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bencarson007:
By unwanted,I reasoned that she meant the 'I don get belle' type...and the boy don discharge...
So she has to keep her craving for fried amala and roasted ice cream to herself because she got no one to disturb on it !

Joavid:
In essence, you're looking for a babymama that you may or may not be serious with

You want to bring an innocent child into a dysfunctional family structure? you're selfish!!


you men should continue spoiling our family values because of your selfishness and wickedness.

ElsonMorali:
While I agree that the man should man up and do whatever it takes to make the life of his woman a lot easier, which includes making dinner once a while, bathing the kids, changing their diapers (ewwww), rubbing her back and giving her a massage, generally treating her likehis queen that she is, yet I think we all know why men are reluctant to do these things.

You cook once, next thing she's gonna draw up a roaster of some sort sharing kitchen duties with you equally. And when you don't do it she gets miffed.

I'm not married, but from my interaction with married friends, that's the idea I got from them.

You bathe the baby once, then it becomes your life long duty and she'd be pissed at you if you fail at it.

Thank God we don't have breasts. We may end up sharing breastfeeding duty too.

Lawlahdey:
I love you sis

joseph1832ng:
Ah! The truth at last. Such women are liars and deceivers of themselves and other foolish women.

pocohantas:
I don't know who is getting the definition of feminism wrong, but from my own understanding it simply means, treat me first as human, don't stereotype me because of my sex, give me a chance to prove myself.

Feminism didn't ask any woman to neglect her home o...
Some people are equating feminism to arrogance, probably because of the kinda feminist they have seen or their understanding of feminism...which is wrong. Feminists can have happy homes contrary to popular belief.

Any woman that does any of those things you mentioned is simply a bad example of a wife. She could be a feminist or not. There are women in the village who know nothing about feminism putting up worse attitude. It's all in the mind.

joseph1832ng:
Some things like what and what?

cardoctor:
He should still go to hospital for a proper check up. Internal injuries are usually ignored.

otokx:
Quite sad but the minimum age to enter tertiary institutions is 16 but again it can be age declaration with her real age being 26.

mytym:
You'll eventually master it and by that time your confidence level would have gotten so high...

mytym:
Started at 15, unlike my mates who started by sneak-driving, my father practically forced me to learn it as it was obvious i was disinterested. Took me 12 years...still not perfect coz driving is about consistency. As a learner, after learning a stage I could go months before getting back on the steering. Infact one of my D.License for 3 yrs got expired without setting hands on a steering.
Meanwhile its manual transmission...the hard brands...Volkswagen. Volvo, old regular Mercedes

Just got my hands on autofor the first tym lastmonth....menh its damn too easy, its wah dey call 'teach yourself' kind of thing.

herbie27:
My sister's.

She was 12, went on holiday in my Aunt's house, she was never seen at home in the afternoon cos of her job, so my sis had the house to herself.

It started, she had no idea as it drops then take time before appearing fully, she was on the stain and had no idea, my aunt came back and saw it, before then a neighbour of theirs has gone to tell my aunt that my sis has been deflowered, lol my aunt didn't ask my sis anything she just started flogging her, and while she was flogging her she kept asking the innocent girl who she slept with?.

The girl had no idea of what my aunt was accusing her of and kept saying no one as my aunt was wiping her.

After much strokes, she called home(my mum) and told her my sister has been deflowered and has refused to talk.

My mum was just wondering how that could happen as she knew her daughter, so she asked her to put the girl on the phone which she did, she was crying as my mum asked her what happened, the moment she explained we all screamed it's her period!.

That was a relief to my mum, and she bashed my aunt who said a neighbour told her.

My sis will never forget the experience, as i won't too...hers was hilarious.

My advice to those who have girl siblings, make out time to educate them on this, won't blame my mum cos she wasn't expecting it at the time we did.

veekid:
E vine

DukeNija:
I completely agree with you as im also on the same page. Some people just cant overlook the age difference thingy and thats what majority of the people here do not understand. I cannot marry an older woman. If the OP is just like me, then there will be a very very big problem.

Daniel1990:
Run for your life bros! HIV is real, she behaved like a Carrier

freecocoa:
Lol, you need divine intervention.

thorpido:
Na wa for you.

freecocoa:
Yeah, lies in general are a turn off but I do believe some can be overlooked though, after all, we are guilty of one lie or the other.

If I may ask, what would it change if you were older than he, assuming everything is going well?

pjsmart:
My own advice is this: why not believe her first, instead of just jumping into conclusion of what happened. Really it's painful to know that the one u trusted the most has been receiving u, so in order to have your peace deliberately choose to believe her then do your investigations. I know someone born in 1997 but her waec certificate says 1993. it's actually a cousin so I know her age from childhood. so it happens. but to be sure check when she wrote the waec and her new date of birth, u don't write waec at age 12

freecocoa:
Well, I don't know how old you are now and what you've achieved, assuming you set goals for yourself using time frame.

You see, there's this need to grow with others, do things while your mates are doing it and believe me my sister, if you are lagging behind then it wouldn't be a surprise to reduce your age, hoping to give yourself more time, the society comes in because they judge you by some yardstick and age is an essential, if not the most important one they use.

So far, I've not reduced my age but who knows tomorrow?

Although, I do think one shouldn't lie to their partner but there are some lies that you just can't take back, especially if they've been there before you met him/her.

My solution for this is, if you see a person you like, no need to ask their age, just love yourselves, with the exception of women who have hit menopause o(incase he wants kids), this way, even if you find out she's older, it wouldn't matter.

freecocoa:
Is there not a chance that she might actually be telling the truth about it being an error?

But let's assume she lied, I think you should try to forgive her, this age matter no be really the women fault per se, na society cause am, lying about her age doesn't automatically make her untrustworthy.


OP forgive and forget, one is only as old as they feel.