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Osagyefo98:
She is not happy that the two brothers decided to bury the hatchet.

Years upon years she has been an obstacle to peace in okoye's family.

At least for the okoye's sons coming together again and not for her Mama okoye will continue to rest in peace.

Lola should really change for good.

And you draft all these with a straight face.

SMH.

Why is the thread tagged under "Romance"?

NovesaTillie:
YES I am scorpio

Ruining happy unions is very characteristic of Scorpios.

Your issue is not even that you want the man. Your issue is that you want to ruin the woman's happiness. You're unhappy with the fact that there's a woman enjoying her marriage.

Scorpios are fond of bringing darkness where there's light. If this same man was single you wouldn't even be interested. I can tell you that.

NovesaTillie:
He ticks all the qualities that I dream of and sometimes I just feel like inviting him over to my place when his wife is out to tempt him a little...

Is your zodiac sign Scorpio by any chance?

Icouldhave:
not your own toto.

your own toto dey smell.
not for people like me

You mean people who get jealous at the success of others?

https://www.nairaland.com/6854880/hate-seeing-people-succeed-including

People who don't want others to prosper?
You mean such people? Village people?

Icouldhave:
One of my old time pal just bought 5.7m clean lexus this afternoon.

Ask am how he take buy am...he say na God run am.
I need to flex..I need to do this
I won fuc toto

If I were the angel in charge of prayer basket in heaven and I see a prayer from a mortal asking God for money so he could flex and fûck toto, I would throw it in the heavenly trash can.

Selfish! No wonder you get jealous at the success of friends and family.

Village people representative.

FlipModeSquade:
How many old men gets to take a trip around the world?

To visit their married children?

I have never invited my mother to my home without inviting my father. In fact if I were to choose who to tag along and I only had one ticket left, I'll most likely pick my dad and apologise to my mum.

I've never planned for a vacation for one parent and leave out the other. Doesn't even seem right.

The only time I notice children siding with their mother is when the father was a monster to his wife, and sometimes children.

Children are not stupid. They notice when their mother is in severe pains because of one man's "polygamous nature".
They notice when she's enveloped in sadness any time her "polygamous-by-nature" husband goes out when he wants to speak on the phone.
They notice when the "naturally polygamous" parent never slept at home.
They notice violence, they notice emotional abuse, they notice the silent treatment, they notice that look of disdain and disgust the "polygamous", "logical" parent always has when their mother walks into the room.
They notice all that and more, and that's why when they're at that point in their lives where they can afford to pay for trips around the world, it's usually very clear who they'll choose.

There's a lady I worked with who took up a job opportunity in a foreign country because her teenage children encouraged her to leave so she could have peace of mind away from their father. Now imagine such children. Not to justify anything, but who do you think they'll choose to pamper later in life?

Of course that's not to say that wives cannot make their husbands miserable. Some do, and children notice that too. That's why I asked, is there a loving father who's sidelined by his children?

I find it difficult to believe that a man who's been loving to his children and compassionate to his wife, will end up being sidelined by his children later in life.

FlipModeSquade:
While the old man sits alone at home..

Why should he sit alone at home?

Have you ever come across any family that has abandoned their loving father?

Always sounding like an idiot.

Tomek09:
Say no to inter-tribal marriage as an Igbo person. We must preserve our heritage by standing against it because it favours other tribes coming to Igboland but it doesn't favour Igbos at all both our men and ladies.

slowice:
She's not a Yoruba muslim so we decided to manage her.

Who's "we"?

Pepper soup gang are wondering why someone would be taking a walk with their food.

Bonesbreaker:
Women look at the picture and confess if that women see the handsomeness of his husband anymore

When you raise a family with somebody and grow old with that same person, they become a part of you, especially if you bonded well during the prior years of your marriage.

Shallow issues such as whether you find them handsome or sexy cease to matter. Life takes a different turn and you become more forgiving of your partner's physical flaws. You embrace their warts and all. Their arthritis, their back pains, their prostate malfunctions, etc. You embrace them, because they've become a part of you, especially if you shared a relatively healthy union.

Anyway, you'll only relate once you're done with your teenage years, where only perfect partners are acceptable and physical flaws unforgivable.

pocohantas:
You see all these quiet men? fear them.

Seconded.

Usually act all nice, while fattening you for slaughter.

ImaIma1:
Their mothers did it and their grandmothers. So why shouldn't we?

The same argument a certain moniker used some time back to explain why he's afraid of modern marriages and I quote:

With the shit women do out there. Honestly, I can't cope with it. I care about my mental health.
I can't put myself in that position of men whose wife are been bleeped by another man.

If I can get a baby mama. I'm good to go. I will run away from Manipulations and all. In the way back, in the days of our mum, a woman's bragging right is she suffering with a man and building him up. Financially, Mentally and Socially.
But this Era, the women in this era's bragging right is to destroy a man. Bring in down, Financially, Mentally, Socially and Spiritually.

Honestly, I'm not ready for all this. I don't think I will be part of Marriage. I'm not sure. All this women of the days only want to get a big wedding and brag. After that, during the marriage, they go around and comb all dicks they meet on their way.

I'm sorry I can't cope. I've tried ordinary Relationship and I've seen hell. I can't do the marriage thing. It's not for everybody. Honestly.

Added: See the video i just watch on Twitter of the Twerker Janemena. Being f**cked by prince kpokpori.
Imagine a married woman.
So on and so forth. Bro, leave me. I'm not getting married.

As you can see, the man is scared of whatever mental and psychological anguish he imagines a marriage will bring him, but at the same time glorifying his mother's ability to endure "suffering" in hers.

As far as he's concerned, suffering in marriage is acceptable (in fact encouraged) as long as he's not the victim.

Klass99:
Seven blessings and 21 kisses .
You are too much, abeg chop knuckle.

7 blessings and 21 kisses to you too.

Grandmeister:
But in this case the man was providing. Which is the number one tenet of a responsible father. The wife didn't have a job, so her most important job was the kids at home...and even that too was too much for her! If she was also working then it would be a different matter. But she wasn't, the one time she tried to get a job she couldn't even keep it. Tell me how can you ask your husband for a nanny when you are at home 24/7?? How can you ask him to buy a washing machine when you're staying at home 24/7?? He is catering for 5 kids plus you already! It must be taking a toll on his pockets.

I don't think she was complaining about taking care of her children. My understanding of her situation is that she felt overwhelmed physically and mentally.

How can she ask for a nanny, you ask? Same way a beautician at her spa wants an assistant. Same way an accountant in a corporate firm may wish to have an Accounts Assistant. Same way the Senior Librarian of an establishment wants an Assistant Librarian. Same way a Head Chef of a restaurant needs a Sous Chef. Same way a Farm Manager needs an assistant. Same way the Audit Manager requires an Audit Associate. Same way there is an Assistant Coach in a football club that already has a Coach. I could go on and on.

You're wondering why she needs a washing machine? Is a washing machine a luxury in Nigeria? Hehehe...
This is the part where I just laugh.

If you have an option of making your work lighter (even where you work), won't you prefer it? Wouldn't you prefer a software or a template that saves you time and energy at your place of work? Or in school if you're a student? Or let's assume you run a business of churning butter from milk, won't you prefer a churning machine as opposed to doing it the draconian way? Why are washing machines demonized in Nigeria anyway? This isn't the first time I've come across a Nigerian male wailing about women who use washing machines in their homes. What's the story behind it?

If there's an option you can take to simplify your life by all means negotiate for it if it's causing no harm to any party. If you're not breaking the laws of God, nor of man. You're not causing emotional stress to anybody. You're not doing anything immoral. You just want something that can make your life simpler. Why not take it? It's just a washing machine (which she even purchased for herself). It's not that serious.

Burnout can happen to anybody, including you.

Grandmeister:
To an enlightened man's heart it can NEVER be. And I detest when women complain of taking care of their OWN child(ren)! The same child that you will brag about with in the future and recieve all the bride price and gifts due to you as tradition lol.

I've heard women complain about men who refuse to be responsible for their children, but I'm yet to hear a woman complain about taking care of her own children.

Klass99:
Hopefully, her 6 children are doing right by her today and they drained his resources financially while they were growing up.

They do support their mum to the best of my knowledge. Their dad, though he tormented them, invested in their education.

wunmi590:
I'm sorry if I insulted you, but your message looked like an attack, despite my sarcasm in the message and my laugh emoji...

I'm sorry if I insulted you....

Apology accepted.

wunmi590:
Honestly, you are a dementia patient, so you couldn't pick the sarcasm in what I said...

If you want to know, I'm a black man.

Some of you are just not fit to be human being

They need to drag you back to psychiatric care

You're the one in need of psychiatric attention if you need to use insults to pass across a message.

wunmi590:

See as them black, them don almost become black Ghanaian

Is there anything wrong with being black?

That question also goes to those who liked your shallow post.

Klass99:
Hmmm......I think it is only in movies I have seen it.
The one person I know from a polygamous home, never likes to talk about his experience.
He gets visibly and mentally stressed, when the topic comes up.
He once confided that it triggers lots of bad memories for him.

I can imagine. Very few polygamous families function normally. It's always one horror story after another. My mother's first cousin is a first wife in a polygamous marriage. This woman has lived for decades in the same house with her crazy, narcissistic husband and her co-wife. The same house o! The man deliberately wanted her to stick around so that he could rub his second marriage in her face. She had 2 kids when this co-wife joined them.

He ganged up with his second wife to make her miserable, but what did she do? She went on to have 4 other kids with this same man! Total of 6 kids with a man who despised her! How the man's manhood would rise to the occasion with all the hostility he had towards her is the one thing I couldn't understand. Maybe he'd go to her bedroom when the other wife was on her periods. That was my conclusion. She must have thought that getting more children would bring some form of healing to the marriage. For where?

Ironically, the co-wife just got 2 kids and she's the loved one. This my mother's cousin would come to our home and lament to my mum about her ordeal in that marriage. From constant verbal abuse, to being thrown out while it's raining, to hearing sex sounds from her co-wife's room, to being locked up in her room so she won't eat (as "punishment" ), this woman went through what you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy.

That's the picture I have of a polygamous home. I grew up watching that family and I knew, even as a little girl, that something wasn't quite right with that set-up.

She got pregnant by our marriage counselor....

I'm I the only one who found this hilarious?

Klass99:
But, what I thought was - if men feel this way then why are women putting themselves through the stressful wear and tear of multiple child births? It's not like the more kids you have, the better or stronger the bond between you and hubby, sef.

@ bolded,
Many African women tend to believe that children are the way to a man's heart.

Have you ever seen how co-wives compete by getting baby after baby with the hope that the man will love them more?

@ topic, neither.

Pardon me for intruding on a topic addressed to men, but we all know the truth will be buried. You'll never hear the truth from the same species who consistently claim to like A but consistently pick B.

Neither food nor sex is a way to any man's heart. This is because he's already decided who he wants/loves regardless of what you do in bed or in the kitchen.

And who does he love? The GOLD DIGGER. A man's favourite species.
Even men who don't fall in love easily will fall in love with a gold digger.

Forget what they say. Gold digging is the way to a man's heart.

redstaarx:
I asked her to tell me why before I deleted her pics and contact and block her on WhatsApp.. she got pissed and said goodbye she actually wanted us to be friends after we broke up ..

I just wanted to know why ..

You'll never get closure from a coward. Her reasons for breaking up with you could be anything but refrain from even trying to speculate why.

You're a young man I can tell. You'll learn.

Noshitboi:
Without whites South Africa for worse pass Sudan

Oh here we go again.

lequama10:
been introvert has nothing to do with all this, it's just a relative word, u can be an introvert with crazy and meaningless personalities, while an extrovert person can be so cool with all this personalities u mentioned, everybody has differs reasons they make and also don't make friends. I think most peeps are just clingy to the word, and nothing close to what they call themselves..

Interesting perspective, but I was specifically responding to a poster who implied that introverts should learn to make friends.

mastermaestro:
Who is this bundle it intelligence? Hello o! Very well stated.

Chai! See this one making my head swell.

Libron:
am an introvert and it doesn't feels gud 2 me at all, maks me loose alot of stufs due 2 d shy level of it, can't even do anytin that involvd public, at college i could remember a day it ws d worstes day i've eva encounted, we went 4 a semina and all best 3 studnt frm each clas of all science colleges in the state are 2 assembled in a hall an we wer lectured, aftr then coms question an answer with gifts 2 evry studnt dat got his/her answer an a question i knew and even thought it ws so common ws asked and 2 my suprise evry wer ws silent more than 5min d question ws stil on an then i raise my hand then my hrt started biten so fast and cause a vry high tention on me, i ws vibratin already then i stood up an emmedietly i stand i 1st luk at my back an i could see d masive an dats hw i fall backwardly 2 d floor an hit my head 2 d desk next behind me witout an answer 2 d question, i was gifted more than those dat got their answers bt i felt so bad that day. I tnk God say d werey don de liv me o. d whole me fa

Sorry about your ordeal.

You suffer from stage fright and you can only overcome it by doing the very thing you're afraid of. Keep engaging yourself in activities which require you to make public presentations. You don't have to be an extrovert to do this. You just need good preparation. Master the content of what you plan to present. It helps a lot.

Volunteer to teach in schools. Or join groups where you'll be required to introduce yourself to people all the time. Attend as many workshops as you can. In fact, it's way easier to practise this with strangers. I used to be like you but I overcame it.

Good luck, hey?