₦airaland Forum

Ilamina:
After struggling for so long

Suicide is the only way for now

You are always suicidal. Do it and stop constituting nuasance on NL.

Sandralight:
"The Traditional man want a woman that is subservient but he never falls in love with a subservient woman instead he is attracted to independent women because in his mind he is like an exotic bird collector, he wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage"

The world have changed, get with the program, there are many women out there who is submissive, they are all over the place but people like you want the classic girls because what you want is to be admire by your fellow men, you want women that spends hundred of thousands monthly to take care of themselves and are very worldly to be tie down with you, someone that can dump you and have another guy on speed dial to be submissive to you.
I believe in cutting your coat accordingly to your size, if you want a submissive lady then go for one, dont go for an independent lady and expect her to change her personality because of you

Women are no longer second class citizens like in the times of our grandfathers, move on with the times.

Speed dial indeed. That's how they end up with high penile mileage Op get bad mouth no be small

virginprincess:
In your dream world,i wasn't moved by what he said instead i felt pity for the op because it is very obvious he is going through alot.

I am not a woman but still, I was moved. He said high penile mileage

superCleanworks:
every decision you take on this earth is a gamble. take it or leave it.

Even your birth was by chance out of a million sperms.

You don't know what it means to be a gambler. It's an addiction that if not managed, will destroy everything you hold dear.

Georgejeez:
They should be giving Nigerians Visas easily for like 5 years , let's storm there and impregnate the Impregnable

Unfortunately, they don't want mixed blood. If not they would have invited Indians. I haven't seen a country as perverted as Indians. If you have a hole, you are not safe in India cause they will rape you.

Maxxim:
User is so good at prompting, na intelligent human being you be.
And about these aliens wey na only Us dem dey see am, na total bs, na propaganda

Intelligence must have a different meaning. All I see is a dumb fellow who lacks basic geographical knowledge.

micellgevity:
I wanted to propagate my ezoic dns. Ezoic sent me the dns 1-4, only for me to propagate it, I couldn't see the nameserver in the control panel. I sent them a WhatsApp message, I was given one useless info that was not helpful. I contacted them again, they didn't reply. All their communication channels are unresponsive. I have searched all the cpanel for dns, I couldn't find it, and the host support is not responsive. I have never enjoyed their support since I registered with them. I was lured in by what I red about their supposed responsive support. If they continue like this, they will be out of business. I have not mentioned their name oooo, but I can decide to mention it if they fail to be supportive.

All Nigeria hosts seems to have issues.

NewManFred:
Whenever I see a post about someone that died, especially someone that isn't a celebrity, I usually go to their social media to read their posts prior to their deaths.

Note that I don't do this out of disrespect, or mockery. I respect the dead and I feel bad for their loved ones. The reason I do this is because I want to know the kind of person they were. Sort of like a philosophical experiment.

I've done this for countless people that have passed on and I always notice the same thing: An overestimated sense of importance

These people think they are so special. Like they have God on speed dial and he genuinely cares about their wishes and will make sure they get everything they want.

They usually talk about what they have achieved and what they want to achieve as if their life is a game they designed themselves and are playing it on easy mode.

When I compare their pictures on social media with pictures of their corpse lying on the floor, on the roadside or on some cold bench, I notice a sharp contrast. In the picture of the corpse you see the real person; no fake smiles, not posing for the camera, no filters, no conscious awareness of how their are dressed, no captions on the photos. You see the real person and you realize how much they tried to hide that from the world and how their effort was useless in the end, because in the end, everyone sees them for who they really are.

It's really sad how unaware these people were about just how fleeting life is. Almost like they never sit and question the point of their existence. The level of optimism I see in their posts usually borders on naivety and represents a total detachment from the harsh reality of life, which eventually catches up to them.

You are not as wise as you think if social media is your base of judgment. You can never truly know a person based on their social media profile. You are basically feeling superior because they are dead and you are alive. A form of narcissism where you feel better about yourself because someone died. But remember that one day, it will be your turn. No one gets out alive.

Here's what ChatGPT thinks about your post:

ChatGPT: The post you provided appears to be expressing the writer's perspective on deceased individuals' social media posts and their perceptions of life. Here are some points of criticism:

Lack of Empathy: The post may come across as lacking empathy or sensitivity towards the deceased individuals and their loved ones. While the writer claims they do not intend to be disrespectful, their remarks about the deceased's overestimated sense of importance and detachment from reality could be seen as dismissive of the person's experiences and feelings.

Generalization: The post makes sweeping generalizations about the behavior and mindset of people who have passed away based solely on their social media activity. It is essential to remember that social media often presents a curated version of one's life and may not reflect the entirety of a person's character or beliefs.

Invasion of Privacy: Going through the social media of deceased individuals might be seen as intrusive and disrespectful, even if the intention is not to mock or disrespect. It's important to consider the privacy of the deceased and their families when engaging with their online presence.

Misinterpretation of Social Media: Social media platforms often encourage users to showcase positive aspects of their lives, which may not fully represent their internal struggles or complexities. Judging a person solely based on their online presence might lead to misconceptions and unfair assessments.

Preconceived Notions: The writer seems to have preconceived notions about the optimism and naivety of the deceased individuals, assuming they never questioned the point of their existence. This kind of assumption is unfair and lacks a nuanced understanding of the complexities of human life.

Insensitivity towards Grieving: The post focuses on the contrast between social media posts and images of the deceased, which could be distressing for those who are grieving the loss of their loved ones. It is essential to be mindful of the emotions of others when discussing sensitive topics like death.

In conclusion, the post seems to be exploring philosophical observations, but it may come across as insensitive and judgmental towards the deceased individuals. Empathy and respect for the deceased and their loved ones should always be at the forefront when discussing such delicate matters

Sirbruno3000:
Even in bet9ja, stories are being changed. Your breakthrough can come from anywhere.

Gambler don drop quote

If I'm conversing with anyone and they start raising voice, I end it there.

Hahaha. This made my evening

This is what happens when insanity jams insanity.

At least now she wouldn't have to worry about plaiting her hair when she doesn't have money

I believe you are afraid of failure, hence why you never try. You need to pay close attention to self development, and build your confidence. If not you will live your whole life never amounting to anything. The world is not kind to cowards who are afraid to take the bull by the horn.

NBAjunior:
I have this cousin of mine that have been fantasizing about she is just 14 I’m above 20 but I’m scared of doing anything with her incase it leaks out

Sometimes I think about drugging her and having my way


I’m also obsessed with my girlfriend I think about her body every now and then we have been together for like 8 months now but I just can’t get her off my head sexually

Please what’s wrong with me
Does this make me a phedophile?

Best advice will be to never act on your feelings. The day you do will be the beginning of your doom.

blueghost:
hmmmm Dealing with betrayal from a close friend can be deeply hurtful and challenging to navigate. Here are some suggestions on how to handle the situation:

Allow Yourself to Feel: It's important to acknowledge and process your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel hurt, angry, or disappointed. Allow yourself time and space to heal and come to terms with what has happened.

Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a counselor to share your feelings and seek support. Talking about your experience with someone who can provide empathy and guidance can help you gain perspective and cope with the betrayal.

Reflect on the Situation: Take some time to reflect on the circumstances surrounding the betrayal. Consider the reasons behind your friend's actions, as well as any contributing factors from your side. This self-reflection can help you understand the situation better and come to terms with it.

Communicate Your Feelings: If you feel ready and comfortable, consider expressing your feelings to your friend. Honest communication can be a crucial step in the healing process. Clearly articulate how their actions have affected you and allow them to share their perspective. However, keep in mind that their response may not always meet your expectations or lead to reconciliation.

Set Boundaries: Evaluate whether it is healthy and appropriate to continue the friendship. If you decide to maintain the relationship, establish clear boundaries and expectations moving forward. It may take time to rebuild trust, and it's essential to protect yourself from further harm.

Focus on Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote self-care and well-being. Take care of your physical and emotional health by engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, practicing mindfulness or meditation, exercising, or seeking professional help if needed.

Forgiveness (if possible): Forgiveness is a personal choice and can be a long and complex process. It does not mean condoning or forgetting the betrayal but rather freeing yourself from the negative emotions and the burden of holding onto resentment. Forgiving can be liberating, but it should not be rushed, and it's okay if it takes time.

Learn and Grow: Use this experience as an opportunity for personal growth and reflection. Learn from the betrayal, identify any patterns or red flags, and use the lessons to make healthier choices in future relationships.

Remember, healing takes time, and everyone's journey is unique. Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate through the process of healing and moving forward

You must be very dumb if you can't contribute without ChatGPT

By cutting them off.

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too

Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me ( maybe remarrying)

Why should your name be on the document when you didn't contribute 1kobo to the purchase of the land?

MrBroke:
I want to run mad . Dude is funny cause that's enough reason for Jackie to end it

CallmeTrinity:
You are calling it fake Jackie Chan when a small check shows its 100% legit.

Nigga you a hater. You are so angry you wish it was you.

Die slow nigga

No Jackie Chan contacted him. Dude probably designed the chat. After all he's a graphic designer. Jackie Chan is an actor. Nothing concerns him with posters. That's a nice marketing strategy though.

Bodeem:
Same conductors wey dey carry gun Rob people for night nahim you dey pity?

Repaying evil with evil wouldn't get us anywhere. Besides, I believe there are honest conductors out there struggling to make a wage. What he did will likely make the driver believe he is stealing from him when they finally make account. What do you think will happen? Most likely the driver will fire him and look for someone else. And what happens after? He will probably become depressed, because getting another driver isn't an easy route. We really need to think about how the decisions we make causes a chain of reaction. He could end up committing suicide when he fails to take care of his family or settle his debtors, simply because an idiot failed to pay N1500.

You are just lucky. But remember that luck runs out pretty fast. You are nothing but a thief. Even if the conductor forgot, can't you just pay your fare? What goes around comes around.

donbachi:
Fuel, transportation and food stuff.... before you say "jack".1million done finish in on month

Stop being bitter. 1m is a huge relief in this present Nigeria. Besides, she will get more endorsement as long as she has followers.

You said you are a talkative. You surely deserve to be disrespected. Why not work in the marketplace? At least you will find market women you can compete with as a talkative? There's nothing more shameful than a man who talks anyhow. In my years of existence, I have learned that no one can disrespect you until you disrespect yourself.

Dcass:
Honestly I feel like nothing will change anymore.

Will anyone marry me again

I lost my husband 2019 I on have 1 kid but still I managed to aquirre a skill thinking that I would be able to use tailoring to survive till God change my life but I couldn't afford a seeing machine and a shop, am not a kind of lady that depend on men too much but this time is tóo difficult for me and my kid.


Some men come saying that they want to marry me but after discovering that I have a kid they will become unserious, all they want is sex sex sex.

In search of hope I was advised to go into prostitution but I have fear of God I cannot stand the immorality.

All I need is a sewing machine and a shop from there I can work and take care of myself.

I want to work I want to use my skill to earn a honestly living.

What can I do please?

Hunty what exactly do you want? A husband or a sewing machine? You probably have been chasing suitors away with your archaic mindset, not because you are a single mother.

omohayek:
Nairaland is full of shockingly dim people! The doll test you refer to doesn't "prove" what you think it does. All it "proves" is that in America, black children internalize the same values of white superiority that their white peers do, and as both you and the OP clearly have done. If the same test were done in a society where everyone and everything said "black is better", the same test would "prove" that black people are the most attractive, at least by your own slow-witted estimation.

I honestly don't understand how so many of you manage to get by on a daily basis, given the utter lack of intelligence and critical thinking skills you display.

You are the dimwit if you can't provide a counterargument without personal attacks and insults. The reason those toddlers where used is because they will be objective in their choices, unlike adults like you ridden with sentiments and bias. I'm not gonna argue with you. Someone who throws insults at any given chance is already a failure.

Rrragmind:
I think hospital is making things worst for me, I need herbal cure sir

Find another hospital. Herbal is just trial and error. Don't joke with your life.

I am glad I discovered early that religion is a scam. When you come to that realisation, your life can't remain the same.

If this young man has known that there is no miracles waiting for him, he probably would have paid more attention to medical professionals instead of churches and pastors.

Anyway, you will be back through reincarnation. You haven't learn anything yet.

Rrragmind:
Too numerous..

I don’t even thing it only staph that’s affecting me.. I experience moving in my body, I mean all part of my body to head.

I also have oral infection.

It how my heart beats fast and then slows down that bothering me more now.

My neck seems stiff sometimes, .

I’m having tough time bro

My friend, visit the hospital, let them run the necessary tests. Once they give you injections and some drugs, you will be okay. But expect to spend money cause the treatment isn't cheap. That's the price of promiscuity.

Illegal1:
omoh.......,.no be every day sumtin,bt atleast twice a wk.

Not bad.

Illegal1:
omoh........i jst lyk the tin

Talk true jor.

This one don pass lyk.

No matter how delicious something is, I can never eat it every day.

You will surely get tired.

13sense:
Please, pardon my English.

I am 30 years old. I have a colleague, a female of about my age. I made a mistake to let my guard down. About my colleague, she is the calm, quiet and fragile type. She is a person that is very nice and gentle towards every one. Not the nagging or enmity type. She doesn't know how to raise voice or do the enemy thing.

Along the line, we became closer and I grown to be fond of her and became too comfortable with her. I became more over caring towards her. I even start petting her a lot and also give her lot of help. I sometimes pet her to collect material things from me, making her feel too special. We are not intimate, just good friends at work.

I am the type of guy with a strong ago and don't easily let my guard down to a woman. I don't easily allow women to be closer to me. But sometimes, as a young guy you got to mellow down.

I give her too much attention and shower her with praises and admiration, making her feel too special. This got into her head. She became too over familiar with me which heavily breed contempt. I caution her once about her attitude, she apologized but yet continue to misbehave. She has mess up a lot in the past which I overlooked. She became very protective on herself towards me which I also over looked. One day, she freak out and told me I am disturbing her. So I decide to push her out of my life.

I quickly dish her away so she can see the egoistic side of me. I made her see my value chain and gave her the thought that she needed me, I do not need her.

We greet and speak in a professional work condition but I no longer feed her with any attention. I stop caring about her as I no longer care about her existence. Anytime she asked me for anything or any help, I just say no. She feel pained as she knew I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore. She tried to have my attention and has begged me for a month about it and preached forgiveness, but no.

Right now, she is over reacting in anger and just can't take her eyes and mind from me ignoring her. She just can't take it anymore. She look at me with anger and throwing tantrums at me.

Have you had experience like this?
How did you handle it?

Any advice?

Why would you overwhelm her with so much attention? You were such a simp and it's disgusting. In whatever you do, moderation is key. She felt suffocated by your attention and care that she has to tell you bluntly that you were disturbing her.

Oga, you are there to work, not to simp around. Too much familiarity breeds insult. In a professional settings, you have to keep everything professional. If she needs help and you can help, you really have no choice. Refusing to help her over and over again could actually get you fired as that means you aren't a team player.

Don't you guys have HR? Keep playing with your source of income.