₦airaland Forum

well dis ur case is like a fisrt son being disrespected on the family and when he reports to the father, the father support the younger siblings to continue dia act....d simple solution is leave that school and apply for a teaching job elsewhere and leave the school for them to control.....diaris nothing you'll do dat will change anything I dat school since the proprietoress is wired to be like dat

okoroemeka:
I totally and categorically don't believe in heaven and hellfire,I don't care what other people may think,but if my father is ready to throw me inside a lake of fire for misbehaving,then it is better to disown myself

I really love your opinion on dis...,kudos bro

sotall:


That the major religions Islam and Christianity are scams.


A fact i wish i had known since i was a child.

God bless you richly for dis.....I just had this in mind.

Visit the pharmacy and ask of Benzyl Benzoate cream.....when you buy it, you rub it from your neck down to you toe (after bathing in the night)....do dis for just 2days and watch how dat infection will disappear

LordviccoDaGuru:
https://femvila.com/post/81/we-ve-made-impact-on-security-economy-corruption-says-president-buhari/1

I'm so sure it's not Oga Bubu day said dis statement himself.....some niggas just framed up dis writeup just to whine nairalanders....yeye post anyways

bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?

Please guys, I'm very confused here

This is what vexes me.....op, please assume that you're reading this post you type....if you're to respond from a reader's angle, wat will ur response be like.., u're seeing danger, you're still asking if the danger won't hurt.....I see u're blind folded with love.....but remember they say love is blind,but Na for marriage eyes dey open.....if your babe cant change her attitude, wat makes u think she'll change during marriage.....if it were possible for one to change that easy, God wudav changed the Devil

Mercychen:
What do you recommend for this skin blemish? .

Advice, please.

Let him just paint himself with condemned oil...... it works like magic

SalisuJasper:
When you quit smoking weed, what can one actually use to replace the habit.

So u will be so busy that you wont have time to think of smoking again

Trying to quit smoking?
Lick a little salt with the tip of your tongue whenever you feel the urge to smoke. This is said to break the habit within a month. Do this and keep me updated.

adetula148:
There is this lady I love so much, we work at the place, and we were good but she happens to be a Jehovah witness.

We have been dating for a year and half now but most times I have issues with her texting other guys and she kept saying they are just friends.

You can call me a fool but sometimes you love someone so much that you don't want to loose them.

Anytime I try to tell her about how I feel about her texting other guys giving them impression that she is single and always looking out for someone who happen to be a witness but always tell me it's me she loves and those guys are just her friends . Going out to see other guy's on a date and sometimes lie to me , she get mad and never for once say sorry . And when she says sorry, the same thing repeat itself.

Then I just let go and assume those guys are just her friends and I can't stop her from texting her friends but there is something within me that keeps telling me something is wrong. Like I love her so much but I still have this trust issues ,like I want to be convinced that I am wrong and try work on my trust issues.

Just yesterday I just login to her Facebook because she gave me her phone sometimes to help her format it and restore her apps back but she could not remember her password, so I had to reset it and get them working.

So I login to her Facebook then I realized she has been sneaking out to see another man who happens to be a witness because my place of work . We spend 2 months in and 2 weeks out , even her time off she plan on going to see him yet lied to me she wanted to go write exams and look out for other opportunities and she told me we would see when we out and spend time together .

Like we go on leave and off days same time ,for me we were so close and we even kissed and hugged that same week. Like she was already certain to end up with this guy yet she still call me and tell me she loves me . But one thing about me is I can't keep things to myself I got mad then I texted her .

She greeted me well then I suddenly asked her about the guy . She denied it totally and asked if I had a prove . Then I sent a screenshot then she said "did I not tell you that I can't marry someone who is not a witness then I was like Bleep". This same person we talk almost everyday , see everyday , kissed and do crazy stuffs even at work now say all these to me. Like I almost died yesterday. I told her all this then she said " I just love you as a friend and you are my best friend" .

Then I asked since when ? She just ignored me all through then line busy. I just blocked her and delete her number because she was not even sorry .

Here is my question, why are witness like this ?

This will be my first experience with them and I will say this really hurt me. Like I can't even think well. So a relationship of almost 2 years just a waste?

So all those I love I love you were just jokes? I just pray God heal me fast .

Like I really loved her. Now I don't know what to do. The job I am managing for now we both work there. How do I face her? Like am still looking out for another job but now I just have to leave this job and move on.

I just decided to share this with you all so you can learn from my foolishness and advice me on what to do.

Do have a nice day .

The advice I feel I can give you is for you to go to any joint that Isu-Ewu is sold....but 2k worth of it and buy big stout together with it.....eat d meal well and wash it with the stout.... you'll then realise you were hungry all along.....u go forget d babe as fast as possible

D challenge you have currently isn't the heart problem (cos it's an assumption based on the signs you notice), but fear (that your family won't have the money to treat it if found positive). Anyways, your mindset is what you need to work on.... but before then, I'll suggest you go for the test..... remove fear from ur system....lemmi tell u somm....if you go for this test, you'll die....if you don't, you'll still die.... Why don't u put fear away and do the needful.....we talking about life here...... bro, I believe that what made me comment on this, you'll be fine despite the fear.....Go for the test and you'll overcome....

KiNg0G:
bed, in my dark room reminescing all my flaws this year.
and strategies on how to get Better 2022 to avoid same mistakes.


trust me, have been through alot this year.


I ain't going to church,

Dis wat I'm also gon do..... church Ke, church no

OctaneGadgets:
Don't listen to your parents if you want to be successful !!

Please can you explain more.... I nid to know why?

dobnina:
Join me and let's make money online without any investment. All that is required of you is hardwork and patience.
It's not an overnight quick money scheme.
Let's make $1000 in 3months or less.
Drop your email or send me a pm and I will send you the details if you are interested. Stop procrastinating.

flexindino@yahoo.com

ijoba222:
omo it might be scabies oo because it itches sometimes , any idea of what I can use to treat it please like an ointment or something, but I thought scabies only affected the pubic region ni

Go and buy dis tube cream called BENZYL BENZOATE....daz wat I used during my time when I also had scabies... twill disappear sharpaly

seyi360:
It has never been an easy feeling the times I had none to give Awkward and odd was the feeling ,to say the least. It should always be a thing of joy to be able to give cheerfully to the God who gave us all things. I love to always give to the Lord.

Since it's been years ayaf bin to church, I can just recall the last time I went to church without offering.....well I felt very okay cos o sincerely dint have maybe cos I was broke then (doze days as an undergraduate).... but I'll say I'm fine going to church without offering

even you sef.....u aren't serious......so wen u have issues, u come to nairaland to get solutions....if d solutions backfires now, u'll blame nairalanders abi? alaye, wat makes you a man is when you take decisions and take responsibility for ur decisions.

Well bro, allow her be and face what's important.....u just Dodge a stray bullet honestly.....dis just d tip of the iceberg.....who knows if she wudav broken up wichu just because your name is not found in d Bible.....chai, churchy gials......na Dem spoil pass

Ma'am, I'll suggest you leave dat dude entirely....d reason is dat if peradventure u guys start dating and he sees anoda lady prolly better Dan u of a kind....d same scenario Daz happening 2his ex now will surely hapun 2u....and d circle goes

EbonyCy:
Mine likes shutting his tenants up...u dare have no opinion...Imagine paying our october bill and for wateva reason he didn't pay it or he paid & didn't paste it on the gate.NEPA came & cut light this man asked us to pay reconnection fee,the stupid ones claiming good tenants dat don't no dia right has paid but me tell am say I no go pay cos i paid my bills before NEPA come cut d light..He is insisting I must pay or he go cut my light off...Pls is he right cos I'm bent on not paying that

Hey ma'am....don't pay 4d reconnection...cos if u do, then you don't know it right....ur landlord is a being like you....he's knows what right....he acted foolish prolly cos he's the landlord and feels no one can challenge him....please don't pay....if you stand it grounds, I promise he'll not only be scared of you, he'll respect u

@op.....diaris something I wanna suggest to you, which is how you see betting from ur angle... honestly, I was in ur shoes years back (same way I got introduced by a friend). Mine was nice.....I devised a strategy that made me win on a daily....until it got to a time I started misbehaving since I've made lotta money (which made me lose so much to d extend I was broke)....sins av gotten addicted to it, I couldn't quit.... instead I was searching d internet to look for a strategy that'll favour me.....I now saw a suggestion made by a white guy.....d guy said d best way to win in sportbet is to see it as a business (i.e when you wanna place a bet, u do it as if it's your business).....if u had a business worth 1million naira, will u be looking for a way to make a profit of 10million naira on a daily?.....so I thought about it found a way that favours me.....
so what I'm tryna say is that you see bet as a business....if u wanna go into a business, first you make your research, secondly you look for a way it will favor u.... that's how bet is.....infact if you understand FOREX Trading, you will understand sportbet to a reasonable extend...
I rest my case.

Just allow her enjoy herself with d new man.....just simpu

My own typa introvert is the funny and interesting typa introvert.....if I see a lady I like, I'll just crack my normal jokes, make her happy and prolly keep awa conversation lively....after that, the rest is history

Mosminic:
The lady obviously has a mental issue or she's still a child. Who would sit down, replay the thought and still think the husband is at fault. The man is in grave danger really

she feels because the husband doesn't send money to her parents (the way he sends to his own parents), that it's the right of the husband....if you check vewi well, dis kyna women have nothing to bring to the table rather than sex

lollllz....I read this story on Life Matters on fb.... madam, first, ur husband has no right to be sending ur parents money on a monthly basis (except he feels like).... second, ur husband is not in anyway responsible for contributing for ur brother's traditional wedding.....let ur brother sort himself out the way ur husband did when he wanted marrying you....if you feel this is a problem, go get a job and play d role if ur husband to your family cos ur husband had done yo ur family wat a sensible man should do before marrying a woman.....no family shouldn't open office on top ur husband head......it seems u want a divorce from ur husband cos u're creating a path way for it...... remember say na from clap. dance dey start

if u like

get her a key holder instead... dat'll be fine

Omooba77:
Today many people dont believe in prophecies because they see many men of God as fake.
The Truth about prophecies is that if it is of God, no matter how long it will come to pass.

Remember, Isaiah prophecied about the birth of Jesus, which did not come in the life time of Isaiah and all that heard it. Many would have taken him to be a joker, alas, about 400 years later the prophecy was fulfilled.

So many prophecies in the Bible; many have been fulfilled, some yet. In a nutshell, all will be fulfilled!

The Greatest of them all is that Jesus Christ will return back and Only His Saints will reign with Him!

prophesies is the next biggest scam after Nigerian covid19

Soar2019:
1. African parent though in some cases are not educated but they are most enlightened in the world in terms of child upbringing .. for no reason should in any case use the word ‘unwise’ for parent they may not be educated but they are enlightened
2. Business, especially in Nigeria terrain of these days is dicy .. unpredictable. I know a friend that once have a gas filling station but now down to zero cos of Nigeria ‘uncertainties’. His is not to be used as ‘bench mark’ just need to mention
3. Please for no reason should you leave your Dad home to pursue your ambition ‘you will be out of cover’ unprotected .. you may end up with bad gangs when you face ‘real life’ challenges
4. My advice. While you are working on your proposals.. and ideas .. take up your Dad advice. Tell him you will go for the masters ( after all you’ve got nothing to lose, what education does is; it ‘enlarge your capacity’ it ‘opens your inner eyes’ to see farther and clearer, ...during and while you are are working on your masters .. attend seminars, conferences, do your ‘ masters research/seminars/thesis on your business proposals .. in doing this you are using one stone to kill 2 birds
5. On a final note.. be warned! Business terrain in Nigeria is not ‘rosy’ as you think don’t get out of the ‘cocoon’ before your time .. otherwise you may not be able to fly .. develop your wings under the guidance your parent; it may not be easy but you will not regret it in the future.

take did advice at ur own peril.....it's Betta one does what he/she has passion for and fail than for one to do what he/she doesn't have passion for and still fail

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

God go bless u more abundantly for dis piece of comment u just made.....I thought I'm d only one who has dis same idea.

masturbation

Ur problem is not d fact dat gial's leave u cos of ur job....Ur problem is allowing pples decision to weigh u down (I.e u don't believe in urself)....broda, it's better u allow d gial go her way by allowing her do whatever thing that pleases her so you can focus on how to build urself and make ur finances big.... she'll definitely come back....just share me ur testimony

nwanyiugbo122:
cant forget year 2011 when I was still in school, see me fending for myself and my siblings after my mum died a mysterious death and my dad ran away. someone referred me to one prophet who can tell who killed my mum. I had only 2k with me,as I reached there,he was just doing guess work and asking names of some of my relatives, which I thought he would have mentioned their names without me telling him. at the end of the day,he said I should sow a seed for God's spirit to minister more to him,I gave 500,he said is small I said I had no money, he said God's spirit won't be happy with me if I have money and denied it, I said ok,I had just 1500 remaining to transport me home, he said I should bring everything and watch God perform wonder on my way. that's how I gave everything in my purse,he reschedule the appointments with other things I should buy. that's how I trekked a distance a bike can take 400,on a normal day. I cried and cursed this man. I got home with pains, I had to buy pains relief drugs. since that day,I don't believe any si called man of God.

lollllz