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PureGoldh:
The Tori long no be here

let me give u a short one, Nigerians thought buhari was the real deal, he happened to be made in Taiwan!! even Aba made buhari for work better... this one na inferior quality.... Nigeria as a whole got sold a lie...

Zhuhilat:
Thanks all. I appreciate.

Truly speaking, i am just tired of it all.
I do not know how a very comfortable young girl, working in the health sector, traveling to different countries for conferences ended up here.

I feel like this is my life now, no light at the end of this tunnel

No my husband isn’t broke we earn really really well and i am not doing baldly either.

My biggest worry is for my child.
Also when is enough is enough?
I dont want to loose myself. I am just 26.

So sorry for ranting but it is better than talking to family members that will gossip about you.

the fact that he left the house doesn't mean he is cheating, no body chose him for you, so you shouldn't ask how u got here. Couples r meant to compliment each other, when he's hot, you are the cooling agent, when you are hot, he's your cooling factor.
Arguments will happen but if you understand the principles of soft spoken words, you'd make a headway.
Dont let your ego and u trying to be at par with Ur husband ruin your marriage.
If your biggest concern is truely your child and not the new attention you are getting else where you will become a submissive wife to your husband, learning as time goes the principle of actions and reactions , rippling effects, with the hopes that u stop looking at the now and project 10 years into the future...

Try to show him love and respect for one week, don't shout, don't be commanding, don't be aggressive, when he's yelling don't try to find out if your voice is louder, just say "baby, I am sorry".... Take the insults and BS, and see if there will be a difference...

There are too many things you are getting wrong, as a couple ... but this is for u, as a woman.
Arguments, over minute issues, u don't exactly respect your husband, yes he can be an ass but, you respect him and accept his bs when tempers are flaring.
Swallow your pride and stop reading chimanda adichie books, they'll only ruin Ur marriage. If he says he doesn't like a thing, why argue? He is your husband, tell him you are sorry make necessary adjustments, when things calm down... and all heads are cool, u sit and talk and reach a reasonable conclusion...
You are his wife, you bear his name, respect him, don't be a hot head, you should be the sane one... but then, did u ever really love him, or u just wanted to get married?
Understand your husband, it's part of the job description.

rhythyson:
SA on FRUITS?

I thought I was the only one pondering about this designation... lmao fruits and food

Commentor:
What if the Chibok incident was a ruse by the Jonathan government to implicate APC ?

We can't put it past Evil PDP to carry out such dastardly acts.

Yeah they are all evil in their own way, but how would they have benefited from a Chibok kidnap ruse? Please explain

Is it just me or his guy looks like red skull in captain America

What if the dapchi was just another ruse by this apc led government to cover up their ineffectiveness and inability to do anything about the Chibok girls and other kidnappings going on that dont make it into the media?
What if dapchi was staged so as to give a pass mark on the buhari regime?? I wouldn't put it past them and their desperation to hold on to power, they do this to curry the favor of some unsuspecting citizens! We are Nigerians, this government will go to any length as they have no scruples or principles... the talk about corruption but the same thieves they shout against are the same ones they put in power to fight the same corruption they are guilty of....

liberalchick:
Yes this will be true if Nigerian marriages are based on the individual, we know this is not true. A Nigerian wife marries the husband, the family and all the culture that come with his tribe. How successful are Nigerian men at protecting their wives from the aforementioned?

Only some are brave enough to go against the grain. I have also seen men of varying tribes treat their wives good or bad.

Only a weak man would let the dictation of tribe determine the way he runs his home.... my wife isnt married to my people... because she has become my flesh and my bone, anyone else is secondary... so anyone who talks or acts I'll toward my wife does so toward me...

I would say this as a man, how a man treats a woman is never by tribe, you have igbo men that treat their women like goddesses and we have others who treat their women worse than slaves, we have yoruba men who worship d ground their wives walk on, and others who wouldn't bath an eyelid if their wives get hit by a car... we have hausa men who love their wives so much, while some will sell their wives to pay the dowry for a new wife... it is not by tribe, how you are brought up and how u have chosen to train your self is what really determines how u treat the woman who gives you joy... also remembering that it is a two way street, in certain circumstances, certain actions cause unexpected reactions...

Area4Area:
I knew I'd see something like this here, obviously you didn't even read the report before posting.
The report said that since the closure of the borders, ships destined for Benin ports are now coming to Nigeria, increased ships, increased revenue.
Most of you should endeavor to read the main story and not only the topic before posting.

Thanks... tired of reading about so many things that have to do with Nigeria

TeamSimple:
So Where is the money?

the real question my brother, is how did they make 9.2b in a day? What did the customs do to make that much in one day. Cars aren't coming in, nothing is being imported through the land borders, so except they are receiving high bribes to cross illegals, how did they make that amount in a day? Na customs..

kingreign:
Lol. You're right

Bosch plugs cost about 10k for 1...

jagabanlewis:
God

There was a country

How did we gt dis low

Well, it is quite simple, people voted for a senile sadistic man with no regard for anyone other than himself

They can tell he is lying, even the UN report said the government is grossly corrupt....

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

Dude, dont force it... if u marry her you will hate yourself. If she says she is done, let her be.... provide for your child, let her do the rubbish she wants to do but my suggestion is u request that the child be given to her parents as u do not want her doing shit in front of your child... move on with your life. After a few years of gbas gbos.. she will come back to you... by then you'd be better off.... Pray for her and bid her farewell

Writercruze:
I wish every Yoruba demon can see this message

How about the woman who breaks a man's heart??
It goes both ways.... it's not just about a man... women do worse shit these days!!

kaorama:
Whatever he Is, he put us into this mess.

still pointing accusing fingers even after 5 years in power? That's just lack of foresight

snrman:
u day mind them pdp never again

Is it possible to forget about parties for a bit... and focus of the people voted into critical offices? Irrespective of the party the got into power through! Buhari was a CPC member before the merger and he still holds the core agenda of cpc which was the fulani agenda. Majority of the people in APC were once in PDP at some point, so forget the logos and the letters... these people are criminals, but so far in the history of bad governance and tribalism, buhari tops the chart. They are all thieves, buhari is probably the worst one. We may not see it now, but eventually we will see how much debt this government has put this country in. The disregard for human rights and freedom... the lies, the murder not to speak of genocide... the complete disregard for the rule of law and the courts..
The people should not be blinded by party logos, it's the lies they use to cause disunity among the people. See it for what it is, buhari is as much a criminal like other past presidents, he is only the worst one in the history of Nigerian presidents..
See it for what it is and stop shouting PDP or APC, the party is not the one in power, it is the party's candidate.

gtown:
So closing our borders to eliminate smogging is now an unpatriotic act and tribalistic? But who told you it is only Benin border that is closed?
Ok, Peter Obi will close the Niger and Tchad borders in retaliation for you when he comes 2023, if that is your problem

Have u been there The niger and Chad border?
There is no border.... in the north.... weapons are being smuggled into the country from that part.... there is no border in the north... but the benin/ badagry border is closed.... speak of the borders in the north brother

9jatriot:
It would be interesting to see if this will also signal the end of Boko Haram.

yet the borders in the north are more porous than bod Risky's butt.... u can literally stroll into nigeria carrying bags of drugs, ammunition and slaves with no one to question u.... the emir is as dumb as the president. As unpatriotic as the president, as tribalistic as the president... he is no different from buhari...

allthingsgood:
Most people that dont like buhari are either die hard haters (who will hate buhari even if he turned nigeria into a switzerland) or those who are adversely affected by buhari's hardline economic policies. But to be honest, history will definitely judge President Buhari better than President Goodluck Jonathan or Mr Atiku. Why? Because:

1. Buhari is a man of his word. What he says is what he will do. Thats integrity
2. Buhari is decisive. Hes unflinching and does not cave in easily to pressure. Tho this can be both a good thing and a bad thing
3. Buhari personally is anti-corruption. Hardly is there any other politician that can claim to be absolved from corrupt practices like buhari. However this those not absolve members of his cabinet tho
4. Buhari is humbly. Despite being a two time President and controlling Nigeria's oil resources, Buhari hardly flaunts wealth. Same goes for members of his family. Compared to obasanjo and the Jonathans, Buhari is quite conservative
5. Buhari cant be bought. This one is a no brainer. You can hate him all u want, but my dear there is nothing u can use to bribe that man. Period


With these few points of mine i hope i have been able to convince u, but not to confuse u that a President Buhari is far better than a President Jonathan and Atiku, for Nigeria. Thank u

U are either blind to the situation of things or u work for the APC cyber team

MONIKERREVEALER:
stay safe and ready for the coming onslaught guy!!!

lock and loaded, we ain't going g down without a good fight

MONIKERREVEALER:
fixed!

bless u brother

Sunofgod:
Madness...what experience does she have?

people voted buhari because they said he had experience, where has that led us to now? Jonathan was inexperienced but he made a little impact... didnt trample on the rights of the people, respected the rule of law to the letter.... so it is better u hire an inexperienced thief, than a bank manager who knows his way around the books!

lastempero:
Nigeria can be likened to a cattle colony.

The same herdsmen he buhari said are the terrorists and yet he looks to give them land in a country where they aren't nationals? Wow!! We all screamed jonathan was weak, but this is cowardice at its peak

DonBenny77:
She's not a prostitute, but 80 percent hotel waitresses hookup with customers.

so does that mean she deserved to be killed??
Show some compassion... may God never allow u experience such.

Exponental:
I think it's a shame on the part of the ruling party if the no 1 man is a General and the security state of the nation is a mess. Who dash am general.... Him buy am? He's only belittling the Military.

the same number 1 man who talks tough but cant put his money where his mouth is? We talk about Nigeria being giant, yet the president is a weakling... na so so talk...

Sold

This picture depicts the "president" in a few words...

Lawalatm:
Loss is Loss.....let no man rejoice for a VOICE in AFRICA has slept

A VOICE FOR AFRICA!

Are this people mad? Is yemi Osinbajo ok? The plan is to keep buhari in power like Mugabe? Na lie... it will never work..