₦airaland Forum

TemplarLandry:
Peter what?

Let him keep wasting his time.

Sorry please where are you getting fuel for N50?

I don't even know what to say .

Pic 4 all the way. I hate fish.

Keep the two pregnancies. Get a place for her far away. Keep your wife. Don't tell her because the news can even cause her miscarriage.

It's obsession that is evil.

AA genotype is common . Relax you will find one.

He isn't loosing interest. He doesn't want it to get into your head and then start misbehaving.

No be book we wan chop . This guy Sabi governace

Which juju? Men decide to Walk away to a place they will find peace.

Keep deceiving una APC supporters not sane Nigerians.

[quote author= post=124720714]Very Good Development....
Other banks should follow suit ASAP.
We will get there......

Meanwhile,
Dearest Sane Nairaland members,
Sisi Yewande and Madam Ngo on behalf of All of us at [b][/b] are checking on you.

Times are hard
It is for the best future for us all.
No pain No Gain.
Guide your mental health.
Cut down on excesses and frivolity.
Keep joining us to pray for a better Nigeria 🇳🇬.
Slow and Steady we will get to the nation flowing with milk and honey.
A country of our dreams.
God bless you all.
God bless Nigeria 🇳🇬 🇳🇬 🇳🇬

We Love You all ❤️ 😍 💖

Thanks and Cheers.[/quote]You spoiled the whole thing by using' Sane Nigerians. We know which side you belong. After una don foolishly vote for wrong person wey dey show una shege banza u dey give encouraging words. Tell Tinubu Nigerians have been pushed to the wall and they will strike soon.

[quote author= post=124720714]Very Good Development....
Other banks should follow suit ASAP.
We will get there......

Meanwhile,
Dearest Sane Nairaland members,
Sisi Yewande and Madam Ngo on behalf of All of us at [b][/b] are checking on you.
U spoiled the whole thing using" sane Nigerians" ..we know on the side you are after you have foolishly voted the wrong person. Abeg Waka with ur fake motivational talk.
Times are hard
It is for the best future for us all.
No pain No Gain.
Guide your mental health.
Cut down on excesses and frivolity.
Keep joining us to pray for a better Nigeria 🇳🇬.
Slow and Steady we will get to the nation flowing with milk and honey.
A country of our dreams.
God bless you all.
God bless Nigeria 🇳🇬 🇳🇬 🇳🇬

We Love You all ❤️ 😍 💖

Thanks and Cheers.[/quote]

There's always a starting point no matter what.

BOSSkesh:
Omo disease choke
If you’re a Nigerian and you’re healthy you don’t know what God has done for you

There's no one on the surface without one or two health challenge. Let's manage our health well.

If he was told a day like this will come for him he would laugh it off. U can get up in mess you didn't sign up for. Becareful how you live.

dayokanu:
It depends on the circumstances surrounding the initial breakup

If it was due to childishness and some minor issues then I would consider coming back

But if the initial breakup was bordering on issues like infidelity, domestic violence and other serious issues I would advise not

And the cliche of not going back to your vomit is nonsense

If you used to work with a company left them and years later they gave you a very good offer would you also use that cliche?

Even at that , they can still come back together stronger after realizing their wrongs . Wetin God no fit do?

NiceJenny:
Only useless men does that. Real men dnt

Only Foolish women turn the children against their father. Apparently she's causing damage to the kids psychologically

Moana:
i have 3 cousins with children whose fathers refused to take care of and they even use their mother's surnames and over 7 people i stayed in hostel with that were single mothers with no support from their fathers are you satisfied with double the number?

Nigerian women are worshipped and how many of these worshipped women are being used for rituals and human trafficking. The number of rape and physical abuse cases on NL alone are alarming. Child marriage is a sign of women being worshipped abi? Okay continue

Single mothers can play victim a lot. Hear from the man to get a balanced story. U no dey Inside the relationship, na wetin dey tell u u carry for head

avicky:
That's not true. I have seen a father who abandoned his son after separation. The wife wants him to be involved in the son's life but he wouldn't budge. School fees, feeding, health has been the responsibility of the struggling mother.
Look, so many irresponsible fathers out there. Two sane adults should not bring their kids into the fracas between them.
So I don't buy your assertion.

I have also seen a mother who used the children as bait to torture the man. Most times women make it difficult because of the anger still in them

agabaI23:
No it is because most times, the women don't want them to be part of the children's lives but they will want them to be financilly involved fully. I doubt there is a father that will abandon his children because he is divorced.

Hmm.. wisdom

In some cases it is the woman,because of the pain of the separation denies the father access to the children to hurt him too. Even to speak with the kids is difficult .In this scenario if I were the man I would keep my cool and not fight it.

Great news.

BadBitch:
I read what you posted about what led to the divorce. My very close friend recently experienced the same thing. Hers ended after 5 months of marriage. Her ex was physically and emotionally abusive, she didn't even want to leave until the man asked for a break and eventually called it quits. I was happy for her. A failed marriage is better than lifelong suffering and depression. Recovery is also not easy. I would be honest, nine years is a lot of time and memories. A man who would neglect his child and blood because he has fallen out with the child's mother, is worse than a beast.

Find a friend/friends, that can always talk to you, listen to your rants, and encourage when you start to remember the past. You need a support system right now. Engage in activities that make you happy, eat out, visit new places, make new friends, start a side hustle, find a community to support you most importantly.
Recovery won't happen overnight, it's going to take time, live every day as it comes. There's light at the end of this tunnel, Beloved.

Were you in the marriage? Madam judge!

Chiquitq:
I've been there. Not divorced but separated. It's been over 6yrs. It was easy despite that the relationship was extremely toxic. I mourned for the wasted time and abuse tolerated. I was bitter about financial and material things lost in the course of the union. I was distraught by the embarrassments and insults metted out to my family and friends. I relocated to a new city and started totally afresh with my children. Got a job and started a business.
The man that I was married to was the evil of the earth and a fraudster and womanizer. To top it all, he was grossly manipulative. Being extremely manipulative made it hard for me to leave early or even set boundaries thoroughly.

When you say this your husband left suddenly, I believe you totally. He might be a narcissistic. sociopath. That's what he did to all the women he dated during our marriage. Many did not know he was married. He would promise them heaven, use them and disappear suddenly from their lives. Read more about narcissists.

Don't be in a hurry to remarry and if you date again, don't be in a hurry to procreate. I chose celibacy as a means to be totally free and live my best life. I have concluded that all relationships are challenging judging by other people's experiences and mine. On few occasions, one may be lucky but I'm too lazy to and lack motivation to try again. That works for me but it might not work for you.
Find a hobby and most importantly, improve on your finances and network. You would be fine in the end. Many nights, you would have flashbacks of events and be bitter but time would do justice. Try to have as little contact with him as possible. If he wants to speak to his son, doesn't have to be through your phone. Don't allow him to Hoover his way back into your life because he would just hurt you a second time. Stop listening to gist about him. It would help you to move on.

I see why he left you.

Realashbobby:
Financially, I am not missing him the highest I get from him was 25k monthly after we had a son last year. If that is what your dirty mind is thinking.

I am not missing him sexually, it's just that I can't imagine myself getting down with another man.
It's somehow to me. I will rather remain celibate.

I pray for strength and grace to receive answers to your prayers. For with God nothing will be impossible .

They may still come back . Never say never.

Never Say Never!

elantraceey:
There are many irresponsible adults from unbroken homes, he/she wasn't the one that caused the parents breakup so why should they be judged in that light?


In fact I can even say that some people from broken home must have experience the pains that comes with it and won't want their children to go through same too so they tend to be more faithful and very careful ( I've met a few like this) .


You shouldn't judge someone by their background but by the person they are now.

It is impact on them we are talking about. A child raised by single parent is psychologically imbalanced. It's a matter of time it will reflect in their marriage.

thotianna:
Op how far? Has ya self centered irresponsible papa come back?

Na mumu u be

Statistically it is true. In one way or the other they are psychologically damaged and may exhibit those traits in their marriages.

Everything is wrong with it . Don't fall for it.

Nigeria police is the worst globally.