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orieoda:
that guy might be a primary school dropout...I stopped replying mentions on Nairaland the day I discovered that the guy quoting me and saying jargon on my thread was just in SS2

lol...

eezeribe:
Wailing op, you can as well change the system by creating jobs and recruiting people in the best way you feel...

The recruiter has the right to recruit you any how he likes...

It's not your father that built the company..

These kind of people are the reason why Nigeria is where it is today...


just imagine how he reasons...

The good book says "money answereth all things "

there are VERY FEW things in this life that money can't buy.


1. It can buy the Love and affection of women and people.


2. It can buy power, respect, position and influence.


infact, money has a way of making someone or something bad to look good. just for having money, people will begin to like you; everyone would want to be your friend; the most beautiful of women would be at your beck and call. you literally assume the position of a demi god.

As for me, I'm done chasing women...all my energy as a young man would be channelled to God and........ the mullah

catal:
some of us are shameless hypocrites. wen the war ended and the 3R's was not implemented in the east, no one said anything because of the enemity in the south.Now the NE wants to rebuild and the south is complaining because it would fund most of it, but the same south neva helped/supported one of its own in a worse situation. Let the north keep riding cos of a strongly divided south. shame on the op

God bless you my brother... I keep saying it, our true enemies in this contraption is our southern neighbours and not the north.

They are quick and united in any plan to shortchange the east and the igbos. They never hesitate to join sides with the north as long as the east would be sabotaged. They are the bane of southern unity; even the ones closest to us, whom ordinarily you'd assume they'd throw in their lot with us. Alas, you see them showing their treacherous nature from time to time.

If the north like let them take 50% of the VAT I don't bloody care. cos of it were to be the east, these our treacherous neighbours would gleefully throw in their support in any plan hatched to oppress the east...they think they are doing us, but they don't know they are doing themselves.

Buncha saboteurs....

MtuMsuper:
If you really must know, there is an increase in unsavoury looking and acting characters from your country over here. And there been a correlative and causative element to upsurge in e-crime to their presence.
I live in a place where a Cameroonian man who has married a local runs a liquor store, and he is the most down man you will ever find. No shady dealings, cool guy who talks endlessly about football. He eats ugali and barbecue like a local and tries to get involved in local issues. His Swahili improves by the day. Such a man we adopt as our in law as well as a African brother. Ugandans in our midst are as old as the stones, we don't notice them. Ethiopians,Somalis and the horn brothers we are wary of, but then again their countries are not livable (well excepting Ethiopia ) and they know they are guests so they dont go around trying to transform the place into liitle homelands abroad. Your people however, along with south Sudanese, stand out as rude and disrespectful. Change that.
If you live on the wrong side of the law, expect it to catch up with you.

see what envy is doing to you...?

now, we are a proud people, get that into Kenyan skull... if Nigerians In Kenya transform their abodes into little homelands, what exactly does that remove from you? how is that your business in the first place? why must they act like Kenyans before you deem them acceptable?? can't you guys just let them be?

All I see here is envy and jealousy... nothing else.

Award-winning Nigerian writer, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie,
has lashed the Buhari-led government and the failed
promises of the APC government, even as she hinted that
Buhari was not to blame for the incessant killings by Fulani
herdsmen.
The author made this known in the New York Times titled
‘Nigeria’s Failed Promises.’
She wrote: “Nigeria is difficult to govern, but President Buhari
wasted an opportunity through his actions – from his
appointments to his economic decisions.“He had an opportunity to make real reforms early on, to
boldly reshape Nigeria’s path. He wasted it.
“His intentions, good as they well might be, are rooted in an
outdated economic model and an infantile view of Nigerians.
“Since Mr. Buhari came to power, villages in the middle-belt
and southern regions have been raided, the inhabitants killed,
their farmlands sacked. Those attacked believe the Fulani
herdsmen want to forcibly take over their lands for cattle
grazing.
“It would be unfair to blame Mr. Buhari for these killings,
which are in part a result of complex interactions between
climate change and land use. But leadership is as much
about perception as it is about action, and Mr. Buhari has
appeared disengaged.“It took him months and much criticism from civil society, to finally issue a statement “condemning” the killings. His aloofness feels, at worst, like a tacit enabling of murder and, at best, an absence of sensitive leadership. “Most important, his behavior suggests he is tone-deaf to the widely held belief among southern Nigerians that he promotes a northern Sunni Muslim agenda.“He was no less opaque when the Nigerian Army murdered hundreds of members of a Shiite Muslim group in December, burying them in hastily dug graves, or when soldiers killed members of the small secessionist pro-Biafran movement who were protesting the arrest of their leader, Nnamdi Kanu, little a known figure whose continued incarceration has elevated him to a minor martyr.”“Mr Buhari ascended to the presidency with a rare advantage — not only did he have the good will of a majorithe elicited a peculiar mix of fear and respect. “For him, it seems, patriotism is not a voluntary and flexible thing, with room for dissent, but a martial enterprise: to obey without questioning.
“For the first weeks of his presidency, it was said that civil
servants who were often absent from work suddenly appeared every day, on time, and that police officers and customs officials stopped demanding bribes.“I experienced political fear for the first time, aged seven, under Buhari’s military regime in 1984, I welcomed his election 30 years later in 2015 because he represented some form of hope. “Because for the first time, Nigerians had voted out an incumbent in an election that was largely free and fair. “Because Mr Buhari had sold himself as a near-ascetic reformer, as a man so personally above board that he would wipe out Nigeria’s decades-long corruption.
“Perhaps the first clue was the unusually long time it took him to appoint his ministers. After an ostensible search for the very best, he presented many recycled figures with whom
Nigerians were disenchanted.
“But the real test of his presidency came with the continued
fall in oil prices, which had begun the year before his
inauguration.”

Festy4u:
Just imagine what he expected his friend to go through (urinating as a lady) just to please inhabitants of a region! And when they come to the south, their men urinate like women with nobody forcing them to urinate as men do in the south!

my brother the hypocrisy is just sickening. it's folks like that dude who are trying to be politically correct that champion this double standard. they wanna force their religion and primitive ways of doing things on just about everybody.

Ugosample:
Sorry to say, your line of reasoning is very poor and silly...
The north is this and that yet Igbo people like is are still trooping thete in their thousands to live and do business.
You are wiser than all of them going up there abi?

Rubbish.

what kinda reasoning is this... people are doing business in Iraq, Afghanistan, Yemen and even Syria.

anywhere profit can be made, you'd definitely see people doing business there.

MRSALT:
Zamfara, Sokoto and Kebbi do not have violent street urchins like Kaduna, Kano, Bauchi and in recent times, Katsina. Your experience in Zamfara cannot account for all northern states. More so north is generally ok at peace time. But those that give you cold water are thesame people that will slit your throat in event of any crises. Many victims of northern madness thought that north was land flowing with honey, just like you. I know of one Ibo boy that returned from London to do his NYSC in Bauchi. He eulogised northerners better than you. His throat was later slit by thesame Almajiris that ran errand for him. I stayed in the north for 7 years travelling to about 12 states. I am giving you a real fact about the situation in the north.

just leave am... him no go understand.

TeamSimple:
MR SALT,there are bad eggs in every region. And i will confidently tell you that if you dont go against the laws of a northern state,you will never get into trouble. They will always want to get close to you coz they always believe they can learn from you.

Issue of killing is absolute in all states of the federation. Infact apart from BH terrorist act,we have got more crisis and bloodshed here in the south than in the north,except you wanna be myopic and subjective.

And average hausa man doesnt envy,he doesnt believe u any better than him,he goes about his life and takes it daily as it comes. Most times we the visitors are always the cause of whatever arises. Example in zaria,u are not allowed to urinate publicly while standing as a male coz some people carry out the act in an insanely manner. But my friend will alwys choose to stand while urinating just because he wants to test their patience. I warned him severally and they warned him until the day he was held and beaten mercilesly.

so you expected your friend to start squatting like woman like they all do over there abi??

just tell him to become a Muslim na..? just because he chooses to pee like a man, they are offended...

what rubbish!!

gerrout joor...!

Chriswazo:
Lol, what will they do if am not a corper? chop up my head? Lol. Bro I lived there, so i don't believe you.

you are still a kid...evidenced by the blissful ignorance you display.

need I remind you that one of the Corp members hacked down by these fanatics during the 2011 elections said the exact same thing you said here.

the problem with some of you is simply ignorance and a certain naivety about what obtains in the north.

some igbos who reasoned like you said similar things about the north in 1958, 1966 ,etc and what do you think happened to those ones?? your guess is as good as mine. they never made it out of the north alive.


just pray you never get to witness this people display their madness...

passionate88:
Nigerian president

bro na twitter be that??

tell me the source please.

NigeriaKitchen:
Point of correction, its not just Nigerian men alone that cheat on their wives, but all men...in fact, whitemen cheat more....the only reason it seems like whitemen (let me say American/European men) don't cheat on their wives is because American/European laws and policies favour a woman whose husband was caught cheating....the man may lose all he earned for life....so they cheat discretely, but once they get an opportunity to leave their country to another country like African countries, then you will see them whitemen unleash their full cheating potential without fear...you see them carrying 3 women at the same time....

If you work with white guys, you will then know that Nigerian men are learners when it comes to cheating. Na oyimbo men de cheat pass o!

I think its nature's curse on men to be polygamous and always exploring till they die....unless that man doesn't have money!


If you want your man to be faithful to a good level, help draw him very close to God, that's the only sure remedy!

you hit the nail on the head bro...


the last 3 girlfriends I've had all cheated heavily.... one of them even had the audacity to tell me that I can't stop her from seeing other guys. In all these relationships, I was faithful and didn't go chasing other girls. I was faithful for two reasons...because its in my nature to want to build a deep meaningful relationship and secondly, because I didn't have the resources to throw around.


na only God go help them when d pepper drops... cos am gonna be chasing everything chaseable

it's no secret these days that women cheat more than men...


they are out cheating men....out of every 10 cases of cheating in Relationships, women are the culprits in 7.

unlike men, they are more discreet about their escapades.

KissChris:
Just #5K

Free hmmm hmmm hmmm would've been better

Badt guy...

Chinuaj:
If he is willing to pay in two days i will send him the photos from his father's house and the location. I am a serious minded God fearing businessman. 08037373587

Yea bro... indeed you're "GOD FEARING"..

this country no go Kee person.

seeing this for the first time...


sometimes I go just dey pity women.

Came:
This children dey carry pizza play... I no fit remember which day I chop pizza last ... Hummmmmm..

your own good sef... me wey never chop am b4, Wetin I go come do?

same thing happened with sharwama, after everybody don chop am finish, d tin come reign pass, na im I come chop am.

misspicy:
My Married Aunt has plenty of such books.

You will see titles like

1)How to prayerfully blind your husband from noticing other women

2)Guidelines on satifying your husband.

3)Do you wish to make him yours forever?

4)A christian woman's sexual weapon

Them many self,when I get home,I will snap and modify this post.

This should be fun

Read them and also hot down salient points.... cos, you never can tell. They might come in handy much later

seriously, I find this hard to believe...

no single arrest was made??

how are we even sure that what the military are telling us is the truth??

I hope these guys didn't gun down innocent hunters in cold blood, who unfortunately happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Mehn this guy looks like the leader of the white walkers in Game of thrones..

jollymizzle:
God bless you tonyebarcanista

Proudly Yoruba... in times of crisis, we take our hatchets, and we bury them... into the backs of our real enemies.

So it's now that you people just realized you have " REAL" enemies??


issorait.... kontinu!

Lavendra:
like they say... there is something called individual difference... people differ.
as for me as a lady, when I go to visit my bf, I take it as my responsibility to do everything, I can't be around and my bf would be sweeping the house or cooking or even washing clothes, if as his gf I can't do those things for him then what good am I?
the last time I visited him, I did a lot of work, I cleaned the house thoroughly even though he did that before I arrived, I wanted everywhere sparkling so that there would be a difference between when his gf is around and when she isn't. I washed and folded all his clothes, I did the cooking, mopping of the house and even washing toilet. I didn't allow him lift a finger even when he volunteered to help... I just wanted to feel that I'm doing something for him... he didn't ask me to do anything, it's just common sense or instinct that led me to do them...

You have commonsense...

something a lot of girls these days don't have.

elektra:
A man's pride? Should it not be a man's pride to do everything he can to ensure that his home runs smoothly? If they cannot afford a maid nko? Here in the states maid services cost an arm and a leg. It is 100% fine if he chooses to sit down, cross leg and be forming pride then later expect maximum respect from wife and children by virtue of his pr!ck abi?
Things are no longer the way they were during our mothers' time when most women did not work, now most families need the double income. Most women have no issue with doing all the domestic chores while the man provides, sadly this kind of arrangement is getting less feasible because of the economy.
Domestic chores are no longer as hard as they used to be too, the man could vacuum the living room, load the laundry and keep rice on fire. When wife returns she makes stew and fold the clothes, puts the kids to sleep. I promise you your pr!ck will not disappear if you contribute to your family in doing chores if your wife is contributing financially. Your wife will appreciate it and your kids are watching. They will respect you for it.

I swear if most women argued their case this way, they would rarely have issues with men. but they tend to throw logic out the window thereby causing the men to go defensive.


if you were my wife and you put your points across to me this way, the very next morning, I would have concluded all the necessary domestic chores before you'd have opened your eyes for the day.

it's the woman's attitude that is everything... there's a way you talk to a man that would have him washing your undies and bringing you breakfast in bed with joy. ladies these days are ignorant of this. they talk down on the man, leaving his ego in tatters and yet, they expect him to be reasonable....

kudos to you.... I completely get your point and I concur.

ROCHAS is WORKING ooo



Imolites are seeing your handiwork...

Yyeske:
Okorocha but why? This is not the Owerri we are used to na, why the collective punishment for your people. It's obvious APC will fail in Imo next election

noooo.. I don't want them to fail ooo


since imolites decided to play politics of sentiments, let them continue to reap the dividends.

Boleyndynasty2:
I gave up on Rochas long time ago, I didn't even know that road is now this bad and yet they have a Governor. I actually blame imo people not Rochas let them suffer for their stupidity

Exactly what I'm saying...

I have no single pity for them. let them suffer for their foolishness and bigotry.

Ifakiland:
Sometimes I see marriage as a waste of time....u marry an idiot and she keeps making ur life a living hell.
Any gal dat suggest marriage to me I'll so slap teeth off ur mouth....females are demons....see wat one is putting d op tru now!
Just forking wrong....op get ur own camp gas and pot and forking cook ur own meal....don't come and go and die of HBP....d idiot will remarry wen ure gone!

just imagine how the flawless female folks have turned the issue on its head... all of a sudden, it's the man that is at fault.

this is just preposterous. why are most women impervious to logic and reason.

don't put this ingredient in the meals you prepare cos of xyz... then she goes ahead to do the very opposite of what you asked her to do.

Then, the advisors will tell you to talk to her and discuss it. but this approach has never been known to work with women .

I just tire for them.

elektra:
Your mum was more efficient in running the home front because your Dad did his part.
It is not laziness to not want to bear the financial stress of running a home and then come back home to bear the domestic stress of doing chores when you have a partner. It is not laziness, it is being human. Women are not machines.

I see your point...

but, it's still at his discretion. They could get a maid at the very least. at least it solves two problems , and it's like killing two birds with a stone. she isn't stressed after work and the man's pride isn't crushed in the guise of doing domestic chores. Besides, he would also have the time to look for something economically tangible to engage himself with.

elektra:
Was your mother the bread winner in your family?

My Dad

but, she did her bit....which was a whole lot.

mrk74:
She has initiated discussion on this. Her approach is to tell me to stop being angry. Then later ask if I'm still angry. She notes that I'm making a big issue out of a little thing. I do agree it is a little thing but her response to it has not been helping which is what I explained to her. She now claims that she is being vulnerable in the relationship. And asks why she will always have to be the one to apologise whenever we have issues. This is really shocking to me. I asked her if she has ever apologized before which she didn't offer an answer. To the best of my knowledge what she will typically do is say stop being angry and sometimes without even addressing the issue that resulted in the annoyance.

She has not made much complain about me. In fact I can only remember one. But if she does I won't give her the opportunity to complain twice. If it's not acceptable to me, then I will want us to discuss it and come to a common ground. I asked her how she will react if I didn't adjust if she made a complain about me and she said she will just keep making the complain at the very instance that I repeat the issue and move on. This is what I've been doing but I'm not comfortable complaining on the same issue more than 3 times.

For some weeks now I've asked her to prepare unripe plantain with vegetable for me but she has not done so. When she was away in school where she is running her Msc, a friend who is also a neighbour had given that to me and I liked it. Initially she said she didn't understand how it's prepared and I explained what it looked like and we even agreed that we can discuss it with my friend and the wife (who happens to be from her village and their families know each other). But ever since she has refused to by vegetables whenever she goes to the market. I've asked severally and she'll give one flimsy reason or the other. Today she says that I shouldn't expect her to alter plans she had for other things to cook that. This is one of the things she has been saying.

---Modified ----
Some day last week I went and bought the vegetable myself. I wanted to buy N500 worth but she said it would be too much and a female cousin of mine who was around insisted that it will be too much. They said it should be N100 or N200 but they were still concerned about the N200 quantity. I can't remember which I had bought but when I brought it my wife prepared it as if it were soup for eba and we ended up eating it as soup. I didn't mind that she didn't use plantain as this was just an option. The most important thing was the vegetable. We laughed about the outcome but I pointed out that it wasn't what I expected. That I actually wanted an inexpensive thing that can be made often just for the health benefit. She said she had noted it but she has been to the market since then and even bought vegetable to make soup but not enough for what I asked for. Yesterday she was at the market again but still won't buy vegetables. When I asked today she said she made the vegetable soup because of my request. I don't understand what exactly is the problem, but it seems she just didn't take the request serious.

Well yesterday I took permission from my friend and asked the wife to help me prepare the vegetable with plantain and she did it for me today. I was careful not to indicate that there is a problem, instead told her it was to make it easy for her to have an idea what it looks like. When my wife asked me I told her someone else prepared what she had refused to prepare for me. She didn't say anything. Hours later she told me she is embarrassed about it. I just hope that will make her take my request serious in the future.

Looks like the person who posted the following that is now on front page had read through this thread.
https://www.nairaland.com/3388415/10-health-benefits-unripe-plantain

bro this your wife sef...

when we tell them to learn how to cook these days the feminazis will come at us with RPGs

sorry, please and thank you....how hard is it to learn?


Women are the major culprits of problems in marriages. the worst part is that most of them seem to be impermeable to logic and reason.