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Danhoys:
I could totally relate to you dear op, but I'm sure we're the lucky ones.

First of all, you married someone you love, someone you find both romantically and sexually attractive.

That's a plus.

When I and my hubby were passing through this turbulent phase, what helped was having similar interest.

I'm hugely into politics, and so is my husband. Trust me, there is always something to gist on when he's back from work.

Aside from politics, we're both hardcore gamers too, and we're already saving to get PS4, and it doesn't stop us from giving our young kids the attention they deserve.

Aside that, we both have huge interest in other areas too, like science. There is always something to talk about.

I've always love men who are built, and my husband knows this.

Every weekend, we go running, and we help each stay fit. Sometimes I teases him that he should be a model, and I do take alluring pictures of him too.

I'm a super intelligent lady, (not bragging), so I ensured that my husband's intellect matched with mine before saying 'I do!'

We've been married for 5 years now, and the love and fun is still there. During leave, we always make it a duty to travel to another state, and see an interesting place.

A week vacation doesn't hurt, and it has a way to rekindle the love we have for each other.

When you marry your friend, you discover that your love is new every morning lol.

Work and children can't steal love away, that's an excuse people give to avoid talking about how they no longer find their partner attractive or interesting.

I don't want to talk about sex, cause ours is on a whole new level. Sex shouldn't be the traditional offing of light and missionary thrusting.

That's boring!!! It needs spicing every time or it becomes boring and a chore.

I wouldn't like to go into details, before some religious folks label us sinners.

You have work to do, and I'm sure you've gotten a cue from my write up. Wishing you more bliss in marriage.

But your husband is different from her husband.. and she also do not have any intersecting interest with her husband....Your case is quite lucky and salvageable...only if her husband is ready to work on it...which I proudly doubt

Mandela27:
I swear arsenal go disgrace chelsea.it should be expected

Lol..I no be Chelsea fan...but on paper people will argue that Athletico Madrid and ManUtd shd beat Chelsea..but that dint happen...so in Chelsea Vs Arsenal, you should be more reserved in ur prediction

DesignAndBuild:
I must admit the Arsenal I watched yesterday looked capable of beating any good side on their day. All the annoying players all conspired to bring out their best. Willian, Pepe, Xhaka and David Luiz all had their best games in an Arsenal shirt to date. My only dissatisfaction is that this same performance will go totally missing in a subsequent game and this is why Arsenal don't win major trophies and the likes of Man City do. Zero consistency. Fantastic team on their day, disgraceful team on all other days

It's because there's now stiff competition for shirt...since Martin Odegard is good, Smith Rowe is good,and Bukayo saka who are all receiving the praise...that's why those poor players are buckling up....Same as Mancity... there's replacement for anybody in City..so competition is really tight and standard is high...if u refuse to improve on your game, surely u will be left to the fringe....same principle is why Arsenal is getting better.... it's competition.
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There's a slight element of that in Chelsea since Tuchel came on board..he's giving everyone chance to prove their worth and those players who thought they were already out of the team are now putting pressure on the regular with their competitive spirit .......so no one wants to lose its position......
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I'm not an Arsenal fan .but I follow the development of their youngsters...I used to tell Arsenal fans that untill Willock, and Nelson and some poor players in aren't the go-to for line-up, Arsenal might continue to go down...and I'm right...Those boys have potential..but not at the level of the competitiveness required of players in Arsenal line-up. That's the difference. Even William too should not be a stand-by starting 11.. occasionally when he gets a call, he will put in more effort just like he did recently.

And Chelsea too.... Chelsea Vs Arsenal go sweet...

You mean the whole local govt?
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The same Yobe that's been the hotbed and battle field of Bokoharam insurgency for some years now...They are still rooting for their current leaders who is the genesis of their destruction. Stolckhom syndrome indeed.
Not even a paradigm shift or anger to remove the current powers after so much destruction on Yobe...No wonder the north doesn't understand revolution now or restructuring cos their hope and destiny is still tied with their oppressor.North is irredeemable. The south should plan as a matter of urgency to leave this evil hodgepodge union before it's too late

CalmElder:
The more reason to be focused.
You live in a country such as this and sex is all you have at the front of your mind?
E go red for you.

I only made social commentary...hope you understand....Hope you understand if I dint make the comments people will still chyke and fvvck married women...so I don't know why u are barking at me

CalmElder:
Plenty of the "smart bold guys" who made a career out of sleeping with married women in festac town, are now being replaced by another set of unfortunate fellows.
They wasted their most valuable time for laying a strong foundation for the future, and placed it in married women's hands.
You look into their eyes, what you see is hopelessness.
After all the fantasy about sex, when you finally have it, it's not worth it.
Be careful.....

Most Nigerians look into hopelessness today by virtue of being in this useless country....Nigeria is the greatest cos of hopelessness in Nigeria...fix Nigeria, and the ones u attribute to sex will drastically reduce Ogbeni

Femzaremz:
ive been noticing ur comments! U are very wise in relationship issues!most of ur comments are pure undiluted truths!

Thanks. I hope we will learn...though the ladies are always angry at the comment...cos anything truth is their enemy

Patrioticman007:
Says a cocaine addict peddling lies on this forum. Farmers vs herdmen clash never started under this govt & will not end now, until both parties find solutions to it.
Your ethnic profiling of Fulani's is like those tribalist calling Igbo's developers of crimes, they Igbo's & drugs pushing are 5 & 6. Any one that believes your trash believes Igbo's brains tissues contains hard drugs

Get lost from my mention....it is Crystal clear Fulani herdsmen are criminals and nurderers...and most of your educated folks support them cos they perpetuate your archaic cultural belief on cow and ethnic domination...
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Nobody can be fooled anymore...Your agenda is all over, even the blind can see. What's my business with Igbo..have you heard where Igbo formed criminal group to kill innocent citizens? you must be senseless to compare Igbos misdemeanor to Fulani bloodthirstiness...does drug pushing affect people's life the way you animals stab, hack, murder and spray bullets on innocent law abiding citizen? What has your law-abiding people done when the herdmen terrorise other groupa .you all praise them in silence.
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Fulani has done the most evil in Nigeria that they shouldn't be profiled alone, but hunted and bundled back to Futajalon...
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What has the history of the Fulanis taught us? isnt it the history of violence, oppression, and death on host communities they met??
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What was the grand scheme and vision of Usman Dan fodio who came to the north with sword, lying that Mohammed gave him a mandate to subdue Nigeria, and who has passed down that evil ideology to his offspring who are decimating lives today...
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What is the history of Fulani generals and head of states in Nigeria...?
If everyone knew history in this country, no single Southerner, or westerners will vote Fulanis.....To prevent their atrocity being known by young generation, they wrote our constitution which is the symbol of oppression today, they removed history from schls...what evil has the violent, amoral Fulani race hasn't foment on Nigeria... nonsense...Never you compare the peaceful industrious Igbos with your blood sucking race.

I hope you are not person

Most Girls Yes...Most boys No. The girls fvvcked older guys that are out of secondary schl, or corpers or brother Tunde on their street..

Xpress24:
is Abraham ur standard?
Besides sarah was his half sister who later became his wife.God is truth
What God has ordain for you nobody can stop it.Op telling the truth pays let no one deceive you.

will you keep shut...lie is lie..that's a white lie...Sarah was his wife ....he deny it twice cos he feared for his life.........If there was no threat to his life, would he have deny that Sarah is his wife?

Ishilove:
Fidelity in marriage is "overrated", and you still end the post with "may God give us wisdom". You're justifying adultery and giving God honour, in the same sentence.

People, please ignore this satanic post so that you don't fall into a pit.

The question is do married people cheat during that period they get bored of each other....when everything seems life a drag and being forced...yes they do. That's my point....wisdom in that sentence means the aptitude to make decisions that won't boomerang in whatever we do....I wonder how ur comprehension is low....just because u want to deny infidelity that happen around 5 to 10yrs of marriage... which is as common as water...Your fellow ladies know it's true..except u

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Guess my birth name just by looking at my picture...The person that guesses right gets 25,000 naira.[/color]

Mamagee3, you don come ask us question again abi....thanks God this bring money ...Your name na Ife, love,

Viking007:
Please where did this happen in the bible?

Gen 12 vs 10 to 13....first lie
Gen 20 vs 1. to 13 ..... second lie

Jashub:
Telling the truth is always the best policy brother. And I will advise that you continue to do so; for it will save you from many unknown evils in the coming years of your life.


Lastly, I will also advise you go to church today. Standing in God's presence and crying out to Him after such will certainly bring a sense of hope and a better tomorrow .


Peace

Even Abraham told a lie for survival....you better go and sit down with unrealistic truth telling

PS :. Baba use brain...and God dint punish him
Gen 12 vs 1.....(10 to 13)....first lie
Gen 20 vs 1 to 13 ...............second lie

Job interview don't care about your truthfulness...learn the game. You are going to war and u don't want to kill cos it's a sin....na war Dem go take finish u

The ones we see in our village markets, farm market and neighborhood with our korokoro eyes nkor? They are aliens.

justosee:
but you are an advocate of cheating to make marriage a happy and a long lasting one? or you don't understand the nonsense you wrote there.

is that advocating or just pointing out what goes on in marriage? I wrote what is a trend and norm in marriage.....why are u people so dumb....or is it unethical to write about the obvious in our society again...?

WriterX:
my question is what did they do with all the money they got from the previous winnings , they had enough to strengthen their club, get good players, klopp dropped big names but oh no they decided to play wait and see.
their transfer game really came around to bite them hard

You dey mind Dem...it's been their motive in ages to bring Gerrard.

Robertgreene1:
oga so all those poem u wrote up there is js 2 glorify extramarital affairs?...is fvcking a married woman now an achievement or what?...mtcheew

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Get lost if you are too dumb to face reality.

justosee:
sick comment. cheating is the only thing I can never think of forgiving in a relationship.

Nobody is telling you to forgive cheating....why are you so dumb at comprehension...where did I advocate for forgiveness in cheating?

Robertgreene1:
is fvcking a married woman now an achievement or what?

Get lost from my mention If you don't understand the trust of the post.

England and overhyping their native coach.
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He will come and fail like Lampard. You can bet it.
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Everyone knows why Liverpool is suffering...it's all down to injury..so why can't they be patient till at least next season? England can be too biased

Nigeria has the brain, resources, population and innovation to lead in all sphere of life in the wordl Name it:, in sport, science, finance, business, medicine, invention? just name it..even in juju....but u know what...Your Fulani Herdsmen and Buhari will not allow us to be great.
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We need to understand the Fulani worldview to to realise the animals we are fighting.
In Fulani culture, they believe it is their sole 'destiny from heaven' to rear cattle in the nomadic fashion across the grassland/forest of Africa.. They are most emboldened in Nigeria..cos Nigerians are foolish and take nonsense.
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Fulani are culturally and divinely linked with cattle according to their folklore. it's a spiritual relationship..They worship it like deity.. that's why since they have the upper hand in politics they want to turn Nigeria to their grazing land where everyone will have to accept and probably pertake in this evil destiny of pastoralism, which is a cultural legacy to an average Fulani.
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How shocked were you when one Northern man, I think Adamu Garba said cowcrycurrency is more progressive and lucrative than cryptocurrency? How did u feel hearing such travesty from a supposed educated Fulani man..that takes us back to the cultural and providential problem of nomadism in the worldview of the Fulanis people... How about the psychotic love for everything pertaining to cow that Bubu displays? It's still same explanation...
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Until we get rid of these evil, backward, and stone age race of the Fulanis in Nigeria, they will continue to move us perilously back to destroy of our own superior destiny that should be the light and prosperity of Africa and the world at large.
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Any sane country intent at moving forward should never allow Fulanis to lead cos their brain is irredeemably infested with cattle tissue. They will murder a new born baby, kill a pregnant woman to save or avenge a cow. Why should you live with such brutish animals?

Qatar2022:
What's the morals of this your comment?

Do you yourself have morals?

Guys, When you want to date married women, women who are like 5 to10yrs above in marriage are the most vulnerable to fall into your trap. Many times they crave attention..or are just bored of their husband.
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It's not gainsay when they say the first 5 to 7 years is the most turbulent in marriage that can break or make a marriage.
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The story this young woman detailed above is a typical cycle of almost all marriages. The point our OP finds herself, for an average lady, after trying to endure or make things work will just succumb to the pressure of guys out there...and before u say jack..smart bold guys are already pounding her pvssy with all alacrity.. It's natural these days.. especially if you are in the business of chyking/chopping married women. You will know this.
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It's only a matter of time if nothing is done before this woman starts riding the BBC of a guy who gives her attention and tickle her fancy...Naso e dey start...Nothing new.
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That's why to me, fidelity in marriage is overrated..cos most times couples have broken their vow long before their significant other realises.
But in her situation, some women will deliberately go out and give in to the advances of their admirer just to kill boredom, depression and feel happy. To hell with marital vows..women do this most times to be Happy. However, the smart ones still find a way to balance home demand by not making it affect the integrity of the marriage...what they do is just flow with the marriage and not stress too much for the attention of their busy husband since he's not ready to be disturbed.
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In thesame vein, the busy husband most times is also somewhere cheating with a university or polytechnic slayqueen cos he's also bored of her wife....That's the paradox of marriage.
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You see... cheating on both sides maintains the marriage and happiness of both party codedly. Argue with me all you care...that's the reality..
Meanwhile, the stupid couples when they start the cheating game, they transfer the bottled anger and aggression on their partner which usually cause breakup......While the coded smart ones maintain their marriage and we keep praising and complimenting their marriage as the best thing that ever happened since Adam and Eve.
May God give us wisdom in all we do.

Lori iro. Dem dey show face small small cos of 2023...Awon werey. ..Value driven education kor, corruption driven ni

Adaibeku:
Sensible what?
Oh talk 2 da hends!!!
If not that men & mods in nairaland are always trolling me I wouldnt have gone there

lol..u sef, why u kon stubborn wey Dem dey trouble you? Hope they are not troubling u for da giggly yunsh

Adaibeku:
Looooooolz * so this thread exist and I am wasting my time in Reddit n quora ? Akpuruakpumbem

You actually think they are enjoying? ***

Meanwhile, I'm very active on Reddit. So this thread shouldn't make you miss the gathering of sensibly advanced people on reddit

Adaibeku:
Looooooolz * so this thread exist and I am wasting my time in Reddit n quora ? Akpuruakpumbem

You actually think they are enjoying? ***

what do you call it if not enjoyment?

Adaibeku:
OP !

OP na general overseer mummy GO...u want me to be checking mummy GO?