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Between Alisson and Ederson moraes who do you think is the better keeper?

Dpsychologist:
you may be reading the first :rational male

Yh, he talked extensively on oneitis in the first chapters.

luminouz:
You too should use the mirror approach. Making eye contact is not alien to introverts. There are many introverts that are not shy with making eye contact, I'm one of them. I talk when I want and keep mum when it's necessary. But you need to master the art of using your eyes to speak your mind.

There is something irresistibly attractive about a man with a steady calm gaze. It shows confidence and charisma and nothing breaks barriers faster than adding a smile(shy or bold) to that gaze. Women won't say this but they fuqin adore such men. Even in business or generally, other men have this tendency to trust you or hear you out when you can look them in the eye with a steady calm gaze. Such men are bank CEOs and politicians. They make you wanna trust them with your life savings because they look calm and seemed sure. Personally, I gauge people on what I see in their eyes. The eyes are truly the windows to the soul and I see your personality reflected when you look at me. A man who can't look me in the eye gives me concern,more so,when the dude's eyes keep shifting from left to right,up and down... everywhere but my mudafucking face. To me, such people are shady and shifty...like a cornered rat or a ferret. I don't tend to trust them.



So please, do learn to maintain some form of eye contact. Just look at them for some seconds,hold their gaze, then look away and back at them while letting your wordplay do the work. I have even learned the art of arching my eyebrows to punctuate my words while looking at the target. So she/he would be looking at my facial gestures/expressions while listening to my words. I make better impression that way.

Abeg!!! When I say make eye contact, i'm not talking about the creepy, werey, starry eyed gaze of a fuqin stalker or some weirdo on a mudafucking doomed mission. Don't stare at the person fixedly like a predator or start smiling one mumu fake smile biko. That shit would scare dafuq outta people. Just take ya time with it, practice makes perfect.

Morning yall

Thank you!!!
You just doubled my ginger to work on this, I totally agree with all you have said.
Good morning.

Saviolamemphix:
Same here bro am an introvert, and i hardly maintain eye contact. It's just not my thing

Lol, that thing dey weak me ehn.
I was talking to a girl the other day, she was staring directly into my eyes, but my eyes was just wandering, then I started stuttering.
It's obviously something I need to work on, cause it might be a weakness that may be used against me.

wwwtortoise:
It is a sign of insecurity and lack of confidence.
In a business setting, it could spell distrust.

Practice eye-gazing using the mirror. Then start with a minimum of 20-30 secs of eye contact before you break while conversing with someone.

You can start this practice with your siblings, friends or close buddies.

Thank you for input and practical suggestions.
I will work on it.

BLOODYSPERM:
The symptom of your problem is that you lack the Alpha's frame and you are still thinking like a shy beta(Simp) who is afraid to man up due to internalized onetitis( scarcity mindset )
You need to spin many plates , and develop the skill of approach,I can't really give a full explanation because you really lack internal game but there is a powerful book I suggest you read, even 2 yrs after I started spinning plates I still make reference to it, you can download it on pdfdrives.com , it's titled bang more lays in 60 days by Roosh V

I agree that I haven't fully internalised the red pill, but I don't have the scarcity mindset and oneitis lol, that was the easiest pill to swallow for me.
Although I was naturally introverted and shy before the red pill, I noticed I had problem making eye contacts with people (man, woman, child), and found people who talk while staring directly at you uncomfortable.
I am just wondering if it should be a source of concern to me.

Emmynator:
I want to ask something about eye contact.
I realise that I am not very good at eye contacts, like looking at someone eye to eye, my eyes will just start wandering as if I am scared to have eye contact.

Does this have any underlying meaning or implication?
Is it something I need to deal with?
What do you think I can do to become better at this?

Can anybody help with this?

I want to ask something about eye contact.
I realise that I am not very good at eye contacts, like looking at someone eye to eye, my eyes will just start wandering as if I am scared to have eye contact.

Does this have any underlying meaning or implication?
Is it something I need to deal with?
What do you think I can do to become better at this?

Talent alone isn’t good enough if you want to succeed in the Premier League. This is a according to Chelsea boss Thomas Tuchel, who has urged Chelsea midfielder Kai Havertz not to rely on his endless talent and has urged the midfielder to work hard. Photo: Getty images Havertz has struggled since arriving at Stamford Bridge in a £75million transfer this summer and has only found the net once in 17 Premier League appearances. “What I feel from him is a very friendly, intelligent and open guy, with a lot of potential and we will push him,” said Tuchel. “He seems to be like the guy that needs to be pushed, we will not stop it. “For him, this league is perfect because he cannot rest. He has so much potential that he has to be challenged physically also, it is not enough that he can rely on his endless talent. “In the end, the question is does he have this, can he show his teeth in the end when it gets tough and I was very happy on Wednesday, it was him that did almost the decisive header in the box against all the towers from Wolverhampton. “It would have been a nice goal but he did not hesitate and that is what I want to see from him, the rest will come because Kai can be a huge, huge part of this club.”

To whom it may concern

SOZINN:
Guy na lie
Tell me say na lie
I don die

She was raped.
She didn't know who raped her, so she hooked it on the guy, saying he looks familiar and she saw him in her dream, the court rationalise her lies and deemed the man guilty.

iamJ:
show me havertz's stats from fm that I have posted here


If you are not intelligent enough to understand what I meant, that is not my business oga


The whole fm thing is that he thrives when he is used properly, I haven't posted goals or assist

If you can't produce any evidence of havertz's stats that I have posted here, shut up and get out of my mention

Sorry for you, if you aren't intelligent enough to get my point all the while.
You even mentioned harvetz and Bruno in one sentence lmao.
You said and I quote "same havertz when dey boss your bruno, united no qualify for uefa" please tell me the relevance of this statement, then let's see the unintelligent one.

iamJ:
if my point was in service to yours, you wouldn't call it dumb

FM is a simulator, it is not perfect but it's close, climate change, traffic congestion, human migration are all simulated, genome sequencing and many more are all done using simulators


All those powerful super computers that you hear about are simulation machines

All the work they do is simulation

Fm isn't perfect but if you play a striker as a keeper on fm, I don't care how good you are, that player wouldn't succeed, they have player development on lock, do you know how many stars I have spotted on fm before they became stars real life

Do you know the power of big data

All these nairaland boys self



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_U7oPkApmFc

Mtcheww, did I tell you that I didn't know FM is a simulator?
The more reason why you shouldn't bring it to the table here.

Keep bringing harvetz FM stats here, nobody takes it serious.
I believe they are better things to defend harvetz with, be a little creative and find it.

iamJ:
same havertz when dey boss your bruno, united no qualify for uefa


Na lampard backwards football dey hold my boy back since, by next month una go see the guy well

Dude, stop using FM to make a point, it makes you look dumb.

CaveAdullam:
I literally rolled on the floor when I read that line. Lol! Oh boy! You mad o!

With women, the way up is the way down; the way right is the way left, doing obvious things will get you nowhere: A powerful quote indeed!

Lol, i tell you.
When I was a simp, I thought doing this or that will get me women, imagine my shock when I realised it the opposite thing was actually going to work, that's why I value this quote.

Peaceyw:
It seems one common thing in the anger phase after coming in contact with TRP is to snob women, I am still in my anger phase and I just ignore women. I do as if I can't see them. I saw my secondary school class mate recently and I didn't even go and greet her. I saw her from afar and I just looked away and did as if I never saw anything.

I was in the anger stage for a little over 4 years, this thread helped me get over it, I got to scoop some knowledge from those far ahead of me in trp game, it was then I knew I was stuck.
Last month I decided to leave that phase, the goal is not to hate women, it is to be the best version of yourself and honestly being the best version of yourself naturally attracts women, and so the red pill arms you with tools necessary to deal with them.

I collected a girl's number yesterday and she was so happy and was trying to hide her smile.
I met her 5 months ago, where I went to improve my graphics design skill (the place had constant supply of electricity), then I was still stuck in the anger phase of the red pill, so I was very snobby, I noticed that she had an high influx of attention from guys and always talking about how one guy or the other is asking her out, here I saw the extent of the thirsty nature of beta males, as they were always offering her financial help and gifts even when she refuses.
As I came there, I didn't even give her one kobo attention, she started trying to get my attention, she said I don't reply her greetings and I told her I do answer her greetings, except she is looking to receive special greetings from me, special greetings which I don't have to give, the look on her face was golden, I no send I just continue my attitude.
I was going there everyday, and everyday she tried getting my attention, trying to engage me in conversations, but I just give short answers and end the conversation. It was strange to her, I guess she was wondering if something was wrong with me, cus I was the only one not giving a Bleep about her existence. I must confess, it felt so good doing that, depriving her of attention.
Then came a shit test, she came to me that she was hungry, I said "OK? What should I do?" then one other guy was like "come lemme buy food for you" and I was like "follow him", she said no, that's it me that she wants to buy food for her, I just laughed and told her that she ain't hungry then, the other guy was still persistent on buying her food, so when she saw I wouldn't bulge, she went with him, she came back with snacks, and offered me the snacks, I collected it and ate it(lol, you cannot shame the shameless, moreover eating beta males money is sweet ehn).
Since then, she started looking at me differently, she had nothing but respect, one day she came to meet me and collected my number, I didn't even ask for hers in return, I just gave her mine and lock up.
Since last month I decided to get out of the anger phase, I started building relationships with ladies I knew, wanted to get to know women better from my experience, while applying the red pill tenets.
I started talking with her frequently whenever I went there, she was always giving me attention, she tried shit testing me alot of times, but I passed with flying colours, later she started becoming clingy, and giving me eye contact every time, I later decided to collect her number, as I asked her she just brought her phone out and called me with the number I gave her (if she had did any shakara, God knows I would have locked up and not collected again), she was so happy ehn.

With women the way up is the way down and the way right is the way left, doing obvious things will get you nowhere.
God bless the red pill.

Girls using themselves as reasons why Nigerian girls are not liabilities, you will love to see it.

angelfallz:
No there are others,
The Rational Male
The Rational Male; Preventive Medicine
The Rational Male; Positive Masculinity

but, i have not seen any free copies of the first 2.

I have one which I am reading, but I don't know which of the three it is, I need to read all three.

Dpsychologist:
Many teenagers are also facing same problems. And most of the time they have no one to depend on. And asking others about women sometimes might be embarrassing so many men pretend they know how to get ladies and use money as a weapon to entire women.

For teenagers in many families, talking about love or relationship is sacrilegious, so they will seek help from other sources.

angelfallz:
Please download and read, "the rational male; positive masculinity" by Rollo Tomassi

He explains the red pill and how to apply it in relation to women

https://www.pirate-bay.net/search?q=the+rational+male+by+Rollo+Tomassi?q=the+rational+male+by+Rollo+Tomassi

Is there only one rational male book?

MY RED PILL JOURNEY.

Here is me, a 14 year old guy having his first real infatuation, I was overwhelmed, the whole "love" thing was really strange to me, being my first time. Prior to my falling in "love", I was a nerdy guy, extremely introverted and shy, since I had no one to advice me, I started reading Google articles especially wiki how, and I started doing a lot of nice stuffs (shared my data with my crush, lol).
Then about 4 months later I made a move to ask my crush out, which was rejected, I was really hurt and depressed, the logical me was like "you are too young for this shit", but my heart was telling me a different story. I ran to wiki how once again and was reading articles on how to deal with rejection, it didn't really help but I moved on with life painfully.

Later I found my way to nairaland and picked interest in romance section because reading many heartbreak stories made me know that I am not alone, then I came across one of the great ubunja threads, his style of writing was captivating for me, I didn't mind the length of the thread I was done in a jiffy, then I read all his prior thread. It was at this point I knew that I fvcked up big time with the way I dealt with my crush, reading ubunja threads was the beginning of my journey to the red pill. For over two years I kept repeating them and following up with new ones.
Within that time I was in anger phase, it was almost as if I hate women, but in truth I was scared because of the grim reality that the red pill exposed me to. While I was at the university, I avoided girls a lot and my introvert personality helped me with that.
After 5 years since then, I graduated and I didn't have any relationships while in school to the surprise of most of my friends.
Within this time I started reading a lot of red pill content online, it was them I started seeing faults in my application of the red pill.
I knew it was time for growth, and my discovery of these points helped me in making the decision to leave the anger/fear stage.
- the red pill is beyond man's relation with women, it deals more with man's relation with himself.
- the red pill is not necessarily against women, it just about arming men with the right tools in dealing with women Etc.
I started opening myself up more, took very seriously my personal development, started making more female friends and having this platform where redpilled men share their thoughts helped me pick up on where I was lacking, it is now I can say I am really understanding the red pill, before now I was living in a shadow of it.
At the age of 21 now, I can say I am not an alpha male, I am not
the finished product, but I am on my way, its not easy to fully swallow the red pill, because one need to internalise the principles and make it his default settings.

**sorry for the long read.

MY RED PILL JOURNEY.

Here is me, a 14 year old guy having his first real infatuation, I was overwhelmed, the whole "love" thing was really strange to me, being my first time. Prior to my falling in "love", I was a nerdy guy, extremely introverted and shy, since I had no one to advice me, I started reading Google articles especially wiki how, and I started doing a lot of nice stuffs (shared my data with my crush, lol).
Then about 4 months later I made a move to ask my crush out, which was rejected, I was really hurt and depressed, the logical me was like "you are too young for this shit", but my heart was telling me a different story. I ran to wiki how once again and was reading articles on how to deal with rejection, it didn't really help but I moved on with life painfully.

Later I found my way to nairaland and picked interest in romance section because reading many heartbreak stories made me know that I am not alone, then I came across one of the great ubunja threads, his style of writing was captivating for me, I didn't mind the length of the thread I was done in a jiffy, then I read all his prior thread. It was at this point I knew that I fvcked up big time with the way I dealt with my crush, reading ubunja threads was the beginning of my journey to the red pill. For over two years I kept repeating them and following up with new ones.
Within that time I was in anger phase, it was almost as if I hate women, but in truth I was scared because of the grim reality that the red pill exposed me to. While I was at the university, I avoided girls a lot and my introvert personality helped me with that.
After 5 years since then, I graduated and I didn't have any relationships while in school to the surprise of most of my friends.
Within this time I started reading a lot of red pill content online, it was them I started seeing faults in my application of the red pill.
I knew it was time for growth, and my discovery of these points helped me in making the decision to leave the anger/fear stage.
- the red pill is beyond man's relation with women, it deals more with man's relation with himself.
- the red pill is not necessarily against women, it just about arming men with the right tools in dealing with women Etc.
I started opening myself up more, took very seriously my personal development, started making more female friends and having this platform where redpilled men share their thoughts helped me pick up on where I was lacking, it is now I can say I am really understanding the red pill, before now I was living in a shadow of it.
At the age of 21 now, I can say I am not an alpha male, I am not
the finished product, but I am on my way, its not easy to fully swallow the red pill, because one need to internalise the principles and make it his default settings.

**sorry for the long read..

Kennyking1234:
I met this girl and am becoming infatuated how can I stop this feeling.

I will be Frank with you, infatuation is one of the hardest things to deal with, it hits you hard and fast and if you're not careful, it will produce fruits of simping in your life.

How to deal with it?
The one who loves more is in a bad position in the dynamics of any relationship, if you decide to act on your feelings, you will most likely end up being at disadvantage both short term and long term.
my advice to you is if you can overcome the urge to act on your feelings, then let her go. If you can't give her space, like make a deliberate effort to cut her off.

I had a girl I was infatuated with, during the same time I found the red pill, I cut her off and took time to internalise the red pill, today I see her as just another girl.
It's not easy but if you have a strong will you can overcome your infatuation. I hope this helps.

Raalsalghul:
Pheeewww!

I'm too invested in DC's CW series to back out now.

Not after

Seven seasons of Arrow
Five seasons of The Flash
Four seasons of Legends of Tomorrow
Four seasons of Supergirl
1 season of Batwoman
2 seasons of Black Lightning

Odds are I will still check this out with all their glaring faults.

Don't get me wrong, but you may actually need to be checking your IQ from time to time, if you notice a reduction, please do yourself a favour and delete all your CW stash.

Martinez39s:
@Emmynator

You friend had shown you what I have always said: that simping is a disorder.

Honestly, I was once skeptical about the red pill, but my friend's life confirmed it for me. I instantly knew what I had to avoid becoming "a bloody simp".

I maintain my frame at all times.

luminouz:
Please let's help him bro...

Conventional ways(talking and explaining) don't seem to work...let's be unconventional biko. Give me for a week...lemme beat him black and red or take him to my cassava farm make e work for one month.

If he still believes that his GF is the best thing after sliced bread, then set his ass up. Invite the girl over and when she comes, record ya conversations. Push her to talk of her toasters and she go talk of your disgusting friend. Play him the video when you reach home. If he doesn't change, donate him to the gods.

He won't change, he feels the right person will reciprocate his "niceness", I pity him if he carries this behaviour to marriage, by that time it will be too late for him.

Nezzjnr:


What did I just read ffs

Omoooooo Guys dey ooo

No be small thing, guys like that must exist, if they didn't there will be no red pill.

RAGGA40:
I have simped for two occasions (secondary school and university paid 1500 naira tickets for two ladies, didn't get time to enjoy my money) but since then i haven't spent a kobo on women, i'm always on my lane to the extent my guys see me as a homosexual because i'm nt being seen around women for centuries, my dad, my mum are always talking abt marriage and grandchildren they don't know whats up at all

A lot of guys have simped in the past, it's fine as long as you aren't going back there, the problem with my friend is that he has made simping a way of life, his principle and natural behaviour, which is clearly a recipe for disaster.

Reece James is daft!!!

Lampard has to teach how to make these kind of passes in training.

I have this friend who is an irredeemable simp, I don't like throwing the word simp around, but believe me I have confirmed this guy to be a title holding simp, and he is irredeemable to back it up.

So this guy got into a relationship, put the girl on a pedestal, as much as he is struggling bought the girl a phone, the phone he bought for her got spoilt, then he collected that one and gave her his own, and practically went phoneless till he was able repair her own. All advice fell on deaf ears, I got tire and stopped advising him since it was clear that he was deaf.

That is not the height of it, this girl had the guts to slap him and insult him, yet he was the one who went to beg her, when I heard this I was mad and concluded that skimping is a disease. The girl developed zero respect for this guy, but he would always swoop in to solve her financial needs, this is someone that is struggling financially. Then she started cheating, this guy was still holding on to her, preaching forgiveness to himself, I was beyond livid, cus this guy is my padi, after month of my guy taking trash, she broke up with him, I was happy for him but the idiot was down and was playing one stupid love song on repeat.

I thought OK, maybe he just loved that one, imagine my shock when his next relationship followed that same line of actions, pheww! I just weak for the guy, and the guy was so proud of himself, forming mister right.

I brought this up because recently he told me that the first girl contacted him and told him that she misses him and she haven't seen any guy like him bla bla, so he was saying if you treat a girl well, she will never forget you even if she breaks up with you. I laughed and told him "treat her "RIGHT" and she won't break up with you".

I wondered where he gets it all wrong, until he started telling me about his new crush, damn, if I didn't already know her, I would have thought she was an angel from heaven, so perfect, spotless and blameless. He had already married her in his mind, exalted her above her station without actually starting anything with her. Funny enough, this girl has a crush on me but I shun her, imagine how I was laughing when this guy was glorifying her to the highest heaven (lol, this girl wey I know?).
So the guy when to ask her out on a date, she told him she was busy, that same week she called me and was like I have forgotten about her, and I have never bothered to come visit her, I told her OK I will try, then she said anytime I am ready that she is free. As my friend told me that he asked her on a date and she said she is busy, I just told him that she has rejected him, but he insisted on trying again. I have longed given up on him, I know when he reaches his skimping limits his head will get correct.

I am sharing this story, because this my friend was the biggest confirmation of the red pill truths I have come across. And I learnt some important lessons from his simphood, the principal of them being that you can't save a simp, just leave them till they get played into the red pill.

iamJ:
Sold the mugu
Went back to check

Savage scout

I used mount in my fm and he became a star player, 4 star general and captain.
Lastly, using FM to Diss mount is pointless bro, try to do better.

MJBOLT:

Dark stuff, the guy wasn't even up to the rank of side guy sef.