Ultimate36: For every newly wedded couples, just get your mind prepared that either of you will cheat except if you want to be engaging in serious verbal war everyday.
Side chicks are meant to be celebrated and not to be condemned because they are the pillars that hold many successful marriage.
It is not easy for someone to be eating same food everyday. As a man, you need all the classes of food.
And as a man, if another man is not eyeing your wife that means you married an ugly or winch. Your wife must look good to attract another man outside, then it is now left for her to make the decision.
Full of flaws. Your opinion. Not worth a reasonable comment. BS
ChidiebereS: Before some people attack me, just hear this out.
Most men think that as they grow older, especially after marriage or reaching their 40s, it is normal to develop one “chief commander” pot belly. We even joke about it and call it “evidence of enjoyment” or “good living.”
But what if I told you that in many cases, that belly is not just ordinary fat?
According to health discussions, constant consumption of sugar, bread, soft drinks, noodles, pastries, rice, and other refined carbs can keep insulin levels high for too long.
And when insulin stays high, something interesting happens.
The body increases an enzyme called aromatase, which can convert testosterone (male hormone) into estrogen.
Meaning:
More belly fat = More aromatase More aromatase = More estrogen More estrogen = More belly fat
Na loop be that
And this may explain why some men with stubborn pot bellies also struggle with:
Some experts argue that endless sit-ups may not be the real solution. The bigger issue could be insulin resistance and diet.
Simple changes people often discuss include:
✔ Reducing sugar ✔ Cutting down refined starch ✔ Avoiding late-night heavy meals ✔ Eating more intentionally
I recently came across a short whiteboard video that breaks this down in a very simple way — the hormone cycle, why belly fat keeps returning, and what may help stop it.
Watch the full video here and tell us if you agree or disagree:
Dzzzz: That’s wild bro..That means the guys were running train on her for 3days..
For all you know she could be a nurse doing house calls, a fitness therapist, a private masseuse or a chef. We Nigerians see prostitution everywhere, our society has completely corrupted our minds and we now think rotten. Not everything that meets the eye is as it seems. As long as you don't see proof of the acts and signs of it or heard it confirmed verbally, you know nothing
TylerForbes: Every day online, you see the same exhausting debate: “What does a lady bring to the table?” Men are angry because they feel women are hypergamous, and women are defensive because they feel men are cheap. But if we are being completely honest, the men who aggressively scream "What do you bring to the table?" are usually guys who are still struggling in the trenches or just starting to see small money. When you are broke or managing a startup lifestyle, you naturally look for a Co-Founder—a woman who will split bills 50/50, help you pay rent, and endure suffering with you. That is valid for that stage of life. But once a man breaks through and begins to build a real empire, his operational requirements completely change. A wealthy man doesn't need a woman to bring raw capital, business partnerships, or financial assets to his table. He already owns the table, the chairs, and the building the table is sitting in. He doesn’t need a co-founder. What he needs is a Sovereign Partner. When you shift from building wealth to protecting a legacy, a woman’s value is no longer measured by production, but by preservation, discretion, and peace.
Here is what a high-caliber woman actually brings to a wealthy man's table: Peace (The Ultimate Asset) The business world in Nigeria is a brutal, chaotic battlefield. A man handling high-stakes deals, regulatory stress, and constant market pressure cannot afford to return home to another battlefield of drama, unnecessary attitude, and emotional instability. A sovereign partner provides an environment of absolute peace. That peace is not passive; it is a critical infrastructure that resets a man’s nervous system, sharpens his decision-making, and prevents the burnout that destroys empires.
Gatekeeping and Risk Management Men who are focused on aggressive expansion often miss subtle social cues. A high-caliber woman possesses an incredible, highly accurate skill for people's hidden motives. She can spot a snake in your circle long before you do. She acts as a secondary security layer, vetting friends, business associates, and hangers-on. While a chaotic woman is a massive liability who leaks your secrets, a sovereign partner carries herself with a level of class and discretion that protects your brand. The Culture of the Estate (Legacy) An empire that dies with the creator is just a temporary business. To turn wealth into a generational dynasty, you need a woman who can govern the internal culture of the home. She ensures your children are not raised as soft, entitled rich kids who will squander your hard work, but as capable successors who understand power, discipline, and responsibility. Stop looking at relationships through a poverty mindset of “Can she buy me a shirt?” or “Can she pay for her own food?” If you are a man of substance, you don't need her money; you need her character, her loyalty, her emotional maturity, and her peace. She isn't there to lay the bricks of your empire—she is there to ensure the foundation never cracks. Build your wealth first, become the player on the chessboard, and you will realize that the highest value a woman can bring to your life cannot be quantified in a bank statement.
Very silly post. Lack of understanding of the subject matter
AlphaMale666: There is nothing a guy can tell me, once I see a guy I knew get married, were no longer friends! For a guy to marry, it just shows you're a woman wrapper, a simp, and will do anything for female validation. As a guy, you should be afraid of married men. They can even go as low as wash women pants for them. They're born fools! Absolute lowlife people! Slaves to society! I spit on all married men's graves! You're all disgrace to manhood!
My wedding was scheduled for March this year, but everything changed after my fiancé's father passed away unexpectedly in November.
His funeral was held just three weeks later, in December. I genuinely wanted to attend, but there was one major problem: my employer had a strict policy against granting leave during the December holiday period. When I accepted the job, this condition was clearly stated. Despite explaining my situation and pleading for an exception, my request was denied.
I informed my fiancé immediately. At first, he appeared understanding. I even contributed financially to support the funeral arrangements.
Then his mother called.
She told me that if I truly wanted to become part of their family, I had to be physically present at her husband's funeral. I tried explaining my circumstances, but she ended the call before I could finish.
When I called my fiancé afterward, I expected him to stand by me. Instead, he asked:
"If it were your own father, wouldn't you find a way to attend?"
I explained that the situations were different because my employer might make an exception if it were my immediate family member.
That was when he dropped the bombshell:
"No presence. No wedding."
I thought grief was speaking. I thought time would calm him down.
I was wrong.
The wedding was officially cancelled.
My family tried everything to reconcile the situation, but his family refused every attempt. Eventually, my father advised me to accept the loss and move forward with my life.
It broke me, but I did.
Months passed.
Then, on May 20th, my ex-fiancé called me.
What he said left me speechless.
According to him, I had failed the test of being a good wife because I stopped trying to convince his family after the wedding was cancelled. He said a "real wife" would have kept begging until she was accepted.
Then he announced that he had "forgiven" me.
Not only that, he had already chosen a new wedding date in August and expected me to start preparing immediately.
As if the breakup had never happened.
As if my feelings didn't matter.
As if he alone had the authority to decide when a relationship ends—and when it resumes.
Without hesitation, I told him I was no longer interested.
His response shocked me even more.
He said:
"I'm not done. You don't have the right to be done."
I blocked his number immediately.
But that wasn't the end.
A few days later, he appeared at my father's house carrying the bride price and all the marriage items he had previously rejected.
My father told him clearly:
"My daughter has moved on. As far as this family is concerned, she is no longer available."
Still, he refused to accept it.
Since then, he and his mother have continued calling, visiting, and pressuring both me and my family despite my repeated refusal.
Now I'm beginning to wonder:
Is this really about love, or is there something deeper behind their sudden determination?
What troubles me most is the mindset that someone can cancel a wedding, disappear for months, return when it suits them, and expect another person to simply obey.
I am now considering legal action because the constant calls, visits, and refusal to respect my decision are becoming disturbing.
My question is:
If someone ends a relationship, then later decides to "forgive" you and resume the wedding without your consent, would you see that as love... or as a dangerous sense of entitlement?
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Should show you how your in-laws would be after the wedding. They are already obnoxious before the I do. Imagine how nasty they will be after
brownwindow: While condoms are highly effective at preventing bodily fluid-borne illnesses, they do not guarantee 100% protection against all sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
Diseases that spread through skin-to-skin contact, sores, or areas not covered by a condom can still be transmitted during intimate activity.
Key Diseases Transmitted Despite Condom UseThe most common STDs that can spread even with consistent condom use include:
Genital Herpes (HSV): Herpes sores or viral shedding can occur on areas of the skin not covered by a condom (like the thighs or scrotum). Learn more about prevention limitations on Healthline.
Human Papillomavirus (HPV): HPV can be transmitted via skin-to-skin contact of areas not shielded by a condom, making it difficult to prevent completely.
Syphilis: Infections are easily passed through direct contact with open syphilis sores (chancres) that may be located outside the condom's coverage area.
Molluscum Contagiosum: This highly contagious skin condition spreads through direct skin contact during sex, regardless of condom use.
Pubic Lice (Crabs) & Scabies: These parasites are passed through close body contact in pubic areas, meaning a condom offers no physical barrier against them.
Why Transmission Occur even when a condom is used perfectly, several factors make it possible to contract an infection:
Exposure: Many viral STIs (like herpes and HPV) shed from skin cells surrounding the genitals rather than strictly from bodily fluids.Undetected Sores: Sores or rashes associated with certain infections can be hidden on the groin, thighs, or buttocks.
Asymptomatic Shedding: Partners can transmit viruses even when they have zero visible symptoms.
Improper Use: Condoms can slip, tear, or be put on too late in the sexual encounter.
cayorday89: Stumbled on this, this same thing I told housemate of mine in UNI, he claims there is no lady he cannot walk up to amd ask out, I said walking up to them is not the issue but been realistic with yourself about their material needs whether na packaging or real is what you should consider, he never agreed, he is an Ogun indigene and has never been to Lagos. Few weeks after, he was chanced to visit for a party on the island, he came back and was gusting other housemates while I was inside sleeping but quite aware of the conversation going on, he practically confessed that when he saw some Ladies, for him to even walk up to them was hard, that they were way above his League, and this is a guy who is handsome and good looking quite okay financially. You need to see the way I jumped up and reminded him of what I told him earlier,ut was then he agreed.
Except say you wan catch cruise, no lele but for something, consider yourself first, pocket secondly then do you.
For your info, there is no person that is above another person's league. That is not a thing
Shock as a priest allegedly impregnates a married woman, while her husband unknowingly raises children said to belong to the Rev. Fr. — Dr. Duubby reveals.
As at the time of writing this post, the lady in the photo was having serious health issues. In short, her mouth has bent backwards. Physicians have done all they know how to do, But there are no signs of improvement whatsoever. So, the woman's family decided to go spiritual. This is Africa. Africans tend to realize when things are no longer normal.
On getting to a Native doctor (a seer) the W0man was told that her death is inevitable. The only way she can survive this, is to C0nfess what she's been up to.
She has now C0nfessed that all her 5 kids (including the one she's pregnant with at present) do not belong to her husband. She says a priest is responsible. The priest's name is Father Chinwe. This is happening in enugu.
The lady has C0nfessed that she's been in a S£cret relationship with the pr!est since before she got married. And she's been cheat!ng on her hμsband with the priest. None of her 5 kids belong to her husband.
escortafrik: I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.
I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:
“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo
Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.
He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.
We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’
As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.
Thankfully, he got the job.
I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.
And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.
Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.
That was when the real problem started.
I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.
I have spent years building my career there. I’m more senior. I currently earn more. And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.
But my fiancé shocked me.
He told me I should be the one to resign because:
“I’m the man.”
Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !
I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?
But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.
Imagine !
Since then, everything has changed.
Wedding plans have paused. We now fight everyday Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign ! my heart is broken.
Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.
Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.
Cum4me: Sometimes I asked myself what dose men see to engage themselves in this gay act. I find noting reasonable from my research. Then I finally believe that there's demonic realm we don't see with our physical eye's if you as a man get involved in it you become a victim. When ever I come close to any gay I do my possible best not to be a close friend to that man they're possess and they can't help themselves. Being a gay no matter how wealthy you're believe you're completely half dead.
No demonic realm there. Africans and Nigerians, we can't use devil to explain everything away. The devil is innocent here
Jman06: I have observed with dismay how the older generation ladies who are already past their primes go about spreading falsehoods about men's fertility and virility claiming that men have biological clock and blaming infertility in marriage on men.
These fallacious claims are borne out of the desire to deceive the younger girls and make them reject marriage proposals from older men. These older women do this in a bid to have a the older guys settle for them when they can't get much younger girls to marry. It is a strategy which they're using to ensure that the eligible older men are left with no choice than to settle in marriage with the older generation of women!
The fact is that men age like wine which becomes stronger and better with time. In this country, it takes a lot of time for a guy to become financially ready to start a family due to the economic situation of the country. This is why most marriageable men are those already in their late 30s to early or even mid 40s.
These older women spread the lies that men have biological clock and would not be able to father a child at older ages. Evidence around us have proven such claims to be false because even in our immediate families, many of us were born while dads were in their 50s and early 60s. So, what biological clock are they now talking about?
They also claim that at such ages, men lose their virility and become impotent. This claim is also arguably false because, except in the cases where the man suffers from chronic illnesses that affect their sexual effectiveness, healthy men still retain their sexual potency even up to the age of 70 in some cases..if at my age, I still have those embarrassing moments of genital attention in the public, then I can tell you that such claims are unfounded.
We know that most cases of infertility in marriage occur from the side of the woman! But these old women like to twist facts and put the blames squarely on the men. For this reason, men who are being accused of being responsible for infertility in their marriages should not sit back and swallow all the humiliations and insults. Let them try their potency and fertility outside with much younger girls! I'm very sure that the result will always be positive.
As a man, when you have suffered all your life and eventually make money to be considered marriageable by the greedy female gender, save yourself all the troubles of having to struggle with bearing children by marrying from the pool of much younger girls. If you know that you desire to start having children immediately after marriage, then do yourself a favour by marrying a girl in the age range of 18 to 22. An uncle of mine got married at 42 to a 38years old lady, he's now 62 without a child. His wife is now 58 and obviously reached menopause. Now, imagine if this man had married a girl in the age range of 18 to 22, he would have had all the children he wanted before even crossing the age of 50 so that he could have used his working years to take care of them and help them stand. Now he's retired and without a child! His case makes me sad whenever I remember him because he's a good man by all standards.
Now to the young girls, learn to set your priorities right. As you go through the various social media platforms, don't be deceived by what you read or hear there from those older women discouraging you from marrying older men. In Nigeria today, those older guys are the most eligible for marriage by all standards. They are more financially and mentally stable to handle marriage! Besides, provision for the family goes seamlessly when you are dealing with the far older men! If you know that you want to marry on time and have your children easily, then your best bet is marrying a more stable older man.
It is very good when girls marry early because aside reducing the problem of infertility in marriage,it helps reduce the chances of complications and high risk pregnancies. The problem of genetic diseases and congenital anomalies is also greatly minimised when a woman starts bearing children early! So, don't be deceived by those selfish older women who want you to remain unmarried just like them. A word is enough for the wise!
@Op: Tell her and know your fate. If her reasons are excusable, challenge them. And if it's a deal breaker for you, tell her as well or wait till she's ready.
Some girls may stop you due to their conscience of recent exposure to pregnancy or illness which they are still working on. You dey there dey rush. She will soon give you access now and tell you she's positive. Na then your eye go clear
You are inexperienced. Do that and she walks out the door. Wetin go vex you pass na say she hands the same cat to the next guy that is nicer to her. Happened to me! Wetin vex me pass na say she come dey use am do shakara for me. Then I was in uni and didn't have control so I almost died with vex. Learnt a big lesson there. I get am later sha but that one na story for other day.
AllBlack: She dey stop you and she has stopped you 3 times. Don't you feel used? Don't you feel like a sponge?
Abeg Who made her the gateman of sex? Why can't you say NO and stop her too? Treat her like a child & Let her simply sit down, watch TV and go. But you can't because you are afraid of her and don't want to lose her.
TELL HER NO too. STOP HER TOO. Do it to her and watch how she reacts under your control. CAN SHE TAKE IT? will she ask that yeye question of WHY WOULDN'T YOU LET ME KISS YOU? ARE YOU ANGRY?
instead you allow her and your best move is to come here and turn to a journalist on Nairaland.
and Yes! you are a simp.
Lol, it seems this chairman also knows the trick. You can't just be giving advice without knowing if the said guy has good or bad intentions
heartbraker: but she dey stop me naa,this is not a cook up story
God help us sinners! Can remember how many of these walls I broke down in my journey in the ocean and my longer one to redemption.
Back to OPs comment.
She will stop you cos she is unsure of you. She doesn't know what comes next after you don't lash. That's the oldest trick in the book. I will not say more.
Businesstimes23: Finding a partner who loves unconditionally is increasingly difficult as more relationships and marriages face pressure from conflicting expectations. Across homes and faith communities, couples are navigating sensitive issues that test the balance between personal beliefs and marital responsibilities.
One such issue gaining attention is whether it is acceptable for a married woman to wear a G-string bought by her husband, particularly when it appears to conflict with her Christian values.
Experts note that modern relationships are no longer driven by a single purpose. While some couples prioritise emotional connection, others focus on financial stability or social expectations. However, when personal desires and belief systems collide, tensions often emerge.
In many cases, partners enter relationships with different assumptions about intimacy and expression. When these expectations are not aligned, dissatisfaction can quickly set in, contributing to the growing rate of separation and divorce.
Will any responsible man allow his wife to go to the gym? . Unless you wanna deliver her into the hands of tramadol nighas who won't pity her when pounding the hell out of her
If your gbola can't keep your wife in the right needed shape, simply know that you didn't only fail yourself but man-hood in its entirety
This is a fallacy. Nothing like pounding away. Two parties enjoyed the sin, who is complaining
Will any responsible man allow his wife to go to the gym? . Unless you wanna deliver her into the hands of tramadol nighas who won't pity her when pounding the hell out of her
If your gbola can't keep your wife in the right needed shape, simply know that you didn't only fail yourself but man-hood in its entirety
bmd1010: Someone told me a story recently that honestly has been making me feel uncomfortable
He moved to the UK for his MSc.
Like many immigrants, life wasn’t easy at first.
He was managing. Sharing flat with other people. Working hard. Trying to stabilise himself financially.
Eventually, after his MSc, he brought his wife over to join him so they could be together.
According to him, the wife moved into the shared accommodation with him because that was what they could afford at the time.
Nothing luxurious. Just two people trying to build life together abroad.
At first everything looked normal.
But slowly, the wife started getting very close to one of the male flatmates.
The painful part?
Apparently other people in the flat noticed things before the husband did.
But nobody spoke.
Most of them already knew the other guy first and didn’t want to involve themselves 😭
Meanwhile this guy was focused on work, studies and survival.
Then one day, the wife suddenly started complaining that he was too quiet for her. They should separate and see if things would change
She said they weren’t compatible anymore.
Few days later…
She woke up and packed her things while he was sleeping and he thought she was just doing her normal weekend clean up. Only to say she was leaving to get her own place
The husband was heartbroken and confused but still didn’t fully know what had really been happening behind his back.
Then one evening something happened that completely broke him emotionally.
A food delivery arrived at the flat.
The driver handed it to him.
But he said: “I didn’t order anything.”
So he asked the delivery guy to call the person that placed the order.
My brother…
The phone that rang belonged to the flatmate 😭
And the order had been placed by his wife.
For the same man she had been secretly seeing inside the same flat.
According to him, that was the exact moment reality hit him properly.
The guy reportedly broke down crying immediately.
Honestly, immigrant stories abroad can be deeply painful sometimes.
Because many people sacrifice: • comfort • family support • stability • peace
…just trying to build future together.
And betrayal hits differently when somebody suffered with genuine intentions.
Question is…
Do you think living abroad exposes people’s true character more quickly… or does pressure abroad simply change some relationships completely?
Truvelisback: Good day, fellas. A time is coming when women would be the ones doing the chasing or hunting for men, and not the other way round. You see most of these ladies saying that they don't need any man are only deceiving themselves. Their ego, beauty(which they claimed they have and have prided in) and their achievements, won't let them admit it.
Which time is coming? The one they have been doing since the 80s? One woman would only pursue what she wants not what she doesn't want
A friend of mine came to seek advise from me yesterday and I only gave him the little I knew I could give.
There's the girl he has been dating for over a year now and things had really gotten serious between the both of them. So, taking the next step which is about going to see her people has been on his mind for some time now.
Now, here's the problem. This particular lady in question is presently working in a hotel and she has been holding a very big position in the hotel. Just like how we are made to believe, concerning ladies working in hotels. Of course, we've heard of various cases of how ladies working in hotels turn out to be promiscuous and render their bodies for men who comes to lodge in those hotels which they're working in. This friend of mine is worried,and has asked his lady times without a number if she would quit the hotel work after getting married to pursue another career. He has even promised to open a super market for her but she didn't obliged to his request.
As a matter of fact,my friend is currently considering walking out of the relationship but I told him to speak with her one more time. And if she should insist on quitting the hotel work,then,he could do whatever he has on his mind.
So,my dear fellow Nairalanders, especially the guys ,how do you guys view this kind of situation?
Why should she leave her career path because she wants to marry? This is archaic mentality
FreeNaijaII: So my friend proposed to his longtime girlfriend of 3 years this month.
They are already planning to go and see her parents later next month and to also get a date for the wedding sometime in December this year.
They don't always have issues, and anytime they do, they will resolve it within a day or so.
So, my friend saw his fiancée's comment on Instagram validating Frank Edoho's ex-wife opening her legs to Chike (another man) while married to Mr. Edoho.
In her argument, she said that she was right to open her legs to another man because Frank confessed that he keeps malice as a form of punishment.
For the sake of anonymity, I can't share the screenshot here.
He (my guy) has already made up his mind to quit the relationship because he sees her comment as a red flag that should not be ignored.
I tried to talk him out of it, but it seems his mind is made up.
What can I do to help?
I doubt there are ladies out there that are that stupid
Romance › Re: Behind Every Successful Marriage, There’s Untold Story Of Side Chick by emabe: 10:20pm On Jul 17
