₦airaland Forum

Ladycewhy:
if you want to call someone fish brain I think you should look in the mirror, ordinary impersonation you can't do perfectly ,I thought you wanted to hide under a female moniker ?

And by the way, I am sure its your mother that has fish brain that's why she ended up with your useless father and they had a nonentity like you.


Lol, as for marriage, things women put up just to bear married sha, for your mind now you sef na man because you get penis.


As you can see, the op's wife doesn't see him as a prize ,not all men are men ,just like you are less of a man, so I will reconstruct that prayer, ;

"Dear lord any man that don't have send like this commenter heading my way, let his village people destroy him before he gets to me.Amen!"

just a pity...... engage a slowpoke lady in a discuss and watch her insult ur mum and family.

is easy to know the lowlife who lack home training among you ladies.....u are a perfect example ....if u cherish ur mother it will be very difficult to insult other people mother but a lowlife will always be lowlife.

Ladycewhy:
There are people who have basket in their finance. They earn big but can't account for what they use it for. They can have 20k in the morning and be begging to borrow 100 naira by afternoon.They become restless when they have money and their hands starts scratching them of what to buy ,they end up spending the money on irrelevant things , before they come back to their sense and the circle continues evertime they have money.

You see the type of people I described up there, tanker drivers and contract staffs make up a large percentage.The money comes in chunks and goes before you blink.


The question I am driving at is , are you financially responsible ? It's one thing to ask for money once in a while but to make it a habit when you are earning reasonable money is another thing entirely. You earn ,give her from it and squander the rest only to run back to collect from the one you gave her for upkeep, that alone is enough to send bad signal .

just a simple question and you type all these nonsense.

comprehension is far from you ....u need to go back to elementary school to learn that.
if I say some ladies have faulty brain they will say am always too harsh.

LadySarah:
If your first paragraph is how you see marriage, then it's warped. No offense sir.
If you or your wife can't cover your unclothedness in times of lack then it's a very useless relationship.

Am I even surprised, Guys that marry superficial girs leaving character and then come here to disturb us with a new account everyday.

Try to explore the fun side of your wife and see her stiffness gone. Maybe your kiss is sloppy, the sex boring , the finance discouraging or she feels dissatisfied with her life or even the preggy.
stop talking and get the job done.

team is always the man fault.
the man must be one to fix everything.....
I don't pity some Ladies Wen I see them struggling by themselves with children cos is this mentality that make them loose there home.

it must be all about me....dumb mentality.

it just a Nigeria thing.....that is a short cut for some Ladies to live a good life without sweat.

Some ladies even go as far as using love charm to attract this rich men....some don't mind to be 5th or 7th wife Cos they know there no way they can make it in life themselves.... SMH

A lady open a thread sometime back bashing men labelling them broke etc...well I guess she is one of those women who see the only way of been successfully in life is marrying a rich man.
it so funny When most ladies think one of the way of moving forward in life is by having a rich partner... infact some go as far as putting it in prayers and even parent pray about it.... instead of focusing to be rich themselves.
is there anything wrong if a lady build a house,buy a car etc with her own money and sweat must it always be dependent on a man.
In saner clime women competit with men but it totally different here women see rich men as a lottery ticket.

Have ladies ever wonder why this rich people prefer there children marrying there fellow rich friend kids....is becos they understand a normal average Nigeria lady come with entitlement mentality and won't bring much to the table.

Most Nigerian guys are really struggling... during how parents days once you finish school job is waiting for you but this days u have to struggle all thru by yourself....no Jobs.
Lilliantalk don't really understand how mess up this country is for young men....I really laughed when she said how many men can boost of 400k a month has earning...I wonder how many people around her earns that and
why can't she earn that herself??.... obviously she didn't no what she was talking about..like how many companies can afford to pay such in this country.... infact a level 11 govt worker isn't earning anything close to that.... not all guys will work with multinational and oil company.
Do u ladies have an idea of what it takes for a young man to start up a small company in Nigeria??

Some guys are actually really trying.... isn't easy so when you ladies broke shame guys I find it really funny...has a lady if u financially ok yourself.....You won't be financial insecure marrying who doesn't have much yet... but we are in Nigeria where a lady must leech to her husband for everything instead of standing on her own feet.
In western world once a lady is 18 she moves out of her parents house and start living her life....she aiin't going to be praying to find a rich man and stay in her parent till she is 30.....she get to work....you hardly see them talk about broke men becos they believe no one owe them anything....there parent and society trained them to survive on there own (without looking here and there for a rich guy)

Ladies please you can be a billionaire , build houses etc yourself stop thinking only a man can achieve this for you....if you are lucky to get one is a big plus for you but the truth is majority of men in this country won't be financially ok until they are in mid 40s/early 50 that the way Nigeria finance is structured except for few cases.
so ladies if you are looking rich for guys ... most of you will wait for a very long time.

sexylassie2:
Their intention was not to date broke men.

I can tell you that a woman can tolerate your brokeness in relationship but not in marriage.

If you don't improve yourself, she won't blink twice if a comfortable guy comes along and he is ready for marriage. So continue living in your fairytales.

pls speak for yourself pls.....not all women are money hungry.
Some are contented with what they have....common sense is u speak for yourself...fools generalise just to feel comfortable with the rubbish they spill.thanks

oluchibabe:
There is only one Lagos - Ibadan and l am sure you have either never driven on it or you have not done so in the last five years.
If the repairs they have been doing and will never finish till Buhari finishes his second term (despite finishing most roads in the North), then you need to drive over that road immediately the lockdown is over.
A large part of it is still unrepaired.

can u please tell me which section of the road is still filled with pot holes

pls note- not repair but total reconstruction ... thanks

MuttleyLaff:
What year are you referring to and I'll tell what year this happened?

These arent even pot holes, that's me being conservative in describing those death trap gullies and dangerous patches along the stretch of the expressway then. My heart was in my mouth literally for a good part of the journey.

that should be like 5yrs ago bro... maybe you should try and visit now.

MuttleyLaff:
Please accept my sincere wishes and fervent prayer that Baba Famonure, Mama, their son and other family members, relatives and even workers traumatised or hurt, all have a speedy recovery.

Ordinarily Lagos to Ibadan expressway, I took the other day, a few years back, I was silently praying in mind, that God, please let us reach our destination and return back to Lagos in peace and whole piece of us, intact. The road was treacherous, my brother driving, darting the car to the left, one minute and then next minute, to the right repeatingly, to avoid gullies and potholes wasn't a nice experience.

So, if that's just a road, imagine how I'll feel about the North. Tbh, the North, is one place, I will hurriedly visit and as quickly as possible leave anytime. It never was a favourite place of mine to go to, never has it entered my mind, to put it on my bucket list, to now talkess consider to be living there. "Agbedo," loosely translated, means, "God forbid" It is only if its an explicit or heard clearly from God, that could make me live anywhere in the North, without being armed to defend (i.e. Matthew 24:43 and Luke 12:39) Taking up arms legitimately and/or lawfully IS NOT vengeance, is not about taking revenge or avenging but is about protection and countering force, just as Matthew 24:43 & Luke 12:39 simply explains.

Of course, we are aware of Deutronomy 32:35 and this our solace, in times like something of this nature about the fate of those sons of Canaan, descendants of the youngest son of Ham. Those evil guys and their evil scheming sponsors, will all, get their comeuppance in the end in Jesus' name. Amen.

pot holes.
which lagos -ibadan express way

biacan:
Don't compare yourself with a lady

please point of correction..."with a useless parasitic Nigeria lady"
The sensible Ladies are competing with men.... making there own money

vanida6:
he is inderictly saying we ladies re wicked including em mama.

it always very easy to know ladies with zero home training and those who have no respect for there mother.
in any intellectual engagement with a guy they either insult ur mother or find a way to rope in ur mother....stack stupidity....U will hardly see a guy do that.
He posted is opinion....you mentioning his mother is what foolish ladies do.

insult him all u want but his mum !!! hell no

PrecioussB:
Hello Ladies and Gents,More often than not many a couple wants to consummate their matrimony in the wedding night. Usually they are tired after the ceremony hence this question is the bride running away or you want to do it to avoid another guy taking a shot before you

YOUR VIEWS PEOPLE

why do u lady always think is the man that want sex all the time....wat if is the bride that want it that nite??
anyway is Nigeria Ladies .... everything must revolve around them.

Liliantalks:
1 week of meeting and u call that a relationship? U r talking of a commited relationship, not this!

defination of a relationship varies.....no one has any right to define for other....na ur own u no.
I won't do what the OP did but I won't judge him either cos that the way he chooses to run is affair.....let always remember this it doesn't need to suit anyone what matters most is doing what best for you....he decided to snoop tru her after a week..... his life is style no law is against that and the lady in question isn't killing herself over that.

Damseldammie:
She meant to say you should double your hustle man

double is hustle while she remains useless to world and her life.
my dear she the one that need that advise....is it a crime for a lady to desire to be rich with her sweat...must she depend on a man

See has you FAT....you Kan FINE

HeavenlyCherub:
Provide, commit, love and time

Yea is that simple..

HeavenlyCherub:
Provide, commit, love and time

Yea is that simple....but we have failed relationship and marriage every where.

HeavenlyCherub:
I can only use my self as example. My family is well off. I’m successful in my career and I still don’t want to be with a man without money. They will bring you to an early grave. I have dated 2 men in the past for love and they were not financially secure. All these men did was say I’m controlling, blamed me for their misfortune and always wanted me to solve their problems. A man doesn’t have to be a millionaire to make a woman happy. He just needs to take care of his responsibility. No matter how much money a woman will make. She will still want the man to provide as the head of the house. How do you want a woman to submit if you can’t take care of your responsibility? Men want submission, respect and a woman who takes care of the home. That woman can’t do this if her needs are not met. I’m not saying give her all you have but be responsible to take care of your woman and child. Just like you men want your needs met in certain ways. Women just don’t want to suffer.

So u think if a man provides that what makes a woman submissive and respect him
See my sister is about mentality and upbringing..... anyone can be the breadwinner of the house it just boil down to how much value they place on each other and understanding.

As a woman in D's modern age I think it is totally unreasonable to depend on man for your needs becos I no how some married men rubbish there wife who totally depend on them for everything.
Wat if he decides to leave.... how will she survive or don't u see the rate at which marriage crash ds days.

neoclassical:
Anybody that dies in a hospital these days, especially of malaria related ailment automatically died of Coronavirus.
I am not saying there is no Coronavirus, but once you have fever or malaria, chances are that you will test positive fro Coronavirus. Some deaths that are attributed to Covid-19 these days are actually not the cause.
This is the pure truth.

so the malaria you buy drugs over the counter for to treat has become very hard and deadly to treat rite...I just wish u can get infected and learn personally

vikkimimi:
You see your life,
she cooks
clean and
a good wife material
somebody's daughter o, someone's precious child, you've turned her into a slave, and now you're claiming she's depriving you of sex, are you kidding me! What makes you think you're entitled to her body for you to feel like you own her.....
what have you done for her Mr?

so cooking and cleaning is now slavery... some times it hurt seeing someone with good looks but no functioning brain.

Romanoff:
You think marriage is a bed of roses?

Or you haven't seen couples who lost all children in one day?

If kids are all it takes for a marriage to be happy, that marriage will end the day the kids are lost.

If you proceed that woman, be ready to stick with your decision with or without a child. Be ready to defend and stand up to anyone who will treat her badly, with or without a child.

See that person as your sister.

The most I'll suggest you should do is tell her you'd like her to go for fertility check up due to her abortion history.

If you claim to be a Christian, it is only death that can end your marriage, not childlessness.

i hear you

Romanoff:
There are couples in this world who are happy without children, there are also some who adopted kids when they found out they couldn't have kids.

I've seen couples whom the wife married as a virgin and for 13years now, they don't have children. Guess what? Their marriage is the best marriage I've seen, so much that they've mentored a lot of younger couples.

Guess what?

They are also marriage counsellors. I pray that God will answer them.

If you marry your best friend, you both can weather any storm.

I know many aswell that jump from one prayer mountain, church, mosque, herbalist to another just to have a child.
have anyone be mocked in presence for not having a child so u can understand.
my uncle wife married her best friend but my sista she is facing alot of heat from her in-law that even the husband is totally powerless.

We are in Africa forget that marriage counselor BS and do u think my grandma will smile over adopting a child...no woman in Africa can ever be happy been barren .A fact u can never dispute

DanseMacabre:
So you're extremely sure the problem is gonna come from the lady

What if you're sterile What happens then

that why I want to try it out.....if am the one she will know what she is up against... infact I want to know if am totally ok myself bro...

Romanoff:
A fiancé who is pregnant now can lose the pregnancy and a wife who gives birth can lose the child a few years later.

The first reason for marriage is companionship. If you can't stay faithful and loyal to that person with or without a child, please, don't marry the person.

If all you need is a child, go to fertility clinics, they can give you egg so your sperm can fertilize and you can pay a surrogate to carry the child to term.

hmmm...and what is the fruit of every marriage ma
this isn't a matter of faithfulness ....is just a matter of not falling victim of someone whom due to her mistake can't give birth please.

MrBrownJay1:
if having a baby is that important to you then make sure she gives birth before marrying her.

is very important to me sir...na only three my mama born and am the first child.

gf

Good evening guys.

Saintmary:
Who is this one?

someone who find your comments on unintelligent

Preshieben:
it's a huge favor
Cos guys are the beneficiary of this thing call sex while it's causing harm tho' less harm to the female counterpart

Beneficiary !!!! an average Nigeria lady mentality that why most y'all are used and dumped.
well I just pity the weak men who doesn't no wit as lil as 500 u can have that hug favour u referred too.
My dear Pu**y is Pu**y there non that won't make a man cum....so if u like be a Rihanna or rashida nah just packaging pass one another....the content inside will produce same end result.

Saintmary:
No one can teach you how to overlook what you cannot overlook. You can't stop thinking about what she must have done with her ex during her couples life stint. Let her start afresh with someone new.
Until she learns to keep her mouth shut, she will continue on the cycle of starting over with someone new, after each guy has wasted her time. Hence, involuntarily jumping from guy to guy in search of love and acceptance.

please who are u advicing here the guy or lady??
D guy is asking for how he can stop thinking about that u are telling him to let go...does that make sense!!!
If you don't have anything reasonable to say just shut da Bleep you....let people who something positive to say have space.

Bad vibe stay far away...awon team Wen the head has headache cut it off.
rubbish

Saintmary:
Why do I get the feeling that you are here to discuss couples life in university. Let's just get straight to the point and stop beating around the bush.
As for your girlfriend, she should stop jumping from guy to guy and make something of herself. If you can't deal, let her go.

Did u read the post with ur glasses on??
Cos your comments is a totally OP (OFF POINT)

Preshieben:
I don't see why you can't help someone you bang constantly with money
I blamed our girls anyway
I wouldn't go into a relationship without being financially okay
I can't be begging any guy for money to make my hair,fix my nails or subscribe my phone
It reduces you

why do Nigeria Ladies always see u sexing a guy has a huge favour??
Well not surprised that what most of y'all got to offer.