₦airaland Forum

Urchman200:
u dey mind them ,every thing they want to bring hate against igbo, which tribes makes better marriage than igbowoman?

I'm really surprise ooo. Statistics shows that other tribes are really keen on marrying igbo ladies and even igbo guys.Because their girls are always ready to be in a marriage while their guys know how to take care of their wives.

That guy should convince the family to avoid missing the opportunity.

Drizzy5001:
Same issue with my friend, he's from cross River State, his parents didn't allow him to marry the girl he's in love with . But nigga stubbornly went ahead and he's happily married to the girl he loved ... Him no even send him parents sef... I don't know why people from those region don't marry other tribes.

They are very peaceful people and really Hope to have people that are peaceful too.

Nothing more nothing less. Do you have a friend from cross River or Akwa Ibom, you will understand what I am saying.

Confusedwomsn:
He said I don't respect him and truthfully I don't.

I find it difficult to respect him because he does not play his role, I told him this.
Our rent is due and we agreed this year he will do rent and children school fees,
My children had to stay back from school because fees were not paid last term on time.
Now our landlord has come twice to ask for rent, I've asked him how much he has so I'll contribute but he said I should leave him alone, I know I may end up paying the rent because I hate embarrassment.
I know its no excuse to not respect him but this his attitude makes it difficult for me.

I don't even know where to start.

First of all, I think you thought both of you were in love before the marriage but you were mistaken. He saw you as a mere friend and was very reluctant but subsequently forced himself to make up his mind.

You could have been a lovely wife but your husband's irresponsibility is not helping matters, your frustration of him not helping at home made him to lose your respect. It's actually very difficult to respect a man that doesn't respect himself because respect is reciprocal.

Your husband actually took you for granted hence his queer behavior and his love is actually questionable leaving one to wonder if he really wants to be in that marriage.


I don't know why everyone is blaming you but I don't think you forced him into the marriage. The only exception is that men always like being the one to push for marriage, anything on the contrary will make them not to love the woman especially if he knows that the woman loves him. They end up taking the woman for granted.

People are blaming you because you argue and fight him, but they forgot the reason why you are so much frustrated, it's actually bad for a man to forsake his responsibility for a woman. Such can be very frustrating.


You are really torn between being in the marriage or leaving which is dependent on his changing.
Funny enough, you really hope to have two kids incase you people are separating. Though you would love to stay if he changed.


He is even confused either to leave you or stay.


Going forward, try not to argue with him again, (I know this is difficult considering his lackadaisical attitude to Home management)

Keep on having a heart to heart talk with him (Will still be difficult because he doesn't seem to be a listening type)

Try your best to manage the situation and argue reasonably with no hot words that could cause him beating you.


Then on the last note. Try your best to be in that marriage that will be devoid of discord and by extension, a domestic violence.

If it's not working, please take your child and leave (Even though you could have loved two)
As far as there is life, things will be more beautiful for those that believe.

Too emotional a thread.
May God console everyone.
let's take this life easy. it's a make believe world

Thoying1990:
Jolayemi Olubukola Michael, my first love. Died Oct 1st 2017, I can't help the Tears anytime I remember him. Rest in peace Dearie, like you do address me. Though married now, but I can never forget him

Sorry about the loss. I'm sure he must have told you to channel your memory energy to your present love. Make sure the living love is very happy, you have succeeded in making the lost one happy.

You may not know but that is wishes beyond.

Tissaia:
Let them blame Fulanis like they always do.
They are probably fighting over two acres of Land. This people want to govern themselves. they think running a country is a joke. one Nigeria is a favour to them. They need to be saved from themselves. Imagine lamidi cownu is president, wike is vice president, Asari dokubo a minister. Evans a senator. Tompolo Chief of Army, boyloaf chief of Navy. Just imagine the Chaos.
This people thinks the new world oder is a joke

Nawa for you ooo. You don't like that region at all.

You didn't remember Okonjo Iweala, Peter Obi, Charles Soludo, Pat Utomi, etc.

Why did you remember only people with questionable existence.

jlinkd78:
If Buhari can speak as much Fulfude, Nnamdi Kanu would have been shamed. Pls she spoke d Igbo very well compared to a lot of oda Igbos dat have not stayed abroad all days like her.

Leave that fellow and his disappointment that she didn't speak fluent igbo, to me she spoke perfect igbo, was trying to hear any English to get the message but I only heard "love you all "


The guy forgot that she is an international woman that is always online with the world bank personnel, UN personnel and Harvard colleagues.

humilitypays:
Lol, this life sha.....but how can a man be having sex everyday Some men de try sha.


Sex generally is boring, now talk of having sex everyday with the same woman, that your husband get skosko for his head sha lol




Me no longer fancy sex....I wonder how people keep being sexually active to be having sex every week or often till they clock 50, no be me.


There is nothing you can do....seems your husband is a sex machine which some ladies love, but unfortunately you guys are not sexual match as you didn't involve in premarital sex, that's the good and bad side of avoiding premarital sex with a future partner

Your sex is too boring, hence your lost of interest.

Liven it up and make sure you love your partner too. If you don't love your wife you can't enjoy anything with her.

candygirl4real:
I can relate... my own na to follow my children sleep when I am not in the mood for that wahala. No amount of force can pull me out if I no want.
Is there a spare room in the house? Sneek inside there and sleep joor...

I want to assume you do that the following day after you must have done the right thing the previous day.

If not, I don't think it's something you will boast of because it strengthens marriage unless you mean you don't really desire him again.

subcbouy:
I am waiting to hear there is no beggar and mad people overseas too.

No wait ooo. You go wait tire. I used to think so until I saw many with my own eyes. Many of them.


Don't mind those "Nigeria is a shithole " crew.


Peace.

mimimile93:
Have you cared to know why some would rather watch their relative die than help?

There is no way a family member will burn your finger of generosity unless you did not approach it smartly.



Everything is done with wisdom. take care of yourself and take care of others from a distance while taking care of yourself.


Your finger can't be burnt.

subcbouy:
There is no perfect society, people in developed countries still disobey rules. All this assertion that people obey rule is a lie. It may be minimal unlike ours.

Just leave them to be exaggerating every time as if abroad is heaven

Everywhere looks same both Nigeria road and London road except that there might be pot holes in Nigeria road, but road na road.

I blame our stupid leaders that does not know anything in governance especially the certificateless one

Sometimes I used to wonder is it not the same place one goes to now and then.

Anyway I don't want to say much on that persistent utterances

pstmikol1:
Am on my knees now saying thank you. U really surprise me for good, may GOD reward you immensely. A woman help me here somtimes ago when i don't know where to go and now you. Only God can reward you people. Thanks!

It's OK. It is well. God is good.

I really hope that one day in the future, you will be an answer to someone's prayer even in a far bigger way.

And who said we have more Muslims in Nigeria than any other religion.


A lot of Christians are in kebbi, Bauchi, gombe and yobe states. They even wear hijab in the church, just a cultural wear to them.

Nigeria has more Christians than Muslims in Nigeria. Just like the whole world.

Yenefer:
This guy av started smoking something weird. Imagine 20+k death in Italy they didn't blame Muslims so are other European countries and America. What's happening in Kano is a result of bioweapon attack by I-pigs. They bring Covid19 into Kano and other mysterious disease with orders from lamdi kamu

He is lucky. he is Yoruba man..., If he is from that Criminally corrupted tribe I will have said worse

Are you the sister or the daughter, because you too said nonsense like him.

made2fit:
Good day, saw you e-mailed me. I don't use that e-mail anymore. I assume you wrote to thank me, having received the funds. You are welcome. Remain blessed.

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pstmikol1:
sir i mention you earlier but you didn't reply, am currently stuck at school and my foodstuff is down and my parent are not financially bouyant now, i swear it not been easy since, please sir have mercy on me, i have proof if you want.
0064555369, union bank, anything will be greatly appreciated sir, Thanks so much.

Noted but with my complete privacy

MPESA:
If You don't have any reasonable thing to say kindly don't bother to talk BTW stop all this beautiful ladies in abroad here and there. I have been away a couple of time without messing up NOT EVEN BY MISTAKE.... So if I can stay for 2+ without messing up , I believed That there's a lot of men and women who are like that as well...

P.s
You don't have any evidence that this man is cheating or whatsoever.... Stop all this nonsense theories without fact , it can destroy family you never know how much they have put together to build...

Thanks for expressing yourself angrily without any insult, maybe that's why I am giving you this audience.

Kudos for being very faithful even when exposed out there.

You can never take away the fact that most men out there with their Wives in Nigeria misbehave.

Only a small percentage of men are reasonable and know why they are out there and not with their families


I offered my realistic reason and no time for ostrich method.




let's hope the husband is among the very few that have integrity

Karemarealty288:
Please explain the way of life that is different from SE.

If I was him, with that kind of your face, I won't even say anything again.

j1mmy:
Buhari was always a weak figure head leader, he did the same with Idiagbon and then Kyari. He never ruled effectively on his own initiative.
when Idiagbon left the country for a few days he was overthrown, Kyari is gone...this may signal the end of his political life.

You really align to my belief.

Mark it, with the demise of Abba Kyari, I don't see buhari finishing his second term. He will have another Cos but things will never be the same.

He will not die ooo but there will be a legal and legislative intervention that will be necessitated by executive gaps which will be created by his incapacitation.

Osibanjo would fill the gap in the remaining part of the second term.

Corrinthians:
K. You can leave now. I don't talk to ibo girls. Thanks.

You are foolishly showing that you are struggling not to accept the fact that igbo girls are highly desired and sought for.


Even Yoruba guys are crazy about igbo girls once they have one.

Incase you are wondering, I am just telling you the fact and doesn't have anything to do with ethnicity,
that is if you are smart enough to know what I am trying to say.

EzzyCarter:
Risky gamble. Hopefully, the guys above me praising him won't be the first to blame him should things go sour( I pray it doesn't).



God help us all...


Modified : To the angry ones quoting me, This isn't the time to be overly emotional. No one's enjoying the lockdown but the truth is this is a matter of life and death. I believe we'll get over this soon and normalcy would be restored to the world but till then, you have a choice; stay at home or stay in a box(literally) . choice is yours

We are losing on both fronts, both controlling the disease and economy.


You will say how about those in abroad that locked down, are they not losing too? though their own lockdown is not even very successfull but they are in an organised society that can build back their economy subsequently unlike our struggling society where we face a lot of challenges.


Lockdown is not a solution to our problem.
Face mask,hand washing and sanitizer will be very helpful here.

I don't want to remember the payment to citizens by countries abroad in their own lockdown meanwhile no payment to anybody in Nigeria and you are telling them to lock down amidst hunger.

Very ridiculous.

shekhaz:
I opened this thread to get views and advice from my fellow women who are in my shoes. I got married in 2012 and we are blessed with two lovely kids. My husband had always travel even before we got married. But last year he decided to stay back to work his way to getting green card. I have been trying to manage his absence by keeping busy with work and the kids. But covid 19 is making everything difficult now. Often times I have always cried myself to sleep at night. I never saw myself living in this situation but these past few weeks has been hell. Presently I have insomnia, I miss him so much I think I might break down soon. I don't know what to do anymore. He never takes me seriously when I cry to him. He believes I am not being emotionally strong since it will only be for a short while.
I know I can't be alone in this. Please I need advise from women who have been in this situation. How did you cope? Are you guys together now? How did deal with the kids when they miss their daddy?
Thank you for your input

The bitter truth there is that he may not be missing you that much as you. He gets "all" he desires there with the beautiful consolation that he has already secured a family in Nigeria.

Like most women in the same situation ,they are the one bearing the blunt because they are always faithful and taking care of the kids unlike the husbands out there.

Bitter truth.


But a woman of dignity is the one that maintains her decency despite everything. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Be strong.

kunletexs:
Why are people nagging that she made a video?

She has the right to her decision to make one. Was she declared a thief by competent court? Do we not see serial killers also been interviewed?

Yes, she stole but she was sad to have seen her children hungry. I am not excusing her deeds but stripping her bare was also uncalled for.

Haba, publicly putting it online, another insane height of it. So justice served. Hope she thanked the donors of the money o

Just shut up and watch the video.

She is stupid to by making the video. She was not even remorseful.

She is a real fool. The shop owners erred when she was stripped naked after the stealing apart from that, she deserved all the slaps possible.

twinskenny:
I think it's area dependent.. full speed at my end...

Talking of glo

I easily download 1gb movies within minutes

Where do you download the movie from?

decatalyst:
Wow!


This are huge kills o. To kill wild pig no be beans o.

But why does the dogs that follow these Hunters on expedition always look malnourished?

Because they are in Nigeria where the citizens are poor despite the huge God blessed resources in Nigeria.

Onebyonedead:
Nigeria is not the same

If you drink garri with sugar and milk and groundnut

Is it the same as

Garri with just warer

To some,taking garri ,milk and groundnut is when they are in Nigeria

Taking Garri and water, to some, is when they are outside Nigeria.


Relax bro, happiness is relative to the wise.

Enjoy yourself wherever you are, don't think the place is the best, you have things you don't like you are trying and pretending to cope with.

The person in Nigeria has something he doesn't like and trying to cope with.

Onebyonedead:
Shoe get size
I am presently in Australia
Living the life you dream of
And just so you know all those food posted here are cheap
Na jjc dey worry about food
And truth be told my life is way better than when I was in nigiera
I earn what you can never imagine
I have my own house though I am still paying mortgage
Nigeria is a waste of time

Travel and see

People like you are the ones always begging for money
And I visit Nigeria...it is pathetic
People live like animals
Actually worse . Animals here are treated with more respect

keep on consoling yourself for being thousands of miles away from Nigeria.
All those could be comforting to you. I understand.

Onebyonedead:
I dislike people like you who lie

I have been out of Nigeria for 10 years and visit Nigeria

Nigerians are not accommodating

And my best food is Asian and North African food

Nigeria is the worst place to live

People like you discourage people from living

There is nothing wrong in living outside Nigeria. But he said the truth, it's a matter of choice.

Nigeria is same like most countries but no thanks to the politicians that are messing things up

made2fit:
How do you know he isn't okay? Do you know him personally? One must be sure. He asked for a certain amount, I gave him more. They are so many people in need these trying times, online and offline. One must maximise one's giving. Thanks.

I don't know him one bit. Purely online pity. I actually spotted a post from him to someone explaining he has more scans to do. Hence my pity.

I actually tried to spread my sympathy both online and offline.

I respect your decision. Thanks for your time.

chuksbaby:
if u follow my posts on nairaland. i have been doing that in my street sir.

Oh I didn't confirm that.

Good effort. no offence intended .

Your write up gave a taunting impression. especially at this time.