₦airaland Forum

Seunomobo:
Honestly, I think you should listen to your wife without questioning her motives, as a wife who's had a similar experience, I can relate.
My husband's niece lives with us, and I treat her like a helper. I've noticed that people who criticize wives in similar situations are often single or haven't had to deal with relatives staying with them and before having my husband's niece live with us, I was one of those quick to judge. But now, I see things differently. I use her help a lot, and my priority will always be my children. Let's be real, family dynamics can be complicated, and it's natural to prioritize our own blood relatives. Nobody will prioritize you like your parents do. We're all guilty of using people to some extent, and it's evident in our society.

By the way, nobody should quote me preaching the holy gospel to me, it will not change my stance, everyone is a user and it's evident in our society of today ...

Not true in all cases. I don't understand why you think someone else's child deserves being abused because they live with you. It is wickedness and shouldn't be called by another name.

pocohantas:
Yes, 15k
She said she is feeding and housing the girl.
It is a live-in nanny.

Even at that, doesn't the nanny have needs? Our people are worse than the government when it comes to exploitation. N180k per annum in the current day Nigeria and she can sleep with her two eyes closed. I pray her human side sees the need to increase the nanny's salary.

pocohantas:
That is how these unstructured small to medium employers behave. They will look for ways to deduct the already low salary. Imagine 15k? I have an old friend paying her nanny 15k. Except she done increase am last month.

Nanny N15k? And she expects the nanny to treat her child well when her nanny's take home can't take her home?

If you are getting married solely to have kids, it will be better you bring it up during courtship so that your partner can know what s/ he is getting into.

The way in which we treat workers in Nigeria is annoying. Why would you delay a staff's salary?

QuantAnalyst:
When she was being dragged on the floor. Something very close to the entrance pulled the cloth. Some kind of metal wedge. The video should not have been shared. The lady did not even refuse to go down, the door was blocked.

Exposing the lady body over the Internet is very wrong. I know she did wrong by starting the fight, but two wrongs don't make a right.

She's going to feel the trauma for a long time.

She needs be compensated for this. Whoever recorded the video is a pervert. If s/he saw the body was exposed, s/he should have deleted the video.

Nnamdipapa:
You are totally right but for a FB order, its a rip off considering that I had orderd a better dish for $30 bucks off of FB market.

But do you have an idea of the rate of turnover for the area? If it is low and she needs source the materials in piece meals as orders are made, then it might be the reason for the high price. I would suggest you engage her and bargain for a price you think is fair.

Nnamdipapa:
Among the Igbo delicacies, I used to like this particular food a lot. Its called , Abacha. The last time I was in Nigeria, I was practically chasing Abacha sellers down the street in order to buy.

Now, checking the local Facebook Market, I came across this post from a seller in my neighborhood.

A plate of Abacha for $60? I think this is over the top and we like to hike the prices of our goods wherever we find ourselves.

What so you think? Is this price reasonable ?

I think it depends. I would say it isn't reasonable due to the mode of sales. If it was an high end restaurant, I am sure you agree you might not get half of that for that amount because you would be paying for the ambience, craft, etc over the food.

Glad you are taking your medications. Please do not relent.

Timshin:
You want to take a loan of 100k? Please abort that mission. First of all, Mpower will not give you a loan of more than 50k usd per annum, and I don't think Prodigy too will, besides there is no loan company that will give you a loan of 100k usd because they would be skeptical about you paying them back. Secondly, are you aware that you would be paying the interest of that loan at a higher rate all through school? If you collect a loan of 100k, you can be paying an interest of up to 1500 to 2000 usd per month. Remember that you will still need to feed, pay your rent, and utilities, and other miscellaneous. So how do you want to cope. Lest you forget, even if you are lucky to get a job in a fortune 500 company, the way America is designed, you might not be able to pay that loan off in the next 30years of your life. Do you want that life?. Now to my advise, relax and calm down. Admission process isnt something you can rush. Find schools that can pay up to 50 to 60% of your tuition, and even if you would be taking out a loan, it would be very very little. Its not compulsory to go to an ivy league, it would only plunge you into debt.Check out affordable but not low ranked business schools and get your degree there, it doesn't stop you from getting fantastic jobs. Companies prefer candidates who have great minds and can solve problems. They wont eat the name of your school either you are from MIT or Harvard. There are tons of testimonies out there about people who went to affordable schools for their business degrees and got their dream jobs. It's not worth it if you finish your degree in a year, and get plunged into debts and you start having sleepless nights. It would only be worth it if at the end of your degree, you get your salary and have left overs comfortably without getting worried about debts. Think about your family too, they need you to help them out at home. Note that this advise is not to condemn or discourage you, its from a heart of positivity and resilience. It's from someone who was in your shoes 2 years ago, but went back to re-examine everything and finally got a fully funded scholarship later to study. I wish you all the best bro.

MPower gives more than $50k USD. I know someone who got $72k USD however, she was already in the US and it is for a one year STEM OPT course. The bad side is that the interest rate is killing. She pays almost $1100 monthly with about $850 going into interest and she has to pay for almost 14years. I have advised she starts paying down on the principal whenever she can. At this time, it is not too advisable considering the job market isn't as good as it was a few years ago however, if the person feels s/he wants to, then s/he could give it a try. I would advice a lower fees school and possibility of funding if possible.

aribisala0:
fights between passengers
Go to youtube and search for aircraft violence among passengers
How they were addressed is not relevant to the point about Nigerians
That makes no sense
The point made was Nigerians are somehow more intrusive or meddlesome
What has how it was addressed got to do with that
People l8ke you always seize every opportunity to bad mouth Nigerians

Fights between passengers are different from situations where people do not comply with rules and they act unruly to people who are doing their jobs. I don't think there is a need for the continuous back and forth.

MarkNsukkaBread:
How does asking passengers to turn off their phones in an aeroplane equate to a sign of anti-civilization or unculturedness?!

I am referring to the oversabi neighbor who turned off the phone, the passenger who had issues with obeying laws, and the air hostess who stopped her when they arrived in Lagos and she wanted to disembark. The incident should have been reported and Lagos should have ensured there is a police at the gate to disembark her. These things are not rocket science but we choose to act in ways that do not suggest we support civilization.

aribisala0:
Violence happens everywhere not just Nigeria
We have seen fights on planes don't have a go at Nigeria things happen everywhere

Between who and how were they addressed?

atoliman:
They did, she misbehaved and they handled her. The same thing will happened abroad especially

No, what will happen abroad is that if she doesn't yield to the cabin crew's instruction, they will call in security to disembark her and take it up from there. Your next seat neighbor wouldn't involve him/herself to the point of turning off the phone. That is way overboard. Everyone in Nigeria tries to prove a point once they get the opportunity.

May God rest his soul. It is important that we keep fit but also, visit our doctors for our regular checks.

raskymonojendor:
Too bad for her. I saw a video of her with all her boogie flying everywhere as the Akwa I om staff grabbed her out of the plane. It looked like sexual harassment. But anything goes in Nigeria.. Civilians always take laws into their own hands..

In abroad, the lady would have been arrested by police instead, and she would surely come back to sue the airline and become a millionaire in dollars for the rest of her life..

Nigeria is a lawless country. If she wouldn't comply, all the airline could have done was to call in security to disembark her. The passenger who turned off the phone was wrong. Besides, who ask people to turn off the phone when what you should do is put it in airplane mode? We are too uncultured and anti-civilization if you ask me.

NewPee44:
I will go for test, possibly today for the testosterone. Your appreciate your advise.
On the second aspect, I am a married man, I opened a new account to hide my identity

In all you do, if you are concerned about gathering a child early in your marriage, avoid testosterone boosting pills. Talk to your doctor about this.

Nnamdipapa:
When I saw the headlines that President Tinubu rewarded each member of the D’Tigress team with $100,000, my first reaction was a quiet sigh. I paused and tried to understand the motive. These women have made the country proud on an international stage. Their victory is well-deserved and worth celebrating. But as a Nigerian living in today’s harsh reality, I couldn't shake off one question: at what moral cost?

We are a country where hospitals are begging for equipment, where teachers haven’t been paid for months, where doctors are leaving in droves because of poor working conditions. And in that same country, we gave each basketball player a hundred thousand US dollars—more than what most Nigerians will earn in ten years.

That’s where the problem lies.

This isn’t about denying athletes their recognition. It’s about balance. About priorities. About asking if we are truly rewarding the people who sacrifice the most for this country.

There are Nigerians doing thankless work every day. Work that holds the fabric of society together. Work that doesn’t get televised, but saves lives, shapes minds, and secures our future.

Let me name just five groups of people I believe deserve national recognition, and actual rewards, if we are serious about fairness:

1. Public School Teachers
These are men and women who teach in broken classrooms, with no textbooks, overcrowded spaces, and still manage to inspire children to dream. Their reward can’t be just “God bless you.”


2. Doctors and Nurses
Especially those in government hospitals. They work night shifts with outdated equipment, manage emergencies without electricity, and still show up every day. If we can find $100,000 for athletes, we should find hazard pay for them.


3. Nigerian Soldiers Fighting in the Northeast
They live in trenches, facing terrorists, often without proper gear or consistent support. Many come back maimed. Some never come back. Yet their families get silence, not compensation.


4. Police Officers on Patrol
Yes, the system is broken. Yes, some abuse the uniform. But there are honest officers who face armed robbers with rusty rifles and still stay at their post. Their lives matter too.


5. Sanitation Workers
These are people who clean our streets at 4 a.m., pick up trash no one wants to touch, and are looked down on by the same people who depend on them for hygiene and public health.


So while I celebrate The Super Falcons for their talent, discipline, and pride, I can’t ignore the message this kind of reward sends. That unless you win a trophy, you’re not worth acknowledging. That only viral moments matter, not the daily grind of national survival.

In a country like Nigeria, where poverty is widespread, where many civil servants retire into debt, and where integrity is rare, throwing around $100,000 cheques to a few stars, while thousands live and die unnoticed, is a moral imbalance we can no longer afford to ignore.

I believe in rewards. But I believe more in fairness.

Let us clap for our athletes, yes. But let us also pay our teachers, equip our hospitals, insure our police officers, and protect our nurses. Because those are the people who make nations last, not just win games.

Unfortunately, Nigerians are not at the maturity level you expect for them to understand what fairness is. Many are supportive of the gesture not because it is right but because they are ignorant and feel the politicians loot public funds, a dysfunction which have now normalized.

What is the basis of the price change? Is this influenced by the forces of demand and supply or the cost of production/importation of petroleum products.

Too much of reckless spending in our country and most often, we encourage it because we are too divided and many not gaining from the spoils think they are affecting others by forming support for the recklessness not knowing they are destroying themselves.

Congratulations to him. Hopefully, he wins the award.

Yesterday's dinner:

Oat fufu and ogbono.

Made some fish roll for the house yesterday morning.

Mondays dinner:

Rice and dodo.

Tuesday's dinner:

Beans and dodo.

Sunday's dinner:

Eba and ogbono soup.

Yampotatocarrot:
Seems you do a lot of bread baking yourself...how easy/difficult is it? Can the small microwave+oven device do it or does one have to get the normal big sized oven with burner on top?

Also, your wheat and oat flours, do you buy and prepare the flours yourself or you buy already made?

(Heard it's possible to buy and grind yourself... Need someone that have done that before to verify if it'll come out like the packaged ones being sold)

I use the regular range oven for my bread. For the flour, I buy them prepared from the store.

omooba969:
It's not that simple, it's not black and white breh.

It is very black and white. You either want to be in a no sex relationship or not.

The level of obsession about sex is alarming. If a party says "no sex till marriage", if it isn't convenient for you, let the person know and leave the relationship.

Yet, our political leaders are bothered a out politicking than governance.

He doesn't look like a normal human being. He's an epitome of a failed individual.

There are different reasons why people drop out of school although many people never had the intention of going to school from the inception.