re: Tania Omotayo In Fifty Shades Of Hotness In New Photos by elsomm(m): 5:09pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
cindyrocks:
Pepper.
Woah! Shiver me timbers
You're quite a dish yourself! 1 Like |
| Literature / Re: AJEGUNLE : The Tale From The Ghetto by elsomm(m): 2:02pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
fikfaknuel:
John Paul stood up, as his cult members watched his every movement. They knew what would happen, and they used their taunting faces to mock the fate of Basiru. The man called John Paul slapped Kikelomo ferociously, that spiderman shuddered, he thought her head would fall off.
"Get out of here, and keep watch" James ordered spiderman, pointing his finger towards the door, signalling him to exit. The little boy sighed, as he walked out, his head bent in frustration, cursing his luck and wondering when he'd get the chance to see how his mentor bleeps. He too wasn't bad on top of a woman, actually his sexual prowess was commended the first time he 'did it' with an aunty, at the backyard of their 'face me I face you' compound.
John Paul tore off Kikelomo's night wear, as she shivered in pain, the members of the cult licked their lips, Basiru's eyes held such pain that no man should ever have. The rapist laid Kikelomo in a way that Basiru could see her down there, and he climbed from a parallel angle, slowly putting in his manhood as Basiru shouted, struggling to free himself. James gingered his leader and he now went in faster, and harder. With each thrust, she let out a moan, that was so passionate and pleasing to the ears, that Basiru thought it was a moan of pleasure. It was, but it was full of pain too. When John finally answered the call of nature and let out his seminal juice, he managed to stagger to Basiru was tied, and poured it on his face.
Basiru wanted the ground to just open and swallow him, but it didn't. He looked at the exhausted face of his wife, and he felt resentment, and pity. He cried.
And just as the cultists was leaving the house, they heard a shout. It was the man. They turned and looked at him and his left hand was wounded, by a knife stab. Exactly where James had pierced. They looked at themselves, but still went out anyway, leaving the unfortunate man to cry, as blood oozed out of his hand.
It was at that moment Basiru knew what his uncle meant by 'when you stop being a man'. A man wasn't supposed to cry, in the presence of others. He was supposed to suck in the pain, and let it all out when he was alone by himself. But he cried, he was supposed to, as the cultist rimmed his forever cursed tool into his wife. What made him cry wasn't that, but because she moaned, a privilege only he was entitled to.
Kikelomo still on the ground, her body ached with so much pain, but she crawled, and after some minutes, she had untied the rope that restrained Basiru. He thanked her with a vicious slap to her left cheek, as he made his way to the kitchen, blood escorting his movement.
It was hell, but they survived.
Nights and days passed, and the couple rarely spoke. On this night, Basiru had managed to sleep in spite of the horrendous heat. A mosquito buzzed around his ear, and he slapped it, or rather slapped his ear, then woke up. He looked at his sleeping wife, and she was expectedly sweating, he thought it was as a result of the heat. In this state, she looked innocent, but whenever those eyes opened, she became the one who shut her eyes in pleasure, when she was being raped.
Something happened. Something happened that night that haunted Basiru for the rest of his life, and fueled the hate and resentment he felt towards his wife. I used to read a lot especially novels in my secondary school days but lost that passion as I entered the university. I tell you, I'm reading again. For the first time in about 13years, I'm reading for pleasure again. And it feels good. I hope you publish this. And may your ink never run dry. I love how you portray the scenario... almost like I'm watching it happen... 1 Like 1 Share |
| Celebrities / Re: Bolaji Ogunmola: I Am Blessed With Big Boobs, I Can’t Date A Poor Man by elsomm(m): 1:17pm On Sep 04, 2016 |
ladyF:
What fate have we with Di'ja boobs...  I prefer that kinda boobs. Small and never out of vogue. I'd get tired and uninterested with the humongous lots. |
| Politics / Re: Buhari Has No Solution To Economic Crisis - APC Chieftain by elsomm(m): 5:43pm On Sep 02, 2016 |
blueto:
Jonathan's government made some of the best pro-people policies that the Nation ever witnessed. Agricultural Aids were delivered to the real farmers…mosquito nets got to the grassroots, the health sector was revived to curb Ebola and lassa fever but Buhari's govt have proven to be a failure. Imagine Ebola was during PMB's era! A scary thought! |
| Politics / Re: Buhari Called "Garri" In Kano, Osinbajo "Groundnut" & Saraki "Sugar" - Guardian by elsomm(m): 10:36am On Sep 01, 2016 |
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| Politics / Re: Militants Launch "Operation Crocodile Tears", Blow Another Oil Facility In Delta by elsomm(m): 8:20pm On Aug 31, 2016 |
rapistomenka:
It's high time Nigerians declare operation crocodile on Buhari You mean 'CrocoDIE' |
| Romance / Re: A deeper look into the act of masturbation. by elsomm(m): 12:57am On Aug 29, 2016 |
firstking01:
I dnt really know where you are driving at maybe cos i didn't read everything you wrote but from your heading and second paragraph i can categorically and convincingly put it to anyone/body who masturbates is committing a sin pronable of bringing eternal damnation to yourself...your body is supposed to be the throne and temple of the holy spirit, so, how dare you defile it?...and if you think masturbation is not a sin why the guilt after the act?,,,anything you do and your concience is in disarray with you it's a sin....your concience is the God inside of you....i dnt wanna share my experience of masturbation and encounter with God...maybe some other day...again i qoute, that a thing is not in the bible doesn't mean it's not a sin....quit masturbation. I think the issue of what is allowed by the conscience is relative. Some cultures may permit marrying a distant relation while some don't. Those that allow will never feel guilty marrying such relatives. Even is religions, there are things allowed which the practitioner will not see as a sin but a non practitioner will cringe from doing same. CONSCIENCE IS RELATIVE. However, I see masturbation as a sin because of my conscience. Yet to see strong disapproval of it in the Bible. |
| Crime / Re: 28 People Chained In A House In Lagos Rescued By Police by elsomm(m): 5:17pm On Aug 27, 2016 |
emmyid:
Next week lunches in the 'mber months'. Mber months are non for ritual activities and demonic manifestations.
Everyone be warned, warn yo children, they shouldn't move about anyhow. Wit d economic recession, this very 'mber months' of 2016 wud b more bloody. Some niggers can jus do anything to make money and drive d latest jeep to their villages dis xmas. Especially our brothers from the East. Dis is d period they gotta show off their whole year struggle and wealth in their villages! And it was Adeyemi that was caught. smh at u |
| Religion / Re: Princewill Iheme: Only Igbo President Will Save Nigeria by elsomm(m): 12:19pm On Aug 27, 2016 |
Deadlytruth:
The prophet forgot that Nigeria was just Okay until the first Igbo man ruled and forcefully changed the structure of this country leading to the failures and national retrogression against which everyone is now demanding for restructuring. This call for restructuring is simply a call for a return to the structure we were operating but destroyed by an Igbo man-Ironsi. So how will an Igbo presidency save Nigeria when it was even an Igbo presidency that caused of problem by ruining the beautiful structure we started with? Yea. Just like in the bible, the 1st Adam that committed an error and the 2nd that corrected the errors of the 1st. |
| Religion / Re: Princewill Iheme: Only Igbo President Will Save Nigeria by elsomm(m): 12:15pm On Aug 27, 2016 |
Alcatraz003:
Igbo President will be a very hard task. Neither i nor my offsprings willingly vote for an igbo man. Not with the amount of hate and bile exhibited towards the Yoruba Nation these past few years.
The prophet needs to understand this, the veracity of the issues raised notwithstanding.... Its really appalling. I wish all these hatred could be thrown out. Igbos perceive the Yorubas hate them...and the Yorubas thinks that the Igbos hate them. Therefore, none will shift ground for the other. Underneath we all wish we could walk and work together but the *perceived* hatred won't allow us. Maybe someone planted it there for a reason. |
| Romance / Re: Guys, How True Is This? (pix) by elsomm(m): 10:14am On Aug 27, 2016 |
Theresa1990:
its in dem, dey can't stop not now And you love the attention |
| Crime / Re: Fulani Herdsman Kills His Mother In Kwara & Brother’s Wife (photo) by elsomm(m): 7:06pm On Aug 25, 2016 |
Is it that the Fulanis' only solution to a disagreement is to kill? |
| Politics / Re: Bring Back Our Girls Protest To Aso Villa by elsomm(m): 4:27pm On Aug 23, 2016 |
LORDOFAFONJAS:
All buhari needs to do is to arrange for a table and chair inside aso rock for that big frog eyes to stay, she needs a job just as they settled hadiza. CHIBOK GIRLS WERE MERE SCAM PMB's disdain for the 5 percenters may not allow him |
| Politics / Re: Photos Of Biafra Shoes Made In Aba by elsomm(m): 10:12pm On Aug 22, 2016 |
SlayerSupreme:
Nwanne jiri nwanyo hapulum nwaa Gi na Mrbigman2 ga aputa na ogbo piri mgba. Ihe mrite onye meririnu ga abu akara ekwe nti nwada mjswthrt. Mu ga abu onye oka ikpe. Nwada mjswthrt I kwadoro m? |
| Politics / Re: Photos Of Biafra Shoes Made In Aba by elsomm(m): 10:03pm On Aug 22, 2016 |
Mrbigman2:
Isorite. Nwanne biko I na-agbali. Jisie ike. Akwadoro m ka I sochie nwada mjswthrt na àzú. Nwa mechiri akwukwo. Imi ya kwu ka osisi oku latrik. 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: Photos Of Biafra Shoes Made In Aba by elsomm(m): 9:53pm On Aug 22, 2016 |
Zinnywise:
Gisinu*
Lol...nne o bu 'jisinu' ma o bu 'jisienu'
Mana obi di ezigbo uto I hu ndi anyi ka ha na asu ma na-ede kwa asusu Igbo.
Dalu ezi nwanyi |
| Politics / Re: Photos Of Biafra Shoes Made In Aba by elsomm(m): 9:47pm On Aug 22, 2016 |
mjswthrt:
igbo gi nkea dika igbo si ugwu awusa I mara mma! Imi gi kwu oto. Dalu nne oma |
| Agriculture / Re: See The Coloured Corn I Harvested From My Farm by elsomm(m): 6:56pm On Aug 20, 2016 |
its normal. we call it 'oka eze aturu' meaning corn with sheep teeth.
I'd love to study the phytochemical content. the color suggests presence of polyphenols. though might be wrong on that guess |
| Pets / Re: Joe Chinakwe Rearrested For Naming His Dog Buhari, To Appear In Court On Monday by elsomm(m): 5:41pm On Aug 20, 2016 |
ruffp:
My brother, I jus taya for this country. U arrest someone just to "protect" him? Na wa!!! And charged to court because his life was threatened. 1 Like |
| Pets / Re: Trader Arrested For Naming His Dog ‘Buhari’ by elsomm(m): 7:24pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
labamo07:
I think the dog owner lost his sanity. Yes you can give your pet any name but avoid peace disruption with your decision and action..................... I agree with you though not totally. The owner never lost his sanity. He equally may name his dog whatever he fancies but also should mind disrupting the peace. Some people can't stand taunt especially Northerners. Call your goat Ojukwu and I, and Igbos won't bath an eyelid 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: Abducted Chibok Girls Feared Dead Following Military Airstrikes by elsomm(m): 9:41pm On Aug 14, 2016 |
Isn't this a means to justify inability to produce the said girls. Maybe no one was actually kidnapped. It was all politics 1 Like |
| Romance / Re: Ada Ocha Ntu And Mark Hall's Bitter Love Story by elsomm(m): 4:15pm On Aug 13, 2016 |
Woooow! She's such an eye candy.
Look at them legs!!!
Quite a dish she is/was |
| Career / Re: Top 5 Highest Paying Oil And Gas Companies In Nigeria by elsomm(m): 2:24pm On Aug 13, 2016 |
UndisputedBosom:
2 bad U'll only hv someborri "upfront" 2 work wit 'em I have God 'upfront' 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: I Have Lost Faith In This Government by elsomm(m): 4:03pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
Progressive01:
Okay, president Buhari "has no idea what to do", agreed. Now, my question is: kindly suggest one thing he could do to pull us out of the doldrums.
Recession of this nature where your reserve has been drastically depleted and your major forex earner has lost over 50%
of its value is most difficult to surmount.
If you wanna diversify, where do you get the money to do so (remember you need forex to import the equipment for this since they aren't produced locally)?? You wanna export more of your nearly useless forex earner so you can start taking steps towards diversification and some criminals literally make that impossible.
I'm glad you admitted Jonathan wasn't an option no matter what. one thing he can do is to R E S I G N ! 1 Like |
| Crime / Re: Father Puts Pepper In Daughters Private Part by elsomm(m): 8:33am On Aug 11, 2016 |
sinaj:
Kai pepper? The pain will be too much for a 10yr old.
I doubt if that's her biological father. Even for a forty year old or 80. I know how hot it is on my fingers when I slice some not to talk of such a sensitive place. |
| Politics / Re: Gowon: There's Nothing Wrong With Restructuring Nigeria, I Did It In 1967 by elsomm(m): 12:03am On Aug 10, 2016 |
Propropro:
The man that single handedly ensured biafra was dead and buried in 1970 while Ojukwu fled to ivory coast with his tail behind his legs. God bless Gowon for keeping this great nation one. We are forever grateful  Dear sir, On a scale of 1-10, how much do you love the Igbo nation? |
| Crime / Re: Pictures And Register Of Militants In Arepo Recovered By Military by elsomm(m): 10:33am On Aug 08, 2016 |
Dragonking:
When I said our military is a joke people didn't believe me. .Last week plus they said they killed over 114 nigerdelta militants, now that we asked for their pictures they are now claiming that the militans might have taken the body of their men meaning that they can't prove that they killed militants. .Very soon the real truth will soon be exposed.  So how did they count the 114 militants killed? Jokers! People are not asking the correct questions |
