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Heykayxx:
Fuel economy, maintenance, spare parts availability, and availability of skilled technicians in your locality.

There is Mechanic for any car in NIgeria,BMW or Merc, even RRS, nobiggy

if you got a bmw 320 , whats wrong with it as Uber? or merc

breakerofchains:
Nonsense.

The worst that will happen is break up . Period.

Everybody should date their type because I'm tired of these third world problems

" should my bf wash plate?"
" should I eat meat in my in-laws house?"
" shullai mop my boyfriend's mother's house and wash all her clothes?"

Tufiakwa

Rubbish as a gf, you have no business in ur bf mother's house let alone mop her floor.
2nd I said U specific cannot ask him if you have one to wash plate in his own house. Yes ofcos U won't return to that house again you already know this why argue.Even the so-called western women you would be surprised they are becoming more domesticated and envious of our culture cos they got none.

breakerofchains:
You only remember western culture when it's time to say rubbish...

YET
How many of your biggest religions are African?

The clothes you put on are hugely influenced by western culture.

Technology nkor?

Abegiiii

Vast majority of ladies talking on here are single and I dare them to tell their bf to wash plates cos they are tired, we know what will happen next

kingbusy:
i got the vehicle 1.3M

Now that's a waste 1.3 m, you just risked ur money, there is no way you can legitimately get your car into Nigeria. Land border was closed ages ago, therefore, any car crossing into Nigeria via land is illegal.NO need paying the duty, you might as well smuggle it down straight up, any money you pay in the name of duty is void

PrinzCarter:
So common sense sent his child abroad I never knew dis is wat he has been trying to tell us , wat ever u do make sure u leave dis country..

ahaha so U jst know? I don dey tell people since dem nor dey believe, port sharp sharp if the chance presents i tself

Mizwisdom:
You know that's a lie

WOmen are the worse when it comes to laughing at poor people, chi, women get bad mouth God punish poverty

Mizwisdom:
Same way most females want a handsome, young, educated and domesticated husband but sadly our desires are not always seen as important. Top on the list of many ladies desire in a spouse is one who can cook and help with domestic chores but who trains male kids for this? Africans even went further in being insensitive by trying to make females believe our place of primary importance remains in the kitchen. Patriarchy is a scam.

COme on babe, be realistic you cannot tell that to a man as in what you want in 9ja, however, a man can say this in 9ja if he in a position to chose,
tell me waht domestication you want ur husband to exhibit after leaving home 6am and back 7pm mon to friday?in the worse case if you are both very busy you employ a maid.
That Domesticated part is killing me lol chey the man fo wash kpata too

Mizwisdom:
I see your point but what's the equivalent derogatory name you all have for men with the above description?

lazy youth

Mizwisdom:
Good one, with helping your sister get a head start. But I still sense the fear you're subtly instilling. You call it structure but it's still there. If they were guys will you think it's an important issue? By position of choice, you mean getting a guy while still young and attractive? well, reality check; it will not happen this way for everyone and if one of your five sisters don't get it right according to you, will you still offer support, help and necessary encouragement she needs if she has to be single even in old age or will you accept that she should be the topic of jokes and be disrespected as it's currently happening for those in the group? we've programmed our minds to only one outcome but there are several ways people can end up, what will you say to a daughter that wants to be a Reverend sister, if you're Catholic?

if my sister says she wants to be a rev I would support her, my JOB is supporting not dictate, this is where you are getting me mixed up, no one is dictating rather helping and support is the watchword, now that's family for you. We do that well in Africa better than the Europeans. There is no fear in helping one's sister get a head start as regards age, yes this is true sad reality but it's true we can't sugarcoat it. tell me would not like a young, attractive,well to do and educated woman for a wife?

philip0906:
Not true! As long as a woman makes use of the exact same 24 hours men have to make money LEGITIMATELY, no one will condemn her even if she is 50 years and single. She’ll drive the narrative; we’ll respect her...e.g Genevieve

Problem is when you’re single, broke and at the risk of becoming and evening newspaper but still make noise and wanting to be in the same boat as men, we tell them to keep shut!

Exactly and if you check, women are even the 1st to laugh at their fellow single friends.lil thing you will hear stuff like please oh let me come and be going to cook for my husband he will soon be coming back frm wrk

Mizwisdom:
I know you won't see anything wrong in it as you've been programmed this way. A man, over 50 won't be condemned for being single but a woman same age or younger will become the joke of all and there's absolutely nothing wrong with this, it's perfect to you. First off, is the issue of discrimination against single females, i think it's something we should start getting uncomfortable with, not accepting it outrightly, this is the reason why you'll see a woman close her mouth even when she knows her daughters are being sexually abused by their father because she doesn't want to become single, you might not know it but fear of discrimination leads to multiple problems.

Talking about discrimination, who discriminates single women? is it not the same WOMEN? so I reckon this issue should be addressed by women in the 1st instance cos from all ur convo, there was no one peice of advice in how a single lady should structure themselves so that the stand at a position of choice rather as want.Look I have 5 sisters behind me, i tell them teh gospel truth, get ur degree work hard and place ur self amongst a position where you can choose rather waiting to be chosen and like this, they all listen to me as bigger bross.As we speak our last born finished her Nursing in 9ja and Im paying for her to go to the US to finish up so she can have a fast start in Life,My dear life is tough if you are not up to the task of the day you will by the line waiting to be picked sad but this is reality

Preshy561:
What can a man offer a woman with her own money? Absolutely nothing.
The world is changing my dear.
Mothers should stop coarsing their girl child into believing that her life without a man is nothing.

Seriously? so you are wiser than all these mega-rich women who still seek marriage and are married right?Talk is cheap,
I just realised here that the vast majority of you engaging me in these arguments are Not even married
This really speaks volumes.
Na so one Aunty on the Internet dey advise girls same same, she come see the future say age nor dey her side she sharply Born for married man come dey apologies online ahah Nowadays she, nor dey promote this line you dey aspire to promote so she respects herself since.

Mizwisdom:
Bro, in a perfect world and a perfect family yep child care for the baby should be like 70% mum and 30% dad because most kids that age just need to eat and sleep but take note, it changes as the kids grow beyond only needing food and sleep and it will work if the man agrees to fully take care of all finances needed by the family without grudge. But we know that in many homes, there's nothing like this. More than 80% of nursing mothers still have to work, they still have to contribute financially. If a woman decides to take a year's break from work she would usually be viewed as being lazy. So the dynamics has to change. There's nothing wrong with buying washing machine but why can't you be the one putting the clothes inside and getting the job done especially when your wife is also a contributor to the financial upkeep of the home

let me ask you this, the man works offshore so she has to wait for the man to come back in two weeks to put the washing in the machine right?? also let us stop the assumption of men calling women lazy. Who does that? I'm talking men here, not boys joke apart, a real man knows the worth of his woman and the effort she puts into making the home works, the woman is the bare HOME, a happy wife is a happy life sad wife is sad life for the man.I think one needs to be in the situation to truly appreciate what it takes to be a mum, its a full-time job for life, as an adult I still talk to my Mum regards to stuff. Being a mum goes beyond reading books and learning on social media, every home brings its own challenges and you as an individual would have to derive ur own unique way and means to make things work within ur household.

Evangkatsoulis:
You depressed?

No sir, and what made you come to that conclusion, are you insane??

Mizwisdom:
You truly depict everything wrong with our society, I know you're joking though but yeah, this is how people build fear in young girls' minds from childhood. She has to be the one looking to find a husband and if she doesn't find one, there's a real problem

There is nothing wrong in what I said rather there is everything morally wrong in what you said, I'm sticking to the Nigerian context here where you as a woman cannot open your mouth in a town meeting and tell you, parents, you do not want a child? we are not talking western culture here we are talking of that within the Nigerian context.Try and tell your mum in the village this * if man nor come no wahala.
What I am advocating for is for our young girls to place themselves where they will have choice not go with whatever comes along, cos when you as a woman find yourself i n the wrong side of 40 in Nigeria my dear, you got a lot of shyte to swallow in teh name of MEN

nwanneni:
like say you know.
That one sef na 34 she be then.her slogan then na "I am ageless and a daughter of grace"...
I just dey laugh for my mind ageless kee you there!
She be take like 8years senior me then
I dey see her status on WhatsApp she come be like say she dey 45 now I dodge bullet there walahi.
I met her e no reach better one week she come dey shout marriage up and down unto say time no dey again
I just kupu wetin I go tell my mama say I go look for there?
Better money she no get,old age don near,Toto don collapse.....etc
My brother say if to say n.a. daughter of Dangote now ehheeen!he go support,not one ordinary comfortable girl

You nor fit carry mama go meet your mama nah

Preshy561:
Deep!!!
Train your girl child as if nothing like a man exist, that way, she will be able to stand on her own. If man comes, fine, if man doesn't come, still fine.
That last thing i'd tell them is about marriage, it brings so much pressure to your girl child and mothers/society should stop this act.

if man nor come fine abi? tlk true that talk come frm ur belle? I mean the other one

Mizwisdom:
Off point. No I haven't but I live here, I know what's happening.

nah its not off point, I now know the reasons you are giving ur answers in the way and manner makes sense. When you become MUM, you will understand what my statement meant. The feeder of the child by default is MUM, the 1st scent the kid learns is MUM.MUM get to stay at home to look after the baby 1st few years of their lives. In the west, you can get up to a year's maternity leave for having a baby. Mum does the Domestics round the house and Dad gives Mum a break once he is around.If mum is busy like my Mrs, she will need the help of some sort, washing machines and dishwashers are a great tool, I got BOB well I call him BOB he cleans the house at a press of a button and even programmed. There is a nursery too.

Mizwisdom:
By "giving mum a break" it already shows you've been programmed to believe child care is the full responsibility of a woman.

have you ever been a mum

nwanneni:

Omo I dey kupu enter Tennessee,USA tonight oo from Douala.
We plan say we go race Benz vs Range Rover for december but you no come show again
I met one too like that for our town(PHC),na so she been dey run mouth like these ones dey make me dey on my toes Every time.
She got a crib and a Toyota SUV,she come think say she don arrive.na later I come know say she got those as settlement plan from one guy weh waste her time and no gree marry am
She makes some really peasant money for herself and after forming feminist up and down,she come dey beg me 50k up and down upon all her level
Happened to me twice.fear this women and their packaging

nah work nor gree me ohh, I left 9ja sharp sahrp November after 3 months, well 9ja babe dey run mouth B4 the age of 32 o nce 35 nack standard go come down once 40 reach nh to loyal money or no money, Man nah Man then

nwanneni:
I know na.
I just dey for bed dey laugh at their foolishness since yesterday night while i wait for my departure.
I wish It was the UK I was coming to tonight.Hanging out with you could have been fun.remember me from cartalk?
Your whole range rover conversion ish...I saw you succeeded with that,kudos..
I wouldn't even dare go close to a woman that doesn't make at least 200k.I did not come to this conclusion by sitting out in a cubicle and setting imaginary standards but by giving myself the same value as well
So if na to dey for her shanty dey make those demands,na to just dey watch her mumu dey laugh na

Yes nah true I remember joor, howfar where U dey remove go? you go play away match ni
some of these girls for eko dey package in broad daylight if you see where dem dey live you sef go fear.

nwanneni:
ericko I no know why you dey waste time dey answer all these wannabes them.
Just check the profile of the girl you quoted and see her environment
Which well to do guy go go that kind place to go pick wife? so just let her keep living in her fantasy world
If a woman wants a man that makes much,she should have some value too.even market boys don dey wise up.
The days of men going to one village to pick one otondo to uplift her and her people are over.
If you ain't bringing value too,just forget it!I wouldn't do such or allow anyone close to me to even attempt it.
Period!!

ahah, my guy, I feel you, today nah Sunday and no work so I just get time to dey here, U see me. Woman wey nor fit pay 10k to go venue wey millioneers dey wan marry millionaires, light and darkness don't mix

Safiaa:
That’s also true. I think women are always trying to prove they can do it all, always trying to prove to their husbands that they are worthy. Always trying to do everything to keep their husbands from looking outside, you are deceiving yourself. Stop suffering yourself in the name of love and have common sense for once. You are looking haggard yet you still want to prove you are superwoman. To who exactly? It couldn’t be me sha and I thank God my partner has the same mindset as me.

I think you should speak for yourself, that's too deep to refer to women at that.

Mizwisdom:
I partly agree, but disagree with the "manipulation" part. I think it's due to wickedness on our part as females and maybe a bit of this shortsighted nature of ours. If guys start being asked to wash plates, clothes and stuff, the mother(female) will be the first to protest, she will want her daughter in law to enslave herself while still contributing financially to the home plus sending money to her. It's still mothers(females) who train girls domestically while allowing boys freedom from domestic chores in the same house. It's not really manipulation, we are our own worse enemy.

I will never wash plates if I was being asked reason is I will see it as 2 much, I will buy my wife a dishwasher end off. This does not mean I can't wash my plates or clothes as I do so now anyway. But being asked to do so is taking it to another level.I think running after the kids is more draining than doing housework. This is where dad can give mum a break.

Safiaa:
Fine, get a maid. What about those who don’t believe in maids or allowing a third party to live in their marital homes? What about people reading this who do not live in Nigeria? Why do you have to result to an untrusted maid when the husband can simply help out in the house? Each to their own, but I really need some women to wake up.

And why are you genralising and painting evryone with the same brush, who told you men do not help from a few examples you watch on Nollywood?
there is such word as MEN program I call it, the man's JOB around the house, trust me they are more than what the woman do if you get a man that is hands-on.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Thanks for this, my dear. Don't mind these sexists men. After we still split bills with them, they won't be responsible with sharing the house chores. Later later, they'll still cheat last last, so what's the point? Let's drink garri in a mansion than eat fried rice in one room at obalende.

In the end, they'll still call us prostitutes. Let me suffer with my Ned Nwoko in peace.

See them, U do n get support abi

grayht:
they will start selling recharge card's

WHoever you are, you made my day you were the 1st person to make me laugh this Sunday God bless, and may laughter n JOY be ur portion 4 ever IJN

truthsayer009:
Hustle for where? Where would you have such time? Once you're married you have Minus -50% less time to do anything.

So after you got married you then went null and void yeah? really??

olalat:
not with court order guy. If efcc obtain an order from the court, the company has not choice but to release the details. If refused, they will be treated as aiding crime in d country.

ahah you lot are very funny, so tell me why did the USA not say Apple wh owns iPhone was aiding terrorism when they refuse to unlock an iPhone of a dead terrorist at the request of the FBI? that case was the benchmark of TOC in the whole world.I don't know why you lot are so slow, EFCC wants details of a card that has not been declared missing, don't know if it's genuine, don't know anything about its owner and don't want to do so
please wake up!

HeliosHay:
I'm just advising from my own experience Sir.

Everyone's situation is different. My dad married when he was just a teacher earning very little and he still managed to achieve a lot.

I want my family to be comfortable. By the time you take away rent, food, school fees, fuel for the generator, car maintenance, money used to assist parents/in-laws etc. you're already 50k - N100k+ out of pocket. And we're not even talking about having enough disposable income to invest and build wealth.

Thats why I said (for me), i'll feel comfortable with N500K+ per month...that's just my own humble opinion

for that standard, you are talking 500K nor even reach, do you know 500k is 6M a year?
So as you see my bro, once you reach the age get cracking, start small grow.marriage is like a focal point, it reminds you of your responsibilities this alone gives you the motive to hustle. There is a word we use in the west, its in everyday questioneer, its called dependants. kids n wife etc co mes under that, they are ur motivation.

VillagePipu:
My problem with empty headed girls is not even the girls, it is the fact that if they are mothers to your children, your children would also be empty headed.

There should also be mental compatibility when choosing a mate. Idiots ought to marry idiots.

AHaha true as well, garbage in garbage out