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Benglarue:
So this question - Marriage? Wetin man dey gain really?

This is not to change others view but from my experience, the man basically has the woman as a slave to perform the underlisted.

1. Housekeeper/Cleaner
2. Nanny for the children
3. Laundry services
4. Errands girl
5. intimacy gadget
6. Baby mama or pregnant carrier
7. Home keeper (different from house keeper)
8. Childrens driver/school runs
9. Cook
10. Multiplier (may be not in all cases)
11. Backbone/Spiritual partner (where there is a bond)
12. Helper ( representing you in many events)

Men take all these from women for free of charge. In case you doubt, ask questions.

I have gained financial support for my business from my brother in law than any bank or individual. This depends on the kind of relationship you have with your wife.

Even my partner herself after I've set her up, she may not give me the money directly for the fear of giving to another woman but when support is needed, I fear nothing financially with her.

Do we even check ourselves as men or we just run out to expect a perfect relationship from our woman?

It's even easy to heep all the man's mistakes and blames on her, and label her as evil. This is not always true.

Someone said above that marriage is a test of leadership from God for men. There was another one trying to justify that what if the love starts to shift, check yourself too. This all depends on your management style.

So far, Ive had to mutually balance control between myself and my partner. It's always a learning curve and we all have our experiences but it's been a sweet experience.

I know marriage is not anyone's mate but this is my direct experience.

Men has a lot to gain, not to even talk about having smart and lovely kids.

franchasng:
Jibberish.


Romantic love is a fallacy because true love have no reason or condition.


True love is unconventional but all romantic love come with some conditions.


That woman you fell romantically in love with, was it not because she is physically attractive to you? Was it not because of something about her; her looks, character, demeanor, personality? Those are conditions and once those conditions change, your so called love changes too, that is why romantic love is a fallacy.


The only true love is the love between a mother and her child, it comes with no conditions.


Every other love humans claim for each other is condition based and therefore can change when the conditions changes or disappears

Naya25:
I really don't understand why almost every Naija girl wan get big yansh.

Heard almost all the ladies in lekki, have done BBL (butt enhancement), just to have a standard ukwu

And it's very funny they are all doing it just to attract men. The big yansh na to enhance their hustle. Those who can't afford BBL, are going to the market to buy yansh pad ...omo, the whole thing don enter another level. But wait o, what's special about big yansh.

Apart from adding more excitement and fulfillment to love making, what else does big yansh bring to the table....

YEAN15:
Omo with 10m I will start my transportation business at once and my fishery going side by side

Bebold:


That man took a very bold step

Just hope he didn't leave depressions on the floor.

Though I feel for her, I think she'll be better off, trying to get a man with kid(s) already.

Life happens, but then, try using routes you won't be seen as inferior.

Peakdesign23:
Omo gimme the money first, I hate imagination.

jamesirewa:
Naija ladies does care wat u are going through, all dey care about is their needs been met.
Dey hardly wants to know about d struggles in ur life.
Dey hardly wants to make future plans wit u.
Dey don't care how u get it, dey are just built to receive.
But why?

HelenaWills:
I wanted to get my mum a small car last year.
Didn't have money for a tokunbo so I asked my brothers to help me surf jiji for any affordable car.
They showed me a Civic 08 and since I drive one myself, I felt it would be nice to match with my mum.

My brothers and a Kazeem went for inspection and they discovered the car had a few things to be fixed which made them slash the price from 2.4M that we initially agreed to #2,050,000.
This was in June last year.

They set out to drive the car down to my house before heading to my mum's but brethrens, since June last year till this very moment as I type this. The car has only been parked from one Kazeem shop to another, on some days it was left by the road side or a petrol station for days out of frustration. I have spent above 700k on it all to no fruition. It's been almost a year now and this car hasn't made me it my house yet talk more of sending it to my mum. I contacted the guy and he said he had tried by slashing the price and that was all he could do. At some point, he stopped picking my brother's calls.
Please what advice can you give me?

Can I get him arrested or take legal measures against him at least? Or has this become my headache for life?
I need chunks of recommendations please.

Gerrard59:
Interesting response. So a man's life is to toil, toil and toil for a woman, and he gets nothing in return?

We learn every day.

emmaodet:


But what can the average modern woman offer a man after she has slept with more than 10 men, aborted alot, over used body if she is not going to be supporting the man financially? What kind of shitty deal is that for a man?
I will rather become a woman in that case so as to eat my cake and have it. Sleep around, live a reckless life and still have a man marry my uselesssss body and finance it till I die

Gerrard59:
To be fair to goran3310, he is kinda right about women not respecting men who can provide because these days, they (women) earn equally if not more than some men. Then we have sex to.ys, so the dire need for a man in 2025 is not as it was in say 2000. These days and going forward, a strong-willed woman can choose not to get married and have a child of her own. Lola Oj and Ini Edo are good examples. Such women will even look down on an oil worker.

However, the issue I have with goran3310's stance is that what then becomes the use of a woman's money to a man's life if the man does not eat out of it? What does the man benefit in a scenario where he provides everything, meanwhile the woman earns very well either from her job or business? What exactly would the woman use this money for if the man is to be the all-in-all provider? What does the man get out of such a relationship?

sirjamesjnr:
No it isn't stupid for a man to kneel when proposing and anyone that thinks it is obviously still has some growing up to do.

I'm only guessing but any guy that would say it's stupid, says so because his character is weak. And a man with a weak character will worry about what others with weak character think. Poor character is what is wrong with too many young people these days. A lack of character is where bullies, gangsters, con men, lack of personal accountability and being financially inept come from.

The next thing you know, you have some young guy trying to be a man through a car, tattoos, clothes or whatever superficial thing that was popular that day and not wanting to kneel before the woman he wants to marry. Nothing wrong with cars or tattoos when you have some character to go with them. I am only concern about money miss road kind of guy.

Kneeling before a woman is about showing her that you are willing to humble yourself and give total respect and commitment doing something that you wouldn't do for anyone unless you were forced to, SUBMIT. You basically are submitting to her and putting her above yourself to symbolize what you will do for her the rest of your life. I don't mean that the guy will be subservient their whole life, I mean that he will be the shield and take on any threat to the family, willing to give his life to protect their
Kneeling on one knee means that a man will actually going to be devoted until the end so long the woman is respectful. You are honoring the institution of marriage and it benefits not just the lady.
Only men and women with class will agree with me but the low. Life will bash.

emmaodet:
Even the ones working are mostly living above their income and hoping to use a man to balance up or hookup.
You will think a lady earning high salary like 1m a above a month should be okay, faithful to her bf and have savings...
Nahhhh!!!!!
Most are stark broke living expensive life - foreign vacations, iphone 15 etc
The ones earning less quickly use hookup or man to augement their income.
I know of a lady that is my junior at work then earning 700k per month, omoh this girl they go Egypt, Morocco for vacation while me her Oga no go fit try am

emmaodet:
This is the typical woman nature - lazy, broke, hate to work, big wild mouth, high taste, like expensive things but all these should be done by a man and she enjoys it all in the name of Love

Dzzzz:
Angeline is a what??

Dzzzz:
They’re just lazy to work…

MrHandsome2013:
I recently sold my family plots of land and I received 5m.
I am 40 years old with HND

No wife, no kids , no job.
Only 5m is all I have .
I need your advice