I don't even know what to say or where to start from... truly you're courageous and strong.
At this point, if it comes fine, if not, fine. I'm not the one to make such plans. If I get what I want, oh.. why not but if not, men e go hard o. Like I said... In this year alone, I've had two suitors. A very responsible guy and a man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, it will be very difficult. These two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage all because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it.
Like I told you before, what tickles every one's fancy is different likewise what bothers them. You may fancy all the bolded and I may not. What you want out of marriage is different from what I want. So it's not a one size fits all" thingy or compulsory that we all must like to do or have things the same way. That is why you will never see me envy married people or people with children because to me it's really nothing. Now, my Mom married at the age of 10 . Had all of us before 30 but died in her Early 40s. So of what use was her early marriage and child-bearing to her? Fine they use us to remember her but she as person, what did she enjoy in her life for achieving those? Just suffered to raise children that she didn't live to see even one grandchild? Abeg abeg.
Why? That's like saying I regret.. I have saidvit countless times that I've never regretted it for once . Ok let me even pause for a moment and try to remember if I ever wished I did.......... 🤔 🤔 🤔.... Ogbeni nothing like that o. Rather I've always thought that if I had married maybe by now I would have left the marriage cos e for don taya me and that's the truth. In fact.. sometimes I used to silently thank my stars that I'm not married with kids in this economy because I can't endure suffering and hardship with children. Not like Im wishing myself hardship but men in this present economy, everyone is facing it and someone like me can't take the heat with such responsibilities even when shared. There's a friend of mine that always wish to switch places with me saying I'm enjoying because I don't have anything bothering me and I'll tell her I'm glad I don't have those bukata.
Stigmatization? LoL.. see so far e no affect my pocket, whatever anyone says in that regards does not bother me. it's when you listen or go close to people they'll stigmatize you. I don't keep companies. I'm a loner and it helps a lot to stay away from such. No be if I smile with you you come know wether I don marry or not. I feel free saying it here because no body knows me in person and it all ends here. Of course some people in the past have said some things like your twin is married you're here forming oge, but I didn't give a damn because when I look at their lives im doing far better than them and living life to the fullest. Abi What is life about? No be enjoyment? See it's all in your head o.life no hard reach like that
I love my family. They will never pressure you. My dad before he died would be like, if you do anyhow I'll take my daughter back ( referring to my in-laws.) So all his inlaws are pals with him. They'll be like ogor, oya make we go chill. He will tell you, don't stress them for me o. As for the single ones he'll make sure he provides our needs so we don't look outside. Even as a working class lady, my dad when he collects his pension, he will buy a bag of rice and share to every one of us in our various houses. He was still giving me money till his death in 2012 ( miss you pop). My dad na guy man. Him no send o.
Forget, this life is what you make of it. I try as much as I can to enjoy myself and make every minute of it count
I love this post. You are a free bird just like me. I'm a renegade when it comes to following certain cultural 'norms' Stay free and do whatever makes you happy. That's the most important thing in life. People take things too seriously but for real, nothing really dey this life like this. Bless you🙂
Because from the womb you as a black man has been programmed to think only about you.
When you give out, u make the world know or you give out selfishly. You believe you have a reward. Even your kids that you train, you had hope they will look after you when you get old. My dear, that's the black man's mentality.
Have you ever thought of how you will retire? Planning towards it?
If you go to grocery stores where I lice, uou have small section where shoppers drop in anything they feel like after shopping for the hungry. They look for no glorification. You will not even know somebody put in something. There're days kids donate small token for the hungry. It's a ritual you grow up with and you just continue with it. Children are encouraged to give out what they don't use anymore in schools. Little children. They will just tell their parents. Even though there are food and cloth banks, these kids are encouraged to see giving as serving the society. People that did outstanding deeds are honoured. Kids are encouraged to pick dirt and put in designated bins. Fastwords to 60yrs later, you will see wrinkled oldies doing the same. You know why, cos they were programmed to do that from cradle.
It's all about money for the black man especially Nigerian. Nigeria will never be OK with such mindset. Tomorrow, if you are in their shoe, you will behave exactly like them. It's psychological.
Nice one. Greed and selfishness are at the root of the problems of Africans. A super greedy people don't have any business creating a nation and nationhood. Sometimes I wonder if greed is one of the primordial instincts or DNA, recessive in other races but still dominant in us blacks😁 I mean, it could be, sadly.
Bring the falling tree down on the waiting lion. That should incapacitate, if not kill it. Then bolt out of there asap. Snakes aren't super fast on land.
My father is this, my mother is that.... connection this connection that... chochocho.. but same you is scared if you'll ever get a job in the already saturated pool, same you is scared ChatGPT won't allow you have a job, same you is worried if you are wasting your time learning frontend technologies that seems to be popular among techies in the country, same you is learning all technologies in the world just to have an edge over others when you start applying for a junior dev job.
Let me tell you what you are for free!!!
You are a son or daughter of nobody, a piece of garbage, very useless and uncouth kid from the gutter.
Wow, you're good. You saw through and diagnosed her
Like you rightly pointed out, she's anxious. Scared that she won't get anything for her efforts. Scared of the massive number of applicants to the few available positions and also scared of AI taking over jobs. So she doubles down to study more so she would stand out.
I was like her a couple of years ago, minus the coming on Nairaland to make condescending comments. Lol.
DonroxyII: Bro .. Aswear ... I'm still growing oo ... But I Learnt the Hard way sha !
learnt life lessons sha:
Be Battle Ready Don't let them catch You Weak or Unmanly even during Plays let them Feel Your Vibes no use all Ya body and mouth play
"Befriend with all Using Eye Services Only and
"Befriend with Non Deep Down Your Mind"
Corporate world na Street Forget the suits and ties and Posh English ... if you dull dem go hustle You, they can Kill You ... They ain't your Families Because everyone is there to Hustle ...
I don't set to hurt anyone and I'm not set to get Hurt and I'm ready to Hurt Anyone that wants to Hurt me!
Na office introduce God to Me wellwell ...
I have seen a Director who is a Paddi with CEO but on Wrong foot with CFO.. He used the CFO error to displaced his paddi CEO and CFO at a go ... Fiiannn like Film
He then Emerged the CEO himself ... His closeness to them was to get the working Operability and uses their errors to displace them by widening gaps between them and Oga at the Top ... Life na ! ... Betrayal everywhere!
Even when you be Oga ... Be Very careful with your inner caucus .... Some people are close to know what to use to depose You ...
Na Street Bro, Daily Bread things
True talk mehn. It's a cold world with cold mothafvckers out there
DonroxyII: At all ... I was a Novice and a Jew when a Boss used my Head and a colleague who is My 2IC(Right hand Woman) Recorded my Voice and Play it to Other Colleagues while I was Telling Her to Monitor their works Adequately ...
With Her I knew the word "Femme Fatale" ... Some woman or Lady would cozy up to You as friend to gain Info from you which you would think is Love then use the information Against You to Climb the Ladder ....
Office Politics is the best way to learn life lessons ... Dem made me a Man .... Infact No be By Juju to survive na God because where your Juju end na where your boss own dey start ....
If your boss Juju pass your Juju aswear you go wash ihm car and flush toilet for am ... because Big devil dey molest small devil but no evil can touch God's People wey come wise Join !
I don see Shege and I don show them Shege too ... E sweet sha ... see Offensive and Counter Offensive... Me na Referee oo ....
One stupid boy dey play triangular games... e go bring info to me then carry my own go give another Person who will now carry everything go give the Bearer of that Info .... Chaiii ... Na ihm I Whistle-blow the Mumu wey wan cast me ... e face Panel, I Absent myself ....
Before your fire me I go light your ass make you feel Ya fire
You be OG for d game
No dulling o. If not dem go commot bread from your mouth put stone.
I watched with my eyes where a manager who came in newly, dethroned a director, took his place, and got him fired all within a month.
Sometimes no be say person wan harm others o, but that no mean say another person no dey plan bad thing for you. As for me eh, the kind 5D chess wey I dey play eh, nobody fit see my 5 steps ahead moves. Bad as e bad we go down together. Na life, don't take it personal.
You gat to dey alert at least to protect your position whether in the office, in business or anywhere
DonroxyII: Cross Carpeting is Allowed infact new group would even love you because everyone will jumpship one after the other to the newest group in Power ....
skj1377: So your job well let your work speak for you. Office politics is seasonal because your group may be out of power over a mishap and it will ruboff on you as a beneficiary of that group. Best is do your job and manage whatever comes your way.
Well, before your group/clique gets out of power you should have already seen it and strategized on how to move to the new group in power. That way you stay afloat and on top of the game
Always get to know the health history/status of your partner. I mean it. When I say health status, I mean not just STDs but others like asthma, hypertension, diabetes, allergies, TIAs, history of D&C, drug abuse, medications, epilepsy and seizures and so many more.
Don't just go fvck around with random people because sh1t like this happens for real, and also you see that fun you were going to have? When e happen eh, na your body go tell you
Who no go no go know sha. Wetin pesin eyes don see eh. A word is enough for the wise they say.
I can sense energy and aura. I can tell if strangers are troublesome, cool, up to no good, manipulative etc.
I can do it without even interacting with them and so far, I'm right 9 outta 10 times. Sometimes I ignore the sensations and give people the benefit of the doubt, only to be proven right eventually. It's surreal.
Also, I can make you tell me your deepest secrets.
Boss, try ICE (but u fit no melt again o. Ur eye go open 247) .
Went to one of my sure guy's friend's place. Boys were on loud, music & gisting. A particular guy was with his pc & earpiece, typing & vibing to trap.
Due to our proximity, I saw several apps opened on the Taskbar. Guy was switching btwn VSCode, chrome dev mode and other apps. I knew man must be a mad tech guy.
From what I saw clearly, I swear on God, this guy legit logged in to a global trading site without registering.
Ọmọ, I thought na highness at first. I observe, I no talk.
Na later I learn say d guy na mad hacker, unfortunately, blackhat. Uses several languages interchangeably. He later told me he was self-taught.
With him bonker & lappy, no sleep till power goes off or mission accomplish.
Me sef gats withdraw some cos I no wan enter that dr*g level..
That experience taught me that there are mad techies in this country on a low.
Methamphetamine (ice) is a dangerous drug though. Shouldn't be recommended to anyone.
That's the way see eh. I am on discord groups. This white and asian kids use Adderall to Study leetcode. Once you take Adderall you brain works ten times faster and you become seriously hyperfocused. The competition is so intense. It's all they spend their time doing. I am studying with an Indian guy who's still an undergraduate. He's in level 200 and has done 720 questions. He just got an internship at cisco.
My own is that after work I am so tired and I can't do more than 3 to 4 questions so my progress is very slow. By 1 am I start to feel sleepy even putting water in my legs and trying to study doesn't work for me. I just wish I could loss the ability to sleep temporarily and still function optimally.
It's super difficult to get Adderall in Nigeria.
If you find it anywhere please let me know. I need it for my ADHD.
This addresses the first part of the problem only, remember, even elements with a count of 1 should be in the output array, also hashmaps are not ordered by default so you'd have to address that too.
Sort the map based on the keys. Then proceed to extract corresponding values into the output array, in that order.
I just add identical values in the arrays to a new array
Later check the length of each array then form a new array depending on which is longer
I guess the dictionary or hashmap solution above would be more efficient than this method if you consider space complexity. Your approach would require creating a new array for every new value but you could just use a dictionary once and for all.
Does big tech companies even interview an applicant with zero experience?
Even the start-ups, how do they go about inviting 20 people out of 1000 applications?
What are the criteria?
DSA is important but if you have nothing to show other than "Software Developer" in front of your name in today's world, without referral through your network, you're just trying to cut a tree with a razor blade.
True though. But also alternatives to GitHub commits may include: -Your rank on a competitive programming leaderboard. -Contributions to open-source projects(This is also GitHub anyway) -A degree from an ivy League CS program
But project-based interviews aren't easy either. Implementations can be nerve-racking and time-consuming. You need a lot of experience to stand a chance.
The up side is, they aren't like the puzzles and abstract stuff you get with whiteboard. At least you'd be working on something real
Developer A: Data structures and algorithm guru. Has no evidence of real life projects or any contribution to any project.
Developer B: Has a very rich portfolio of complex projects with evidence by his git commits. You can see his coding style. You can see logic and good use of data structures and algorithms in his code base.You know where he is in terms of experience.
The truth is before you're even invited for that Data structures technical interview, there must hav been some kind of screening process (except you applied through refferal). Most often, such interviews are to further screen out applicants.
How do I know you can code if I've not seen anything you've done in the past and you have never worked as a developer before. Worse, I don't know you or anything about you except that you're calling yourself a softwarr developer in your application.
The easiest way to reduce doubts about your inexperience is to show what you've done. How? Portfolio of projects. Where? Github.
Well...top tech companies are big on the whole whiteboard(DSA) interview process. Especially when interviewing for a software engineering role.
They don't really care about the number of projects you've done or your GitHub repos, even if they might be used for screening. It is crazy but it is the standard.
Thankfully many other not-too-techy companies would do with just your projects and brute force programming skills
If only you used a bit more effort to read through the post, you'll have seen where I referenced "solid repositories" and I'm sure I mentioned "before recruiters go into the detail".
Good luck getting a job with 50 commits as a beginner without experience. Most times, you'll only get to Data Structures and Algorithm stage IF you don't get screened out with your 50 commits.
I never did Data Structures based interview even as an entry level applicant. Thats not to say its not relevant though. Many organisations are adopting take-home "real" application development.
True.
Many companies don't do whiteboard interviews. It's straight up project-based.
I think there's a subreddit where companies in that category are listed.
Build mobile apps and upload to playstore. It's easier for potential employers to give you a chance that way.
This.
Drop the job seeker orientation and work with the entrepreneurial mindset. You'd be able to build solutions most companies will admire an they'd want to have you on board. Maybe then you'd even turn them down because your cool app is turning over 4 figure USDs on a daily
Who is the illiterate now? Is higher education the same thing as high school? LMAO. The arrogant ones are always the ignorant ones.
I've said it before. Many of this HR guys or recruiters aren't half as qualified as the people they interview.
Dumbass illiterate
That guy's gatekeeping is fvcking annoying. Typical Nigerian. All degree, no skills. Thankfully recruiters like him are in the minority.
I mean top companies will do anything to get you if you have a mind-blowing portfolio of projects and can defend them by demonstrating core CS knowledge. No one cares about your damn degree.
But people like that guy...they wouldn't even give you a chance because they didn't see a 'masters degree' on your CV. Archaic mentality.
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Stay free and do whatever makes you happy. That's the most important thing in life. People take things too seriously but for real, nothing really dey this life like this. Bless you🙂
