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being:
Those are relationships. In marriage, it can be very different. To be sure, constant retaliations like that is a leading cause of marriage breakdowns... OP get her(&u) counselling fast!!!

All you do is criticize others and their solutions to a problem. But you have no single solution. A typical Nigerian.

Do you really understand the concept of marriage? So your concept of marriage is for the man to die in a loveless marriage? Suffer constant abuses, emotional and psychological torture all in the name of marriage? Are you even aware that women are home builders and keep homes together? Are you aware of the enormous roles and responsibilities of a married woman.

Marriage is a 50 - 50 effort.

I love myself.... Personally I can't take what OP is going through. OP is a good man that should be loved, cared for and appreciated. That wife of his does not deserve such a man.

I will continue to warn women.... Stop deceiving and marrying men you don't love, because this will be the end result. You will hate him, careless about him and will never appreciate whatever he does, at so point you will regret and even want him dead. Stop 🛑 marrying men you don't love.

OP, you will labour in vain in that marriage of yours if you fail to exact your authority and let her know you are a man. By giving her a dose of what you have being going through. It she can't take it and wants to leave let her leave.

The most dangerous thing for any man to do is to be married to a woman that does not love you.... You are doomed if you continue with such marriage. mark my words!

Nation1:
Hello people,

Am married for 6 years with two kids. Some months ago, my wife started denying sex so much that we hardly have 2 times in a month. Because of this, I no longer disturb her this days cos it's better to let her be than to be rejected since most times I expected her to say no or give an excuse or the other which am always about 90 percent right about.

This days, I don't feel attracted to her sexually anymore. I have never cheated on her but this days, the thought of doing so is gradually creeping in. Have tried talking to her about this but no change. I don't want to start what extra marital affair but am tempted to.

I need your advise guys.

lol..... So konji dey kill married men too?

Unbelievable, but Oga.
This life you are seeing is very short.
Now you can knack, trust me soon law of diminishing return will set in.

Is it when your penis can no longer stand that your wife will allow you to knack?

Better go out there and a mistress for that purpose jor.
She has broken the law of marriage.
Her body is your body and if she cant give you her body then. She has broken the law.

Even if you cheat it's no longer your fault or just endure and wait for the day she will change her mind.

Oooh.... I see regrets upon regrets.
Rape and murder at the same time.
Life destroyed forever.

why then did you come into this world only to destroy and ruin your life time on earth?
No mercy for hardened criminals like this.... If you can do the crime, you should do the time.

kollinz1234:
Great legacies of President Muhammadu Buhari.

There is no perfect government, we all just work towards perfection.

1. Unlike all other administrations in the past, president Buhari has made Nigerians more reliant on home grown rice than foreign rice. We now have what we call "Nigeria foreign rice" that is even suitable for export.

2. Through the new electoral laws signed by the president, Buhari, we can now vet our elections and control or manage rigging and even spot malpractices if it happens. (Which is why Obi's case at the tribunal looks different from all other post election cases in the past) A thing that has never been so with former administrations.

3. Due to unpredictability of our economy, the eyes of many Nigerians has now been opened more than ever to own, control and mange businesses, unlike when there was over reliant on government. At least now, people now open shops virtually everywhere unlike in previous administrations.

4. Buhari administration has made Nigerians more political exposed than another administration in the past. Probably due to the harsh economy or other reasons, people no longer take elections for granted. Credentials of political candidates are now being properly scrutinized unlike in the past.

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DennisEche:
For the rice part, He tried because he boosted our rice production locally. Aside that, he is a failure. He killed our booming economy

at what price?

Understand simple economics, he boosted rice production but Nigerians could not afford it.
Nigerians were able to afford foreign rice, because it was cheap.

In economics, affordability and production must go hand in hand.

Righteousness2:
There is no polite way to reject satanic advances except you are not serious.

The more you are being polite or negotiating with devil or his agent, the greater the chance of you falling.

Be bold , courageous and unapologetical to say I cannot do it and I won't do it

this your advise is to what end?

Supremos:
My brother my heart bleeds.

What is our world turning into. No more conscience.

not the world....
Nigeria and Africans.

Black man is the devil and Satan scriptural books is referring to.

See, how they have messed up this continent.

GREATIGB0MAN:
Fish brain

Accidents and the unexpected happens all day irrespective of how many risk assessments or hazard analysis was/is conducted.

If the ball they're playing gets stuck in the tracks of the train and the train approaching at full speed


It takes one dumb white bloke who's in spirit of the game and who lacks proper attention and awareness to become a casualty.




I called you a fish brain for tagging blacks as wicked and corrupt.


You're dumb for uttering such nonsense


If you're back I wish your children end up as dumb and stupid as a rock.

mumu daft and empty brain that knows nothing but thinks he knows shit. You are more intelligent than the Engineers and city planners that designed that village.

I can see that your poverty, stupidity and illiteracy is a generational curse that runs in your family. From your father, to your useless mother and your born and unborn generation.

I curse you today by all the forces of nature, you and your children/linage will live in abject poverty, misery and total destruction, tears will never depart from your life and that of your children for 10,000 years.

I curse you today by all the forces of Nature, you and your children will never live beyond 30 years on earth for 10,000 years.

No spirit and power can overturn it, until you apologize sincerely to me here on Nairaland.

You can't insult everybody and get away with it... You are condemned for 10,000 years.

GREATIGB0MAN:
Stupid

I thought Europeans were smart?

One fool running like a mad dog away from this being a disaster

hmmm..... Have you heard of risk assessment, hazard analysis and mitigation of risks and hazards?


Abi You think sey Oyibo man na mumu black man that knows nothing but wickedness and corruption?

Now he is dead and family has suddenly appeared from Texas and Mbitolu.

This life sha.....

thesicilian:
It's possible they didn't think you girls were worth spending N9,000 on. You know, there are some girls you buy expensive wines for, others you just manage to buy Fanta for them.

😂😂😂😂 savage!

So she and her friends are in the fanta and coke category?

cococandy:
I thought your parents raised you so well you don’t cuss people you only bless those who curse you?

And just like that, the stinking hypocrite that you are is laid bare to the whole world.

Of course your parents can only raised a hypocrite who thinks he’s a better person because he was beaten as child not knowing how damaged he is. Gutter mouth himself with absolutely zero sense of self awareness. You should be ashamed of yourself. And this only the first page of your disgusting vile posts

Just imagine this brat, so you think you have the right to come here and be insulting men and expect them to bless you? Thunder fire you and your wayward mentality.

Let Satan bless you.... No man can bless you.

That's the failed training I'm talking about. You treat people with total disrespect and expect them to bless you.

Jakumo:
That picture of a man beating an underage girl on her ass just makes my blood boil. I would love to face that man in hand-to-hand combat to see how well such a sick sexual pervert can handle himself against a real man versed in martial arts

don't worry he will flog her in her eyes.

The ass is the safest place to flog a child. Whether girl or boy. This ensures the kid is safe from other sensitive injuries while been corrected.

xpressionx:
Women are more in number,all they know is to come on nairaland shouting feminism, they can't use there large numbers to change things,always looking for hand outs and waivers

lol....😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Some of them are very useless set of things.

Na only fvck them sabi, no job, no money, nothing, always hungry.
If you don't have money as a lady, stay far far from me ooh....

If you don't have up to 10 million naira in your account, Run from me.

My money is for you and I, your money is also for you and I. Shikina, if you don't like it. Remain in your father's house or go find some half simple low self esteem men.

cococandy:
Evidence that your parents correction turned you into a sly deceitful person.

You asked me if my parents never flogged me. I said yes they did but I didn’t find that helpful. Never did I tell you that I didn’t appreciate other forms of correction. We were never even talking about correction. We were talking about flogging. Flogging isn’t even correction. It’s punishment

But being the daft idiot that you are, you turned around to say it’s sad that the correction didn’t help me. Who do you think you are kidding?
Instead of you to stay on the topic you decided to twist my words because obviously your initial argument was xtupid. Maybe all the hitting with iron metal they did on your head has made it impossible for you to learn. Daft slowpoke

what more can I say? This street arab, uncultured girl, unmannered and lost child is another proof that failed parenting will only breed rude and wayward girls like this.

To everyone in this platform, don't fail to correct your kids properly, teach them patiently, with love and care, so they don't end up abusing everybody they come across like this guttersnipe.

Sister I love you... Have a pleasant evening.

Kisses 💋😘💋😘😘

cococandy:
The correction from my parents that didn’t involve violence helped. The ones that included flogging did not help.

But like the idiot you are that your parents raised , you’ve decided to twist my words to make it what I didn’t say

A part of the home training and upbringing I got from my parents is never to insult people, they taught me to be respectful and decent.

Calling me an idiot is evident of the fact that your dad's corrections never worked. This is why we advice parents never to spare the rod.

I hope your husband, that's if you ever get married, does the right training on you. He should never spare the rod like your dad did when he is training you. Because, the way you go about insulting men on Nairaland for no reason is so alarming and scary.

Sister, I love you 💖💖😘.

We are trained to bless even those that curse us and respect people no matter how different our views about life is.

We are trained to correct people with respect!

Have a blessed day ahead sis.
I love you... Kisses 💋💋😘💋😘💋
He smiles.......☺️☺️😁😁

cococandy:
He did. And no he didn’t go to jail because obviously…

And before you ask, no the beating didn’t help me in any way.

I also think 3 years in jail is a bit excessive. Just as his punishment to the kid was excessive

The corrections from your dad didn't help you because he obviously spared the rod.

I would have been a lost course if not for the training, discipline and continuous correction of my wonderful and lovely parents.

Kobojunkie:
The man will be lucky if he can come near those kids after serving time in jail, this as he continues to pay for their welfare from wherever he ends up. He messed up big time.

after jail time, my advice to him is to sell off his properties and relocate to Nigeria.

cococandy:
Clearly the hospital reported the man not the wife.
All healthcare workers are mandatory reporters. If you suspect abuse you’re required to report it.
The bruises on him required them to report it.

Unless you’re saying the mom shouldn’t have taken the boy to the hospital. What if he’d died? Then y’all would have still blamed her for not taking care of her kid.

All the man had to do (if he’s so bent on physically punishing the kid) was to do it in a non violent way and not cause him bruises and injuries.

did your father not flog you?

So your papa for chop 3 years for flogging you?

obembet:
One of my colleagues in office used to argue that Messi can’t perform outside Barcelona and I’m trying to understand that, example Ronaldo won golden boot in England, Spain and Italy but Messi even farmers league he can’t do everything since two seasons ago.

So I don't blame PSG fans, they only overrated Messi. They think he will deliver them in Champion league 🏆 but the boy was no where to be find, expecially against Bayern Munich, thank God they didn't face Manchester United or Manchester City.

The only way for Messi to be relevant again is to go back to Barcelona where he's WiFi works.

Nlfpmod

yehn... Yehn... Yehn .... Yehn... Cry me a river.

Tell your friend that his opinion is solely personal and as irrelevant as a rotten egg.

saintjimos:
I pray they hijack it so they won't be rubber stamp

a hijacked NASS would do Nigeria more good than a rubber stamp party anointed leaders.

Bluntguy:
You no see record wey she wan break na gown you see

Some people sef.

life is about seeing things differently.

Revolution2022:
You don't know that all the VAT increase by the buhari government will affect food items?

na lie, all Buhari and APC supporters will not be affected. Buhari will make it cheap for them

Only people who are tired of a failed and useless Buhari will be affected.

Emmastan291:
Messi has nothing else to prove.
He has achieved it all...
I would have loved him to return to Barcelona sentimentally but anywhere it goes I wish him the best....

Like for Lionel Messi and Share for Cristiano Ronaldo...Who is the GOAT

are still doing like and share for penaldo and the King 👑 goat 🐐?

Stop insulting Messi please.

Jennyclay:
These useless men won’t go and fight their mate.

But they are good at punching women at any slightest provocation.

All women beater shall die this year!! Amen!!

handing over the remote peacefully would have avoided all this.

Women should stop the provocation and insubordination because men are humans not God.

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

he is your father, he can't come begging, rather you should go to him for peace and settle whatever differences you have with him.
You must make that first step, whether you are wrong or right still kneel to him and apologize before it's too late for you.

Because, the more you keep staying away from him, the harder it becomes for him to see you as a worthy son to hand over his home,family, properties to, if any, and everything before he leaves this world.

This might force him to tilt to your other brothers leaving you behind.

Westerhoffe:
Your signature said we shouldn't drink and drive, but your comment said otherwise.

it seems, you are the one drinking and driving. Lol....

Whatchamacallit is an English word.

If you don't know the name, Whatchamacallit can be used as a substitute, until the name is unknown.

ObongBassey:
You too like wahala. He was there they were ordering for things upon things.

A wise man would have cautioned them instead of acting like goat when it's time to pay

so you wise like this?

I didn't know you are a wise Solomon.

You don't know him, you came with your friend, so, why eat a meal of 400k on somebody you claim you don't know? Why eat a meal of 400k on a man you are just meeting?

You and those girls are nothing but thieves.

400k on top toto?

400k divided by 20 girls is equal to 20k per girl.
Guy, I prefer fucking 20 girls and pay them 20k each, to buying food of 400k for those fat old thieves.

Fazeman25:
You are rather the confused person here.
Ask any learned person around you especially someone who knows biology or agriculture & you'll understand that they aren't fruits.

I said you might be wallowing in confusion, because you couldn't identify them.

Fazeman25:
They are not vegetables & neither are they fruits

you might be confused.

Fazeman25:
When did sugarcane & tigernuts become fruits? 😒

Are they vegetables?

IyaebeTheGreat:
Eiya I just feel that boy's hand isn't clean too, it's been hell for the Ekweremadus. I hope king Charles grants him pardon

you pity the corrupt politician, but indict the victim.

So the victim na the culprit?

Who do Africa? Who do black man? Who do Nigerians? God forbid.