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Miniso:
Is it dat women are not allowed to make money in nigeria, wats all this women dependency on a man, and about women should date only rich guys dats gold digging.... you nigerian ladies need to work on your self esteem and stop be littling yur selves hoping on a man.. dats shit if i hear feminist from yur mouth again ehh.... thunder

I blame our society for this....Even some parents even plant this mentality in there female children....they feel the only way a female can be successful in life is to marry a rich man.

thariodamaniac:
Both of them are too blame but na the guy come for advise.... Imagine jumping into fire with ur clear eyes then you come leta and beg for money to pay hospital bills.... Thats what he did... This is what happens when a guy's penis does the thinking instead of the brain.... Yes, the lady is to blame too since she is clueless as to what she wants in life.... In fact both of them should be arrested

This the point am trying to make bro
Our ladies should stop playing this victim card Anytime they get pregnant..... pregnancy is a result of two people actions so why always blaming one in this country.

first of all I want to make something really clear to you .....I think is no brainer blaming a guy alone when a lady get pregnant...it very annoying when you ladies do this...Sex is consentual whatever end result in case of premarital is totally there fault.....stop blaming the guy alone calling him broke ....if the girl is well to do herself she could have kept the baby but she totally dependent on the guy which is why she is has to risk her life going through abortions.

Stop trying to paint the guy bad alone....... according to him he is not financially capable enough for marriage now which Is no crime.....what is the lady bringing to the table.... calling the guy broke what about the lady ....what does she has to offer apart from her pussy
Only a foolish lazy jobless lady will have an abortion multiple times for one guy.... only fools make the same mistake multiple times.

FYI your narrative of ladies should stop dating broke guys in context of that thread is total BS do u think ladies who date well to do guys don't have abortion aswell.

When a lady get pregnant is not the guy fault alone that why in saner country where there ladies are very intelligent they place themselves on birth control pills and properly inform the guy when Is and not safe to have sex to avoid pregnancy...... infact over there if a lady lie to a guy that she on this pills and get pregnant the guy can sue her for deception.... but over here hmmm.

Ibechris2:
Any money spent during friendship is better referred as "SUNK COST" so,tell your friend to bail himself before police will change the matter to assault or rape.

he is not ready to pay any money...... have left the station..... hope by evening he would see reason to settle.

[quote author=alexsoftwork post=90692744][/quote]it obvious bro.....

alexsoftwork:
Yes I think, but if u have a lawyer friend or family lawyer, I think it will be affordable.

That 80k too much. That lady fit don connived with police.

I think she getting out of the 80k

alexsoftwork:
Hmm na wa ooo. This relationship things ehh, see now police go take una do covid-19 palliative.
Your guy for just let go, she shouldn't have gone to her place, as she don first go report to police, she have won 90%.

U may need to involve a lawyer if u have video or concrete evidence of her assault towards u but it will cost u more money.

Going for a lawyer will be expensive right??

lalanice:
Tchwww they are both unserious people. No comment.

How old are they by the way

hmmm....guy 32 lady 27

OkehBlessing:
If you have money to pursue the case, get a lawyer but if not, just bail him out..

that what am trying tell him but he is adamant he won't settle the police way... because the lady will also get out of the 80k.

y

closed

Zabiboy:

1) Really .......SMH....continue spending
2) once again i repeat, if she cant use her tfare to visit you, she's not worth your time...
GL

Bro you have vex finish......those ladies too know they try some will even demand you transfer tfare before they come and some guys will give in.....that dumbness

roteblomen:
most importantly, develop yourself. It will boost your rank in the attractive scale, which makes you in high demand by women, giving you the mantle to bid for some certain qualities reasonably.

For men at the aforementioned age, youll be dealing mostly with women at their prime, who have lots of male attention and you will be left alone with your reasonable standards, and if you're not developing yourself somehow to bridge this gap, you'll be left with low quality women, and you'll have to settle for standards you dislike, due to lack of choices.

spot on bro.....

Zabiboy:

Spot on OP except for the two points above...
1) You are not meant to even spend 0.001% on her....unless you jzt want to ( which i dont advice)
2) If she cant pay for her tfare to visit you then she's not worth your time
GL

bro there no way you won't spend..... giving her tfare atimes isn't too much .... just a gesture you do free will.

Aksnoopy:
Lmao! My last gf told me the same in 2015, this was her words then "Your mates are buying their gf human hair and iPhone and you are here talking about paying for my hostel fees". I was heart broken and broke at the same time. But then I graduated from medical school to the glory of God. Every young man out there should focus on making money, women will come later. I never believed it until now. Even married women are willing to be my gf now and the girls wants me to wife them despite the fact that I don't spend a dime on them. Met a girl I like recently and she was talking about going out, I was like bitch Bleep off!

Yea.....when you have well to do and not a simp they will be the one chasing you.

Aksnoopy:
I learnt it late at age 30, though I was stingy with money. But the rest of them all, never again will I do it.

in 2011 as an undergraduate I bought a girl 3 shoes and one bag total cost 24,500 in one night to mention a few ....in our final year in 2012 this lady told me to my face she never benefited anything from me through out the relationship ....this was a lady I was giving 5k per month to support the 5k she was getting from home.....I can't explain the pain I felt that day....we broke up that day.....2weeks later she came begging all her/my friends beg me.... infact her school father who was a lecturer beg me but I never accepted her back despite how much I loved her because I couldn't stand an ingrate.

tundchip2:
Reminds me of that olamide's song "wonma".
No matter what you do, them go still Bleep am.��
O le te obinrin lorun

bro you can never do is it worth it falling for that line of " you are not man enough"

Adasun:
I learnt dis early sha

Good man .....most of us born in late 80's didn't learn early enough and infact is now worst.

As a man u need to be focus early and not waste the little money and time over bad girls.....I won't advise against dating / courting at this stage because is part of life and is very important to have some experience.
I would like to list some of the mistake you should avoid if at all you want to date....which obviously i made at that stage

1: Date a lady which the feeling is mutual (never beg a lady to love you)
2: Always use your brain and be real (never be a fool in love)
3 : Whatever money you are seeing or making at this stage out of 100% only spend 5% on her. (your family come first at this stage)
4 : Display madness once in awhile..... don't apologise all the time even if you are wrong (trust me is needed).
5: Never be ashamed to tell her you are broke anytime you don't have much (never borrow money to satisfy any lady)
6: Never pay any lady tution or send any lady to school (trust me you will regret it)
7 : Only do what is convenient for you (never take any risk for her sake)
8: Stay away from ladies who want good things but can't work for it but will expect you to provide it (buying her phone etc bro she is not your responsibility)
9: Know your pocket and level (some Ladies are meant for thieves and ritualist)
10 : Date a lady who also give back (someone you can also benefit from financially atimes)

Note : At this stage you shouldn't make the mistake I made relationship wise.....showing i was man enough financially even though it was never convenient for me and that was a very big mistake because it was a total waste.

whatever money you are seeing now don't waste it on any girl.....invest and save it.
what you owe a gf is entertaining her well anytime she comes visit you plus tfare once in awhile....you can help out financially but never let it be on her terms and demand.

U can never satisfy or please a lady so do things that are convenient for you always......even if you give her your kidney she would leave when a richer man show up and say it to your face #you never did anything for her through out the relationship#....be vigilant and watch her attitudes whenever you don't give in to things she wants.

this my two cents guys.... peace.

iamundisputed have said it all....it just a human thing.
Wat u get freely isn't cherished

ingrate isn't gender base.....it both sides.

But in my country it a crime for a lady to spend on a man....I once had a issh with the lady I dated during my service year so somehow d landlord got to know...so he called us to is living room to settle the issh.....his wife made a statement I can never forget "told us only a foolish woman will give her Money to a man" after she stood up her husband told us she the one that give him money to buy the land he built this house on which they are living.....so she wasn't honest just like the observers op mentioned.

Do what you can and don't be selfish in your relationship.....what be will be.

JasonScoolari:
Go and work on your "H" factor first before you support the government.

ehya.....I rather work on me making more millions.
I will let u do all the grammar BS here..... get ur likes on NL...while i smile to the bank.

JasonScoolari:
I answered your question, but just like a renowned hypocrite, you failed to answer mine...

No need stressing it with you, I know your type here.

lol......am not supporting ds govt am just trying to say if u are elected has president today people we steal and u won't be awear..... infact people close to you will steal without ur knowledge so his now left to you to shield or deal with them precisely when they are exposed.

AdeolaOmoOba:
For your information, This government never established budgit.

but they establish open treasury portal.

AdeolaOmoOba:
For your information, This government never established budgit.

who established it

JasonScoolari:
Like someone rightly said above, it's not about establishing anti-corruption institution and platforms, but punishing those who abuse it.



-Why is Aisha's Aide still walking freely?

-Where's Babachir Lawal our rich grass cutter?

-Have you heard anything about Maina's gate?

-How about Bola Ahmed Tinubu and his bullion van ride?

-Should we talk about the Abacha loot?

-Or the N7billion isolation tent in Kogi State?

another question bro.... which law the he break for bullion van entering his house and leaving??

just need ur honest answer.

u should be happy we hear about D's information and freely talk about them....few years back under OBJ did we hear or talk about ds things.

Was any corrupt politician jailed in 6yrs of GEJ
I get ur point but please let criticize constructively.

JasonScoolari:
Lol, my bro, I know how zombies operate here, especially the grade 8 zombies.... They'll view this thread and disappear, but create a thread about Reno Omokri being held by the DSS at Addis Ababa Airport, they'll storm the thread and start shouting, "Vomit our Yam

but just a honest question bro....do u think a corrupt president will establish institution that will expose is own corruption??

just need an honest answer from you.

Temhellen:
Sex isn’t everything bro. Y not sit her down n talk to her abt it. If she eventually open up or decide to lie to u then u can give her evidences ( photos she took at your friends place, show her ur friend pix etc) . Then u let her go. If it’s her sexy body that is tieing u down, there are lots of ladies out with sexy bodies out there. Maybe u aren’t giving her well sha/ or she is the high libido type. U knw distance at time affects relationship.
She be first class GF anyways.

yea....it will always be the guy fault....he isn't giving her well??
if a man cheat do we talk about the lady not banging him well

it very annoying when I see ladies always trying to give excuses for there fellow mess up.

my dear no justification for cheating....even if the guy is impotent u have no right to cheat ....d common sense thing to do is leave.

just let go bro.... aiin't worth you using same public toilet with ur pal...... very irritating to me.

u don't need to turn D's to a gender war...if any of this men are caught trust me we won't spare them.....we don't make excusess for any other man Bleep up like u ladies do.
we have condemn/cursed this few animals among us ....wat else do u want us to do ?

Rape is something very disheartening ....to make matter worst D's Ladies lost there life's...... D's thread is not needed cos is no brainer.
I wonder what u intend to achieve with D's.

Positivechick:
nope , he does not do jack for me , not a single thing . This is the first time since almost a year I am asking him for money. He has chosen not to give , n I hv chosen to break up and focus on myself continue paying my bills without him .

ds an ingrate statement

..he hasn't done a single thing for you
People say D's alot after break up and is very annoying.