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You have made a standard decision at the beginning of the relationship that ''No Sex Before Marriage'' right? You should have stick to it. Kissing, cuddling and romancing will eventually lead to intimacy and you will be the one to regret in the end.
And as for your guy, I don't think he loves you truly. I have been in your shoes before and I understand how you feel. If he loves you and cares about you, he would have pick your calls and settle the issue with you. See, the guy wants to take that advantage of you and later trash you out of his life! It doesn't matter whether you have receive money from him or not. That's how some men do. All men aren't the same. We have good ones out there but are scarce. Omo, open your eyes, ears and mind so as not to be a victim of deceitful men. I hope this helps.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

I feel for them o. May their soul rest in peace. Jos weather is too cold and harsh. I know wetin my eyes see for Jos during late November to December.

Kai! For that side, e go double

TUANKU:
If jos is this cold i wonder how places like pankshin and mangu would be.

I concur @funmisticqueen

funmisticqueen:
Flogging her will worsen matters.

Tell her the truth about how guys operate. Tell her that if she gets pregnant early or outside marriage, the chances of her suffering and being poor in life will be sure.

Tell her that condom is not enough, she can still get some diseases through it. He can year the condom.

Tell her that guy doesn't like her, he wants to use her.

Tell her the truth, she is your sister, not those other ladies. Look out for her.

Hmmm..... Best friends mata. Hey bro! Save yourself from this drama and guard your heart from heartbreak and depression. The lady in question has shown in her chat with the new guy that she has left you for him. That should give you enough reason to end the relationship. If she keeps begging you from morning till night, omo she will still go back to that new guy she call her bestie. Mind you, don't allow your love for her to blind you from realizing the truth in the end. And are you sure she loves you in return? I don't think you understand the damage you are getting yourself into emotionally. It is way better to be best friends with a true companion. It's a good thing to date and marry your best friend. I can't imagine myself loving a man who has a female bestie, hmmm.... I am a jealous type o but not to an extent. I just can't tolerate that lailai!

Hmmm..... Best friends mata. Hey bro! Save yourself from this drama and guard your heart from heartbreak and depression. The lady in question has shown in her chat with the new guy that she has left you for him. That should give you enough reason to end the relationship. If she keeps begging you from morning till night, omo she will still go back to that new guy she call her bestie. Mind you, don't allow your love for her to blind you from realizing the truth in the end. And are you sure she loves you in return? I don't think you understand the damage you are getting yourself into emotionally. It is way better to be best friends with a true companion. It's a good thing to date and marry your best friend. I can't imagine myself loving a man who has a female bestie, hmmm.... I am a jealous type o but not to an extent. I just can't tolerate that lailai!

Thanks for the complement. I am not perfect but I am getting better and stronger daily. Perhaps, we can get to know each other as you said. I like to meet new people.

Ademolaononuga:
@EmpressT

So many flowery proses here and it's absolutely exhilarating. Life is a test and your soul here is pure. Keep that soul and don't let butterflies churn so soon in your belly by smooth words. I'll like you to reply my PM. Your writing style is good and let's get to knowing each other better.

I learnt that being greedy by taking advantage of people's weaknesses or situation all because you want to please yourself will not give peace forever. No matter how long you do it. One day, fowl yash go open and then you go know say in this life no secret is covered. All that glitters aren't gold.

That's impossible my dear

SHOCK7:
Pls put up a full length pic of yourself so I can verify!

Ok.

Jesse25:
OK give me a call or Message me

Not on whatsapp

Jesse25:
Whatsapp me 07086442489 let engaged socially � Am waiting

Really? I don't know you man

Jesse25:
Baby let go and settled down in Jos together

Yes! I have done crazy and stupid things to impress a guy all in the name of love. Maybe not anymore. I am yet to meet a man who can do the same for me. Hush.... I don't know.... Honestly, I have been hurt really. Depression won drag me to an early grave. But one thing I notice about men is that they are easily attracted to me I mean easily even male pastors which I find unbelieving. It's now I see reality. Temptation is really a powerful force. My dear, if you aren't so strong to stand firm in whatever you believe in, omo u go peme for life!

As far as this is Nigeria, Plateau state will forever be my favourite because I have been there and I have had an experience living there. Their foods are way cheaper and cost of living also. Jos for me is like a small london

Thank you....

themaestro08:
What an amazing soul you are!.

It has taught me that material things cannot replace the values I possess as a woman. It has taught me never to stoop myself low for someone who doesn't value integrity. Integrity is all that matters to me even at the point of death. Before you change a negative perception or habit in a person to positive, you got to change first. That's the only way you can make a difference in people's lives.

I cannot judge of what you did but I can help you. People are bound to make mistakes. We should only learn our lessons from the past.
All that you have pinpointed are clear symptoms of STD. Thank God you aren't HIV positive else it could have worsened your illness.
For you to have a rest of mind, go and do an STD test to confirm if truly you have it or not. And then start doing the necessary process to be healed completely. If you mind, I can recommend the remedy for you and you wouldn't regret ever. When you want to, just send me an email on my profile so we can talk better. I pray for you to recover quickly my friend.

Pearl1996:
Nairaland famiy I need help.

Somethings been eating me up. I had sex with my boyfriend some weeks later i started falling so sick I will try to point out all I can remember
*Came down with what I felt was fever was burning hot so hot you just need to come close to feel the heat

*at night I sweat. Not just the usual sweat but one I have to change my clothes two times a nigbt(this happened for like a week)

* I started feeling so cold especially in the morning. Doctor said it was pneumonia + a cough that lasted for three weeks plus.

*and the rashes I ve never have in my whole life spreaded all over my arms and back as well as my breast region.

* I also had serious muscle ache. Serious that my mom had to help me massage it. My neck did hurt too it felt like someone hit me with a blank on my neck

* nodes on my neck, groin, as well as ear.
* I started having blurred vision and sores on my lips like fever blisters

* and then injuries in my mouth, weird ones
* I have oral trush at least thats what I thought them to be. White tongue I have had this before but this onr is different. With slimy white things in my mouth every time

*I also experienced dehydration and dry mouth.
* also had a delayed flow

The symptoms are so much I can't even mention it all. Most of these lasted for about a month +. I still have cold till this day. I shiver most times and its my major fear. And the rashes are still there.

This Is the major problem. The nurse who was handling me said it might be an STD maybe HIV I took plethora of test including HIV after 3 months all came back negative, I was told to wait 6montgs to check for HIv again it was still negativr. During this month I have seen so many doctors, private and government all they do is givr me drugs but I still experience the pneumonia cold( no cough) and occasional mouth sores as well as the rash. My boyfriend now my ex took HIV too it was negative.
Please doctors in the house what can this be. I have read so many threads here on naira land of people who had same experience but some later turned + they might be lying though.

I heard after 6 months and test is still negative then its not it. My question now is. What is wrong with me. I have spent so much on drugs and test. And no doctor is able to say what my problem is. Its making me crazy as I am even scared to shower because of the cold and I can't let people see my body due to rash.

I need help.

Nawa ooooooooo!!!
There's nothing we no go see or hear for this wicked world. Well, I am not amazed by all these ridiculous acts being practiced in churches like this. The end of the world is very near and it has been said that many unimaginable things will begin to show forth.
The only way one can be saved and know the truth about life in general is to seek the face of God through His mighty word i.e the Bible. Prosperity pastors and fake prophets have dominate and pollute the entire space of human race by spreading lies, deceit and poisoning the minds of believers of Christ.

I will urge every genuine christian to always meditate on God's word and follow His laws and ordinances to letter. Life is like an echo. Whatever you throw to life will surely comes back to you.

If you want to stand steadfast and be rapturable with Jesus on his second coming, remain firmly where He places you.

Yes I believe so

GerogeI:
Am very sure you will too!!!

I'm glad to hear you say so.
Well, by God's grace I will meet one soonest

GerogeI:
I hope 2019 has been fruitfull too, as it is gathering it's loin cloth for the very last run. For me, I have learnt this year of amazing gift packages, that God keeps for us beside those jagged milestones that we all individually use to count the progress of our life journeys.

You know those jagged milestones, that form from our scars. It's really amazing there is always a gift tucked into each one, which we often ignore. God never leaves us bare without a prize for our races. Hope you get my drift.

Then, me prodding? Have you found your magic yet? That motherly Ache in your ❤️, has it gotten soothed yet?

I am doing great!
Life is good to me as always.

GerogeI:
Hello Empress of the Niger!
How are you doing.
Hope life is sweet and filling your pockets with olives, or cherries when olives are not in season?

Hey friend. Don't throw yourself into confusion. The result on the test you did confirms that you have a high blood pressure which is above the normal 120/80 level.
I am not a doctor but I am aware of its causes such as; poor diet (high intake of carbonhydrate food mostly), excessive stress, lack of sleep, eating late at night or in the day, hereditary and so forth. High BP and heart attack work side by side. You must take your health to heart else you could experience some nervous conditions. My dear, I can recommend some food supplements to normalize your pressure instantly if you wish. And I need to add that you need to give yourself a break. Take alot of rest, go on a holiday. Eat good meal and less of fats and cholesterol. Drinks plenty of water. Also, try and do a little exercise in the house. Again, always have a cool bath except the weather is cold, it helps to calm your body system. I hope you are the type that laughs very well lolz. It's also good for your health too. So, that's my suggestion.

mayordy:
It’s a new job and everybody at work have noticed something is wrong but I’m just keeping strong. Could it be the high blood pressure because the doctor has refused to say anything about it?

Well, I have moved on from my past life. I am a strong, gorgeous and loving woman. All thanks to Jesus the lover of my soul. Happy birthday to me, happy independence's day. Freedom @last.

I sincerely concur with Shelumiel. I was also a victim of depression since childhood until Febuary this year. Why? Because of low self-esteem and my inability to realize how great, brave, smart, wonderful and appealing I am. I used to be someone who sees my happiness in others forgetting I could be happy all by myself without faking it. It was so hard for me to get back on my feet. My dear, depression is real and it spreads wide like diabetes and the end of it is suicide. It took me deep counsel from my siblings, and taking my time and effort to meditate on God's word. I later noticed gradual improvement while reading the Bible and listening to tapes that feed your mind with good messages about who you are. I love listening to soul gospel and jazz music from my best ''Yanni''. These tools have motivate and re-mould me to become an exceptional being. I could care less about what people say or think of me because I will never again stoop myself low for someone who doesn't deserve me. I have mastered emotional challenges and fear of not loving myself and now I am an overcomer. I have known to love God with all my heart, I have known to love myself and see how valuable I am.
My friend, you got to let go of anything that will cause you hurt and pain. Learn to let go gradually. You should discuss your problems with someone you can trust and confide in. Learn to explore..... Go out for social gatherings that are of benefits. Avoid being alone all the time. Watch comic movies just to make you laugh. And there's nothing bad crying out your eyes when pouring your mind out with a trusted soul. Read intellectual books. Take charge of your emotions. When I feel down on occassions, I go to have fun with kids. I am always excited being around them. Learn to smile alot. And above all, read the Bible from the first to the end. There are alot of things to catch up from it if you are willing to free yourself from depression. Depression has no regard for anybody. You are the one to put a stop to it before it draws you to an early grave. Your life is too precious to be thinking about this deadly illness. Jesus Christ, the Judge of the ends of the earth loves you infinitely and He cares for you my dear friend. Give Him a chance to take permanent charge and control of the source of your thoughts. Please, visit a true man/woman of God or a therapist to assist you to be healed from within. I pray this helps.

Albinoflash:
i tried that for long but it only got worse,now have lost faith in everything.religion,friends,family,Nigeria and even life itself.can't focus anymore.am at the extreme,just trying to buy time

This suicide thing is becoming alarming everyday. It is sad that the youths are the one falling in this mess. I tire o!

By not sticking to a well convincing antibiotic could result to a serious health problem now or at old age. I really want to help you stay alive and stand fit. Maybe if you don't mind, we can hook up, discuss and recommend a fast remedy to your health issue. What do you think?

ssgi4in1:
Good evening good people. I am hoping I will get some help here.
Pls this will be a bit a long. I beg you to read. So you can understand better.


My problem started last year April (2018). I was diagnosed with typhoid and malaria. I was started on a course of treatment that involves anti malaria and an antibiotics (azithromycin). I noticed the quality of my sleep was dropping after taking the antibiotic for 2 days. My instincts was that it was the medicine. I eventually stopped taking it but by then my sleep have become badly affected. I woke up a Sunday morning after taking some drinks the previous night at a wedding with one severe type of headache ( I started the antibiotics on Thursday, took on Friday and missed it that Saturday) I continued that Sunday morning. So I eventually stopped all medicine and consulted a doctor friend. By then I had gone two nights with little or no sleep. He prescribed some drugs that was meant to induce sleep and even increased the dosage yet I still couldn't sleep.

Meanwhile before then, I am someone who could be called a sleeper. I can sleep at anytime without stress. I even take naps here and there in my office. So it was strange.

I eventually went to some hospitals and their treatment involved giving me sleep medicines and sometimes it could help me get very little amount of sleep and then it will make me feel very groggy and heavily fatigued. By this time a weird sensation have developed in the left side of my back head (this pain doesn't come and go... It is permanent). After spending some huge amounts I wasn't getting relief until I went to a neurologist. He first suspended all the sleep medications and started giving me amitriptyline 5mg every night ( after few days I started feeling better and had some deep sleep) but still the problem wasn't gone ( head pain and stiff neck).

I was paying about 30k monthly at the neurologists. It wasn't sustainable and I eventually stopped and decided to take my fate in my own hands. I eventually stopped taking any medication for sleep last November.

Between then and now, I have had some good nights where I slept very deeply and nights when I struggled. I have gone like 2 weeks without sleep issues. But still the pain in the back of the head and neck still persist.

Just yesterday I went to consult another gp and his diagnosis was that it was the poor sleep that is causing the pain in the head and neck. But I still find it difficult to believe. I will be having a video session with an Indian neurologist tommorow and I hope he will make a different diagnosis.

My coming here is to know if anyone have had an experience with my case and I would like to know how they solved their problem.

I will appreciate any suggestion that will be of help.

Thank you.

Hmmm.... I used to drink alcohol to help me sleep from depression and insonmia. I thank God for my life for giving me a new hope to live again. Then, I notice when I get high(slang), I could clearly see and remember things occuring at that moment. This could happen to few people.

I can marry a man with erectile dysfunction for REAL LOVE. Aside whether he is prince-charming, cute or wealthy. What I love in a man is his good heart. That's my target.
And for the illness, we can work it out. Trust me *winks*. I have heard and seen few men with this problem, and now their marriage is still alive producing more babies and they are living in harmony. So, I got the secret whic I'm not gonna say here lolz

HannahHitler:
So you meet this cute man, prince charming.
Bastardly Rich but he opens up to you that he can never get John Thomas up?

Would you marry him?

For the men would you let your sister do this if you were aware?

PS: this is in reference to the abortion thread on FP

It is the best feeling in the world to love God wholeheartedly even when people are failing or struggling to love you. I refuse to sorrow, mourn or be dumbfounded in anxiety. I refuse to rely my happiness on anybody. Building your self-esteem and confidence in God grace makes you happier and stronger. Just be You ok. That's the only way you can have peace of mind.

Lol! Maybe, just maybe

franchasng:
What ladies want a man to have before he starts asking them for marriage:

1.) Source of income (money)
2.) Car
3.) Comfortable house (rented or owned)
4.) Cheerful money giver to them alone
5.) Orphan if possible to avoid MIL & relatives wahala
6.) God fearing so that he won't cheat on them or bring another girl home with pregnancy one day lol


Other qualities to ladies are inconsequential

Hello Sweet Georgel! I only want to check up on you

GerogeI:
As a mother, get into your child's world and find out what is exciting him so much before you end up beating it out of him. It might be something worth developing. Your child has a vivid imagination, most kids do, but some have it better than others.

And no, Nigeria does not have best environment for kids. What you have here is excessive focus on discipline, and zero provision for special minds. Unless you mean the village setting where the child is free and will develop all cognition skills, but have poor knowledge.

You do sound like s control freak though, what do you mean brushing teeth every single day and putting clothes all in same basket, that's boring as hell. Where is the exciting exploration part.

Experiment with your child and find out what his interests are, and set up avenues to develop it. That will calm him down or even exhaust him before the day runs its cause.

And what must a man have before going into marriage? - An idea of who he is - His perception about marriage - The level of his maturity to handle life issues and his reaction towards them - Being financially independent - A clear description of the kind of woman he wants as a life partner - Is he willing to commit as a married man? :/ Guess I have said enough