milemimi93:
a slut can be identify even without seein her....

By ur initial quote I already know dat u are a slut..

well thank you. I will just take it to mean you are below my standards

JONNYSPUTE:
My dear please take your frustration to the guy that put you in such a bitter condition. The same girl that was against slutshaming of ladies but did not see anything wrong in broke shaming guys.

my dear that is because a broke man is easier to identify than a slut. Broke is a state that is amenable to change once you put your mind to it

milemimi93:
If u have gotten a life, u wouldn't com here by this hour of the day to create a thread and seek for cheap attention by ur supposed broke guys.

Bloody hoe.
It's too early to seek for attention

thank you, now please refer to my earlier thread on slutshaming

milemimi93:
Attention hungry hoes shall be ignored.

It's too earlier to seek for attention. Go get a life..

i already do have a life. One without struggle love with a broke man

spyg1:
The reason why i came here for advice is to avoid taking a decision that i will not regret in future.
There is a girl I met at a friend's wedding sometime last year, she is 24 years and a 200L student while iam 30 years old postgraduate student but an amateur when it comes to relationship. We started dating, at first I wasn't serious because I don't have enough money to take care of a girl, as a student sponsoring myself, I hardly have enough money to take care of her needs, she always complain that I don't take care of her which her friend's guy use to take care of her, the girl in question always advice my girl to quit our relationship because iam a broke guy and even if I get a job in future I will dump her for another lady, that iam just deceiving her, nevertheless she do assure her that I will not disappoint her, despite her friend's advice the love grew even stronger, at times she will buy me some gifts, me too I do buy some for her, having seen the commitment in her, then I started paying attention to her hoping that if things work well I will take her to the alter.
But, there was a day she called me to come and meet her at a particular Junction, on my arrival to the place I saw her exchanging phone number with a guy in car, upon enquiry, I discovered that she did not know the guy before, then I left home quietly she later called and apologized which I accepted. Another time I called her around 10pm and I discovered that she blacklisted my number, she did this twice which I confronted her and suggested that we should quit, she begged me and cry for Africa then I accepted her back again, After that, sometimes she will not pick my calls in the night and the following day she will giving excuses that she was sleeping, her phone is on silence or she plugged in her neighbors house etc, I started withdrawing from her, she called me one day and started crying that what her friends were advising her was true, I was just using her, iam just like other guys, she know the reason why iam doing this, is because she asked me to go and see her parents bla bla. To fast forward the story, she login her Facebook account on my phone and she forgot to logout, when I went through her chat I discovered that she use to give people they meet on Facebook her phone number and according to the chart I discovered that she met one yesterday, I also discovered that she is still having an affairs with her ex.
Note: Anytime i call her to come to my house she used to come.
I feel like quitting the relationship but because of sympathy and I don’t want it to look as if I disappointed her. Honestly iam seriously confused, now my question is this; is it wrong that I went through her chat?
Second, what should I do? should I confront her? or should I quit quietly?
Pls I need your sincere advice, insults are welcomed. I will appreciate if the modulator push this to the front page.

PLS IGNORE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS

please just leave her,i beg you, cos her friends were right.

milemimi93:


the op is using a phone bought for her by a supposed strugglin man..

really, what brand of phone is it.cos the kind of phone i use, a struggling man can't afford it. The only men who will be offended by this post are struggling broke men

bot101:
Lol, women of low IQ! No insults intended. The only women who are supposed to talk like this are those who have actually achieved something in their lives, not those leaching off struggling men (as you put it). If you haven't achieved some level of financial independence, what kind of guy stays with a broke girl I know you are one because I relate with a ton of girls who have achieved, or are on a path to financial independence, and guess what? Their brains don't spew such stank!!! Go get a life!! If you are a broke girl, you deserve a broke guy!!. If you think otherwise, then God help you!!!

dear women, this post is a perfect example of why you shouldnt do struggle love cos these are the same words a broke man will tell you to keep u by his side.

Boy meets girl,
Professes love to her with honeyed words,
You are my ride or die chick, build an empire with me, he says as they live in struggle, want and abject poverty.
There she is making 'sacrifices' to build the 'empire'
We all know how that story ends ladies.

For those who live under a rock “struggle love” is the concept of a woman being with love with a broke man. They are struggling in life but she stays with the man.
Now what is wrong is rhat when a man is broke, who do you think will take up the tab? You of course.

The men will play mind games and manipulate you to do his job in addition to yours. And you will end up either being worn out, with debt and just being on the losing side, and when the relationship goes south or when he does earn money, he dumps you to go after the woman of his dreams, or if you are married, cheat on you with said woman. Tyler perry's acrimony comes to mind. It is just a matter of time.

Which begs the following questions, what will a woman be doing with a broke guy in the first place? What kind of woman does such? Simple, to the first question, the 3 main things a broke man can offer a woman include,
1. Good looks which will fade away and comes with a penchant to fall for his schemes and manipulations.
2. Good sex, which can cause some women to.lose common sense and which is a double edged sword cos i doubt she isn:t the only recipient of such sex.
3. Great company, but still you can also get that if you friend zone him anyway.
While all these may be good qualities for an awesome one night stand, it is not the criteria to go by if you want something with more commitment. For that, the main criteria amongst others you should be looking for is a provider, responsibility and security.

Moving on to the second question,What kind of woman stays with a broke guy in the first place? Answer-A ride or die chick. She is simply the girl who isnt afraid to be down with her man, she'll do anything he needs her to. In hip hop culture where the term was born, she is a woman who is willing to support a man and his illicit lifestyle, despite how it might endanger or harm her. Some even go as far as to die for their men. And it happens everyday in different forms.Bonnie and clyde style. Another example is cookie from the series Empire who served a 20yr jail sentence for her husband lucius.
Ride or die chicks are either terribly naive or have no self esteem and mental issues cos there is no other sensible reason for a woman to behave like a lapdog.

Struggle love is not true love , it is selfish love. True love will say let me get my act together, then i will come for you. True love wont drag you down cos misery loves company. Ladies learn to realise the difference between the two. Most ladies would have been ride or die chicks at least once. The wise ones extract themselves from that toxic situation and learns from it. Goodday.

MissRaine69:
My money is not communal property when will women learn that this mindset is toxic to any relationship?

how is this mindset toxic, the more you realise that the man is the head of the family, the more you realise that the mindset is the way things are meant to be

Alexaonfleek:
I have tire for this nairaland sha. If you are a virgin they will call u mumu,ode,maryamaka,holymary,other bullshit names. If you have sex they will call you olosho,LovePeddler,slut etc

Pls what should a poor girl do

look pretty and tell them thank you cos u can never stoop to their level

JONNYSPUTE:
.. That's playing the victim card I said earlier. You were so myopic to balance your assertions but still want us to applaud your whacked view. Goodnyt.

i have hereby suceeded in creating a thread where no one slutshamed. Thank you all

JONNYSPUTE:
.. And you ve not seen where girls are broke shaming guys because the guys refused doing their biddings? Try to be objective when trying to proof a point.

i never said i was going to be objective, as you can see this post was directed to ladies. Goodnight.

scnonline:
whatever

sure, seeing as you have nothing to contribute

LaBozz:
My friend was about to propose to his girlfriend but now he is left confused as to whether he should go ahead or just forget about it.
The reason for this is because he had been away from town on a business trip. Him and his girlfriend has constantly been in touch while he was away so everything seemed okay. So while he was about returning, he called me and told me about his plan to propose to his girlfriend and I supported him so he said he wanted to surprise her so he wasn't going to tell her he is coming back the next day.

When he arrived I picked him from the airport, and right inside the car he called his girlfriend asked were she was and she said she was at home, bored and so so missing the guy. Just after ending the call we decided to branch our favorite Isi Ewu joint to cool off a little and there was the unbelievable shocker we got.
His girlfriend was there in a table for two with another guy. It was very obvious they had been there for quite a while so that means she answered his call right at that joint and was lying she was bored at home.

As a matured guy that didn't want to cause a scene, we just decided to forget about the isi ewu and we bounced out. She was so shocked that she ran after us but we just entered the car and zoomed off leaving her to continue her date.

She has been calling and sending messages but my guy ain't responding and he just locked up because he is really hurt.

Now he is thinking of forgetting about the whole proposal thing for now and he is not sure yet if after meeting her to hear her stories, anything could change.

Why are some girls this wicked, especially to good guys that decide not to cheat.

you jumped to conclusion

JONNYSPUTE:
.. So the ladies guys are slut shaming are not hoes?

they mostly arent, they are slutshamed because they are above a guys level simple.

scnonline:
And what will you gain from all this ?? Bemused woman

that is for me only.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. And you think by being sentimental about it,it will help you? My dear,guys slutshaming ladies is wrong just the same way its wrong for ladies to broke shame guys. Your writeup would have made more sense if you had balanced it but no,you wanted to play the victim card as usually.

where in writeup am i playing victim. How is it wrong for ladies to broke shame huys whwn they are actually broke.

gabinogem:
I hope u achieve ur desired goal after making lots of enemies from it... cuz sincerely I don't see any positive result coming out from a bogus onesided accusation such as this.

As far as it gives ladies some standards, i am all for it.

happybee:
Ashawo no get shame I swear

is that not the point?!

gabinogem:
I can see you created this topic solely to point fingers at the male folks... continue madam. Such mentality will only make things worse.

but it is the truth, more liberarion is coming soon and i will make a lot of enemies both male and female for it

Uglymugg:


You're mistaking me for someone else.

if you say so

ImaIma1:


They know that they have been pushed to a corner. That is why one of them is trying to shame us by downplaying the role of the vagina in reproduction.

ignore him

Uglymugg:

Wait wait... do women really not dress provocatively because of men? There's no way you're actually comfortable in that dress.

uncle, why do you slutshame the opposite sex

ImaIma1:


But it is not too acidic for the baby to come out from right?

he is trying to derail you dear because apart from slutshamimg And drooling at ass and boobs, he has nothing else to offer

ImaIma1:


But it is not too acidic for the baby to come out from right?

they are avoiding this topic like the plague by steering you off topic dear, dont fall for it. One thing that is noticeable is that, if thwy are not slutshaming or drooling about boobs and ass, then they have nothing else to talk about

gabinogem:
my point is guys aren't the only ones that slutshame ladies...what will you say about ladies that slutshame themselves

when you learn to focus on the topics at hand, then we can discuss

Uglymugg:


Babies form in the womb. The vagina is to acidic to produce and nuture life.

focus on the topic at hand kind sir

Uglymugg:


Do you really think babies are made in the vagina? I know that our education system is bad, but has it gotten to this extent?

here they come ladies

ImaIma1:
Responsible and sensible guys do not just open their mouths and shame ladies because they know better. It is those boys that lack wisdom and maturity that go around speaking ignorantly.

and more importantly a vision and the means to sustain a family

gabinogem:
yeah they do... but it's not a bad thing to support a lady nah. you know ladies are very emotional.

well, if we truly had more men supporting each other like you said, there wouldnt be many jobless, broke men out there with plenty of time to drool at ladies and slutshaming. but let's not digress from the main topic.

QueenBelle:
Its as if you rumbled with the wrong girl. Stop carrying this bitterness around. Not all of us hate them. Some of us think they're actually cute

nothing is wrong with a virgin boy. As far as his anatomy is functional

ImaIma1:


Many do it because they are frustrated...they don't have a job and their lives are not going the way they want.

So... bringing ladies down is a way to make themselves feel better especially when they cannot seem to get the lady they want because of her demands and their lack of finance.

well said dear, have you noticed they havent started slutshaming yet? Maybe it's too early to rejoice