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uchman:
My wife use to ask me that and it's always heavy in my mouth to answer...

I don't see anything wrong with your wife asking you "How are you " .That's the most sincere care you could get from someone close and equal.

Unless the husband has a very low self esteem or not in charge at home, that's when it would be a concern to you.

However, it should be a no no from any lady or anybody outside .

Forget the nonsense people are saying. Most of the "how are you "are not sincere.Its either the fellow wants to show you superiority or stupid and unnecessary dominance.

He doesn't care about your well being he just wanted to foolishly proud to you.

bjprodint:
i am going through something similar now,i want to run but i dont have the resources,am sinking into depression.

Try your best to ensure the workability of the marriage, if you see it's not feasible.

Get off it and look for your happiness. Determined to confront your life challenges and make out a resources for yourself.

You wouldn't believe how it will work out when you look back.

Most importantly, put God first in all your endeavours.

poshestmina:
There are levels to this forgiveness thing.

My husband cheated on me ,right in my face!!!

I left to my family... We settled after so many families meeting and agreements.

I forgave because he WAS SINCERELY SORRY and remorseful till as I'm typing this .( In my mind,yeah).

But I'm not sure if I'd forgive a husband that labeled me a witch , abandoned me (definitely doesn't love me),gave me a bad image , accused me of adultery , ABANDONED HIS KIDS , prolly flaunting the new woman/women.


I'd definitely be a bad Christian too . DEFINITELY!!!

As in you will start cheating on him or what.

just curious.

Ghostmode2two:
I didn't bother to listen to her confession because if she confesses that did something like that, it is over between us. She knows what I can do.

Hmmm. Kudos to you

. For me, curiosity will not allow me to let it go, a problem known is half solved.

Make somebody no turn me to mumu.

onatisi:
i do eat well and sleep well too, but have never taken the bp monitoring to be anything of special importance but with what you have said now , i will make sure i take a bp check as soon as possible . thanks a lot for the advice

Please, do check it often. That guy's death really pained me.

Ghostmode2two:
Get concrete evidence then you can tell her your mind. Very sorry for the emotional pains you going through. Women are not to be trusted. I once suspected my wife about cheating too as she suddenly stopped coming home from work early as she used to and was also receiving calls from a man any time of the day and night even when were in bed together. So I told my wife to stop receiving calls from whoever that always call. I told my wife if she is interested in doing fling outside I will not hesitate to divorce her and throw her out of my house. Funny enough the man who was calling her was also a married man. She told me she wants to confess something to me, I told her that I am not interested in her stupid confession and that I have made myself clear. I told her that I will take custody of my children and she will never see them again and I mean it. She can go and do whatever pleases her, as for sex no amount of sex she is going to have outside she is not going to give birth to kids that will grow older than the ones we already had.

You really mean that you didn't hear her confession. You could have known what she was up to.

onatisi:
boss, since i got married i have NEVER NEVER LOOKED THROUGH THE PHONE OF My WIFE OR EVEN BOTHERED ANSWERING HER PHONE ,if it rings from now till tomorrow i wont pick it . i am just too damm busy that even 24hours is not enough for me at times. that is why i always laugh when i hear or read about men crying or lamenting about their wives infidelity .

what many men dont understand is , if man is rich ,successful and powerful ,it is the mans wife that will be monitoring him , stalking him and making sure that no other woman snatches away her husband , but when it the other way round then definitely such a man really does have serious problems,
Get busy ,get rich , get successful and see how women will willingly submit themselves to you wholly and totally

Hope you check your BP and strictly monitor your health?

One young rich guy ,one of the greatest distributors of a particular product with two fine hotels just collapsed and died. Said just what you said now. A day is not enough for his activities. He slept late and woke up very early.

I hope your wife will not derail and turn to what you don't expect in terms of fidelity.

Some women are as faithful as their husbands could be. Once betrayed, her next type of life is not assured.

Mrscarter:
Ikr. U can control any desire weather it be sex or any other thing.
It takes willpower and really I dnt even need that. It's been easy for me.
I started off because I was tired of unmeaningful sex/relationships n wanted to wait until I found the right person n not just any person who I thought was right.
Eventually I met someone far away n feel he's worth waiting for.
Besides no one else has interested me in a long time.
I get lonely sure n I get urges sometimes but isn't like I must run out n just screw somebody. I wanted to be a better person than before n make my body worth more than just sex if U know wat I mean.
N it will be all the more sweeter for myself and the guy when the time finally comes for us to have sex.
Yeah as much as I like sex it's not something I can't do without for as long as it takes.
More women and men should respect their bodies more n not just share it with anyone or with all different ppl all the time.
Some ppl dnt care bout their reputation or sexual health. Ten/thirty mins of pleasure just to go bk home or whatever n know you've just cheated on the one U love or that you've just screwed Ur boss/neighbour or a random person n like someone who's cheap n easy. Isn't worth it.
I've had one night stands years ago just to screw n I'm not proud of it. Wat did achieve me? But being proud of Ur body not being used by ppl who only wanna screw U n use U or knowing U have the strongest loyalty to Ur absent partner and knowing Ur not easy. Or that Ur sexual health is perfect or that U have no reputation as easy or high body count that's all worth much more than a random screw just cos U had urges

Let's just say you are doing it for yourself and your belief.

But simply know that your partner might have his own belief and coded actions too. Simple truth.

Samakus:
Nice to see a lady with this mindset. A lot of people, gender notwithstanding, believe that one can't do without sex. That's a notion I find very untrue, maybe because I fit hold body small.

Truth is, if people learn to control their sexual urges, we have successfully solved 80% of world's problems. Sadly, quite a very high percentage of human population just can't

If the world is about sex, it could have been a better place than having violence. (Berlin and Amsterdam come to mind)

The only discouragement is the increased immorality and the low spirituality that will prevail due to sex abuse.

Imagine if married couples of the world will always indulge in mutual sex (not rape)
don't you think the world will be better off without violence.

Unfortunately, all things can never be equal.
Because once there is a sexual abuse, miscreants will be born and they will turn to terrorists/violence.

But imagine a world of clean romance, there would be more peace in the world.

The question is, can we ever have a clean and approved romance??

kunkelhanspeter:
Baba God I need Toyota Avalon 2013

Mr, why are you having same wish like me. Already said mine before seeing yours. Though mine is to have 2015/2016 by Dec.just don't know why that car is always expensive.

Igbochief001:
The edo speaker too deserve praise

You are right. He was unjustly excluded from the winners.

His resilience and royalty were very instrumental to his effective coordination of the house affairs despite the threat of those not sworn in.

If he had switched over to Oshiomole side, Obaseki could not have survived impeachment.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It hasn't been easy staying a virgin all these years. I just can't wait for that glorious and heavenly night when my untouched virgin husband will pounce on me and take me to cloud nine.

That glorious day ehn, my guy prick go hear am!

Don't be a virgin because of a guy otherwise you will be disappointed. Many funny guys will pretend they valued your virginity but in actual fact they would be sick and tired of your too much expectations of sex,romance and attention. Because you have been keeping to have them in future, you will seem not to be getting enough and that will actually bore him eventually.

Instead be a virgin because of your morals and sophistication. No man will belittle you for it.

Teena18:
Some pastors sha
Didn't Jesus say forgive 70×7 times daily?

I sell perfumes, body spray and a host of other fragrant products, contact me for details biko because in the end, only God knows His true followers

You must be a Catholic.

Debra911:
Yes sugar, Of course I do need a surprise

Let's see how it goes, I don't even know how we do it next.

Debra911:
Sweet Lord! Where are this kind of men o

Well, I've actually had such experience, but not as huge as this amount. Thanks to all good men that ain't broke ass niggaz

You need a surprise? let me know as soon as possible.

hopefulLandlord:
How's the poster stupid? because he refuses to think like you lot?

You are right in your question . The poster is not just stupid but foolish because I couldn't make out a line from his perspective.

ggirl4real:
I don't understand why we should thank God for all these things.

Aside from number 10 (which is just a mindset), how sure are we that it is "God" that make these things possible?

If He's the one, I think all atheists and free thinkers should be denied these things.

Since everyone has access to these things you've mentioned, I don't see why we should thank God for them.

As a matter of fact, I'm very sure that there are many Christians who are struggling to access these things. Some die in the process while some free thinkers are still enjoying full access. Whose fault is this?

Sorry you are completely inscrutable.

And I assure you will still be inscrutable no matter how much you try.

I suggest you rest.

pstmikol1:
I'm sorry for disturbing you here sir, I was the guy you help here sometime ago, I'm grateful and may God bless you.
However, I came here to apologise and beg you for forgiveness sir, my mind is not just at rest since then and I have been longing to tell you. Actually I was not at school then(though I'm a student) Cox we're sent home Cox of the pandemic but I lied that I was in school, it is very tough for us when I came home as a result of the lockdown and you won't believe and want to help if I don't say I was in school then. It was not easy for us then even to eat was hard that's why l lied.
Please sir because of God almighty find a place in your heart to forgive me and I promise never to do that again. Thanks I appreciate!

No problem, I won't hold you against you. Not at all.

Your honesty is acknowledged and I hope you strive to maintain it.

Wish you the best.

ValCon888:
This government lacks initiative. We are talking about generating internal revenue, and they are destroying cannabis plantation. In this era of dwindling petrodollars, marijuana can become a primary forex earner. Rather than ban it, the government should seek a means to regulate it.
In these challenging times, weed is one of the few things that make people happy. We are not better than the US, Canada, or the Netherlands that control weed consumption. A plant that is useful in many industries including textile, energy, and medicine.

We are literally burning billions of dollars all in the name of forming sanctimonious in this fantastically corrupt country.

You said it all, wanted to make a write up like this but no need any longer after seeing your write up

Marijuana is very medicinal and a real income generator

Nigeria is losing a lot not legalizing marijuana, funny enough, the more it's hidden, the more it's being abused

Xisnin:
The bold is false, it can never be.
Anyone familiar with the industry or export farming generally would understand this.

Sorry what are you saying?

You need to make your research on marijuana


That leaves is a great forex that moves country economy. There is nothing wrong with marijuana infact it's extremely medicinal , the only problem is that it's being abused in Nigeria.

TheKingIsHere:
I know of people with salary of 1m per month that still relocated.

If you like, dey mumu yourself until one day you wake up and find out that buhari has officially sold Nigeria to china

I bet you that most people in that category just moved their families for more sanity and they are still around making the money in Nigeria while visiting their families now and then.

You have the right to doubt.

Decimus:
It's an SUV, not a Jeep.
Jeep is also a Brand, like Honda, Hyundai, Mercedes, VW etc.

I am tired of correcting people, I do average of 1 correction everyday.
People hardly learn.

This fine is completely baseless and laughable. Was Nigeria info in his mind to tell him what to say or not.

The only mistake Nigeria info should have done is not to put a disclaimer dissociating the station from the interviewee opinions.

If I were them, I will sue NBC and argue the case of freedom of speech.

Rubbish.

Majesticniyi:
When people say things like the richest Nigerians live in Nigeria, I ask them how many of the average Nigerians eventually get to be part of those 'richest' ones? It's like a circle that revolves around itself, few can break in. Where would the average Nigerian get the opportunity, job, contract etc that would make them break into that circle of the rich? If those of us that japa have the political or social wherewithal, we probably would stay...but since we dont and we would not involve ourselves in crime to get in, we left for places where we have fairly equal playing field to be the best we can be.

I love your sincerity.You left because of survival instinct.

But my annoyance is that some fellows will be consoling themselves for their departure by condemning Nigeria instead of concentrating and improving their lives in their adopted countries and at the same time should be praying for their own country for things to be better

TANTUMERGO007:
Not a time to mourn a criminal and a drug baron, may his soul not rest in peace if he was indeed a criminal

He who has not sinned, hope you will be the one to throw the first stone as Jesus insisted.

alhassanyusuf29:
Bloody chestbeater!! These people are fools and moronic wlh!! They are a nuisance, making a lot of noise

Nyamuri flat.heads never cease to amaze me!! Online warriors.. most of them have never left their HIV/erosion ravaged region

Small boy, how are you? Mama is calling, go to her.

Kidgaya:
And be a good neighbor- nothing as painful as seeing Sallah meat going to your Neigbhours flat while they pass you . After you spent the whole morning inhaling the scent!
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I don't care ooo. If they like, make them pass 100 times.

I don't know why he is using your password as a supremacy strategy. Why not give you more caring and buy more gifts for you to prove he is your husband and in charge.

Anyway, since you don't really have any problem sharing the password, you can give him AS FAR AS he gives you his.

Just don't know why he wouldn't respect your privacy. Sorry to say, a man that allows such things to distract him must be very troublesome. Even if you solve this, he would bring another issue tomorrow.


Two options, it's either you share with him once he shares his or you insist on your no. Your no today would save your marriage tomorrow. (Strong statement)

AnonymousRebec:
I am a lady. I can't bring myself to date a guy younger than me. I will see the person as my younger brother.

Also there are sometimes I can have strong head and be very stubborn, but I can respect him even in my stubbornness if not for anything, just because he is older than me.

For a good relationship, the guy has to be older than me. I have dated a 27 years old guy when I was 20 years old.

You have not met a stubborn younger man, if you do, you will know a man is a man, age notwithstanding.