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FamilyRe: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by flyca: 9:47am On Dec 26, 2018
Ogbenimax:
and what if your husband is saying the truth huh
First, spouses are diserning - most times.
Next, the husband's attitude and response is almost screaming “guilty”!
FamilyRe: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by flyca:
Gratefulaheart:
Thank you for the advice. I just can't stop wondering why I wasn't enough for him. Yes things got a bit stressful sometimes, we have busy lives and young children, there has been arguments but we still had nice times and a healthy, good sex life. I'm one minute sobbing, then so angry.

He's still denying! He woke me up during the night and said we should talk. I ignored him and then he started his sob story that the lady is lying against him. I am more upset about the fact that he's taking me for a fool.

This is a man that is in a messy financial situation for the past months and barely meeting his financial responsibility in the home. I have been covering up in the home front. He sold off his car in June and have been driving mine (i bought with my money) around while i hop on bikes. He obviously was using my car to take another woman to a hotel and he still doesn't feel an iota of guilt about it.

I am in a very tight corner and i can't think straight right now. All I can think about is our kids and how I don't want to deny them the right to grow up with their father. But i certainly can't continue in this marriage if he doesn't even respect me enough to admit what he did.
Okay so I read this part and decided to add more.
Wait o, you have been supporting him financially and he still had guts to cheat? How can a broke man who has being failing in this basic family responsibility still have ere.ction? undecided

I need you to think: How can you protect your kids? Where are your relatives? Parents? Can you hand over your kids to some trusted adult in the meantime?

If yes, take them away and get ready for drama.
Do you have any crush? Maybe from secondary school or university? If yes.... good!

Stop sobbing or crying, he is not responding to it. Start a chat with someone from your past, start with a neutral chat. School life, lectures, school uniform, teachers, life after school, church, religion, politics etc. Allow him to occupy you in the meantime. Laugh, have fun. Ignore oga and reconnect with your past. Be cheerful at home, keep up with your wife duties, call your kids and stay connected with them. Ignore oga totally. If you have been dropping money for him, STOP! Pamper yourself. If you have extra cash, buy a luxury product for yourself! And excuse me, you may be needing your precious car more often than usual undecided Stop flying bikes, it's not sexy! And you since you will be wearing high heel shoes, it's not convinent, not anymore! wink

Now, how he reacts will direct you, your next moves, and most importantly, will direct how deep the connection goes. If he is still unconcerned, increase tempo, move to gear 2. Fix a date. Again, still keep it as neutral as possible. Meet him at Mr Biggs or Tantalizers. Go with one of your kids (the one that will tell Daddy that “Uncle Sam” bought him ice cream tongue)! Lol.

Lemme know when you get to gear 4 cheesy

Whatever you do, do not leave your matrimonial home for any baskard slay queen! Na him go run commot. Keep that recording very safe too. We die dia!

Hey, it's just an advice. You must not follow it!
FamilyRe: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by flyca:
OP, what do you do for a living?

Lack of financial independence is one of the reasons why spouses (esp women) tolerate nonsense in their relationships/ marriage. It is also the reason why the other partner has the effontery to do behave anyhow undecided

As for me, it's my personal decision not to bring any kid that I cannot personally take care of into this world. I don't need all that drama. I won't beg you to support your own child. So, no matter how rich my husband is, I have decided that I must still have my own income!

This can never be overstressed in marriage!

Madam, if I were in your shoes (I pray not to though), .... Anyway, lemme not type it here so that I don't interfere with the minds of younger readers.

OP, if you are an independent (financially) woman that has never been found wanting in your wifely duties, send me a PM lemme advise you on what to do. I have many options though divorce being the last. wink

I know it hurts very much.
Warm hugs to you!
CelebritiesRe: Christmas Family Photos Of Georgina Onuoha In Matching Outfits With Daughters by flyca: 12:28pm On Dec 25, 2018
Is her mama her husband? undecided
FamilyRe: Wife Writes 'Borrow' Whenever She Sends Her Husband Money by flyca:
desoul2004:
Why can't you stop exposing your ignorance.
Writing a full page saying a trash.
Lol. You are sick in the head!
I had waited for your response for 24hours, no show. Before I edited part of my post.
More than 48hours after, and this is the most intelligent thing you can come up with? undecided

Wisdom to you is demonizing all women, yea?
Dolt!
FoodRe: Name The Food You Hate, But Other People Like Eating It by flyca: 9:42am On Dec 25, 2018
Snail, snake, sea foods.
TravelRe: DIY Guide To Australian Permanent Resident Visa - Part 2 by flyca: 1:40pm On Dec 24, 2018
123Rock321:
Hello All, kindly assit with guidance, advise and channels to obtain the required goals. Good folks please my details are below

Discipline: Elect Elect Eng BSc
Age: 35
IELTS: 7.5
Listening(7.5), Reading 8, Writing(7.5), Speaking(7.5)
Work experience: 8 yrs

My wife is a pharmacist.

How do I to start up this Australia process journey?
Do I stand any chance at all?

Please I’m open to advise.
English = 10 points (try and max it at 20 points)
Age = 25 points
Education = 15 points
Relevant work experience = ? (Check with EA)
If all your 8 years are related to Electrical Engineering and you have all the relevant documents to claim them, you will earn 15 points.
Spouse = no point


Three types of working visa available are visas 189, 190 and 489. Begin your journey. Goodluck!
TravelRe: DIY Guide To Australian Permanent Resident Visa - Part 2 by flyca: 8:33am On Dec 24, 2018
123Rock321:
Hello All, kindly assit with guidance, advise and channels to obtain the required goals. Good folks please my details are below

Discipline: Elect Elect Eng BSc
Age: 35
IELTS: 7.5
Work experience: 8 yrs

How do I to start up this Australia process journey?
Do I stand any chance at all?

Please I’m open to advise.
Of course you stand a chance. Lol
Go and get an assessment from EA. That should be the beginning of your journey since you have written English Test.

You need to state all your points in Listening, Speaking, Reading and Writing to get further help.

However, for DHA, you must get at least a 7 in all the four skills to earn 10 points. And at least an 8 in all the four skills to earn 20 points.

Also are you married? What is your spouse's occupation. Those need to be put into consideration too.

Let the journey begin. Cheers.
FamilyRe: Wife Writes 'Borrow' Whenever She Sends Her Husband Money by flyca:
Emaprince:
Your father might have documented whatever, but he never told the whole world just like you women does.

As for ending with a better woman, LMAO. Is there even a better one at all? Women changes a lot because they are easily influenced by friends and the environment they find themselves in at any given time.

We don give up on women already. LMAO. Na by grace of God one can see a good one today.
Before I forget. There is this my classmate from secondary school. Her name is Obiamaka. She is my friend on Facebook, but she is not the type that posts a lot.

Her husband will always post and tag her, that's how I see it. The man is always gushing about her. Today vacation, tomorrow Dubai and all that. Always telling the world that he is lucky to have meet and married Obiamaka. They've been married for about 6 years now. Lol

His birthday post to her was: No wonder I knelt down to beg you for your number! kiss

Now do you think Obiamaka is not a woman? Or she is the only good woman in the world? Or she doesn't have her flaws?

The difference is that they have both learned how to get around each other! That's the reason for the excess love flowing in their relationship.

You know why I have said that you and people like you will likely not end up with a good woman? Because you have seen all women as the same (which maybe true), but you will not bend down and work for and with your own woman.

Congratulations on your choice!
FamilyRe: Wife Writes 'Borrow' Whenever She Sends Her Husband Money by flyca:
Emaprince:
Your father might have documented whatever, but he never told the whole world just like you women does.

As for ending with a better woman, LMAO. Is there even a better one at all? Women changes a lot because they are easily influenced by friends and the environment they find themselves in at any given time.

We don give up on women already. LMAO. Na by grace of God one can see a good one today.
Do you know my father? No.
Okay let me tell you, he was....

Now lemme ask you - do you know this woman? How did she broadcast to the whole world? Can you point her out in the community?

You just like to make noise!
Again, it is evident from your attitude that you likely will not end up with a good woman.
So it's good you have given up on time.

I know uncountable number of men who still acknowledge that they would not have made it thus far without their women. Strong men still have women as their bedrock! Good marriage relationships are not scarce, but only men who know how to get around their women earn it.

The others with egos are as high as the heavens will not smell it. So they can only sit around and whine!

Cheers!
FamilyRe: Wife Writes 'Borrow' Whenever She Sends Her Husband Money by flyca: 2:27pm On Dec 23, 2018
Emaprince:
This post is sentimental and stupid honestly. Why will he pay back though?

If it was the other way round, I'm sure you will spew trash on the man for not giving his wife a common 10k for free. After all he is the man.

On the bolder, Why must it be to make a side chick happy? Haven't you seen women that collects from their husbands/ boyfriends to feed their secret lovers? It's everywhere you go.

You women should know condemn evil when it comes from your gender. Not always making excuses Upandan. This is why it's easy to generalize everything about women.. Because y'all act alike
You write so well but you lack content a.k.a sense!

Why must everything done by a woman be condemed? Can't you see from her post that she is just a woman that has a good relationship with her hubby. Look at her smilies. She is just having fun!

My father documented every penny he gave us while in the university. So? Did anybody hang him? My mum on the other hand gives you her last kobo and forgets about it the next minute.
I'm sure you will still find a way to blame her.

Judge women all you want, you and your kind never end up with a good one by anyways.
FamilyRe: Wife Writes 'Borrow' Whenever She Sends Her Husband Money by flyca: 1:22pm On Dec 23, 2018
UniQue84:
be that as it may, the woman lack sense for coming to social media imagine #10,000, if it was 500k she would have gone to 5 TV stations..women with possession mentality.

And who told you the man might have not tried collecting money from her telling her it was meant for family usage before and you know how women normally say it " Are you not the man/head of the house "..hence the reason for using the "borrowing" method.

You women who love to do the "my my own" thing, here is my advice don't get married cos you don't need it and you don't understand the meaning, just stay single or perhaps be a baby mama like most of your lots. ...mtweeeeeeew.

Marriage is sharing and if you can't share remain single and marry your self ...am outta here.
Have you finished? undecided

Lemme ask you. Do you know this woman? Can you tell who she is from her post? We both know that there are more than ten thousand “Mrs Bello” in Nigeria, she may not even be that name in the first place, so where is your “broadcasting” idea coming from?

Free the woman! She was just having fun. Can't you see her smilies? She sounds to me as a person who has a good play relationship with her husband. Stay there and be quenching.

Na you sabi!
FamilyRe: Wife Writes 'Borrow' Whenever She Sends Her Husband Money by flyca:
IamD18:
Selfish and self-centered creatures.

Why should he pay you back when he'll end up using the money for the betterment of the family.
Then he shouldn't ask for a loan! He should ask for money that he will use for the “betterment of the family”, so that the wife knows it's family money that she is not getting it back.

That said, why do you assume that the man will use it for betterment of the family? Haven't you seen men who borrow from their wives to make their sidechicks happy? Or man who borrow from their wives to buy drinks for the boys?

You are always very shallow!
EducationRe: Hijab: Aisha AbdulAleem Drags Ogun Government To Court, Demands N1m by flyca: 7:28am On Dec 23, 2018
efighter:
Any school whose teachers are paid by the government is definitely not a missionary school be in Christian or Muslim.
You guys always look for an excuse to cause mishief. It ingrained in your genes!

Are there muslim missionary schools?
If no, why?
If yes, why did they not take here there?
Small time now, you will want them to change the name of the school to Alha kubbar undecided
CelebritiesRe: DJ Cuppy Looks Adorable In New Selfie Photos by flyca: 6:31pm On Dec 22, 2018
Trendvoice:
no body ask for your review keep your thoughts to yourself
Quarrel all you want, na you sabi!
You are a lazy blogger with zero content!
EducationRe: Hijab: Aisha AbdulAleem Drags Ogun Government To Court, Demands N1m by flyca: 6:22pm On Dec 22, 2018
For those who did no see it, the incident happened in St Peters College! A Christian missionary school!

Give them an inch, they want a mile!
Tufiakwa!
CelebritiesRe: Funke Akindele And Husband JJC Skillz Welcome First Child Together by flyca:
Very beautiful news especially for me kiss

Another proof that no woman is evening newspaper! Able and capable MEN (not boys) still cheerish their women kiss

Forget all those stupids talks and insults and careless talk by frustrated Nairalanders who cannot afford what they crave for eg IamD18

Everyone should be patient and wait for your turn, but be smart enough to identity your opportunities. And don't stop working and pushing through your dreams while and it. Bless!
PoliticsRe: Why Are We Disrespecting The Presidents Office? by flyca: 10:17am On Dec 21, 2018
KingMEXX:
Try to read it, it's an interesting one. The heading is just rhetorical
Okay dear, next year. Thanks
PoliticsRe: Why Are We Disrespecting The Presidents Office? by flyca: 10:10am On Dec 21, 2018
Respect is Reciprocal
That's an old adage.

If you want respect, give respect. Fullstop!

Therefore, I will not bother to read the writeup!
RomanceRe: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by flyca: 1:20am On Dec 21, 2018
Resener13:
Big head. Continuewalking
kiss
RomanceRe: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by flyca: 1:00am On Dec 21, 2018
Resener13:
Stfu. He’s a weak ass. Why would a man go to his fiancées house to beg her mom. Who does that?
#rollseyes
#continueswalking
RomanceRe: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by flyca: 12:15am On Dec 21, 2018
Resener13:
You’re mad. Is she not this girl? A stupid one at that
I will let for enjoy your foolery because you are not the OP! May what has befallen him not befall you. Shebi he went to the girl's family to beg and cry before they accepted him back undecided
You refer to your woman as “this girl” and you are crying lack of disrespect. Wonderful!
RomanceRe: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by flyca: 12:04am On Dec 21, 2018
1. You dated a lady for 3 whole years, got engaged to her, now you have small problem with her and you are calling her “this girl”.

Something is wrong with your head angry

2. What exactly do you mean by lack of respect? undecided So you want a working class woman (obviously a family can't run fully with only your income), then you also want her to be prostrating to serve you beans and bread. And maybe answer you “sir”, abi?

You are out of your mind! angry
Shebi her mother told you to leave their daughter alone? Eh... Why did you go and beg? Why not marry a pre-mature woman that don't know her left from right? Someone that is not working?

I am almost compelled to curse you!
Gerrrrrrraaaahia mehn!
RomanceRe: Outrage As Men Sexualize A -5-year-old Girl Wearing Bum Shorts On TV Talk Show by flyca: 10:41am On Dec 18, 2018
Basiljoe:
@Kennygee @tstx @StrongandMighty
You retardds should read this sensible writeup above and try to borrow a little bit of common sense, just a little, it won't hurt.
I don't know why you have called me a retardd, please can you give a reason? At least, I did not insult you.
RomanceRe: Outrage As Men Sexualize A -5-year-old Girl Wearing Bum Shorts On TV Talk Show by flyca: 9:04am On Dec 18, 2018
shogsman:
What is the name of your company?
What does it matter?
RomanceRe: Outrage As Men Sexualize A -5-year-old Girl Wearing Bum Shorts On TV Talk Show by flyca: 8:44am On Dec 18, 2018
ojuu4u:
Now that u know that certain individual are perverted, abnormal and padeophilic in nature, don't you see it as act of stupid and foolsheness on your part by clothing in bum short outside.
See eh.... even if you dress your kids with bedsheets, perverts will always be perverts!
My lecturer harrassed me in university. I wish I could share a picture of what I was wearing that day. He was tapping my br.east in class and laughing. And he did that to many girls in my class. Imagine!

*btw, I am a very conservative dresser o, the SU type, you get.
RomanceRe: Outrage As Men Sexualize A -5-year-old Girl Wearing Bum Shorts On TV Talk Show by flyca:
Why would anyone look at a five, seven, eight year old kid (boy or girl) with lust even if they were na.ked?

When I was younger, you see kids that age bath in pavements outside the house, in the streams or by the riversides with innocence and no one harrassed them. What changed?

Why are we so religious yet so pervertious?
Even full-fledged adults wear bumshots abroad (including non-religious countries) and no one bats an eyelid! In my company, it is okay to wear bumshorts to work. In fact, nobody even thinks anything is wrong with it.

So the problem is not the kids, but the paedophilic adults who have everything configured in the minds of their lustful desires.

In Nigeria, underaged girls are raped (even hijab does not stop rapists!). It's not the kids, it's the adults. Don't blame the child or their parents, blame the soceity. The evil people going around stealing pants, should we blame the pant for enticing them?


Blaming a child for being raped is the same thing as blaming a car owner for his hijacked car! Very unbecoming! And neausating!
PhonesRe: Can You Ditch Your Smartphone For A Year To Win $100k. by flyca:
FREEMADNESS:
why do u need a job of 50k wen u can b given 100k and invest wisely wit it and make 500k annually.my guy u are just trying to b relevant here wen we all knw da everyman will jump to d offer at first sight.....

stop living a fake life on social media please!!!
Lol. The word “everybody” here is funny to me, you are really living in a closet. If you are in a country where you use your phones to check when the buses arrive your station, pay for bus fare, buy metro tickets, buy meat and pepper in the market with your phone, open your house door, enter elevator with NFC etc (these are just basic daily needs I mentioned o) you will not be able to part with your phone for 1 week max.

Ideally, a phone is not only used fror “Nairalanding” and social media, okay?

I don't blame you sha, 100k seems like a lifeline to you. Invest ke? So you cannot invest wisely on a 50k salary that will make you a col manager in 5 years? Lol. You sef. Well, lemme carry my “fake life” and face front sha. Throw away your phone, and just be waiting for the 100k to “invest wisely” Odimma! tongue
PhonesRe: Can You Ditch Your Smartphone For A Year To Win $100k. by flyca: 8:53am On Dec 17, 2018
FREEMADNESS:
my guy............ u only need 10k dollar and u will dump d whole nation.
stop living a fake life on social media.
Lol.

First of all, you need to understand that “time is money”. Get free 100k today, loose out on a 50k job that will land you a managerial position in 5 years time. Do you think that is wise?

Also, kindly note that not everybody on Nairaland earns naira.

Thank you.
PhonesRe: Can You Ditch Your Smartphone For A Year To Win $100k. by flyca: 7:48am On Dec 17, 2018
If I do, I will loose more than that amount.
So no, I will not.
TravelRe: Most Sought-After Countries For Immigrants by flyca:
Rwanda!

Jeez, I'm so proud of their progress!
CelebritiesRe: See Why Jeremi Sholaye Dumped Linda Ikeji by flyca: 2:19pm On Dec 14, 2018
What about that engagement party Linda had? Was it staged? huh

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