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@op, do you just have inter...course(coitus) with her or lovemaking with her, there is a wide difference btwn d two.
You dont need to ask your wife for s.e. x, she should have known that there is going to be action in d evening or at any other time of d day, lovemaking starts from waking up, with d way you will be flirting with her all around d places.........speaking from experience.
May God help us all.

debrief08: Haba Greatgod, this is the first time I will disagree with you that I can remember na.
My sister, we agree most times and when we differ it shouldn't be an issue like this.
Why would you think I have an issue with you or anyone? For over a year me and you have written alomst identical posts and the one day I disagree with you alll these come out?
No nah, we can't agree all the time, even teeth and mouth different, I may have been too strong but all I said was No food doesn't cause divorce and wrote the major causes,
I also wrote that most men who cheat actually have wives who cook. We do this all the time now, people even people I agree with teaar my posts apart sometimes its not personal my sister.
No vex ko! Leave me and go where na? How na babe, you no dey go anywhere jor, we go dey here old together, celebrate more milestones and even grand children.
But be prepared jor, we will disagree some more, feel free to pick out anything you don't agree with in my posts.
We cannot quarrel. Besides you don forget say I be lawyer? If you see Lawyers for court you will imagine that they are sworn enemies but after court na tea or wine we go gather drink.
Also the only person I have never differed with yet is Sisikill and that from what you said means I have problem with everyone here be that which is not the case at all.
So no vex ko
Disagreeing with any other person doesn't mean I haave problems with their handles, at least Madam CC willl bare witness, I disagree with her comments sometimes more than anyones but we know how far.

So coolu temper, you no dey go anywhere, na here we go dey tay tay.

debrief08: Greatgod please where are your statistics to show that wives that can't cook are the leading cause of divorces.
From even the court cases reported on Nairaland, Infidelity, Finance and abuse seem to be the top reasons am yet to read one case which is about cooking skills or lack of it.
Don't throw figures around except you can substantiate it.
That you like cooking doesn't mean every woman does and must.

What works for you may not work for others, a man who cheats will cheat because he wants to, nothing "pushes" him out than his greed and lack of restraint. Same with a woman who cheats.
I am not against women cooking but please this "if you don't do this your husband will be snatched picth" is over flogged.
The women whose husbands cheat did they tell you they don't cook? They are cooking 3 course meals, pepper soup and all sorts even with personal funds just to "please" their husbands so please if a man decides to cheat it has nothing to do with cooking skills, real men find a way to work around short comings not look for the easiest excuse to cook.

Poster, marriage is beyond your stomach, find a woman who loves you for who you are, who you can love selflessly, who will compliment and help you grow.
A wife is beyond a cook, so remove the mypoic veiw that all a wife is good for is food

some things are getting clearer,
pls, debrief, maybe you will have to go thru my first post on this thread, because, i never said not cooking is on d top causes of divorces, and i dont even know why you have to condemn my comment b4 you can prove yours, you have your opinions, i have mine, but from observations, i discover that you are good at condemning other pple's comments to make your own comments more acceptable, you dont need that, i dont think i have ever done that to anyone here, everyone is entitled to his/her opinions, no one has right to condemn another poster's opinions. Its a faceless forum, you know.
Moreso, i observe that you seem to have issues/clash of opinions with some handles here, well, if my handle is one of them, then,i will rather leave NL (family section) for you than having e-clash with your handle........life is too short for all that.
Im out!

y me: If she can't cook, get a cook

you are kidding me right

staicey: Was it written down in any constitution that all women MUST know how to cook

I mean, I dont get why the whole fuss about a woman must be able to cook issue, its really not worth it.
If you woman knows how to cook, then your luck, if she doesnt, well still your luck..
For all I know, a guy can still cook for a family and while he is at it, the lady who doesnt know how to cook can still learn from him. Why should cooking be a subject of break up in a family This is totally a NAIJA mentality.. and it is so messed up. No freaking way!

Okay, what if in a circumstance a NAIJA man falls in love with a SOUTHAFRICAN woman and ofcourse, all the woman knows how to cook is her native food, what should be done in this case? They go their separate ways because of it? huh? Not worth it at all, nahh..

I beg to differ in this case, cooking mustn't be for the woman alone..

well, dear, no one is saying cooking is for women alone, men too can cook, but women are originally and conventinally d "cook" of d family, i remember in our social studies then, in pry schl days, we were all taught, d most important duty of mothers(wives) is to cook for d family, even my kids have also been taught, they sing it at home, to my hearings everyday, so, that a woman does not know how to cook is out of it, for a woman who wish to get married and wish to be loved, i mean really loved, by her hubby should learn how to cook, cooking aint so tasky, it only requires creativities, your meals depend on how creative you are, not how strong/powerful you are, so, cool down, men too cook, at least, my own man assist in cooking, even, if just to help me stir my soup, its part of it, any woman who does not know how to cook, should learn how to, simple, but for oyinbos, they may not worry, their lifestyle and culture is different from ours, but to me, i will worry if i dont know how to cook and i will worry more, if my hubby dont eat my food, each to his own, let each do as he/she please, but as for me, cooking for my famiy is a pride, i derive pleasure from it.
Peace.

This is one of d major/key area where we women are missing it,nobody can prepare my hubby's food except me, why wouldnt wives cook for their husbands, how can a wife even claim she doesnt know how to cook, WTF .......i mean, cooking is wive's conventional and important roles, women are supposed to be trained and brought up in such a way that she can make delicacies for her hubby, a husband must be able to feel proud to go home after d day's stress to cool himself down with d food prepared by his wife, not saying, wives should be cooks or slaves, but mehn, wives should be able to be submissive and humble enough to prepare her hubby's food, that is a pride to womanhood. These days, so many reasons are accountable for high rate of marital problems , and "my wife does not care for me, does not cook my food or does not know how to cook" etc have been one of d top list. No wonder, those husband snatchers usually use well-prepared food to accomplish their mission.
Well, call me any name, i dont mind, im always happy preparing food for my hubby and him eating with smile and looking at my face with happy facial impression thanking me, and not forgetting that you can get whatever you want from a man thru his belly, abeg, cooking food for my hubby is my pleasure, my hubby eating my food always makes me fulfilled maritally.
May God help us all.

Good for her, that means, shes now a born-again xtian, well, thats good, but try to also work on yur inner mind d same way you are trying to work on your outside....
May God help you.

xynerise: The truth is I hardly get angry except when am hungry .

of course........an hungry man is usually an angry man.

Happy birthday!
Wishing you all d good things you wish yourself.
Hip! Hip!! Hip!!! Hurrah!!!!!!!!!

Hehehehe!.............
Leasing husband,
joke of d year!
Well, @op, do as you please.

andromida: Why does she have to plead with his family to release her? is she sold as a slave to them.

saying pleading to them does not means she is sold as a slave to them but to try and enlighten them why they should release her, to live without them interfering in her affairs, either by taking care of their child by themselves or by sending in their child support with which she can take care of their child.
So, try to understand my words, she is not a slave, but she had already made a mistake that will make them treat her d way she may not like.....gerrit?
May God help us all.

Awesome God!
This is indeed a miracle!
God knows how he protect His pple, especially innocent kids.
What a mighty God we serve!

Congratulations ma.........
I really thank God for you, God has a way of protecting His people, I thank God for you, for not allowing evil ones to rejoice against you.
Praise the Lord........ Halleluyah!

Mixed feelings!
Very pathetic!
Speedy and complete recovery to d baby. Horrible beginning, but hopeful future! .
Rest in peace to d couple!
May d culprits be found very soon!

Why cant this man kuku resign and have enough time to take care of himself, also to relieve himself from thinking about d whole state, abi? Afterall, being a gov shouldnt be a do or die affair, i tire for him o

Freiburger: They 're not only weak, infact they are incomplete.

thank you jare.
God bless you!

Hhhhhhmmmmm!
Na wa o......
This is real marriage drama!

Cross my leg and watching how this gonna end.

So, these BH pple never stop their attacks, na wa o!

Anyway, by tomorrow now, they will come and say its not their members that were killed...........useless wicked pple!

Quick recovery!

@op, if shes a xtian, d bible is d most motivational book she can read, also, she should always be in d company of godly pple who will always edify her spirit and lift her soul.
On d issue with her dad, she can get at least two well respected and elderly family friends or relative to help her convince her dad on her disinterest on what hes doing to her and her feelings.
Wishing her godluck.

Husbands who beat up their wives are weak and animal likes......simple!

@op, u knew u made a great mistake when you decided to follow a guy from another religion, well, d deed has been done, 1st, let your other lover know that, marrying you could only be in a dream, dont waste his time, let him know that you are already carrying a baby, that will enable him to be convinced that, you are not just trying to chase him away.
2ndly, prepare to have your baby, since your inlaws to be are aware of your pregnancy, have d baby, dance to their tune for a while, if along d line, d father of d baby show interest again and now want you to be his wife, then you can go on and legalise your marriage, but, if on d other hand, he doesnt look your side, plead with his pple (family) to release you so that you can gather yourself up again, and open d door of second chance for yourself, and along d line, do not forget to learn from your previous mistake.
May God help us all.

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and what is this thread all about?

@op, so, what are d issues you want us to bring on, that inlaws are devils? , or what, well, sorry to dissapoint you, i have a very great cordial relationship with ALL my inlaws.
So many times, many pple carry negativities and expect positivities, no way!, it doesnt work like that, what you give is what you get.
The greatest commandment is......do unto others what you want done unto you, so, my dear, no any issue, if you dont have issues yourself......just always remember that.....actions and reactions are equal and opposite.
May God help us all.

sholay2011: Let me quickly use this opportunity to thank Madam Chaircover for her insightful comments in this section. You are the no 1 person on nairaland I wud love to meet in d real world. God bless u and ur lucky hubby. Same goes for Debrief, greatgod and oda women who amaze with words of wisdom on a faceless forum.

thanks, God bless you too!
Only God is wise.

This isnt funny at all, and it can be real, something close to this happened to a couple i know very well, what they did was travelling abroad, for d past 10 years now, they havent checked back and i doubt if they can ever come to stay in Naija again........ So, to d couple here, they can go for counselling and also change enviroment, its not an experience one prays for, not even for ones enemy to have, but.....God knows d best.
May God help us all.

Shared bedroom all d way!

Wonders shall never end indeed!

Awwwwww........thats lovely of you!
Make an artistic/photographic potrait of her, with a special inscription on it.



Something like.....
"happy birthday to d best mum in d world",
"my mum, my best, ......happy birthday ma"
"A token of my love to you on your birthday"....etc.

Believe me, she will feel d most loved mum,......i tell you.

Thank God d baby wasnt born in Nigeria, if it was in Nigeria, they would have called d baby different names, infact, pple will have called it a taboo to have such a baby in ones family, and even d parents wouldnt have mind becoming murders, because im sure they would have proposed to d doctor to help them inject d baby and if d doctor refused, they will do it themselves. Infact, we still have a long way to go to liberate ourselves from the technolgical ignorance we are.
Im happy for d baby, im happy for d parents and kudos to d doctors, finally, thanks to scientist and all glory to God.

Thank God for technology!

There is nothing going on rather than a shady r/ship, as slimyem said, shes d one that will suffer more, if her hubby should find out, @op, just get a room ready for her, because, d hubby aint going to take it easy, if he finds out.

On a serious note, why dont you call her and hit d nail on d head, tell her something like......."i know you are still going after that your gynny ex, tell me, do you prefer him to your hubby?"........ Start from here, you will be able to get some facts from her, talk to her directly and not in parables, perhaps, she will disclose what is really happening to you.
Wishing you best of luck.
May God help us all.