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I am in my late 40s. I am divorced; have been for more than a decade. I live on my own with my two daughters

About a year ago, I went into a relationship with a man four years younger than I am.

Being married, we meet in my place. As a matter of fact he has the key to my flat. It was better than going to hotels.

Besides, my daughters were grown up to appreciate that I need a man in my life.

Well, I thought I could trust him so I gave him permission to come to my house whenever he likes whether am in or not.

I also assumed my daughters were responsible enough to see him as their father. Unfortunately, I miscalculated. Unknown to me while he was having affairs with me, he was also sleeping with my two older daughters.

I didn’t know what was happening until I took my elder daughter to the hospital following her persistent complains of malaria.

I also haven’t been feeling well; so decided to visit the hospital with my daughter.

When the result came out, we were both pronounced pregnant. I was shocked because I didn’t expect to be at my age since I have been having irregular period in the last two years.

my daughter telling him that we were both pregnant for him and he should tell me to abort the baby since she was going to keep hers.

She told him if he tried to play smart with her, the whole world would know that he has been sleeping with her mother, sister and herself.

My second daughter has left home for an unknown destination following the revelation by her sister that she too has been sleeping with him.

I am very confused as my daughter and I are stuck in this awkward situation.

How do I explain to the world that my daughter and I are pregnant for this same man and that he is nowhere to be seen? What should I do please?

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I've been sleeping with my father since I was 14years old and I can't love any other man again.

I am Tinuke Ajenufuja. I hail from Ekiti state where I have two elder brothers and one elder sister.

My father is Mr. Samuel Ajenufuja. I love going out with my father and taking a bath with my father.

One faithful day, my father and I went for an outing. On getting home back, we couldn't meet my mum and my elder ones at home.

That's where it all started. My father said he wants to go and have his birth. I told him we should bath together which he agreed on.

On getting to the bathroom, I touched my father d...k with the hope that he would hit my hand but he doesn't.

The next thing I could see is my father's body arouse. He slept with me inside the bathroom.

Ever since then, my father and I enjoy sleeping with each other.

It has gotten to stage that my mother is now disturbing me to bring my fiancee.

She doesn't know I don't have a fiancee coz I enjoyed sleeping with my father.

My father is my fiancee.

How would I tell my mother that my father is my fiancee?

Please come to my rescue. What can I do?

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Tie outside the bitten spot against blood flow...apply black stone, until it sucks the poison off

I hope its high time Jagbada be prosecuted....enough of these economic sabotage

Nawao, Nairaland official could not even report and transmit election exercise live, i saw many reporters but nairaland absence baffle me. Well congrats to the winner/loser ,abi,how u check am

suffering and smiling !

kingxsamz:
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kingxsamz:
Have you bought it?

yes

kingxsamz:
Huawei y9 2019.
Samsung Galaxy m30, A30.
Redmi note 7.

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kingxsamz:
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recommend any good phone not priced more than 80k

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Naira go finish person laugh one day...i wish i can see em live !

I need to buy android phone 2 days from now, am confused buying between infinix s4 & tecno phantom 9. My mind crave for tecno.
anyone using either, pls advice.
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Who's the founder of hate-speech ?

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It happened to me few yr ago, my bp was 240/110. Was so confused, typhoid & malaria was severe which got treated for about yrs, yet no sleep. Cut story shot . Most drugs dont work (chalk) Anyway, i know how u feel. B4 bed chew bitter leaf & scent leaf...you must sleep. Thank me later

kestolove95:
Bedwetting has no cure, it will stop naturally..

It does. Her case may be connected to spirituality...she need salvation.

I want to beleive God'sTime is the best, you should be loved for whom u are . My wife knew me when i was staying with a brother, thereafter, we got married, got employed, have kids, house of my own. Then , i had nothing then...from grass to grace . Girl be of good conduct , dont pretend , you man underway. most guys are gold diggers, be careful.

renewable1:
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The day I asked my mother where babies came from was so traumatic it makes me shudder to recall it”, said Justina, a renowned writer now a grandmother. “It was in 1966 and I was six; a gullible, good-natured soul, a lover of fairy stories who wanted to know if the story of the stock was true. If it was, then why had I never seen a stork when there were so many babies. “My mother could have told me anything. She could have said simply that when two people want a baby, by some sort of curious magic, a tiny little spec is made in the woman’s tummy. I liked magic and believed in it. But my mother was adamant her daughter would be far more liberated than she was. So, despite my tender age, she launched into a full anatomical description of sex, something that would colour my attitude to love and intimacy forever. I grew up thinking it was just a bit of fun, momentary meaningless.
There is no doubt my mother’s liberal attitude paved the way for me agreeing to my first ill-fated marriage being `open’. This didn’t in any way mean we had loads of lovers – in ten years of being together I took only one and my husband three or four – but rather there was a total disconnect between love and sex. Even today, in my second less conventional marriage, where love and fidelity absolutely go hand-in-hand, I can’t help but feel great sex has more to do with my husband’s beloved football team winning a match than a resurgence of affection for me. If my mother had been ore conservative when I came to sex education, would I feel differently? I believe I might. “As a mother of five boys, ranging from 33 to 19, I have very determinedly taken the opposite approach – I pretended sex didn’t ever exist, letting them find out about it in their own time, from their school and peers. And thankfully, not one of them posed the most awkward of questions. I still wonder what my mother was thinking. A little girl does not need to know about her father’s manhood or the fact her mother has a `hidden passage’ inside her. While she chatted away happily, I was horrified – not to mention a little traumatised. `Don’t worry Justina, there’s nothing to be afraid of!’, she said. I became determined I would never experience sexual desire if it made you do such horrible things. “This feeling stuck with me throughout primary school. When I was 14, my mother went further still.
She told me it was important to find out about my own body and not to fear it. I had to find out what gave me pleasure before I could ask someone else to do I for me. Surely, surely, it’s not a mother’s role to say such things to her daughter? But she firmly believed that the more you knew about sex, the better lover you would become, and the more fulfilled you would be. As a teenager, I wanted to be rebellious. I was longing to do things my mother would disapprove of, and make my own path in life. But when you’re faced with enquiries like: `Have you honestly not had your first orgasm yet? Poor love!” you become – what can I say? – anti-sex, a lover of purity, friendship, anything which isn’t about body parts. “Despite her enthusiasm for me to experiment, I was still (much to my mother’s despair) a virgin at 18. Rather than feeling, I should wait for `the one’, I began to feel I’d like to shed off virginity. When a handsome young naval officer home on leave asked me out, I thought: `Oh well, it may as well be him’. Poor man. I may as well have been in a dentist’s chair and when the did was done, felt as empty as could be. I did have a couple of other lovers before I married my first husband, aged 22. He came from a bohemian background but his liberal views on sex and fidelity did not faze me. “Part of my mother’s relationship advice was that all red-blooded men were unfaithful to their wives, so I didn’t bat an eyelid at the idea of infidelity. After all, what did sex matter? Somewhat unsurprisingly, after a decade the marriage collapsed. My husband had fallen in love with one of his mistresses.
Heartbroken, I went on to marry again but with a far more conventional outlook. I had two further sons and that’s when I became determined to put matters right on the sex education front. I was certainly not going to be my sons’ friend and adviser in bedroom matters. Neither parent nor child should know what the other gets up to in bed. Rather, they would find out all about sex from their schools and their peers. My role would be to pretend that sex didn’t even exist. I would neither encourage nor discourage but let them find out about it in their own time. I was always waiting for the question ‘Where did I come from, mummy?’ and tied myself in knots as to how I would answer it, but luckily, it never came. Perhaps, this sex-education business is easier with boys, I hoped. There was one wobble, though. Soon after my eldest son began university, he brought a girl home to stay the night. Her name was Amanda. She wore stilettos, revealing cropped leggings and a good deal of make-up. But she was also petite and seemed a lot younger than 19. She was friendly enough over supper and polite. I kept thinking: ‘This is so wrong! Shouldn’t I be ringing her parents?’ “But my son would never forgive me for interfering. I was beside myself with worry.
I had never even told my son to treat a girl with respect and tenderness, nor to get to know her first before sleeping with her. Then an even worse thought came into my head. I had never so much as mentioned the word `condom’ and I knew my son wouldn’t have given a thought to contraception. If she wasn’t on the Pill, I would be a grandmother to a child I might never know. By morning, I was already envisaging arguments between my husband and my son’s father about who would be paying maintenance for the poor child. And all because of my negligence. “Thankfully all was well. Amanda did not fall pregnant and life went on. Still I was flummoxed as to what line I should take. Should I start advising my other sons? I began to ask around – how did other mothers deal with the sexual education of their children? Some, to my horror, seemed almost as liberal as my mother and said they could `talk about anything’ with their children. Worse was the friend who took the opposite view. `Remember the pleasure of sneaking down the corridor in the early hours and getting into bed with your boyfriend?’ she asked me. `I want to crease the same titillation in my home, and will refuse to let my son share a bedroom with his girlfriend until he’s married’. “Another friend told me with pride about how she knocked on her 22-year-old son’s door one Sunday morning and offered to cook him and his girlfriend breakfast, when a second child shouted out – me too please! God save me from such a moral quagmire.
Can I imagine saying to my youngest now 20: `Remember one girl at a time!’ I’m afraid I’m still going to take the cowardly way out and remain silent on the issue. The others have all grown up now – one is even expecting a baby soon. And as for you, my youngest, do whatever you like – just don’t tell me about it!” Why you should sleep completely naked! 1.Skin: When the nights are hot (not now it’s raining) going naked not only cools you down, it allows areas that are usually restricted by clothes to get some fresh air – lowering the risk of certain skin conditions. 2.Hormones: Being overheated while you’re in dreamland can cause your level of the hormone cortisol to rise, which can lead to increase feelings of anxiety and stress, and make you crave naughty foods! 3.Fertility: A recent study found that men who slept completely nude had a far lower percentage of damaged DNA in their sperm compared with men who wore boxers or briefs. 4.Sex: Sex has a host of health benefits – and you’re more likely to have it if you’ve shed those Pjs! 5.Relationships: Sleeping naked with someone encourages skin-on-skin contact. This boosts the levels of oxytocin in your brain. This makes you feel happy and much closer to your partner. It’s win-win!

Read more at: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2019/07/why-mothers-shouldnt-teach-their-children-the-facts-of-life/

Following the xenophobic attack on foreign national, Chris is yet to return to his homeland, does Airlift forgot him . He has remain mum over the series of attack against his national.

I had a similar experience for 4 yrs+ couple with heat...its been God. Avoid alcohol in totality...chew bitter leaf & scent leaf b4 n after bed daily. keep ur BP in check

Its wolf...a nocturnal animal !

Thank God, I wanted to pay for LCD now....cancelled. okpare

But data sub is too expensive to listen to ordinary radio. I luv online dailies !

Just like a Hollywood movie...what a suspense !

I cant advise nor take side when the matter is glaring...mama has found a new love & luv is blind !