₦airaland Forum

JewelStone:
I'm not gonna lie...I miss Nigeria sometimes which makes me flirt with the idea of splitting my time there when my kids are older. I miss my family, my friends and the sense of community.

But then I remember lack of internet and electricity, horrific healthcare system, bad roads, bigotry, lack of value for human life, insecurity, police brutality, immense corruption, tribalism, crumbling or non-existent economy and a million other horrible things. This quickly resets my mind.

My solution which I'm currently working on is to bring my sisters and my best friend over to live in Sydney with me and make good living for themselves. Then I won't have any business with Nigeria anymore except to visit my parents every two years.

So to answer your question: no, nein, never!!!

Most (Didn't say all) people that relocated abroad miss Nigeria a lot and struggle to suppress the feeling.Some go as far as condemning Nigeria as a shithole to justify the reason why they left and if possible console themselves how much they are missing Nigeria.

No matter what you do if you like bring all your family members and friends, that feeling of missing Nigeria will always be there. You can only try to suppress it

Dad was right ,philosophically, your thought determines your life no matter the present situation, things must be alright for those that believe designedly.

Johntitus:
Bankygee, Ginomel, Davidzy23, Gentlesinna, OrDan, Gesoilo, et al - intelligent individuals. Nah una dey give me joy pass for Nairaland

NwaAmaikpe - dude's an unapologetic satirical psycho.

GrammarNazi - this guy makes me proof read a lot these days.

Lalasticlala - my bro says you're a lady but I no agree. Don't mind me. I be Thomas.

Kingcypress - thank you for creating that wonderful thread.

Southniyikaye - I can't thank you enough. Thank you so much and may God bless bro.

Thanks Bro! I'm flattered. Surprisingly mentioned. Someone DM me with such compliment.

Kemchriss:
Good day my great people of nairaland,am deeply sorry to bother you all with my issue, I need your financial assistance anything will do pls,I will work with a private school and I have been managing myself with the little I have on me since the beginning. Of the lockdown till now but things have taken another dimension since last week since I don't have anything on me and I lived with my grandma and to eat has become a great problem for us,I have to bury my pride to write this since I don't have any other option.please anything will do pls just to get some food stuff at home pls. 0229226872,Wema bank.Thank you all and God bless and enrich your pocket

Registered today and the next action this.


Prove you have been an old member here.

maazi45:
una two no get sense at all na una dey follow pipo wife

You are a skunk, and I am a realist.

I stand on my words a million times. if your wife goes to another man, blame her not the man.


Be exposed a bit.

Fragility6:
Pray u dont find urself in diz unfortunate situation all diz ur logic reasoning go fail

Take my words Bro. I don't have any business with the man. it was the woman that agreed to the stuff.


I can only be extremely confrontational if the man insults me or say anything rude. If he is a gentleman that saw opportunity it's his luck.


After he is gone, then I will confront the partner non-violently and walk away FOREVER.


Don't impose your reaction to mine, I am an adult to know my decision.

Peace.

tyup:
Some men are just so foolish.....if you caught ur wife with another man in bed you got no business with the man it's ur wife u got business with turn her to Battery there if you so wish

imagine the wife standing while the concubine is kneeling so annoying

You got it right. I wonder when they will stop fighting the victim, face your partner he/she brought the person in.

As far as it is a consented arrangement and not a rape, the husband is a fool confronting the man . You can only react if he argues with you despite the misdemeanour.

Jesubiyi01:
queer feeling I develop when I see people trying to make sense with words but eventually end up confusing people; such individuals needs to be dealt with acerbically!

Acerbically expressed points could look very unfriendly and sensitive to a fellow , he could react and someone will conclude he is cantankerous.

Likeable personality should be more intelligent in use of words not just quoting words and claim to love them that is very queer.

A president being packaged and shielded from the citizens.


A president that can not face the journalists for on the spot media briefing. Something other presidents are doing every day.


Buhari is mentally weak to be a president but still being packaged.

Buhari can not even make a speech without reading from a script. Not even for a minute seriously indicating that he is mentally down



I know that one day, the truth will be open and Buhari will not die but will leave the stage for a good governance for the country.


Buhari is a wrong president and things will not move forward with him there.

Confinement of post -delivery women to regain their strength and beauty as practised in Igboland known as "Omugo" is a beautiful culture that is gaining serious popularity, now other tribes are doing it and it is becoming very ubiquitous.

irunoko:
anything that enters nairaland, Nigeria's largest forum is no longer a private buisness but everyone's buisness so e concern me

Seriously speaking, if people bring out their family life for public consumption they should be ready for public reaction.

If you want privacy, remain in private.

Simple.

gidjah:
We need this oil price to get to zero and then totally useless then regionals system of leadership Will come up then each region would wake up and become responsible.our leaders won't get to this unless the fuel becomes totally useless

The effect of zero value of oil will be worse than the gains.

Yes you might be right that our unfortunate leaders will not give serious attention to other sectors as far as oil is flowing.


The leaders should be sensitized that we could have a positive restructuring despite the existence of oil .

Every region develops what they have and pay a certain percentage to the central government.

You can see that agriculture, mining, oil tourism etc, Will be undoubtedly developed and the federated economy prospers .

The earlier this is done, the better for Nigeria.

Till then we wait .

wink2015:
Let this your statement not wrongly mislead northerners.

Let them go and face Agriculture.

Niger delta region need true federalism.

Enough of northern exploitation and feeding bottle federalism.

Not at all, every sector should be aggressively developed not just the oil sector .

It is very foolish of the northerners to be wasting our resources in name of prospecting for oil in a non existing place.

That's just wickedness and useless politics.

My point is that oil is instrumental to world economy Dubai of today got their base through oil production.

They developed other sectors like tourism but still seriously bent on oil production.

So Nigeria should still intensify the production of the last drop of oil while still developing other sectors.

onadana:
Virginity does not guarantee love or make a good marriage. Virginity is a choice.I have seen virgins marry and go on to have extramarital affairs.

True but always very difficult. Only extreme cases caused by the husband.

Anambra and Uyo, the road network in Anambra is mind blowing.

Anambra is now a City, no longer a state, everywhere seems developed as a city.

Anambra City.

Irrational and some traditions are very conflicting, tradition is part of us and by extension, learning English language can be assumed to be a strong vehicle for a consolidated tradition in a multi ethnic Society like Nigeria, so we must adhere to learning languages and checking Google for some words like interdenominationalism

No matter how awful it May sound, oil is very critical no matter how much diversification we do.

It moves the economy and other sectors indirectly rely on energy to progress.


No matter how lucrative Infotech and financial business is(Forex trading stocks etc) Oil sector moves them all till the last drop of oil is produced.


To diversify is good but special consideration must be given to oil sector until the new game changer. Funny enough the new energy game changer is gas, which is still oil sector related.

Tradition is part of us and by extension, learning English language can be assumed to be a strong vehicle for a consolidated tradition in a multi ethnic Society like Nigeria, so we must adhere to learning languages and check Google for some words like interdenominationalism .

Months now ,no church due to covid 19,even visiting other denomination not possible too, thereby messing up our Spirit of interdenominationalism

PastorFire:
His body language this evening where he hunged up on Seun Okinbaloye of Channel's tv for Ramadan may reveal he is also a fanatic. So, there is a collaboration of the story with his atitude this evening.
The nation was pleased to meet him and know him. But he hunged up.

The kind of embarrassment Seun Okinbaloye of Channels TV faced today I don't think he has experienced before.

The new chief of staff refused to answer any questions and kept on emphasising that he is working for the president and no other person.

He was very unfriendly, struggling to be polite and eventually he hung up on Seun.

The body language is not a good sign of him.

I pray he will not cause crisis and halt Buhari govt in a year.

As already predicted, Buhari might not finish this tenure, though he won't die but will be mentally incapacited to continue as president.

Either Vice president will finish his tenure or there will be an unusual political situation at Aso rock.

Meninmen:
So buhari is not an ethnic bigot because of this appointment? you are really a clown. Is the appointee not a northerner? is he yoruba? is he Igbo? is he Benin? so Buhari is no longer an ethno-religious bigot because of an appointment of a northerner? so, if he had appointed a yoruba, igbo or any other southerner, his previous ethnic based appointments will be forgiven or overlooked? really do not know how people do not think. you can not reason that in the history of this country, this is the only time that all heads of security agencies are from the north (except the navy). you should not be stupid and myopic at the same time.

i am not igbo, b4 you stupidly call me Ipob.

Your last paragraph though as if you know what he will say next.

Even me supporting you, I don't even know if I should clarify that too before he terms me IPOB too.

Graxie:
I have just quoted you. You are a slave simple. You are washing your own clothes, cooking and maybe providing money for family upkeep. Oga, you are a slave, you said it yourself. Any husband that does that is a slave of which you are Chief of them. Abi you be boyfriend?

Finishing.

raphroye:
45

Best age to be. I feel at that age there will be more wisdom, better understanding of life, differentiate between trivial and important things.


Be more reasonable to mankind and make the world a better place.

Durentt:
Why would i want To choose To be stagnant in growing. Rubbish joke

Go and check your BP, absence of sense of humor is very detrimental to health.

Urchman200:
u dey mind them ,every thing they want to bring hate against igbo, which tribes makes better marriage than igbowoman?

I'm really surprise ooo. Statistics shows that other tribes are really keen on marrying igbo ladies and even igbo guys.Because their girls are always ready to be in a marriage while their guys know how to take care of their wives.

That guy should convince the family to avoid missing the opportunity.

Drizzy5001:
Same issue with my friend, he's from cross River State, his parents didn't allow him to marry the girl he's in love with . But nigga stubbornly went ahead and he's happily married to the girl he loved ... Him no even send him parents sef... I don't know why people from those region don't marry other tribes.

They are very peaceful people and really Hope to have people that are peaceful too.

Nothing more nothing less. Do you have a friend from cross River or Akwa Ibom, you will understand what I am saying.

Confusedwomsn:
He said I don't respect him and truthfully I don't.

I find it difficult to respect him because he does not play his role, I told him this.
Our rent is due and we agreed this year he will do rent and children school fees,
My children had to stay back from school because fees were not paid last term on time.
Now our landlord has come twice to ask for rent, I've asked him how much he has so I'll contribute but he said I should leave him alone, I know I may end up paying the rent because I hate embarrassment.
I know its no excuse to not respect him but this his attitude makes it difficult for me.

I don't even know where to start.

First of all, I think you thought both of you were in love before the marriage but you were mistaken. He saw you as a mere friend and was very reluctant but subsequently forced himself to make up his mind.

You could have been a lovely wife but your husband's irresponsibility is not helping matters, your frustration of him not helping at home made him to lose your respect. It's actually very difficult to respect a man that doesn't respect himself because respect is reciprocal.

Your husband actually took you for granted hence his queer behavior and his love is actually questionable leaving one to wonder if he really wants to be in that marriage.


I don't know why everyone is blaming you but I don't think you forced him into the marriage. The only exception is that men always like being the one to push for marriage, anything on the contrary will make them not to love the woman especially if he knows that the woman loves him. They end up taking the woman for granted.

People are blaming you because you argue and fight him, but they forgot the reason why you are so much frustrated, it's actually bad for a man to forsake his responsibility for a woman. Such can be very frustrating.


You are really torn between being in the marriage or leaving which is dependent on his changing.
Funny enough, you really hope to have two kids incase you people are separating. Though you would love to stay if he changed.


He is even confused either to leave you or stay.


Going forward, try not to argue with him again, (I know this is difficult considering his lackadaisical attitude to Home management)

Keep on having a heart to heart talk with him (Will still be difficult because he doesn't seem to be a listening type)

Try your best to manage the situation and argue reasonably with no hot words that could cause him beating you.


Then on the last note. Try your best to be in that marriage that will be devoid of discord and by extension, a domestic violence.

If it's not working, please take your child and leave (Even though you could have loved two)
As far as there is life, things will be more beautiful for those that believe.

Too emotional a thread.
May God console everyone.
let's take this life easy. it's a make believe world

Thoying1990:
Jolayemi Olubukola Michael, my first love. Died Oct 1st 2017, I can't help the Tears anytime I remember him. Rest in peace Dearie, like you do address me. Though married now, but I can never forget him

Sorry about the loss. I'm sure he must have told you to channel your memory energy to your present love. Make sure the living love is very happy, you have succeeded in making the lost one happy.

You may not know but that is wishes beyond.

Tissaia:
Let them blame Fulanis like they always do.
They are probably fighting over two acres of Land. This people want to govern themselves. they think running a country is a joke. one Nigeria is a favour to them. They need to be saved from themselves. Imagine lamidi cownu is president, wike is vice president, Asari dokubo a minister. Evans a senator. Tompolo Chief of Army, boyloaf chief of Navy. Just imagine the Chaos.
This people thinks the new world oder is a joke

Nawa for you ooo. You don't like that region at all.

You didn't remember Okonjo Iweala, Peter Obi, Charles Soludo, Pat Utomi, etc.

Why did you remember only people with questionable existence.

jlinkd78:
If Buhari can speak as much Fulfude, Nnamdi Kanu would have been shamed. Pls she spoke d Igbo very well compared to a lot of oda Igbos dat have not stayed abroad all days like her.

Leave that fellow and his disappointment that she didn't speak fluent igbo, to me she spoke perfect igbo, was trying to hear any English to get the message but I only heard "love you all "


The guy forgot that she is an international woman that is always online with the world bank personnel, UN personnel and Harvard colleagues.