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Iyaebe:
Nigerians and their subtle hate for biracial and light skin women.

It ain't even subtle. They don't hide it.

If you come across a mentally unhealthy person, male or female, run.

Don't bother trying to fix them.

stephenponti:
These things are what can make a man raises his hand against a woman.

Nobody, male or female, has a right to be violent towards another person. Nobody.

seyz91:
okay so what the Bleep is hard in canceling a hell union called wedding

The need to be a wife supercedes the need to be happy in Nigeria.

She'll forego her peace of mind because she doesn't want to be mocked for being single, which is tantamount to having leprosy in Nigeria.

I don't believe Tiwa means it when she says that women should offer more than just sex in relationships, considering she spends her entire life portraying herself as the Nigerian sex symbol.

She ensures that whenever you see her, you see sex. From her dance moves, to her numerous half-núde pictures, and recently her deliberately leaked sex tape. She wants to be identified with her sex appeal and there's no problem with that. She should just own it with her full chest and stop all the women-should-offer-more-than-sex nonsense.

pocohantas:
Very true. Then cheat on her with the freak. Tell her that men are polygamous in nature and she should ENDURE or leave. Buy cars and houses for these freaks. Take the freak on vacations while their virtuous wives are at home, pursuing an energetic 2yrs old child to drink custard.

Turn their wives into prayer warriors. She would be going from one crusade to the other. That is when she isn’t fighting side-chicks at Shoprite.

When they are old and worn-out, they return home to the virtuous woman like a prodigal son. She has to do what she knows how to do best, make the most out of a clueless and senseless man.

What did I miss?

The oilless soup.

It's only on Nairaland where men love virtuous women. I'll say it again and again. The one they can spend on and take to Maldives for holiday is the one they'll love and spend time with. Many WILL even marry them. Forget that thing they say that they pick a different type for marriage. They don't. That's why the crazy girls you know will marry way earlier than the domesticated type.

Very few men, and I dare say less than 20% want a Proverbs 31 woman. Forget what they say and observe who they pick when they have options (when they possess money, status and sometimes looks). They only look for a good woman when they're broke and/or have erectile dysfunction because they know she's compassionate and can put up with unfavourable conditions for "love".

I've studied the "logical" gender and one thing I've noticed about them is that they don't necessarily shop for what they say they like. They'll pick from the shelf what reeks of I-want-your-money, while castigating gold diggers. That's why gold digging women always win.

TheOldGods:
no I won't decide for her.that doesn't mean I won't reject the person

Oh I see. You won't approve the union.

See, for a moment there I thought brothers in Naija can decide for their sisters who they should or shouldn't live with. I was ready to create a new topic to discuss the matter.

However, if it's just mere approval, no biggie.

Grandmeister:
Complex indeed. Now I don't want her and the supposed ex don also jakpa immediately. Now Was it really worth the thrill?

Of course not. But I hope she picked lessons along the way.

Grandmeister:
THAT is not true. Tell that to the homely girl I took my family for introduction this year. Even my mum trusted her with her family secrets based on say she don get 2nd daughter...only for this homely girl to fvck another of her ex behind my back. I didn't meet her in the church either.

You mean to say men also experience from "good", "decent" girls what women experience from "good" men?

The ones who unleash heartbreak when you least expect it? When you can't see it coming because they were "dependable" and a bit boring, so you thought you were safe with them?

Sorry about your ex. She seems to have entered into a relationship with you while still in love/lust with an ex. Complex I tell you.

Grandmeister:
Sometimes I wonder if there is still one decent girl in this country.

Plenty. But probably not the boys' type.

It's the crazy, gold digging, flashy ones most of you scout for and when things go south, the homely Proverbs 31 woman will be bashed alongside them.

And no, they're not necessarily found in church (I dismissed church girls when I noticed that some of the most narcissistic, catty and bitchy girls I've ever met claim "salvation" ).

adeotiabdulaziz:
guy u no deserve any pity, u see all these u still go marry her. If u no do court marriage,marry another but foolish pple lik una go dey criticize polygamy

The man and his family live in Europe, so bigamy/polygamy is out of the question (illegal).

But what about divorce? It's an option they can explore. The woman has clearly shown that she no longer needs him and she's hell-bent on ensuring that the dude will never know peace as long as they're together.

The marriage has run its course.

TheOldGods:

I will never allow my sister to marry ordinary ssce holder, is she mad. In as much it doesn't determine success, yet it still very important in today's world.

Find your class of ssce Lady and marry, since you have money. You only have ssce but yet you're looking for a bsc or phd holder, no be juju be that. You think everything na money.

Help me understand something.

Are you the one who determines who your sister should marry?

And if so, is it a Nigerian thing? Or is it specific to certain ethnic groups in Nigeria?

I have lived many years on Earth but I'm yet to see this strange phenomenon where I come from. Is it a common occurrence to decide for an adult who they should live with in Naija?

Your response will be highly appreciated.

Klass99:
I feel you on your entire post, I remember the old Nairaland I wasn't an active user but I enjoyed logging in to read comments, follow debates and issues.

I even stumbled on a 2013 thread which was up to 7 pages and guess what? Only two comments out of the multiple shared were off and insulting.

Present day Nairaland is just something else.

Yes. I remember days when Nairaland would be a source of information for students doing their thesis.

I was a member then under another moniker. Most of those bright minds are gone. It's sad really.

saddler:
So this thread became a battleground for tribal dissing and bashing

Did you expect a different turnout of events?

Personally, I'd be disappointed had it just ended in castigating the crime and walking away.

Ayotemide:
Beyond shutting these teenage boys up, we must demand that these pieces of dung stay mad or out of the front page
Misogynistic, illiterate bastards must never get a say on platforms like this

Nairaland was such a wonderful platform when the internet was still expensive. It refined the individuals who'd access Nairaland. It was a top notch site where intellectuals and professionals would meet and debate on crucial matters.

When the internet became accessible to everybody, in came the street urchins, the teenage boys and the hoodlums. Now everything is about simp, redpill, snake, hoes, wide toto, pr!ck, body count, virgin, non-virgin, clitocurrency, fish brain, it's a man's world, feminist, etc. They sound like a broken record and the worst part is that they think they're "logical". In their heads they actually believe that the trash they spew is logic.

It's a pity, but it is what it is.

@ topic, Happy Birthday to Nse Etim. A very refined actress.

Sirheny007:
"47 - Still a diva"

You'd think she meant "47 and still Young" but no.
She's celebrating the fact that she's 47 and yet can still hoe..

What makes her a hoe if I may ask?

shegun4sur:
So what??

Nothing. Carry on.

InfinityFabric:
Female orgasm isn't necessary, just an add-on.

I agree it isn't necessary.
That could explain why many wives and girlfriends still stay in marriages/relationships even when they're sexually frustrated.

InfinityFabric:
Assuming most women are capable of the truth, guys will just try to get better. Not cry like babies like women do.

If Nairaland is anything to go by, it's not the women who cry and whine about stuff. It's the men.

They see single women, they cry Shiloh.
They see pre-wedding photos, they cry.
They see divorced women, they cry.
They see a woman with a new car, they shout clitocurrency up and down.
They see a woman over 28 without a child, they cry menopause.
They see Linda Ikeji at 38 get a baby, they cry and curse.
They see a woman marrying a wealthy man, they curse her that she's in for the money.
They see a woman with a not-well-to-do husband, they mock her that her shakara don end.
They see a woman borrowing urgent 2K, they cry.
They see a financially stable, career-oriented woman, they shout feminist up and down.
They see a woman pick a good man, they curse and mock her for picking a simp.
They see a woman with a playboy, they cry that she likes bad boys.
They meet a woman who's kind to them, they say she's pretending so she can get the ring.
They meet a mean, cold, manipulative biatch, they cry that women are naturally evil.

Perhaps in another world women cry like babies, but on Nairaland, it's the boys who take the cake.

The "logical" gender too do not like broke girls. One even implies in his moniker that he kills them.

So, let's all work hard because no one wants a broke partner.

I'm just surprised this one hasn't yet been threatened with Shiloh. We're getting better it seems.

Iamgrey5:
So because she is a star she shouldn't have sex again?

Engaging in coitus isn't what people have a problem with.

When you become a parent you'll understand that every decision you make will affect your children. In Tiwa's case, it's introducing a street urchin into her life and recording her intimate moments with him.

She may have the stomach to live with the stigma but her son has to bear the "your Mama" insults for the rest of his life.

On another note, I do remember you not being this lenient on Linda Ikeji for having sex. She didn't even have a tape but you seem more forgiving to Tiwa than you were to Linda. What has changed?

shegun4sur:
But as a matter of fact, if a sex tape is where you find happiness, give it your best shot abeg.

It is usually okay with you guys until it's your daughter in the sex tape.

Lightway:
Are you a woman and above 25

Yes.

Candidlady:
sis "ankali da allah". "omo de lo nshe" lol

I no sabi the above phrases, but I'm pretty sure the second one is Yoruba.

Maybe now would be a right time to mention that I'm not Nigerian.

Gynn:
"Most women don't enjoy sexx" is a scam statement

"You won't handle the truth" another scam statement

Most men literally take sex enhancers so they can satisfy their woman in bed and be seen as a stud

If he is not doing it in a way you enjoy, and you do not open your mouth and tell him how best to stroke you

It is more likely because you do not want him to see you as too sexually liberal,

or worse still a hoe

than the assumption that he cannot handle the truth

If your man is not stroking you well show him how to.

Men also gain pleasure when they genuinely feel they are pleasing their woman

My response was to the dude who claims that most women enjoy sex and that most of them get or-gasms. This is not true. Majority of women do NOT experience or-gasms. A few do and even then, not always.

Those sex enhancers are useless if you do not understand the art of lovemaking. Most of you think it's about inserting pennis like a USB drive into a port and pounding away and then expect fireworks without foréplay, without even playing with other parts of her body, without whispering stuff into her ears.

Most women will tell you what they want if the man didn't already act like he's a stud when he isn't. No woman who loves you will judge you harshly if you're not a great lover and you acknowledge that you want to learn what pleases her. It's when you go about bragging about your prowess when it's in fact below par that is embarrassing.

My only advice to the "logical" gender is one, don't hype yourself before the match, and two, don't ask for post-match analysis and ratings because she won't tell you the truth anyway.

HumansFailedMe:
I'm sorry I can't cope. I've tried ordinary Relationship and I've seen hell. I can't do the marriage thing. It's not for everybody. Honestly.

If you feel you cannot cope with the dynamics of marriage or/and you feel that it's an outdated institution, it's okay to stay single. Marriage is not for everyone to be honest, particularly not for an individual who believes that women are inferior to the "logical" gender.

HumansFailedMe:

I rate my fellow man above women. Even during offering help and grants, Gifts and every. But I'm not gay I was just Redpill.

Now that you know how difficult it is to trade off your peace of mind for an individual who is offering you a raw deal, hopefully you will be more empathetic towards the women who also feel that way.

I hope you will not tag them bitter feminists for having similar experiences as yours.

HumansFailedMe:
In the way back, in the days of our mum, a woman's bragging right is she suffering with a man and building him up. Financially, Mentally and Socially.

Out of curiosity, did the suffering yield any positive result(s) for her?

dan9ice:
Something you literally enjoyed!!
Most of them even reach organism while the guys losses blood, strength,money etc

If those women were to tell you the whole truth, you'd know that most of them don't even enjoy sexx and many of them have never experienced or-gasms, at least not with you.

They may put up a semblance of enjoying just to boost your ego because most members of the "logical" gender are clueless things. They can't even detect fake or-gasms.

They talk about you to their female (and sometimes male) friends behind your back about how clueless you are but they just have to manage your inadequacy for one reason or the other. Meanwhile, you're out there praising your performance while thinking somebody's daughter is enjoying sexx with you. No, she's not. She just loves you, so your inadequacies don't bother her in a major way.

Trust me, you don't want to be rated. You won't handle the truth.