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DanielAlhassan:
Sorry for asking this question

Can a Prostitute Become a good wife and Stay Faithful in a relationship?

My personal prostitute is coming on Friday, so I'll ask her. You'll get a firsthand answer.

Block that disgusting toad.

MrHandsome2013:
I recently sold my family plots of land and I received 5m.
I am 40 years old with HND

No wife, no kids , no job.
Only 5m is all I have .
I need your advice

Who did you sell the land to?
How much land was there?
What type of land was it?

Makaveli217:
First you don't attract or try to buy anyone with money, either male or female, because money comes and goes, and when they have no genuine love and interest in you and for you, your fate is as good as he's when your money runs low.
Guys are the one giving this girls such mentality, ego and useless pride, you see a girl you like, you can't talk to her, let her get to know you for who you are, and not what you have, you don't know her character and temperament, the first thing that comes into your mind it to start wasting money, buy her stuffs take her on dates, try to spoil her so she'll like you, then she sees a maga, and she'll fall in love with the money you throw around her(not you) even when you're wrong, she'll make peace, cause she can't loose your money(not you). Then you taught you've found an angel, you got married(she settled for you), after wedding, things change, you stopped spoiling her, where you work, your contract got terminated, money stopped flowing, or you are funding a project that's draining you, no more wigs, clothes and stuff, no more dates, that's when you'll know what you married.
If you want to know if your girlfriend or wife really cares about you, act broke for just a week, beg them for money, wail, and see what you've been dating and what you married.

"Well, look, all of that is accurate. However, in that case, no one would ever get married, and we would biologically disappear very quickly."

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You rolled all sixes. Good luck.

What else is known about matriarchy?
Realistically, we are now living in a matriarchy. What do you know about matriarchy?

In this last paragraph, one who is intelligent can read how bloody events will unfold in Europe, primarily. Society will be reset to factory settings. Migrants, expelled or killed, and women stripped of all rights. Or Europe will cease to exist. Which is completely impossible for anyone who knows anything at all about Europe and its history.

AI:
The idea that matriarchy was "abolished by force" in a single, widespread event is largely a myth, or at least a highly debated and unproven theory, within anthropology and historical studies. As previously discussed, most scholars agree that a true, globally dominant matriarchy (where women systematically dominated men) likely never existed. Instead, what we observe are matrilineal or matrilocal societies where women held significant influence, property rights, and social status.
However, the transition from societies with greater female influence to more patriarchal systems often involved forms of coercion, violence, and the imposition of new social structures. This wasn't necessarily a "war" against matriarchs, but rather a gradual process in which emerging patriarchal groups or systems gained dominance through various means:
How Power Shifted from Female-Influenced to Patriarchal Systems
* Conquest and Invasions:
* One prominent theory, though still subject to debate, suggests that waves of patriarchal, often warlike, groups (e.g., Indo-European invaders) migrated and conquered more peaceful, possibly more egalitarian or female-centered cultures. These invaders would then impose their male-dominated social structures, religious beliefs (male deities), and systems of inheritance.
* In such scenarios, the displacement of existing social structures could certainly be considered a forceful overthrow, even if the "matriarchy" wasn't a formal, centralized system.
* Internal Power Struggles and Elite Formation:
* As societies developed agriculture, accumulated surplus resources, and formed more complex political structures (early states), power often consolidated in the hands of a male elite. This elite, often backed by military strength, could then enforce laws and customs that favored male lineage, property ownership, and control over women.
* This "force" might not have been a direct battle but rather the imposition of laws, religious doctrines, and social norms that systematically disempowered women and privileged men. For example, laws making women property, or limiting their access to education or public roles, could be considered forms of systemic coercion.
* Shifts in Warfare and Economic Roles:
* When warfare became more central to a society's survival, men's roles as warriors became more prominent. This often translated into increased political power and control over resources, as they were seen as the primary protectors. Societies that relied heavily on male-dominated military structures tended to outcompete or absorb those with less emphasis on organized warfare.
* Similarly, as certain economic activities (like heavy plowing or large-scale herding) became crucial for survival, and these roles were predominantly performed by men, it contributed to their increased societal importance and power.
* Colonialism:
* In more recent history, colonialism played a significant role in disrupting existing indigenous social structures, many of which were matrilineal or had strong female influence. European colonial powers often imposed their patriarchal legal, religious, and political systems, dismantling traditional female leadership roles and property rights. This was a direct, often violent, imposition of a new, male-dominated order.
Conclusion
So, while there's little evidence of a global "war to end all matriarchies," it's certainly plausible and often argued that the transition from more egalitarian or female-influenced societies to patriarchal ones frequently involved various forms of force and coercion. This force could range from outright military conquest to the systemic imposition of legal, economic, and religious structures that gradually stripped women of their traditional power and influence.

AI:

The question of how matriarchy was "abolished" is complex, because most anthropologists and historians believe that true matriarchy (as a complete dominance of women over men) probably never existed on a widespread scale; rather, there were matrilineal and matrilocal societies with significant female influence. Therefore, it's not about "abolishing" matriarchy in the sense of a revolution or a single event, but rather a gradual transition to patriarchal systems, which became dominant in most of the world's cultures.
This transition was slow and intricate, and likely involved a series of factors:
Key Factors Contributing to the Rise of Patriarchy
* Development of Agriculture and Private Property:
* Land and Property: With the development of intensive agriculture and animal husbandry, the possibility of accumulating material wealth, such as land and livestock, emerged. This led to a desire to pass on this wealth to "legitimate" heirs.
* Paternity Uncertainty: It became important for men to ensure that property was passed down to their biological offspring, leading to greater control over female sexuality and reproduction. Marital unions became more formal and contractual.
* Male Labor in Agriculture: Although women always worked in agriculture, with the advent of plowing and more intensive land work, physical strength gained importance, somewhat favoring the male role in certain aspects of production.
* Warfare and the Emergence of Organized Armies:
* Physical Strength and Defense: In societies that settled and accumulated property, the need for defense against attackers grew. Men, due to greater physical strength, often took on the role of warriors and defenders.
* Control of Resources: Those who defended resources often gained control over them, which gave them power and influence.
* Hierarchy: Warfare often led to the creation of hierarchical structures and the need for strong leadership (usually male), further strengthening male power.
* Population Growth and the Need for Labor:
* In early states, there was a need to maintain a high population level for surplus resource production and military strength. Women were pressured to bear more children, especially sons who could fight, which pushed them toward an exclusive role as mothers and homemakers.
* Changes in Kinship Systems:
* As material wealth became more important, kinship and inheritance systems became formalized. Wealth was often passed down to sons, leading to a shift from matrilineal to patrilineal systems.
* Women often married and moved into their husbands' families (patrilocality), which distanced them from their own support network and reduced their autonomy.
* Religion and Ideology:
* Gradually, religions and myths developed that justified and strengthened male dominance, often portraying women as weaker, less reliable, or subordinate. This helped institutionalize and normalize patriarchy in society.
* Formation of States and Centralized Power:
* Early states and centralized authorities were often structured around male leadership and military force. Decisions made at the top of the state trickled down and affected family structures, making marriage a rigid legal institution where women were often treated as property.
Conclusion
Thus, the "abolition" of matriarchy (or, more precisely, the shift from matrilocal/matrilineal to patrilocal/patrilineal systems) was not a single event, but a complex process that unfolded over millennia, driven by a combination of economic, social, technological, and ideological changes. These changes gradually reshaped gender roles and hierarchies, leading to the dominance of patriarchal systems as we know them in most of recorded history.

AI:

What I Know About Matriarchy
Matriarchy is a social system where women (especially mothers) hold the primary role of authority and leadership within the family and community. This differs from patriarchy, which is far more common and male-dominated.
Here are the key aspects of matriarchy:
Characteristics of Matriarchal Societies
* Female Dominance in Decision-Making: In a matriarchy, women have the primary say in important family, economic, and social decisions. This can include managing resources, resolving disputes, and spiritual guidance.
* Lineage Through Women: Inheritance, property, and even family names are often passed down through the female line (matrilineal). This means ancestry is traced through the mother, not the father.
* Role of Men: The role of men in a matriarchy varies, but generally, they are often responsible for performing specific tasks, such as hunting, protection, or working outside the home, while women manage the internal affairs of the community. They often play an important role as uncles (mother's brothers) in raising children.
* Respect for Women and Mothers: In matriarchal cultures, mothers and elder women often enjoy high status and respect due to their role in childbirth and sustaining life.
* Economic Control: Women may control the production, distribution, and consumption of goods, especially in agrarian societies where they were crucial for agricultural output.
* Spiritual Aspects: There are often mother goddesses and female deities in spiritual practices, reflecting the importance of the female role in the world.
Historical Evidence and Modern Debate
The existence of true, global matriarchal civilizations in the past is a subject of debate among anthropologists and historians. Some researchers argue that such societies existed in prehistory, especially in the Neolithic period, based on archaeological finds of mother goddess figurines and the absence of obvious warrior structures.
However, most scholars believe that "true" matriarchy, in the sense of a complete inversion of patriarchy where women systematically dominate men, likely never existed on a large scale. Instead, matrilocal (where a couple lives near the bride's family) or matrilineal (inheritance through the female line) societies were more common, where women had significant influence and authority, but not necessarily complete domination over men.
Existing Examples (Matrilineal/Matrilocal Societies)
While "pure" matriarchies aren't widespread, there are cultures today that exhibit strong matriarchal or matrilineal tendencies:
* Mosuo in China: Known for their matrilineal and matrilocal structure. Women are household heads, and inheritance is passed down through the female line. The concept of marriage differs from the Western one; they often practice "walking marriages" where men don't live permanently with their partners.
* Minangkabau in Sumatra, Indonesia: The largest matrilineal group in the world. Land and property are inherited through the female line, and women play a crucial role in ceremonies and family decisions.
* Akan in Ghana: A traditionally matrilineal society where ancestry is traced through the female line, and maternal uncles play an important role in children's lives.
Difference Between Matriarchy, Matrilineality, and Matrilocality
It's important to understand the distinctions:
* Matriarchy: A system in which women hold primary political, economic, and social power and authority.
* Matrilineality: A system of inheritance and descent traced through the female line. It doesn't necessarily mean women have more power.
* Matrilocality: A system in which a married couple settles near or in the bride's family home.
While discussions about matriarchy are often idealized or misunderstood, the study of societies with female leadership or strong female influence provides valuable insight into the various ways human communities can be organized, and challenges the assumption that patriarchy is the only "natural" or "normal" form of social organization.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

My ex-wife blackmailed me with divorce for 15 years. We were married for 25 years, and 15 of those years were hell. I waited all that time for the children to grow up because I knew she would completely ruin them if she took them while they were young.
As soon as we divorced, she immediately started a relationship with another man. A year later, she got married. The children were left to live alone in a rented apartment. After about 6 months, she started blackmailing him with divorce. That lasted for two months, where she would pack up for the smallest things and come to the apartment with the children. Now they are divorcing. Their marriage lasted a total of 8 months. Of course, I found all this out from the children. They are 26 and 19 years old. Their comment on everything: "God forbid anyone goes through this. What a circus."

Makaveli217:
You are a lady I guess.
He's weak, but in his weakness, he open a business of 3m for her, but she choose to press phone at home, 3m worth of naira gone, when they are ladies that are just looking for 500k to start a little business, some just need 100k to start selling groundnut, and some little things.
All marriages have ups and down at the early stages, If your partner is reasonable and understanding, then you guys can work things out, but not in this case, and I don't think you understood the write up. I don't blame her, he's at fault, that's what you get when you try to buy a woman with money.

You clearly don't have money.
What should he have attracted her with?
A big dick?
Love songs?
What should he have attracted her with?
What do you attract woman with?

What do low-quality men do?
They are satisfied with getting some unfortunate woman pregnant and then running away.
There you go. They managed to leave some kind of trace.
Completely powerless to create a new life that will be any better than they are themselves.
What do high-quality men do?
They look for a high-quality woman to achieve high-quality offspring. When that doesn't happen—that is, when the conclusion is reached that high-quality offspring have not been born due to a low-quality woman—then total hell breaks loose.
Hence the weights and daily exercise, testosterone, special diet, insane accumulation of money, opening businesses... a new me, new plans, new jobs, there will be a new woman, new children...
Resetting life.
Whoever reads my diary might somehow understand.

LordIsaac:
He's telling you that ultimately, you came to this world alone and would leave alone. In the end, they will take sides with their mother. She's their mom.

And what you're saying is correct. But the matter is much more complex and much worse.
A man comes into this world with a task written in his genes: to leave a trace of his existence.
With divorce begins the hell that I described.
After concluding that he has produced the wrong offspring, a man dedicates himself exclusively to the struggle to have new offspring who will be his worthy heirs, to leave a trace of his existence. The old children are erased, and worthy children take their place.
The status of children with a man depends on the status of the woman.
And women are not aware of this. Or it doesn't matter to them.

Klass99:
WoW. Please indulge me for a minute and explain what you mean by the children weren't worth it.

Do you mean staying with wifey for the sake of the children wasn't worth it or the children themselves weren't worth having in the first place or worth the stress you had to endure?

No criticism or judgments here, just honest curiosity.

I'll tell you brutally honestly from personal experience. And other men feel the same way. Few want to admit it.
When you divorce a woman, you also divorce your children.
A man changes during a divorce. Divorce is a major trauma for a man, much greater than for a woman.
Psychologically, a man changes, and he is never again the man he was before.
How the psychological process unfolds:
* A complete breakdown of everything he believed in.
* Complete disappointment in the woman for whom he was ready to give his life.
* From all of this, the conclusion is drawn: She is the wrong woman.
A second after that conclusion follows: I had children with the wrong woman. Wrong woman = wrong genetics = wrong offspring = wrong children.
In the meantime, the court has awarded custody of the children to the woman.
By default, a woman alone cannot raise children properly + you are separated from these children and are unable to influence their further development. You helplessly watch as these children deteriorate under the influence of bad company and media, social networks, etc., neglected by their mother. All of this only confirms your conclusion that these children are wrong.
You become increasingly certain that you made a mistake and wasted your time. You frantically search for the right woman with whom to have new children.
You invest all your resources in this endeavor.
Staying in the marriage:
The children grow up in a toxic marriage where the father is daily humiliated and bullied. This is an example of behavior for the children that they will adopt as normal and what these children will bring into their own marriage in the future.
In the end, the man is completely destroyed. He divorces when the children are grown.

Chubhie:
Your endurance nor be here o. Me I nor just like stress. Stress over woman?

What are you talking about?
How are you talking like that?
Buzz off.

FuckYeyeMods:
Please don't get tired with this back and forth reply. It might go a long way for me.
She have a small business I established for her recently and I observed She's doing a bit fine.
She always behave as if she just came for vacation at my place 'after more than two kids ooo'.
Her house (her mum and siblings) are far more important to her than the family she established me. I am not pety and I understand how wife's do behave and not easily let go of their home they came from. But my wife once boldly told me that "I know this marriage would not last"
She's just greedy else, I made her a good offer. I will rent house for her close to her business, and she would have access to the children anytime anyday. I turned the proposal to a daily routine trying to convince her that im not angry but just to have clean divorce without going dirty but she keep pretending.
I woke up one day and discovered that she abscond with my kids tand embark on a journey of almost 2days to her village.
She kept telling everybody that I'm the one that keep pestering her to leave. But between me and her, we both know she wanted the divorce and i also would not object to it but she doesn't want to look like a bad mother by leaving her kids behindso she pick the kids and left. I couldn't ignore because she took my kids to her village. Everybody keep telling not to leave the kids with her, that she'll abandoned them with the mum and move to another city or location. I obliged to people call and she's back with the kids.
I bet, she doesn't want the marriage but greed is not allowing her to quit easily.
What annoys me most are the siblings. They're very not good people. Greediness run in their blood. My wife would not talk to me but would go outside and say very unpleasant things. If I ask her what is going on, she'll say nothing.
Please, any further advice?

Well, what can I tell you?
Sit down and talk to her.
You established her business. That means you are more capable than her. Try to explain this to her in a reasonable way. You don't have to respond to this, but you must be aware of it.
If you are not "sleeping" with her. If you are not attracted to "sleeping" with her. Then that is the root of all the problems. If she refuses to "sleep" with you, then your marriage is over.
Why isn't it worth suffering for the children?
The children are yours, so they are yours. But however you raise them, if they are susceptible to other influences, the environment, society, and social media will ruin them. Of course, less so if they grow up with you. And much more so if they grow up with their mother.
That retarded phenomenon of attachment to parents and siblings is completely out of place in my world. (I am a white man from Europe, in case you didn't know.)
Marriage and family (you, your wife, and children) cannot coexist with her former family or your former family.
That is out of the question. If you or she decide to prioritize siblings, mothers, and fathers, then there is nothing left of your marriage.
It's obvious that you made the same mistake I did. Like many other men. You raised your wife to your level to be equal to you, and in return and as a "reward," she lowered you below her level. Try to draw her attention to the fact that you created her and that you are more important than her father, mother, brothers... That she has children with you.
I know that nothing will come of that conversation and that you won't make her see sense, but it is necessary for your conscience for what will follow when the conversation fails.
When the conversation fails, you will have to deal with her without mercy. It will be difficult. You will feel bad. But you have to do it because she has no mercy for you either.
Withdraw all your money from your account. Hide it very well. Cut off all her financial, emotional, and any other support. Do everything to make her business start to fail. For her to start struggling financially. Then file for divorce. Tell her that you want custody of the children and that you will then help her financially after the divorce and when the children belong to you.
You must fight first and foremost for yourself, your children, and your money. When all that is over, help her a little. Just enough so that she is not ruined, and then turn around and forget her. Don't help her anymore. Leave her alone, let her do what she wants. Dedicate yourself to your own personal success and your children.