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I was in a 6year relationship......got to move on like I don't give a shiit! broke up last 2months (my first boyfriend) .Sometimes you got to do what's right, love doesn't cover it all.

O.p, leave her...she's tired she is tired she is tired!!!! What do you not understand? You don't love someone out of pity at all. Would you rather hold her against her wish cos she spent 6years of her life with you?

If she likes, she should spend 20years of her life in a relationship with you doesn't mean automatically she should spend the rest.

The only constant thing in life is change, love doesn't stand a damn. People change, as much as it hurts it's true.

My ex and I are still friends, we talk on phone, quarrel, still care about each other. That should be enough. O.p concentrate on the friendship and leave the "RE", if the love was never meant to die it won't.

Don't suffocate the poor girl. Love is fair in everything.

Lovelygurl thanks babe, I will follow your thread bum to bum till Jesus comes.

Ya I have come a long way, I can't quit. I will post pictures to show you my progress .

Lovelygurl I feel like romancing you right now muah muah muah

So I should not comb it daily when I'm not on braids? . If I shouldn't how do I take care of it? I'm not rocking any hair do, please suggest hair style I will do this week (don't mention braids, I don tire)

If you want the romancing don't forget to mention, I can fly off my phone to give you some. Cos I'm happy.

NLchikeeto:
@ Ginaz, lemme contribute d little I can.
shrinkage is normal......learn 2 embrace it,I deal wit mine by threading it immediately after washing. threading stretches natural hair a little.

U could pre poo wit warm oil(coconut, olive, Castor, and watever other oil u can get).then deep condition and wash. I use gentelle hair fruits for now and it's ok, though most of d peeps I know use vo5 for deep conditioning, and it's works for them. I finger detangle my hair in other to retain length. I shampoo wit dudu osun and it is ok,am planning 2 buy these natural black soap made by women wit local materials.

I fix hair that last for 4 to 6 wks....so I would give my hair enough rest.

Note: this is just wat works for me, and my hair type is 4c........wat works for u might b different.

Thanks for your detailed response.....i usually leave my hair after washing it for weeks before I make a hair do. I'm a lazy girl when it comes to hair issues, I'd rather leave my hair without touching it for a whole year.

About threading it, I don't like the local rubber threads. Can I thread it with wool? Will it look cool? Those local hair styles (puffs?)

I use hair fruits conditional only, I don't use shampoo(I don't like it, will have to change to another one). I think I will go to the market today to get the black soap you suggested.

Oh thanks, I will give you feedbacks. Muahhh

This is how my hair looks on a normal day after shrinking lovelygurl. How do I stretch it out? And it's too thick to comb through at the bottom.

Your advise will be highly appreciated. I need a regime on how to take care of my hair.

I don dey tire o.

Lovelygurl you should help me biko, seriously natural hair is a war. I am thinking about relaxing it but the hair it's like a motivation to me to never give up on a task.

1) my hair is really really thick at the bottom (to comb it through to the top is a big obstacle)

2) it tangles at the top thereby causing hair breakage.

3) I'm lazy lazy lazy and tired to even comb it (why won't I when after combing it only to wake up in the morning to see my hair looking like a football field?)

4) my hair shrinks, oh lord!!!! Why?

5) I don't have any ideal product to use (I'm currently using Indian hemp hair cream. Only that.

6) at lost of hair styles to make to make my hair grow faster.

7) it hurts, oh my God! I had to leave it for five days without touching it cos it hurts down to my scalp.

I'm tired, wanna relax it. I have come way too far so I don't wanna quit. Biko, save me from my miserable chore. Sometimes I think my hair hates me or we just don't like each other.

*my hair at 8 months* you won't blame it for not growing, I literally abandoned it. Had it fixed for the first time ever last month.

*photo* (after taking the braids off)

eyinjuege:
I'm not sure OP is a troll or has some mental health issues.
All your previous threads have been about this same wife. You have claimed to have cheated on her, beaten her severally, sent her out of your home on numerous occasions.
You also claimed your younger brother's fiancee came for a visit for the first time with yoit brother you started beating your wife in front of them, and the girl decided not to marry into your family again.

If you're no troll, and your stories are true, you have no doubt made a lot of bad decisions in the past, and you are presently reflecting on your life.
You can't have peace until you go and apologise to your first wife and children for being a thorn in their flesh.
Until you make amends, you may realise you keep chasing after the past. Its all gone now, apologise genuinely and try to move on your with new life. Your obsession with your old marriage is turning you into something else unless of course its your second wife you're having issues with again.

He is a wife beater and I wonder why. So disgusting.

babythug:
Note firstly that everyone has a right to his/her opinion! Benita27 commented as she perceives the matter to be this doesn't make her comment bad!

I'd also like you to broaden your perspective on the matter a bit! How will other members of the family feel if they hear he's gone seeking loans from His father in law? Is a second car such a necessity? If the father in law didn't have the means won't he seek assistance elsewhere?

Also consider that a man who's become a husband and a dad must begin to act with some dignity and avoid airing some of his sheet in front of external parties! He must leave room for his self preservation.....

Picture his father in law referring to the loans he's given to this fellow at a public gathering. Would he be happy? As his wife would you for eg be happy?

I know everybody has right to his or her opinion and I didn't abuse her but countered the statement she made. What I'm saying here is everybody need help at one certain point of their lives. Who they choose to go for help is not bad(family members not withstanding) if they ain't committing crimes.

Everything is vanity, if he choose to suffer in silence knowing his father in law can offer him help does it makes sense? We ask God anything, why can't we seek help? It's the same God that said ask and it shall be given unto you, he plainly asked for assistance.

What I have seen so far in Nigeria and Africa as a whole is that they are too judgmental. Must a man be all brick and wall to show he is a man? Must he suffer on his own a lot to show he is capable of fending or giving comfort to his family?

What if his father in law could help a little bit to give him a better life?

My dear, a dignity of a man does not Sterm from him suffering in silence but his inner being(character). Dagote is not someone's father? Yet there are men father's to others seeking help from him, making deals, taking loans to better their families. You want to tell me they don't have dignity?

See eh, sometimes you have to let someone carry your load to get to the top cos you can't do it alone. Everybody need help(man or woman) no body knows tomorrow.

My aunty's husband when they started it was rough with them, his father gave him a head start( a car and house) to ease his early struggling life. He started from there on his own, hustled, today he has a house built by him, bought a car...owns a business. If it wasn't for the help rendered won't life had been more unbearable?

He man shows dignity when he is hard working, honest, reliable, trustworthy, a never quits person, lovely husband, a good father. not when he begs for assistance

To me, I see nothing wrong with what he did(he didn't commit no crime) as far he didn't abuse it. His wife would have been more understanding. Nobody can do it all alone.

Me sef dey find who go loan me money. If na my boyfriend father I no send(i salute the chairman)

Life too hard abeg. No be who strong for skin dem say dey know who get strong heart.

Benita27 what you wrote up there is bad. Everybody need help at certain point of their lives. Why do people always make things difficult for themselves?

If you know a person that can render you help when you need it desperately why not ask? Not as if he was making unnecessary demands of which I would say it's wrong. But the demands he made were worth asking for his inlaw's assistance.

The wife was just too harsh and hard, HaBa!!!! What if it was the other way round and she was the one seeking help from her father inlaw? How would it look like if her husband goes hard on her?

And the money he was asking wasn't for his good alone rather for them both. Cos he asked for assistance from your father you got angry? Is it your money? What kind of wife is this?

jakandeola:
av just bin happy today sometimes wen u feel pains u remember u are alive dat not evrybody dat wish to see today see today. am always happy on friday is a day wia pple relax afta work, some go vigil some prepared for party me as a street guy I enta street to flex and hav fun7 is a lucky numba wish 7 people happy weekend.
I wish u cococandy
I wish u amarabae
I wish u jacksparrow127
I wish u ginaz
I wish u zarzar
I wish u optional1
I wish u bibijay123 a happy and bless weekend lets go!

Happy weekend too....thank God it's friday

Wanna take me out?

Oyindidi:
Op kindly propose to ginaz, she's a wife material

That shiit you're smoking is bad for you

Imfinished:
oh my God!!! Thanks bro!!! I just googled "lichen planus"

It says the disorder is not as a result of sex!!! it's not a sexually transmitted disease. I saw the exact same pictures like mine. Thank you thank you thank you!!!!

Your miracle happened.

Oyindidi:
Lol, I'm not mocking him. He met a doctor already, why this show of shame?

You didn't hear when he said he went to the doctor already upon all prescriptions which he strictly adhered to there were no improvements?

He probably came here cos he was scared and solicited for advise on his predicament.

My dear, when it comes to life and death, shame is no longer valid. I saw a site someone put up her genitals to asked people if they looked normal cos she felt it didn't. The responses she got were amazing and very matured( no abuses no mocks) straight to the point.

He didn't put up his face, what's the offense? Who would recognized him by his dicck? So what's the shame?

I guessed that's why they said nairaland is filled with kids and infested by low IQ's. From what I have seen so far from this thread, I guessed it's true.

O.p don't feel bad ,i wish you a speedy recovery bro (I hate it when people are mean and abuse someone unfairly for things beyond their control)

Oyindidi:
Oboy na you get that preeq? O boy small balls and small preeq wey no get ear

Good thing you don see doctor, pray for God to heal you too

Be nice....its hurting for someone to get their genitals laughed at. He came for advise, not to be mocked over his size of dicck he got no control over as to how big it should look.

It's not his fault, he didn't create himself.

Advise him or hold your peace.

jakandeola:
hahahaha u liek bad ting wat are u doing here

To help the O.P

Imfinished:
These lumps appeared on my scrotum about three weeks ago and has refused to go. It doesn't cause me pain, but it gets itchy at times. Immediately I shower. I can go a whole day without feeling any discomfort. Have been to a health care center and was told it's herpes. I bought some drugs and tube amounting to 7k. The doc there told me it will go away within days of taking the drugs. But it's been a week plus now, it's still there. I went back to him, he told me to calm down, that the lumps will disappear pretty soon. He even gave me another tube to rub on it morning and night.
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Anyone knows what it really is and how dangerous it is? I believe I got it from sex!!!
Please experienced people in the house, suggest drugs or tubes Biko!!!

You are truly finished!!! That might be herpes, and I heard it's for life. It goes on its on but comes back when your immune system is weak or when your body is stressed.

You better treat it asap with all seriousness. And get the girl that gave you this to treat herself as well cos she is distributing disease to innocent unfortunate (mumu) men that have sex without protection.

Relax yourself and don't panic, it is treatable. The only problem is it doesn't go completely. There is miracle, it happens. Go on your kneels and beg God to give you a miracle.

I'm pissed off!!! Your poor future wife now gonna have herpes on her genitals cos her husband was a fu*k boy who refused to eat his sweet with condom.

Sleep with a fresh lady they won't listen, niggas be saying "any woman come my way I go nack her kpekus".

Be calmed and relaxed. It would probably go off on its own. When it goes off, be on the lookout and treat yourself very well.

My regards to your health and I wish you a speedy recovery.

QueenOfNepal:
How old are you? A fellow lady called him out for
WWhat's wrong and you here applauding him because you left your sense of decency in a bathtub

Typical Nigerian way of attacking someone!!! Asking me how old I am)!!!!

That was the question she asked him, calling him a kid, same thing you're doing.

All this you're saying is bla bla bla and bla. They are both adults not kids. You wanna tell me they don't know what they were doing? So I'm God that will tell them to stop fighting? Fighting over a whorre who is Nutting her breasts out for everyone?

They both know between right and evil.....wrong from bad just like each and everyone of us.

What's your itch? Are you typing to seem mature or important?

You questioned my decency because of a girl who choose to live wayward life by exposing her breast( what is my concern?).

Nigerians are hypocrites!!!! You watch porn, buy porn yet abuse someone you see doing it. What is the difference? Cos they show their faces while you hide yours?

None of my business how people live their lives, I'm only concerned about me and my household. Live and let live!!!!

Please warn yourself, next time don't question my decency on a worthless piece of trash!!

If she wanna be a porn indecent star wenti concern me and you? Na u dey feed her?

Kowalskiq:
Lol... I knew you'll play the family card.
My sister, my future daughter, you forgot one- My mother

Who you calling kid/boy, Na wa oo, anyway I don't blame you, the anonymous nature of Nairaland gives some of you freaks so much courage and impetus to talk anyhow.
For your mind your more educated or older than me, Mtcheww, what ever makes you happy online.
Online Na where you power end

You guy is probably gisting his friends now, how you were screwed by him, and how you were moaning crazily.

BTW,
When I have a daughter, it will be better for her to have sex for cool cash than to be opening her legs up and down for almost free, in name of Love.

I believe you have had more than 3 different boyfriends, and the all fvcked a hell out of you, plus side fvcks you give other acquaintances.

What did you benefit from the all the fvcks, just little things.. Money for hair, credit, 30K phone, birthday cake etc

This guy pays some of his Girl's up to 200K, I doubt you even have that in your Savings, Current or fixed deposit accounts

Abeg shift Jare

someone should check her if she is still breathing after this back cut, over cut and round cut knockout........bros you is a wicked person. Chaiiiiii.... Are you sure you will make heaven so?

Greed is in his blood.

Pavore9:
Did the police not claim there was a shoot out before his arrest?

The police is your friend

Pidgin2:
For anyone who is thinking of employing this babe into their household, well there you have it, I had a client for you but I had to pull your buttons first, thank God I did, cheers girl. My advice for you is to seek another career part

Oh thank you, I don't need your type. It's people like you that maltreat their fellow human beings just cos they wanna earn an honest living. I'm a very humble person but I won't allow someone to put a stick in my eyes because they wanna take advantage of me.

Who you epp? Those clients I got were you the one who gave them to me? I know your type, wickedness is what they do. And God will not be so unmerciful to give me types like you that insult and abuse their employees.

Na God dey favour person my dear, no be human being. My career is gonna flourish, how can you be able to stop it?

Pidgin2:
Shut up please. UK colonised Nigeria, they've been independent for ages, why do we have this type of mentality? Always comparing Nigeria with others it shows unpatriotism, the light in that building should be switched off to help manage the way that fire spreads

Ma'am if you wanna make a point you can do that without sounding like an idiot who's just got a brain damage.

You should be the one to shut up your stinking toilet of a mouth. Can't someone airs opinion again or what is going on sef? If you don't like it then you can counter it by saying your mind without being rude as my earlier comment wasn't addressed to you.

Is that how someone behaves? Quote a person to be rude? Somehow that didn't even mention you.

This is morning, if your life is so frustrated that you can't be happy please you can go and jump inside a lagoon. The morning is too fresh and beautiful to start being rude.

Good morning and please go and eat.

Who saw the light in the building? This is fire ravaging the building o yet there is light.

In Nigeria ordinary thunder, they will take light.

Chaiiiii, don't even mention when there is fire.....for two years the street won't see light.

We have a long way to go.

Yewandequeen:
That one pain you? She didn't bleach but her feet has two colours

The mentality is real from the pix I can see!!! I thought the issue is about bleaching not a photo gallery section...

* Modified *

As for that girl that said she is fair and doesn't need to bleach, your feet are in how many colours?

What is going on here?

I888:
I am a realist as well, as in to the core. I believe in action as well.

I want a date on serious terms but we can start as friends and grow from there.. Nairalanders bear me witness and if I ever break your heart or turn out to be opposite of what I post here, then you are liberty to sue me...

We can start off as friends, there's no rule against being a friend to someone. I really like to get to know someone's personality before anything else. I'm extending my hands for a friendship, you don't need to be what you're not but yourself...just be yourself keep it real. If you are the type that likes eating eba....keep it real don't tell me you like eating semo to impress me.

And about marriage.....only God can decide. I'm not saying nothing about that (and how did we come to talk about marriage sef? Who started it? )

But this your moniker 1888, was that the year you were born? I hope you are not older than my ancestors.

Welcome to my world.

ikp120:
You will be shocked to find out that OP doesn't not have up to 100k. LMAO

No be small thing o, lies everywhere.

I888:
I am not. I have my own fears too. I hope u are not the kind that take loving heart for granted.

I understand you might feel these things are not real as I have described... because our world is fast being over taken by wrong men.

It's had to believe a guy that can do this still exist. If I had ulterior motives, I won't put this out here like this and I want the entire nairaland to bear me witness today...

I believe in one man one woman to the core. I am not promising you millions or 30 billions in the account (in davido's voice) but I assure you a loving heart that no money can get you.... that does not mean I am broke and gonna starve you ooo lol. But I guess you understand what I mean.

I believe in one man and one woman relationship too. But humans sometimes ain't what they seem on the outside, you only know their true intentions towards the end.

I'm a realist, I don't believe in words but actions, that doesn't mean you got to spend 30billion on my head your personality will come a long way. So hold your money cos I'm not starving in my mother's house

So in the presence of all nairlanders, what do you want? Friendship? Or a date?

I888:
I will give you the best moral supports towards your ambitions as an independent lady, the best attention and care. A listening ear to your worries and fear, and excellent communicator when it matter most.

I will be your friend in the most remarkable way...

No disrespected but honoured as demanded.

Never be selfish nor selfcentered to your cause.

And of course, It not be an affair without leading to the promise land.

Ewo, all this things you are telling me now is too good to be true. I hope you are not a chop and run....hope you no be eat and clean mouth.

I888:
lol. Don't be please. I have always had my eyes on you long before now.

So what are your plans? And what do you got to offer?