Kobojunkie:
It's statements such as the one you posted that caused me to chime in.

Let me help you again. A lady cannot be succumbing to sexual advances of men and then blame them. What happens to she breaking off such relationships once the man feels he isn't willing to stay in it if she doesn't give in?

You can't accept to sleep with him and then turn around to blame him except it is rape.

ChybuzzDD:


Na mumu you be. I'm a surgeon practising abroad and i don't need to boast or lie about owning a duplex in Nigeria where the exchange rate is rubbish.

All na still noise. Whether you live abroad or not still doesn't make it different from noise. That part of your post was unnecessary.

That said, a sincere question is "do you have a mortgage where you live or you are renting?"

Kobojunkie:
How many men married at past 20 as virgins? Why judge men differently from women? Why are these values you speak of different for men? Why are women to live by values that even men don't live by?

Not trying to hold brief for the other but let's at least check our own claims before we put them out there.

Madam, you don't have to jump at my post and try to twist it. Read through the post again and if you have issues, rather than deviate, create a new post that addresses your concerns and let us discuss it on there.

Jewessgratitud3:


Nope not true. Men don't sleep around because there are women who want to sleep around. They use it to take advantage of women who want to get married. The women on the other hand do it to fulfill the man's conditions for marriage which usually doesn't favor them in end and in the process the body count is increasing.

You said she should not give in to the men's sexual advances but it if she keeps turning them down, they'll keep leaving her Meanwhile the clock is ticking and time is going. before you know it she's 35 and you say I should not blame the men?? The men take a larger share of the blame in all this. Let's call a spade, a spade.

If the men are really serious about settling down, they don't need to test run a woman or dump her if she refuses but no, they will always bring up sex to scatter the whole thing, sending a wrong message about their motives

If she has values, she wouldn't sleep with a man for marriage. Some women got married at past 30 as virgins, so what makes her different.

Learn not to be biased because that is what you are doing here. No one puts a gun to a woman to sleep with her before marriage and the last I know, sex is a two-way fun. Therefore, if she is cajoled and succumbs, she too wanted to have fun.

Berankis:

It seems you have not started renting apartments, you should know the pressure to pay rent most especially if you don channel your funds elsewhere. Building a house is an investment and security. Cost of building keeps rising. I took a little break from my own project for other things only to come back to very high cost of materials, now I wish I completed it at once, cos I had the money then but now a lot of it was wasted/lost to uncharted courses.

It's not about if I rent an apartment or not. All I'm saying is if you live and work in the city for example, build your house in the city and enjoy that phase. When you want to retire to your village, you can sell your city house and use it to buy/build a house in the village.

It makes no sense building in the village, leaving it empty for 350 days in a year and be paying rent living in the city.

ChybuzzDD:


Relax, if you don't have enough money to build in your village, allow those who can.

Village houses serve symbolic roles, and as Igbos, we don't play with it.

My first duplex was in the village and I'm not regretting it, neither are you more financially intelligent than i am.

Everything mustn't be for profit.

Your business where you choose to build your house, nonetheless, my opinion remains. I never said people shouldn't and only aired my opinion.

For the bolded, all na the usual noise.

If you find him cheating and he isn't remorseful, you should know what you want.
Use your tongue to count your teeth madam. You deserve to be respected, but you have to respect yourself if you want to be respected.

Dinner:

Fried rice.

Brunch yesterday:

Oatmeal and akara.

Jewessgratitud3:


35 never grow reach?
What does she need to do right for men to sit their butt in one place and get serious in life?

Why is it the woman that needs to have the right character for a relationship to lead to marriage?

Most men out there are not serious. They just want to keep sleeping around until someone forcefully hooks them down with pregnancy.

Whoever wants to get married should have their own principles and live right. There's no need bashing any gender. If men wants to sleep around, it is because there are women who also want to sleep around.

That said, she can't force anyone to behave the way she wants nonetheless, she can choose to control how she reacts. This for example will mean, not giving into sexual desires of the partner (provided she isn't engaging in same with others) and deciding on a man if and only if he ticks her major expectations and vice versa.

Why do we enjoy dealing on things that are not relevant? Still wondering why this thread though because it is very relative. For some men, 1 is a very big number and for some, infinity is irrelevant.

If she wants a husband, she should grow up, learn to do things the right way, and have her own principles otherwise, she would be tossed.

One thing I don't understand till tomorrow is why people struggle to build homes they are not going to live in or rent out immediately if it is an investment property.

He should thread with caution. And thus should serve as a lesson to all those rising to build homes in their villages they don't live in.

Contempt of court. At this time Fubara should go with the law, sue them and get them jailed.

Merry Christmas to all. Hopefully, it will help ease people's sufferings this season.

Wike will likely be disgraced if he isn't careful. He's no longer the governor, he should watch it.

Gerrard59:


Here: https://www.nairaland.com/7838620/over-25-tested-men-nigeria

Roughly 1 in 4. Turns out to be 25%. Areafada2, a Nairalander, has been preaching this for eons.

The dataset isn't representative of all to start with. Most of them had reasons to do the test thus, having 1 out of 4 in such a case isn't as bad.

I am amused when I read such threads as this. When will we learn to mind our business?

A grown up makes his choice and lives by it and we in our usual sanctimonious stance tries to pass judgment. Truth is I see these kind of post as being envious of the other person.

Namaster:
Paternity fraud should be treated like a criminal offence.

Wicked women are making men pay to raise bastards. That's terrible in the current economic situation.

According to SmartDNA, 25% of men in Nigeria are raising bastards.

On what statistics was this result established? It is generalization. Don't be filled by such.

Congratulations. Wishing you safe trip always!

Perhaps, the grooms parent are simple. Besides, their cultural dressing might not have too much of fanfare.

What have you done to stop her from sending such? If you keep entraintaining the gesture, don't blame her.

Hopefully, the budget is meant to move the state forward.

At the end of the wedding is the marriage where the couples are left on their own. Therefore, Amy couple who chooses to impress their guest at their wedding with resources they do not have are the ones on the losing end.

One thing to remember though, you cannot satisfy everyone. Irrespective of how elaborate your wedding is, at least one person will still have something to complain about.

They should also think of how to address where to move the staff to.

Lawalemi:
Until Nigeria have leaders that would sit and be truthful with their conscience, evidence of misgovernance will continue to manifest in this manner.

The people too need shun ethnicity and religious bigotry if they want to be taken serious.

1Sharon:


Okay, so your own perspective?

Every couple is unique and they should learn to harness their uniqueness for the upliftment of their goal of coming together as one.

1Sharon:


No stats. Observational reality.

Why do you think single Nigerian men come to the West and get sex starved? It's because they aren't able use money to control women. Because they already have their own.

You will agree with me that this is very bias. Different couples have their challenges and they can always work it out. I am not sure most Nigerian men try to control women with money.

My concern is if your wife isn't ready for a "for better or worse" situation, is it worth holding unto?

1Sharon:
That's the exact reason why they are also killing their wives. They come to the West and feel emasculated, inadequate and insecure.

They end up taking their anger out on the easy target: their wife.

Alot of African women in the West are more successful than the men, but in Nigeria reverse is the case.

Please, where is this statistics coming from?

radautoworks:
that efon looks legit

Thanks for the compliment.

Both of them will be alright las las.

ahnie:

Gboski efo riro is vegetable soup right?


Eba is one meal I find always difficult to eat,even if I prepared it for the house hold,I go just cook another light meal for myself to eat.

Dash me your ceramic plates na.

Efo riro is vegetable soup. Oya take the plate ooo.