sync:
Dear Nairalanders,
I’m in a dilemma and need your advice
There’s this friend of mine who out of the blue contacted me last year October asking for a favor to come stay at my place a couple of days since she had an interview in Abuja. I allowed in her without hesitation since I thought it was just going to be a few days. Fortunately, she got the job.

When she got the job in October, she asked me to pls allow her stay for two months before getting her place. My people, it’s been five months already and she’s still not making any moves to get her own place.

The problem really is I am currently jobless. She doesn’t contribute anything to the house. I am responsible for our feeding, gas, electricity, everything! And I do not have money. The little money I have is from my generous elder sister who has been my helper since I lost my job. Weekends she sleeps all through while I clean the house. I also do all the cooking. She doesn’t cook.

I am a light sleeper so I get up at any slight movement. This lady gets up between 3 to 4 times every night to use the restroom thus keeping me awake all through the night. This really has a toll on me. During the day she goes to the restroom between 14 to 16 times. She doesn’t contribute to buy foodstuff but she eats 4 times a day

What have I gotten myself into. Please how do I politely ask her to leave without hurting her feelings and savaging the relationship I use to have with her. I am tired, depressed and jobless!

What the fvck did I just read?


People dey this country sha!

I pray Neva to have a brother like this o

alpharoyalty:
Wow. I envy every one of those men out there.
See the gleefulness on their faces.
It's great being a man. 🙂

You no well aswear


On the other hand, thunder fia the mod wey bring this rubbish to front-page. I no even blame the op. That one na werey and attention seeker before

heavenisreal18:

My pumping machine got spoil, I repaired three three weeks ago with 30k, now is faulty again and the repairer suggested we change the head for another 40k ,we have been using it for over right years ,this will be the fourth time of repair. I learnt to get a new one is 210k with the situation of things in Nigeria. Pls someone should suggest a better one for me that will last, note aside home use my mother sells too

Which type of pump abeg? Is it the dab water pump

Op can't help laughing at this your story. I had this type of experience when I was still single. My neighbor then, who was about getting married will be bleating like a demented goat on heat while at it with his woman. The thing wey dey pain me pass be say na the guy dey shout and moan almost bringing the roof down while the lady will just be whimpering softly.
How did I solve it?
I gather two of my niggas on a weekend when I know they will be at it. Once they started and my neighbor was in high gear, screaming his soul out, me and my niggas just burst out laughing
Dem no tell the guy to adjust

OlawaleBammie:


Reason she's holding u ransom...

As a man, even if u re weak or desperate never show it to Ur wife, always act like u dont care so much, act like psychos.. believe me Ur marriage will always go well, just don't maltreat or beat Ur woman, treat her right and give her what u re capable of...then add small small weyreyism to the equation and see how Ur marriage will be balanced.

As crazy as this sounds, it's actually true in most cases

In fact, It was a scandalising shock to see the supreme court judgement of Lawan and Akpabio cases!

APC and buhari has destroyed the very fabrics of this nation. Curse upon their hoary heads

BigIyanga:

Working in the hospital means nothing. Admin, security, technician .. all na staff. Are you a clinician? How many obgyns did your friend meet? What were medical results before and during pregnancies. There is nothing in your post that lends credence that you’re a knowledgeable health science professional.

I don't need to prove anything to You. U actually missed my point. In a nutshell, what I'm saying is that I'm very aware of the other dimension. Being trained in the medical field doesn't mean I should ignore the spiritual dimension. In our clime, you should be aware of all dimensions, physical/medical and the spiritual.
That's all. to each man, his own. EOD

BigIyanga:

There is no connection btw what happened and landlord. Wetin be her prenatal results, scans, ultra sound results. How many OBYNs did she see?? Zero? Not doctors ??

I'm someone who is very knowledgeable in the sciences and health. Did spent sometime working in hospitals but I know there are some things that can't be explained away by science. there is another dimension to life( spiritual). I'm not here to convince you or anyone. Everyone is free to believe whatever they want

Road2Success:
Hello nairalanders,

Please I will want you all to read this. though I am not a good writer. I rented an apartment somewhere on the Lagos island. We are just 4 in the compound. When I parked into my apartment my wife came with a pregnancy but we lost the baby when she gave birth to the boy. The following year she got pregnant again, The baby also died the day she gave birth. I am not a religious person but my wife is closer to God. She has been telling me about this compound but I just don't have any reason to think or suspect anything.

Lemme tell you in my compound if one of us is working the others will lose there job. I have no reason to be suspecting anything untill I heard that one of the tenants is owning our landlord 2 years rent and our landlord didn't raise voice. In this Lagos that I know landlord don't joke with house rent. Our landlord don't bother us for rent. Sometimes I will be the one sending the house rent to him without him even asking.

I also heard that was the same thing that happened to previous occupants. They lived there without paying for many years and the landlord didnt disturb them.

I won't say our live is better in this house. We are just struggling to survive. Currently I am the only one working while others don't have a job. I am beginning to doubt if our landlord is truly a generous man as we do called him, since he don't bother us for rent.

My wife have lost two pregnancy in this house. I have been jobless many times in this house. I honestly need people opinion on this matter.

Is this house diabolic or the landlord is just a generous man

Moderators please help me move this to front page

A friend of mine also had similar encounter. The babies kept dying until one day, the wife packed and left my guy in the compound and went to her mother's house, asking my guy to come for her when he has rented another apartment.Long story short, he was able to secure another flat and the woman came back, took in and delivered and the baby stayed.

It's your choice to make my brother

StonesA:
nairalnders help a bro

Lagos it is. But do due diligence and go with a competent and God fearing mechanic

Up or down .....

We remain obidient

Life is ephemeral

Zupay:
My cousin's son has been a source of disturbance to me for the past 2 weeks.

The background story.

My cousin got pregnant with him when she was 19 but the father who then in his mid 20s denied the pregnancy in the presence of both families and went on to claim the reason he gave her money to procure an abortion was because he was only one of the guys sleeping with my cousin at the time (which was a blatant lie) and it was his own contribution.

My Uncle and Aunt (my cousin's parents) had to accept the guy's denial and solely took care of my cousin's pregnancy. Her son was born in 2007 and bears my Uncle's name, he was taken care of by his grandparents, uncles and aunts as his mother went back to school and graduated. My cousin got a better paying job in 2015 and moved out of their family house with her son, who is presently in S.S.2.

The biological father resurfaced sometime last year in May, starting to make claims and all. He went directly to the boy's school to introduce himself and starting meeting the boy, buying him things without my cousin's knowledge until the man showed up at my uncle's house with some of his relatives but my uncle didn't receive them.

The boy was becoming rude to his mother, talking back at her, telling her he would push for a change in his surname to that of his biological father, became cold to his grandparents etc To cut long story, he moved to his father's house in August of last year and resumed school from there. My cousin (his mother) was seriously sick in October of last year, this boy never bothered to call on his mother despite knowing of her illness and he has a phone he uses freely.

My cousin (his mother) relocated to the UK early this January, on a skilled worker visa as she works in a children' home and have made up her mind to refocus on getting married and having other kids. Her son has been calling her, which she has never picked also sending her long stories of how his father's wife have been maltreating him even in the presence of his father and the father would say nothing. Pleading with the mother to bring him over to the UK to live with her (her visa allows her to bring her son to the UK easily since he is under 18) but my cousin have not been replying him and this boy has been disturbing me to talk his mother on his behalf as I am very close to my cousin.

I have spoken to my cousin severally and she insisted she has washed off her hands where her son is concerned, that she doesn't want him around her as she needs to live singly and have a relationship that would lead to marriage, that she really wants to settle down.

I have told the boy to concentrate on finishing secondary school but he seems obsessed with wanting to relocate to the UK though my other cousin (his mother's younger brother) has confirmed that the boy is having it rough living with the father, his wife and other children.

I believe his mother has a right to have a new lease of life.

This boy is always messaging me asking for updates, I don't know what else to tell him!

Let the mother have her peace. She can send money for school and other stuff but she should not take him across. It will end in tears for her

T

The star from the East

peepydelano:
Nonsense you think you can deceive all Nigerians abi? Very big thief, the way I hate this man with passion ehnnnn? I will eat his meat raw without cooking

Take heart

Dogi1:
Whenever I hear, 'a town hall' there is this particular voice that comes to my mind. I don't know why.

yarimo:
After squandering Anambra state tax payers money, just spending on bleaching creams . While people suffer in Anambra state

You right now

Come here, here is a shoulder to cry on ...feel free. Cry and urchinate some more

mariobalotelli09:
Tell him to borrow you some money, that it's very urgent and u wouldn't mind a transfer. Try to touch his pocket if possible! He will never visit you again!!!

Omo this your sense na follow come o

Aufbauh:
I'm a Christian but this guy Obi will be the worst divisive person any country will have as a leader.

The salient thing Obi is unaware of is that we Christians are independent minded people that operate based on personal convictions, and not teleguided by any cleric no matter of his position.
He should go and ask Bishop Oyedepo how far with him in 2015 and 2019.

If our Muslim candidates has been engaging in this kinds of desperate religious fraternity then the country would have being on a time bomb.


So you considered Obi's desperate religious charade as genuine?
Bro, it's not even about going to church that matters but the intention & genuineness that count.

I have no cause to prove to people like you that I'm a Christian. Most of you here haven't shown me a reason to identifies with hate-filled, abusive and intolerant souls as Christians.
I don't see you guys as Christians by lifestyle cos you lack the virtues maybe by religion .

TheNiceGuy:
It's clear Obi is Church Canditate.

Peter Obi said; Church, take back your Country

JoeyNaza:
It's this sort of work ethic that shows why some people make it in life, be it in politics, academics, business etc,

Aswear!
I'm learning something new from this man

Yamiriflathead:
See his Nzobu Nzobu supporters wif their bastard flatherds. Ipob terrorist candidate

Take heart

Osidazz19:
Mumu man. Campaigning all over the place for the position of Pastor.
I beg someone should pls tell Peter Obi that we are electing a President of Nigeria not President of Pastors.
IPOB religious and tribal fanatic just like his followers the Obi-diots.

Your tears are so sweet and tasty.

Cry and urchinate more, M0r0n

TheChameleon:


You go there and check. That's the point.

I'm sure with my question, you are seeing how illogical your position is.
An 11 yrs old boy can't easily drown in a drum cause he is taller than a drum. My 5 year old son is taller than the drum in my house.

TheChameleon:
RIP poor boy. It is really sad.

Some are already speculating murder... it might not be. It might have been an accident.

Reminds me of a day I heard a noise in a water drum. I opened it and I can't ever forget what I saw.

A chicken whether out of thirst or curiosity had fallen inside. Its eyes were blank and it was almost mad from struggling to keep its head above water and not drown. It's likely it hadn't slept nor ate for God knows how many days. The instinct to survive just kept it going. It had hypothermia with most of its feather gone. If I hadn't opened the drum that very second, it might have given up at any point.

Very few humans except very strong and excellent swimmers wouldn't drown almost immediately. The question is...

Was the water drum secure? It could have been a murder and it also could have been an accident. The evidence is inconclusive but some don't have the IQ to understand that.

How tall is an eleven years old boy and how tall is a water drum.
Start from there

Would have been better if you included diagrams

Her problem

Tomorrow she will still be the one running from pillar to post looking for solutions

Tookool:

I have never had such experience oh, After withdrawing from the pos or after I have recieved a debit alert for a transfer transaction, then my money is reversed back to me. Does it truly happen ?

Yes it does. I transferred money to my wife's account which was successful but she didn't get any credit alert but I got a debit alert. Two days later, the money was reversed to my account.
Whxt if it was a business transaction with a stranger

Kylekent59:
ABA no dey carry last.

I can remember my first time in Abia state. It was fun.


Who remembers this song, " Dem say no tight guy can come from Aba, that's why I wan tell Dem say na lie."

Love that song till date

Skepticus:


Not true

There are several other species of snakes who eat other snakes asides the KING COBRA. Notable among them is the KING SNAKE which is notorious for eating other snakes and cannibalizes its own specie.

I was referring to among the cobra family