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the time confirms it all from her speech. at about 2p.m the gate was knocked. which sane man working in an office will take drugs to a lady and sleeps over till 12pm. the next day without thinking about his work/office?. just admit you have cheated case close

Oluwatunmise529:
Hi people

I live with my aunt who is a pastor's wife. I got there four months ago due to the fact that my dad had some problems then.

But the first day I got to my aunt's place, I got the shock of my life. The house was totally dirty, even the sink in kitchen was removing maggots. She told me to clean and wash everything but being my first time with her. I told her I can't do them. Then she said she would slap me if I don't do her wish. I ended up doing them and since then am being used like a slave.

When I told my dad about everything.. She told my dad I need home training that I can't do anything and my dad told me to stay since he doesn't want it to cause a rift between them.

My aunt am talking about is an elder sister to my late mom but the same father and different mothers. There was a day she told me my grandmother was a witch and she killed one of her children before she died and she uses my witch grandmom to describe me to people in the neighborhood. I always feel ashamed.

She has a daughter who doesn't cook and clean or do anything... I end up doing everything and still it isn't enough, at the end of the day she tells me am lazy... Am always afraid to look when I pass by a mirror because I always look so dirty and haggard. Just yesterday rain fell here and she left some things outside. I ran outside to take those things inside and the next thing she did was rain insults on me because of that..

She has never raised her hands on me but only maltreat me.. I cried myself to sleep..I was always a jovial person before but now am always crying and moody and am beginning to hate her.

I don't laugh at all anymore even at funny things.. I only have hatred for her and her family...I don't want to hate anyone and I want to go back home and be myself again....am planning to run away now but am really scared of the outcome...
Worst is everyone thinks she is a good person because she is a pastor wife....

Am so fed up and always unhappy... Someone pls help me

only females complain at maltreatment.. bear am oh.. if alll she is saying are false, why are you bitter amd crying. thats life for you dear... part of the lesson you need to learn.. you are still in you early 20s i guess or even less than 20

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namiji2598:
brother I dey kano like this, I don't really wanna go on a journey of no certainty, if job dey lag even if no be something big, I fit go but jus like that make I go lag without any certain job hmmmmm

i understand... you are through with your service right

namiji2598:
nothing oooooo oga






If u see how people go dey treat u as a security officer ehhhhhhh
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I still dey look for teaching

na wa for this country.. come lag you go see work in no distant time

yeme7:
I just glared through some comments and I could see that it's really frustrating.... I'm a graduate also finished service last year, working as receptionist where I was paid 15k,but I stopped... If anyone can help me here with any hotel work please should do ASAP

why did you stop

namiji2598:
me too have done it after NYSC, brother people go dey look down on u sotey ur certificate go dey vex u that's why I left

after leaving what did you do bro

annayawchee:
you really did the job

yes i did security job after my final year. i was paid 15k and will have to open door, close door for every dick and Harry, before i later went for service....

Toby122:
Hello, nairalander's I am 27 years of age and just passed out from service October last year, with a 2.1 degree cert in Geo/Envi Mgt my PPA retained me with a pay of 20k just this January they added 5k to my salary, On Friday I got a call from my pastor about a security job in first bank, to cut the long story short, I was given an appointment with a salary of 40k...and now I am so confused, I have plans to further my education by September this year and am not really comfortable with leaving my current
job...pls I want your take on this....

if you need a time and space to do other things, and plan for yourself, continue your teaching job

. as per the security job, thou the price is big but are you ready for the challenges.. the insult, the submissiveness and the late closing hours.. have once done security job, the hell i received from customers will not making me ever thought of that again.. you wil be submissive to every dock and harry

rape without her consent how does it even sound to them.. was she not aware... it's better to have remove that word from the story or rather use forcefully raped her.....

Ajengogo:
Pls don't you guys ever call Indian and Lebanese companies here in Nigeria multinational. They are goats

have you worked with them before, what was your experience witht them

Dollarseeker:
Is it Dufil ? Makers of indomie and co. Applied, went for their test, passed and was called for an interview...imagine after all the recruitment processes we went through, during the test, due to how difficult it was, we were expecting nothing less than 60k basic salary plus commission etc, me was even expecting over 100k salary. But after the rigorous interview from a white Indian and another Nigerian, we were offered the job with a salary of 25k chai my motivation dropped. Sometimes this multinationals doesn't really worth it. Or maybe their top HR executives steals from the salary of their workers.

25k cheiii, Nigeria is finished.. people are really suffering in the hands of this multinational.. imagine

good day nairalanders,
how possible is it for someone to have worked with a multinational company and still looks malnourished. this is my one month with a multinational indian company here in Nigeria, and at the office somethinft poped up that led to this discussion of how long some people have worked in the company, the answer i got really shocked me. one whose office is just nxt to mine said he has worked for 12 years, and i was like wow. he said since 2008. what surprise me most that made me to make this post is how lanky and malnourished he is, when i heard about multinational job, i always feel those working there are living good life and large, but this my next office neighbor own surprise me or is he being under paid cos i know its not ideal discussing office pay with office partners... or is he just being used??

Petyprincess:
The truth is your wife doesn't love you no more or never loved you!! Moreover why did you forced her into marriage with you? That's where the problem started.Nw the best way is to go your separate ways since the marriage is even early nd she's already gotten fed up with you,nw that you have no kids you still can still divorce nd let her continue her single life since that's what she always wanted!! If you dnt divorce she will keep on blaming you for forcing her into marriage when she wasn't ready.Its better divorcing that getting stalked in marriage that love isnt mutual!!

this one heavy oh.. this is the reason why early marriage for girls are bad, especially those girls way never go face the four wall of the institutions

Rrchrd:
Hi Friends, Someone want to give me a teaching job in a Private School but am confuse because I don't know if I can teach or not.
I don't even have Passion and Skills for Teaching

◆ During my NYSC I didn't teach I only helped my Head Teacher to marked student's papers which took me two days just to marked only JSS3 (One Class)papers.

You need to be floged. Graduate that can not teach. I have left the teaching line to production line

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

The family I believe grew up in the North and the girl too also I believe grew up in the north. I was there, would have married even for free, will not even spend up to that your 28k, but I didn't...

ghettokid1:
How far!

Very near...

AwkaetitiBabe:
If the money enter Bush nkor

We go clear am come out.., omo man city 3 already oh...

If you are a high staker, go and stake man united win and . Thank me later..and mention me to request for my account number..

Jodha:
All I know is that this year.... Bye Bye to Yeye boyfriend...

You wan tell me say there is no yeye girlfriend too...

Arsenal after Tomorow

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

Bro you wife get issue. And its called trust issue. She nor trust you. But for me I nor go greeee oh. I must chat with my friends oh be it ex or no ex.

Chef2000:
Please for those asking if I am responsible for his death please stop it, it is hurting me, If I was reponsible for his death I wouldn't have created this thread..... how could I even think of killing someone not to talk of my brother... I wasn't even in the country when he died.


please stop asking silly question

Bro let them talk na them get their mouth. But ensure your pray for his soul to rest in peace. Like one has said earlier, the dead has no business with the living. May be you think too much about him that's why he is appearing to you in dreams. Countless times have I had dreams about the dead. But all were positive ..

Ahamefuna0001:
Matured minds please.

I'm a 25years old guy who who just completed my NYSC and got a job which pays me 50K monthly salary. I paired with a colleague at work to rent a single room self contain.

I have this mixed feeling that am over due to have a fiancée. I don't know if this feeling is wrong. I'm I good to have a serious girlfriend or fiancée at this stage of my life?

Bro forget fiancee for now oh.. Once you get one you will descover your 50k is not enough. Had made mistake regard this fiancee issue, but I have given up. The right time will come

Etteanna:
thanks

Please can I have your mobile number please..

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

Sorry for your ordeal.. Its things like this that is making us even don't want to marry. First thing, you can't say you didn't wrong him. You shouldn't have asked him to go and change his clothes
We men have favourite clothes that no matter how dirty it is, we just clean and wear it. I am not married yet, I leave the married men to advice you. But what I know is, you husband is going through some thing you are not aware of, and its the pain of that thing he is going through that triggered is anger that made him hit you... Check if he is a gambler or has involved in one online stuff that ripped in badly..

Etteanna:
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Well I just got admitted, fuoye starting January

Congrat..

Ologogoro:
1. YOU FOCUS MORE ON YOUR FUTURE
A break up in your relationship can help you focus more on your future, If you’re single for a while after break-up, it will help you to reason more about your future if you can think right

2. YOU REALIZE YOUR FAMILY IS NUMBER ONE
Some guys when in relationship, before they can give their younger ones #1,000, they would have given like #30,000 to their gf. After break up you will hear guys saying ‘’Imagine me, I helped her pay her tuition fee of almost 35k when my Younger sister was in need of just 4k. A break up will help you put your Family First.

3. IT HELPS YOU PREPARE FOR THE NEXT RELATIONSHIP
“Once bitten twice Shy” If a girl break up with you, preparing for the next relationship shouldn’t be hard , You’ll be able to analyze why she break up with you, which will help you not to repeat similar mistake in your next relationship.

4. IT WILL HELP YOU TO HANDLE ANY FUTURE BREAK UP MATURELY
If a girl break up with you for the first time, Oops!! Sorry, I know how it feels, You’ll be so hurt, with time you will get over it , I believe you should be stronger that if you eventually enter into any r/p in the nearest future and the same thing happens, you will be able to handle it better than the first one.

5. YOU REALISE THAT LOVE IS NOT ALWAYS ENOUGH
To the Lover boys out there, If she break up with you simply because your pocket isn’t big enough (You know what I mean), that should tell you that Love is not enough, Go out there, forget about relationship, work hard, be loaded, don’t worry she will later regret her action..

This thread is dedicated to those guys that will have a break in their r/p, it’s the EMBER time, remember some guys are not in your state nor in your country right now, but they’re in contact with your girlfriend because those guys are planning to come home probably for Xmas or New Year . They will stay for weeks , buy gifts for your gf and the rest is history.

I still remain myself 'Ologogoro'

Cc lalasticlala

Relationship expert.. Hope no girl has broke your heart

Ologogoro:
I know poverty is in you, I wouldn't have replied you but for the fact that people like you always think that have an opinion on other peoples life style. I am a gambler and not your #100 to win #40m type. I've lost huge amount of money but I've won very huge amount as well.

Oya let's see your today stake . we can be friends..

Ologogoro:
Played Wolves to win against Manchester City with #285,000. Wolves went 2.0 down at 50minutes but thank God they won 3-2.

Lie finish you there. Go stake same again for wolves to beat liverpool