₦airaland Forum

Billyonaire:
SW has only 4.2million registered voters, and We have 67,764,327 registered voters nationwide. Stop speculating with wrong figures.

Ngwakwe:
He misspelt 3rd as 3th

You are in the same league with the man you labelled illiterate

Take a look at the topic of the thread you opened.

Illeterate EFCC Officer Spells "THIRD" As "3th". ---see Picture

You mean Illeterate or Illiterate

Illeterate is An ironic misspelling of "illiterate," usually written by a retard - or, perhaps more appropriately, by a "retar t . "

Your mistake is as bad as Buhari's pronunciation and worse compared to PEJ's concord (agreement)

Ikwokrikwo:
Absolute nonsense!
Of what use is an 8MW power plant in Lagos or even Nigeria
we have moved from generating 4600 MW to 4608 MW, thanks to Fashola.
Lol great improvement

Ikwokrikwo:
Fashola and generators sha.
The OP himself is scared of saying hom many megawatts because of all the pummelings he received in the past.

muafrika:
@emiye
The Belgians had guns, and the support of the rest of Europe. The Congolese paid for their resistance with death. The colonizing Europe, Russia and the US had a pact in which the rivers of the Congo would be accessed freely by all as they smuggled all sorts of precious things out of the land. Very few African countries, only tribes then, had guns. Note that before the invention of the gun, Europeans, stayed away. Countries that were more exposed, better armed, like Ethiopia which beat Italy, had a better chance. Even in Kenya where tribal uprisings played a big role, it was until they started, using the guns that they grabbed off fallen enemies that their terrorism of whites really started to bear fruits. As for quality, apart from weapons, I doubt that the Belgians would have had a chance if like the congolese tribesmen, what they had to use needed contact.

muafrika:
@emiye
You must be quite priviledged. The poor landless should buy land and stop making it an excuse? Climb out of poverty by planning? Let me guess, invest in business? There are two parallel worlds here. Success is a combination of many things - health, education or mentorship, connections and, well, government. This things are not equally available to all men. The difference is the word you used: Quality. Not all people can opt for quality. All some have is many times not enough for the day. That means anybody getting sick or getting an admission to an expensive, better performing school is out of the question. You are also assuming that poor man can feed two better than seven. Those two will still be in the slums because the problem is rooted somewhere in the high places of priviledge: employers of this slum dweller who do not peg his wages on his needs. That guy still won't move to a mansion. Make no mistake, the least paid do the most hard work. The least advantaged have more children as they lose more.

muafrika:
@emiye
It seems that our problem is of societal organization. Our forefathers did not live in slums. Africans started begging the UN for sustenance after introduction of the western economic system. Go to slums from South Africa to Cairo and you will find those people are working for multinationals, from miners to manufacturers. Many have no land since the colonial land grab, and they survive with no hospitals, infrastructure. Chances of survival are low and whereever that is the case, parents give birth to more children, to ensure survival of the households beyond this generation.

We need to change perception of success from dependance on employment to self sustenance, and to teach our children to grow up into self reliance just as our forefathers before us, as that is the real freedom. These foreign investors pay well in their countries while here in Africa, they pay peanuts and condemn our people to a cycle of poverty.

Taking control of our destiny starts with taking back our denied humanity.

niggereyez:
Reasonable stuff u've got here bro...
unfortunately the govt. of today would readily budget 1.smtin billion annually for the "presidential pets and horticulture" than they would for investment in our youths...

Orunto:
Buhari/Fashola(North/Yoruba) is good but not democratic for Nigeria now. Jonathan/Buhari is better. Let Buhari join PDP on the ground that he may be allowed to serve Turelage as VP till 2019; after that, he may return to APC to contest with Fashola or Okorocha for the Presidency against a new standard bearer of PDP. For now, GEJ/whoever is destined to rule till 2019. The Lord says so! No permutation can wish this off. GMB is still a DICTATOR IN HUMAN SPIRIT. NIGERIA SHOULD GET THIS DOMINATING SPIRIT OUT OF HIM before he might be allowed to rule Nigeria. My mouth is very clean. If Buhari is trained, Nigerian styled, for 2019, bokoharam and its sponsors will be controlled for ever.

saponification:
HIA! When I created thread,I never knew it would get dis much attention.I've taken time to go through all d contributions so far and had to refer dat my friend to dis forum(not a nairalander)to read all d contributions.after reading it she was really hurt my what some pple said especially FXWARRIOR. PLS HERE'S A SAMPLE OF HER MONTHLY EXPENSES AS SHE WROTE IT: Fuel for car n gen-6k
Gas-3500
Pampers-4500
PHCN-4500
Cerelac-7500
SMA-7800
TOTAL-37 300
Then feeding,toiletries,makin her hair,multi vitamins for her 2 kids cos they don't always hav appetite for food.

So 50k minus 37 300 is 12 700.from her list,is it not obvious dat she spends almost everytin on d kids especially d 15 months old baby.accordin to her,inorder to make ends meet,she no longer subscribe to DSTV,her car's been parked for some months.d pampers is 2500 for her baby n 1500 for her 3 yrs old son cos he uses it at nite while sleepin,her PHCN is never less than 4500 despite several complaints,d cerelac is 5 tins a month at 1500 each cos dats what d baby agrees to take.d baby would rather starve than take cheaper tins like pap which she hav tried severally.d SMA is for 2 tins of d big SMA for toddlers wit green cover

I know some pple will still accuse her of havin d 'my hubby is abroad'mentality but then its not true cos I know how she behaves n d way she dresses.@JAHBLESSME n @CHIDYHEYS,u both hav idea of what it means to make do wit d 50k.I am also a mother wit 2 kids like dis my friend n I must say it is not easy cos of her 15 months old baby.I tell u,assumin d baby was up to 3 yrs,it would hav been easier to manage 30k than managin 50k wit a 15 months old baby
Mothers in d houz will understand what I am talkin about cos babies r very expensive especially when one is unlucky to hav a baby dat rejects cheaper food like pap for expensive ones like cerelac.is she also showin off wit givin her baby cerelac definitely no cos she does dat in d confines of her home where no one is watchin unless on occassions she is outside.is she also showin off n yet parked her car for now while she carries her 15 months old baby n hold her 3 yrs old son while takin him to skul?definitely no.is she showin off n yet no longer subscibe to DSTV not mindin when her friends can visit n request to watch' E'?of course not
So let's be rational in our analysis cos YES she can make do wit d 50k but it won't be easy.for instance she said their soakaway got filled last month n each flat was asked to pay 5 300.u see,its still from d 50k dat she will foot d bill.so pls let's be rational here

Jahblessme:
@emiye
You really don't know anything about kids eh
2-3 daipers per day?That means you are talking about a mature toddler.Babies poo and wee and you are changing them at least 3 hourly to avoid daiper rash.

The man pays school fees doesn't translate to uniforms,text books,school bag,water bottles,lunch box.

You can see I stressed on her getting a job or doing a biz to supplement the 50k.Its not fair to d kids for her to just standby complaining.
Remember the man blows money when he's in Nigeria,that's probably why she's upset.Its more painful when you feel he can afford it but is just being stingy.If he likes,let him not give her too! But the kids,come on! They deserve the best both parents can afford.

I don't know what perfume is 2k.she cannot even buy perfume self with the budget so she has to stick to deodorant.

I agree though that no amount is too big..there are always needs here and there,depends on lifestyle.But 50k is too tight abeg


Err dunno what standard will be used to call anyone ajekpako, from the list all the kids can do is eat and Gp to school,nothing extra like school trips or going to the zoo.All the extracurricular activities that would enrich their childhood cannot be catered for with that budget.
As long as the kids get the very best the parents can afford,that's fine.

GetUmad:
Bro, that 2k is not realistic for PHCN utility bill. Talking about complaining, i am talking about personal experience here. There's nothing i haven't done . It used to be 13k monthly. I had personally written several letters to their Management. It became worse after the introduction of the new tariff. I have exhausted all my options. 2k might be enough for the prepaid meter, which i also doubt giving the fact she may want to always leave the deep freezer on to preserve her food. Car, i believe isn't a necessity, considering the fact she isn't with any flow of income. She could register for school bus to help transport the kids to and from school. To be paid with the sch fees. Remove the expenses spent on the car monthly(fuel & maintenance) and she'd be somewhat relieved. If the car had a major fault that would gulp like 70k to bring back to use and the man refused to send her money for the repair, wouldn't she ground the car and start living a life outside it? Given the condition of things or realities on ground, some things aren't just necessary.

I am not advocating unnecessary hardship for a housewife, but my point is, she could comfortably manage that 50k. She just needs to cut her unnecessary expenses.

If she was a single mother earning that monthly, would she give up the children for adoption? She should just let go of her ego. She should forget about the fact that she's a wife to a Man in obodo oyinbo. Her grouse may stem from the fact that she believes the guy is capable of doing more than that, now that he's refused to, why can't she just be grateful for the lil' she has and get her thinking cap on. She needs to stop depending on the man for her absolute care/upkeep. The earlier she realizes she has a role in sustaining her home, the better. Ok, what if the man in question suddenly stopped sending any money what would she do?

As i earlier said, no amount is too small nor too much for upkeep. It all depends on your LIFESTYLE. There are several families under similar or worse circumstances, yet you can't see their children and categorize them as "ajepako".

We may talk from now till eternity, it won't make the guy increase the money unless he's personally convinced to. In the mean time, she should just get her big bottom a job or biz to offset the bills.

There are several families under similar or worse circumstances, yet you can't see their children and categorize them as "ajepako".

Jahblessme:
@emiye
Honestly,its suffering to me because there are 2 kids involved.If it was only her,it's different.
Its important for kids to get a decent start in life if possible especially when the man spends 200k when he's around.

I buy clothes when the need strikes..I buy for the kids very often cos they outgrow them pretty fast

@Emiye,the pampers won't be enough? for 2k how many will be in a pack.I was in Naija a while back and had to buy wipes for the baby.It was 500 for one which would just last a week especially with a small baby.You forgot recharge cards for phone abi she won't call the 'abroad' husband.What of uniform for the kid?textbooks?school bag and accessories? Kids misplace a lot of stuff, you have to keep replacing.
I don't know the kind of clothes you mean that will cost 5k for three people.That one is pure wretchedness. kids grow out of clothes so quick,you keep buying and buying.

I also dunno the toiletries that will only cost 2.5k? Unless they'll use Shea butter, Vaseline talcum powder and hard tissue.deodorant,perfe,soap,toothpaste,sanitary pad nko?
Won't she at least relax her hair or braid it? not to even talk of fixing a weave?

Jahblessme:
With growing kids,you constantly buy clothes.That's why I know most of you don't have kids.The list is too tight for Mom and 2 kids.
Only way its feasible is if there's no other option cos this is pure suffering

Jahblessme:
@Getumad
So a man should comfortably lavish 200k on himself just cos he came back from jand? Is he not living above his means and giving the wrong impression to his wife and others? Is it not smarter to put that money to good use by making sure his children's needs are met to the dot?
As far as I'm concerned,it's irresponsible and the needs of your family should come first instead of showing off what you don't have.Please take a look at that list and tell me if it's not very tight for someone with 2 children who doesn't have a job?
Clothes for 5k for 3 people? phcn 2k For a month It's ridiculous.Errrr,the stew for one month,won't it be in freezer?If she doesn't run the gen how will she preserve it? Or is she supposed to be warming it everyday with the 1month kerosene?If she ditches the car,how will the kids get to school?Okada? Is that not dangerous?Is it not more stressful and expensive to be going via public transport daily?(this one I don't know)

As I said,if one isn't struck by abject poverty, it's dangerous mentally to live with this sort of extreme rationing.There always has to be room to manoeuvre Cos of miscellaneous stuff that could come up.

She needs a job/biz asap cos this list is kponkious.


Fxwarrior,no offense meant but you seriously sound like an extremely stingy person.The good thing though is that you are also likely to be stingy to yourself so in this regard,you are better than the man.
There's nothing wrong with someone who can't manage with the 50k monthly as long as they can afford it.Your friends wife with large expanse of land who isn't gardening shouldn't be paining you so much,not everyone cares for gardening.If they complain,its not your biz nawww.Its them and their hubby.
I know you believe yourself to be a realist,but from what you write I feel like your own realism has over stretched.

Please,make sure your future partner is like you or at least knows your rationing power.
I would go crazy if my husband talks this way.I'd only be okay if we are dirt poor and have no other choice.

Meanwhile, make the 50k budget for the family.Emiye has done his own.It might actually be useful for those who truly don't have an option

@Emiye,the pampers won't be enough? for 2k how many will be in a pack.I was in Naija a while back and had to buy wipes for the baby.It was 500 for one which would just last a week especially with a small baby.

chidyhels:
With this your list, hunger will finish herself and kids.
Start keeping a proper list of your expenses as from today. You will be marvelled at wat you spent.

50k can never be enough for a mother with 2 kids and a car to maintain.
Pack car one side or sell it and start a biz ,use gen only wen its necessary, she should just drop that mentality of living big just becos her husband is abroad. Her focus should be on how much is on ground.

GetUmad:
Heheheheh, bro where do you stay? PHCN-2K for where? I can't remember the last time i paid less than 8k for monthly PHCN "levy" (levy, cos even if you don't stay in that house for months they'd bring just same amount for you).
That lady should sell that damn car. In Nigeria, cars are not meant to be owned by people without any flow of income.

Sincere9gerian:
Guy, forget the propaganda, APC lost the 2015 elections long time ago. Here are the facts on ground at the moment:
Presently, PDP controls 21 states (22 states if you add pro-GEJ Anambra) while APC controls 14 states.
Secondly, APC is not sure of victory in some of its controlled states such as Nasarawa, Lagos, Ogun, Imo, Rivers, Kwara,etc.
PDP has footsolders that can influence substantial votes in APC dominant states such as kano, sokoto, etc
APC has almost zero influence in PDP dominant states such as Akwa-Ibom, Enugu, Delta, etc.
The presidential election will be conducted alongside the national assembly elections, meaning many voters will most likely along party lines.

Timehin:
I am not interested in PDP but the will of Ekiti voters.

Timehin:
So what happens to the will of the people? Do you think Ekiti people will just sit back and allow their mandate be jettisoned

egift: APC, please give us a Buhari/Fashola 2015 - It has the Skill, Vision, Capacity, Solution, Sincerity and the Votes need to send Jonathan back to the creeks and rebuild Nigeria for Good.

edogirl2: Actually, with over 30 years untarnished reputation fighting for our human rights (me, you, and everyone else), I would like to think that Mr Falana is to be respected for his contribution to our life as a nation.

I am sorry to hear that you are disappointed in him because unlike our thieving politicians, he's probably not rich enough to come home to Ilawe now and again to distribute rice, ankara etc. Mr Falana is a man of modest means. I also think we need to move away from demanding that townsmen and women must 'benefit' from an individual for that individual to matter in society. You are effectively asking this guy to be corrupt, otherwise where will he get the money to 'benefit' Ilawe people?

Please be assured that many of us who have witnessed his sacrifices for us the people are eternally grateful to God that he was and continue to be on our side (the ordinary people of this country).