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Olamila:
Let me not bore you guys with my relationship history but this girl is my first love, i met her while i was in school 300l. Ever since then i have always been there for her despite even having a low budget as student because I'm not from a wealthy home, even her parents has times10 more than my family. But despite that i try all i could to maintain my role in the relationship because i don't fancy myself asking anything from my girlfriend.

Before anything else i need to tell little about my girlfriend, she is beautiful and nice. Almost every guy wants to woo her and all of that. Aside of that my girlfriend is very stingy to me, she can never allow her anything be in my possession, she doesn't have this idea that we could end up one day though she will always say something close to it only during fun time. But when she is at her leisures she will say how she fancy how husband to be and all of that which i no I'm not the person she could had been referring to. That not even my major issue.

She always been cruel when she asks me for anything and i refuse to give her maybe i don't have or just don't see needs to do so.
I also discovered that most of our fun times comes immediately money enters my hand. Because i remember when i was in school my first 800k i made was finished and squandered with her, i haven't dated anyother or even have another girl since i met her. Because i try to make her feel comfortable because i no how many guys wish her to be with her. So secondly i made another 1m i squandered it with her too. But when this money just finish guyz i always see hell in her. This was the ups an downs i was experiencing till i finished my school with her. It was a shame for me upon the money i made in school i graduated with zero account looking for money for my law school. I wasn't fortunate to get any help so i sat back to Hustle. Then i was begging looking for helper to assist me when i saw one big opportunity that i need to take but it the opportunity required money as my account was bleeding zero. I begged everyone including my girlfriend but she told me she doesn't have even if she happened to get money for me i will pay her interest. This words alone made me cry, did you no instead of helping me out she told me I'm not the only one that needs help she also need to invest on her self which she was right i believe her. She later invested her money in one fraudulent sheme which she lost the money.

FastTrack to what is happening now, i later got help from someone who offered me 50k and my mum 20k making it 70k i picked myself up and started my Hustle again. Within three months i made 800k again. All this times i was giving her update about my business and earnings. Could you imagine she had the gut to ask for money despite her behaviors. Because of my nature i don't believe someone's bad nature should change my own nature so i still sent her some money because i also no she is broke.

Since then i just forgot about what she did and all of those stuffs because my money kept coming and i don't keep grudges i keep taking care of her. Now i had issue with my business i want to fix something up i was also telling her. this girl went ahead to start asking me to send her money. I was really disappointed i protested because i noticed when i have money i become very careless. It seems money covers so many things.
I just need advice because i think it is time to let her go coz with her nature and type of girl it might end in tears for me. All she do is stay on social media, snap and post and look for who will send her money. No skills, i have begged her several times to look for something to be doing she refused and tells me how her dad won't allow her. She doesn't listen to me, always feel like boss when little money enter her hand. Guys i really love her but i think it is time to seek help because i will regret if this continues.

I can bet you have never forked this girl. I have been in your shoes before.

Get her legs open and fork the living hell out of her.

This nonsense happens when u treat them like queen. Treat the bitch like a dustbin.

Start changing towards her... Stop all monetary obligation. Start looking for another girl but only after you have bang the hell out her.

Ogun go kill her.

larryUG:
Nigerian woman Buys portuguese club, Now Nigerian man has won a league title in Europe and qualified for Champions League play-offs. even if they lose the play-offs, they will enter Europa. Kudos, Naija is soon getting there.

he is A Nigerian when it is good but an Igbo man when it is a crime.

Grayoso:
Shut up little and impotent man. Don't tell us what Yorubas will not 'smell'. Make a bold pitch for what you Igbos want to achieve and stop making your miserable and pathetic lives about obsessing over how to stop Yorubas.

Doing that just show you see us Yorubas as your superior and Gods.

Better go and look for another Yoruba man, there are many of them, than bank on Tinubu because your children's children will suffer if Tinubu is your choice. The damage that man has done to the Yoruba nation will take years to undo by the time he is done.

Even an igbo man as myself will pick Osibanjo over Tinubu

Predstan:
Who is this again? 20k dollars for agric business in the US? You think it's like the Agric they do in Nigeria or what
20k will not be enough to start a Business especially one that needs landmass and some license. And again, it's not easy to get a loan. You need a good credit score that doesnt come easily. However, you can start that business with 0$. All you have to do is write a very good proposal and you will be able to submit it in some places

Lol... You know a lot of Nigerians like to daydream.

He reminds me of an uncle that was making mouth before he left for Europe at the mercy of his sisters.

When he got there, even to send 20k naira was a problem.

luminouz:
No mind OP.

He is an impulsive creature. This made him break up with that fine geh and he is still being impulsive by saying he will go to her house with his friends... Like wtf!!!

So if she is already married or engaged nko? Naso you go visit her with your friends and her guy go package better beating for you.

He sounds like a Gemini to me. Very undecided and prone to mood swings

Yeah. Over thinking things will not help us.

Babanlagenius:
Thanks bro, I will. I am willing to settle down with her this year by God's grace. And I intend to go with my friends this weekend. Maybe to her parent's house so as to show her how much I want her back. Or what do you think? I am just a bit too calculative, perhaps, confused.

I just pray she has not changed.

My brother, you sound someone that is too calculative in everything you do. But the downside of such is that you can end up making up things that doesn't exist.

See you were thinking u won't have or make money when you ended it but here you are with an improvement.

I used be like that but I found out that over thinking things can be detrimental to our lives more than we realize it.

Don't over think it. Just do it. Don't go with your friends yet. Call or chat her up and indirectly or playfully ask the questions to find out if she is getting married soon but if you don't know how do that such that it won't be obvious, then find another way to do it.

Or better still meet her one on one, at a private place and trash everything like a man.

Babanlagenius:
Thanks bro. I will. I am still afraid but I will summon courage and give my best shot. Mehn! I will be completely down if she tells me she is getting married. I still have our pictures together. Her beauty and love still disturbs my sleep.

I know that fear. But you are lucky. You just didn't know how lucky you are/were.

I say you are lucky because not many girls will say what she said when you wanted to end everything.

A girl I was planning something for, hustling like mad just make sure the relationship move to next stage, started by giving me attitude and then told me she is no longer interested in the relationship.

But I thank God for everything still because had corona not happened,had my pending contracts not been delayed, I would not know that her feelings for me were not deep and I would have ended up keeping 1M from the contract for her school and she would have feigned and faked it all...

You are lucky bro... I pray she would still be free but you know, since you said you ended it in 2019, it would take her a few months to start dating again AND, corona happened this year, which means, question of marriage from anyone is out of it!

Give it a shot bro. I pray it works out well for you.

Babanlagenius:
She was more emotionally attached to me. As in she used to call me more than I did. She didn't sleep without talking to me and more often than not she would ask me to send her voice notes on WhatsApp even after our convno before going to bed. I felt the love within and without. She showed me so much love and made me to have extra focus in live because she was in full support of everything I was doing.

She saved money from work to buy me gifts. She was down to earth. She always give guys my number when they asked for hers. I was only bothered that she was 26years and just maybe the pressure of getting married was there. I sensed her mood swings expecially on Saturdays. I left her way back in 2019 because I couldn't secure a job for myself and needed to give her a better life by giving some other guy a chance to get married to her quickly.

Speaking of beauty, she is the most beautiful lady I have ever dated. As a matter of fact the first thing I asked her on our first date was

DON'T YOU THINK YOU ARE TOO MUCH FOR ME?

Now that I am stable to an extent all I could think of is this lady. I just don't know how she managed to forget about me. I'm even afraid of contacting her cause I don't want to hear that someone else is presently digging that hole and probably about to get married as well.

You spoke from the point of genuiness, not selfishness and I respect you for that. Do not conclude yet. Call her and ask for meeting. It does not matter if someone is digging her, what matter is she really loved you.

But if after communicating and you find out that she is soon getting married, as in a serious relationship, then let her go. Do this ONLY if you are sure that you will marry her as soon as she let you that she is free.

stanliwise:
She told you the truth and open up. If you really like her then open up to her also and tell her how you feel about it. If you don’t feel you may continue then sincerely tell her so. She didn’t do you a favour by telling you the truth. She only showed courtesy doing it. It is something you deserve to know. Why did she wait till a marriage proposal to tell you?
Your first love was built on a foundation of ignorance and assumptions, now you know better, destroy that former love and try to build another one if you can’t then abandon the project.
Don’t go into a relationship out of pity. If you see something in her that stand out against all odds then go for it. If not then it is a no no

You are wise and very mature. God bless you!

SweetCunt97:
Baba read that quote well before mentioning me unless u the same with d scammer I quoted

Ewo... this one join for people wey get sense of humor....

make i soak my garri abeg

lalawealthy:
The fact is that all these are expected.to me,Obaseki shot himself coz he knew very well he had such discrepancies in his qualifications and went fighting this guys,trust me ,I doubt if he can survive this especially with the fact that he submitted different qualifications to INEC,THATS A REALLY BIG MESS..
Sentiments apart,let's be reasonably objective.

shut up... shut your stinking mouth up and get your leprosy infested hands off that phone...

So they didn't see the discrepancies when they chose him to run first term?

In my thick Benin Accent: "Na Ogun go kill off una"

SweetCunt97:
You are a lowlife thief. Ole. You even had d audacity to try to scam someone after scamming futurism eeeh! Better no go hustle

Sweetcunt97 abi sugarcunt99, did I scam you? na wa o. person go just dey spread lie for my head for this obodo nairaland.

You must tender sacrifices to the gods before 7 market days to appease the spirit of the land.

Inteltower:
chat me up: +2348136156015 to add you to our entrepreneur group

Thank you.

Binikingdowm:
Their started their chest beating again. Many people are doing all these things without making noise.

Congratulations to them though

if e easy, why are u not among?

Armaggedon:
Igbo capitalist billionaires spreading tentacles around the continent
Great news.

I will join the league as soon as my start up takes footing in Nigeria... Spreading to other countries

iReddington:
Lol, whenever you see the Author or OP is AlexReports, just know that whatever he is promoting is nonsense and mediocrity.

E go shock u how much this guy dey collect. Dey laugh dia

timekeeper1:
afonja amaka... .

Igbo afonja... Dr. Ikenna Ihim Olawale... I knew it, he must have a yoruba blood in him to have achieved such greatness.. Yorubas & Igbos combine are destined for greatness..

We just need to work together... The south shud work together

Dad is from Enugu, mum is from Oyo... I know him too well, he is my neighbor here for lagos... In fact I still charge my phone for him room today...

We Nigerians celebrate our fellow Nigerian



Lagos is boring today....


FTC is my birth right



See them




If the opponent fire back now, they will start showing marginalization and victimization... See how he is quick to abuse other tribes...

It has become normal for me to automatically assume that whoever makes this kind of news is either igbo or Yoruba...

99% of international or global achievement is always recorded by this two people, year in, year out.

Lwkmd... From a whole C in C?

There is a reason I no send this people.

proeast:
Wow, interesting!!! Yet those on whose lands the oil is found have nothing to show for it except polluted streams and farmlands.

Chai, what a wicked country!!!

they are keeping mute na... When igbos talk, they will say igbos want their oil. Unknown to them, igbos and Igbo speaking parts of even delta states and rivers state have oil.

Geofavor:
No. That was their first response to me.

oh okay. Give them time.

Geofavor:
Hi, guys..

Please, what can I say to follow up this reply I got after asking if they were interested? Your Ideas are welcome. Thanks.

They are slowly backing out of the deal... do not contact them again.

slimjosh43:
Queensland//Solar//king

$180

36 hours sharp

Dan

was $180 the price you set or you negotiated to that price? Care to share background pricing story?

Congrats and thanks in advance

See the stupid man. Instead of going to confront boko haram, he is doing photo ops

Holysucker:
You are a real gee bro...

I learned the hard way bro.

darfay:
Fork u and your first class, ... Better enter street...

his parents may plans for him to leave Nigeria. A friend left to Canada after bagging first class FROM Ife

Holysucker:
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Lol . Guy u no well I swear ...

My brother, when you are in such situations with a girl that you have invested interest in, the worst thing is to complain.

I do the calling for now and I have shown considerable level of seriousness. She was supposed to visit me not long ago but her mum fell ill.

I like her because she is hard working, focus and dedicated. So allowing something like calling is kinda childish. Especially if she allows sex.


I am not willing to lose because of call.

Pelxmiye:
I have noticed this trend with girls lately... sometimes I wonder if it's because of an old experience from previous relationships or a feeling of entitlement to being the receiver and not the giver

In two of previous RLHPs ,I noticed that this behavior from some women (not all women though) is as a result of we guys showering such women with love, care , attention and all or maybe they felt like they were doing such guys a favor by even dating them or being with them..

Now I wouldn't generalize this behavior as a "every woman thing" but some women...I also have been in relationships were this was different,one of Exs was a pure gem at this,she calls for hours without sounding like she's doing you a favor for calling you... though we broke up in the end...

My most recent relationship failed because of this same reason..she doesn't care to call..if you don't she won't...sad part was that she was just as interested in the relationship as I was...up till date we still chat...but she's doesn't call.. before we broke up...I intentionally stopped calling her for a week...acted like I was busy..even though I hated the idea...I had to...to really know if it really was entitlement in full display..

Don't blame me..I don't believe in manipulation in relationships...come as you are...I called her on the 8th...gosh..she was angry.. pining to hear from me..replied me with harsh words

Then I was like..so why didn't you call?

So why do girls not call..you are so interested in someone..yet you feel it's a man duty alone to keep the fire of a relationship burning..Girls what's up..why do you pipu find it hard to come down from your high horses for the one you care about??

You are not far from the truth. It is a Nigerian girl DNA thing...

I am just not complaining for now cos I get target... once I don hit my target like 2 to 3 times, na me go begin the shakara.

Jonathan39:
My guy you dey para po no mind the idiot, he thinks everybody wants to steal people's hard earn money like him

I know. The problem is, this thing is so ingrained in them that they often forget they have left their usual circle where they see scamming as a norm...

dazzlingd:
Paytub.com on ED, looks like a good name for brandable.

Someone registered it already, dropped yesterday

I saw it when it was available and passed on it.

Christty:
Please, I need your reply. Don't neglect me question.

formula is city+service or city+product.

Davash222:
Freepinto, but you guys are still the ones criticising Mompha and Hushpuppi dem. Hypocrites!!

you are stupid for bringing Mompha and hushpuppi here. Did Pinto steal people's hard earn money? You bloody piece of scoundrel and fraudster.

richkal:
Though it unpopular opinion, but its full of common sense bro. This same tactic I employed to unearth over 250 Decent Geo Domain Names.

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