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Yugoslavia247:
In Nigeria we have many reasons marriage is not working

Poverty poverty

dettolgel:
The main reason is that in UK people stop pretending and show their real self.

Here in Nigeria 99.9% of marriages are pretend-marriage.

Remove the social signma associated with single motherhood or divorcee and watch most of the marriage pack up.

Klass99:
Or you can sound out people close to you through honest conversations for their candid and unbiased views which is a cost effective option. Well grounded people whose judgment you trust or can trust.

What you are proposing is not a bad idea either but a person's pocket can take a brutal hit with long vacation stays. Attached are screenshots of my posts from 2021 when Smile4mee01 created a thread asking if people had any regrets about returning to Naija from the diaspora.

These are real people I know well and personally and these were honest conversations. Some without prompting or me prying, shared their thoughts during normal conversations. It wasn't a Q & A session with me firing questions at them.

Link to his thread here https://www.nairaland.com/6704962/nigerians-returned-abroad-regret#104856572

pansophist:
They want to dump Ukraine and focus on China. They've seen that Ukraine was a bad geopolitical mistake, and it has triggered global dedollarisation.

You know that they've admitted defeat when Nato secretary Jan Stoltenberg is advising Elensky to forego the annexed territories and sue for peace.

But Russia is not the real threat, it's China. China has global interest, from the BRI, to Petro Yuan, couple with their economical might and being the leader of Brics.

If they defeat China, then Russia will be less powerful and confined to Europe/Central Asia only. So they have to act fast because waiting is dangerous.

China grew so big in just few decades, they can't afford to waste time to make China more stronger and harder to slow or defeat.

extremelygolden:
Marriage/ relationship these days nawa.

When you're cheating, please don't ever open your mouth to tell me "babe, you know I love you" because even before you finish uttering such gibberish, that thunder that has been doing press up for something now will manifest from no where! Nonsense!
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Yugoslavia247:
Your marriage is about to see shege.

Do you bother about your husband sexual feeling the same way you bother about him cheating on you.

Most times that's what you all do.

Like you don't know it is the sex he needs.

Focus on understand his sexual appetite.

If Vicky leaves the scene
Antonia
Anabel
Cinderella
Senorita

Are waiting in line.

Now he would become smarter or furious.

She must have worked so hard to satisfy your husband for her to ask such questions.

Who is sweeter between me and your wife?

Imagine the kind eyes she go dey use dey look you.

Anytime you are at peace with your husband she go dey vex.

Better up the game and claim your husband not just from Vicky but others.

Be insightful.
Observe him
Know why.
What if na the gal give am green light.

You don't need to rush.

If you rush you no go fit borrow oven.

Sit your husband down and discuss it.

It might be difficult but try. Don't try and fight the gal. You go embarrass yourself, your husband and the family.

Call his family instead.

If possible make una go out and settle the issue because you na go too shout.

You need to be smart.

Imagine that you know and act like you don't.

Even your husband go fear.

Leave the gal and face your husband.

Na im get problem.

E Kon be neighbors

Kaya mata self fit dey work.

Maybe the gal dey wear braless cloth and pantless.

The thing he want the gal understand

U want use Vicky hook up play.

She go Sabi suck dick

When last u suck him dick.

That alone go make am never leave Vicky hook up.

1Alex:
Ok

Procashtips:
France may likely be the first western country to get divided since they have made their motive known to the world.

Algeria and Morocco should be ready to use their population in France to turn it upside down.

Procashtips:
Apart from cutting light and water + food, maybe it's time they use the unconventional Nigerian landlord's method.

Remove the roof

Rent enough noise makers, blasting gibberish 24/7 with deafening speakers + dumping serious refuses all around the vicinity.

Dshocker:
OP repeat after me;

A is for Apple
B is for Bomboclaat
C is for camel-Toe
D is for Dildoo
E is for Envy
F is for Fool
G is for Goat
H is for Hoe

You deserve 25 strokes of the cane.

tuzle:
Hmmm, u are looking for trouble. But on a serious note, inter Miami will beat the hell out of kano pillars even without Messi and I am a Ronaldo fan. Is this ranking from fifa because it sounds ridiculous. Maybe one aboki from Kano came up with the ranking

uche87:
This piece isn't aimed at discouraging anyone from relocating to the United Kingdom. The country has the 6th largest economy in the world and it offers massive economic opportunities for both the young and old. It is also beautiful and gives maximum exposure to people. But things are changing and they are changing rapidly. You need to be mentally prepared before you get ambushed by harsh reality. Keep the following factors in mind when trying to take the plunge.

(1) Limited job opportunities:
As a fresh immigrant, it takes the grace of God to crack the white-collar job circle. Even if you get white-collar jobs, most of them don't offer visa sponsorships. So, they can't guarantee you any desired visa extensions. To someone who wants to stay back in the UK after studying, what's the point? For the blue-collar sector which apparently admits every willing or unwilling human being available, the jobs are disappearing. You must have heard viral stories of people on healthcare visas not getting shifts. As if this isn't enough, job opportunities are drying up in the less desired warehouses where hard labour is rife. The warehouses constituted the last hope of the common man those days. If you are hoping to gather money to pay your school fees from hustling in the UK, you might need to have a rethink.

(2) 20hrs Work Limitation:
In recent times, there have been strong rumours of student visas being canceled by the Home Office, after the holders failed to stick to the 20-hour work restriction in a week. It is one of the most traumatic experiences an immigrant can face abroad. Imagine you are getting an email that your visa has been cancelled, while you are just settling in, with a huge debt hanging over your head. You might strongly consider detonating a Kim Jong Un-like bomb in your village to annihilate any witch/wizard that might be linked to your predicament.

(3) Housing Crisis:
The housing crisis in the UK is so severe that people now take their house-hunting activities to the NSPPD altar at 7 a.m. It is not just about the exorbitant prices alone, it is about the stiff competition you will face from other applicants. It is as competitive as applying for civil service jobs in Nigeria and India. These so-called accommodations come in the form of "poultry" due to the relatively small sizes. They also come with massive paperwork that could be cumbersome for a new immigrant to satisfy. This isn't the challenge an immigrant wants to face due to its overwhelming nature.

(4) High Cost Of Living:
Living costs constitute a global issue and it is highly multi-factorial in nature. Major cities in the UK like London, Manchester, Sheffield, Bristol, Birmingham, etc., have been hit by mass migration, thereby straining available public facilities. People with permanent jobs are feeling the heat not to talk of the casual workers living from one unassured shift to the other. For a man converting naira to pounds to cater for daily expenditure in the UK, the thoughts of running away, or committing suicide might be crossing his mind, at least 4 times in a day.


(5) Low Chances Of Staying Back:
The chances of international students staying back in the UK after schooling are getting slimmer than the popular Nollywood actress, Lepa Shandy by the day. Before you know it, your 2-year post-study period would have elapsed and you might have to return home. Before now, healthcare visas have come to the rescue. Today, the opportunities have been abused and the forces of demand and supply have also affected sponsorship opportunities in the healthcare line. If you think you can easily marry a citizen to stay back, you might have to buy some anti-depressants, as a backup plan.

In conclusion, the best way to easily scale through these hurdles, and weather the storm might be by owning one of President Tinubu's controversial bullion vans.

Osahon George Osayimwen is a Journalist and a Developmental Psychologist

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CodeTemplar:
You used to be their chief complainer and solution provider on media via moronic article ideas/suggestion. Provide solutions now or keep quiet while pillaging.

Regex:
Just like Pansophist said, the West will give BRICS the nail to nail her coffin. As for breaking up Brazil, if they could do it, they wouldn't come on social media to announce it, rather they will be at work doing all the can to achieve their aims. All they just did is to try and scare Brazil. They can't even achieve their aim not with Russia and China backing. Perhaps they have been trying in the dark without success and are trying to use insecurities to see if they can achieve their aim.

Maxxim:
Those guys don suffer, abi wetin concern me sef na their wahala 😁
I wish these women pasts can be visible on their forehead half of men's problem will be solved

pansophist:
Remember this comment. America will give BRICS the reason to fasten up the creation of a new currency and alternative to swift with their new useless sanctions. Watch and see.

Maxxim:
What you wrote there is toxic masculinity 😅
One of my friend had this babe then that she's aborted pregnancies for em uncountable times, the last one she did she fainted when she returned back to his door step, they later broke up and she ended up marrying a gentle guy like that, they even had their white wedding, each time I see the husband post on facebook proffesing love to the lady, I just smh.
The standard of getting an ideal lady for future partnership has been at it's lowest

illicit:
7 to 10 men in a day



Ashawo strong o

seanwilliam:
Most of my day-one friends have left.
I feel somehow thinking about it sometime, cos most guys around me now are not REAL..
But nothing spoil, 20 children no fit play together for 20 years.

Princewill1:
No country is a paradise.

Hardship is everywhere!

it's only dvmb people that doesn't know this.

Acidosis:
Anytime people complain about their reality abroad, you lots are always too quick to throw in the "swap" nonsense.

But... when Lagosians tell you to leave Lagos and go back to your village, we all get angry. You want to complain about Lagos that is obviously better than our villages but yeah...Nigerians in Canada should not complain because (same reason).

How are you better than ronu people?

Martinez39s:
... and Ronaldo's woman isn't with him for money? Just dey play.

Bisola100:
You had £10,000 to give out

You fell for a scam that is still existing till now and people are still falling for it.


Why didn't you Invest that money on yourself
Own your own business that'll fetch you daily income.

Procashtips:
Meaning I can be changing my first name and gender annually?

2023 Adesegun - Male
2024 Mojisola - Female
2025 Chima - Non Binary

Wonderful madness.

pansophist:
This is why I always said that wickedness is like destroying your tomorrow for the greed of today.

All the Yahoo boys, yahoo pastors, polithiefcians, bad governance, corruption, nepotism, tribalism, and so forth, will bite Nigerians for sure. We can't escape it. It's the nature of life.

Nigeria effectively is a landlocked country. Minus ecowas, there is no place Nigerians can visit. The ecowas sef is based on luck, when Nigeria was still good. Our ecowas neighbors, many don't like us.

A tiny country like Finland for example, has at least seven international airports serving it, with a population of just 5M people. Nigeria has over 210 million, and just two major international airports (Abuja and Lagos).

And the two don't have much airline traffic compared to let's say, Accra. More airline flies to Accra than Lagos. A so-called giant of Africa with such a sad tale.

advanceDNA:
Life happens and life's pressure and nature takes its toll on pple's appearance, from.pregnancy, to UV, to work stress, sickness and so on.....
Ur woman will also undergo changes with time......and someone will look at her and wonder : "who the fvck sleeps with this ugly woman"

N3TRAL:
Relationship is not for the broke 😂

BigBelleControl:
ok If money grew on trees, girls would date monkeys.