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@ op, are you talking about d same guy here? https://www.nairaland.com/1009265/getting-married-without-financial-security#11684100

@op,If you fail to plan, you plan to fail, as d saying goes.
So stay there and continue to complain about a month been difficult when d fault is actually your after doing all d big, bigger and biggest boys/girls during d xmas/new year party, failing to remember that you will have financial obligations to meetafter all d show-off.
Well, relax, January is fast going, you will soon collect another salary.
Cheers!

aadetoyin: January is like every other month in d year but the problem is that people spend too much during the Xmas n New year holidays and they end up having nofin left for January. Its beta to have a budget of what u want to spend during the festivities, that way u won't have to worry in january.

thank you and God bless you, you have just said what is in my mind

This is part of d result when we allow our kids to have too much freedom, when parents refuse to befriend their children, when parents dont monitor d kind of company their children hangs up with,............
Well, as some have already suggested, he needs a councillor/psychologist to put him back on track.
Secondly, i can almost swear that, that big and scary thing he talked about is most likely to be related to cultism, so, if need be, there may be change of enviroment, so that he will be disentangled from d bad company he is keeping.
Next, to avoid continous contact with d presumed company he is keeping, his phone/iphone, laptop and any other gadgets that may ease his continous contact with d presumed company should be seized, or withdrawn from him for the time been.
He is an adolescent, no doubt, at this stage, teenagers are easily misled by peers especially, so, d parents need to be closer and more friendly to him to enable them have his confidence.
Now, op, where is d father in this picture, how friendly is d mother? What do you think you can do to help d young man? I think with d way you said he discussed with you, you can be more closer, probably opening up d more for you when he notice your consistence and love towards him.
Above all, d boy needs prayer, d devil/enemies might want to use him against his family, as in, as an instrument of sorrow, so d op and d parents need to pray against every shackles of d enemy over his life. Pls, mark my word, i said prayers, not deliverance in churches, lest d parents be ripped off their money or d parents be scared more. Our God is loving, we can pray by ourselves without any intermediaries, d4, d boy need to be prayed for seriously.
May God help us all.

@ op, these are your own opinions and d last time i checked, everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion.
May God help us to make good and meaningful decisions this year............ Amen.

No, its not right, remember d kid's brain is just developing, doing that means trying to corrupt d good things in d kid's brain by thinking that, going to beer parlour is a good phenomenon/practice.


Btw, even for you, its not right for you to patronise beer parlouring, remember that, bad company destroys good manners.
May God help us all.
Cheers!

[quote author=Onim's]Tnx,n happy new year to u too!!!God's mercies will not depart ur family.We all shall live dis 2013 glorifying God everyday,for His numerous blessings we will encounter in our family,IJN......[/quote]Amen, thanks.

Redmosquito: Thank you!

you are highly welcome!

Every community, local govt area, state, country, society and the world at large starts from family. In light of this, kudos to all family members here for job well done, im quite certain that some families would have benefitted immensely from this section. Glory to God for such and thanks to some pple who have devoted their time in solving family conflicts thru their advice, comments, criticisms, information dissemination, etc.......thank you all.

Im not going to mention any name, lest i offend some people, but if you know you are a family member here, kudos to you! You are very much appreciated. God in His infinity mercy will uphold everyone's home here, preserve our children and annoint our family for favour, success and happiness. Lets keep the good work up, we shall be rewarded if we do not relent.
Thank you one, thank you all!

Once again, happy new year 2013 to all family members.
Love you all!

Rest in peace, Bisi.

abeg, whey oluface o, make him come continue d tory, i dey gbadun am weliweli......oluface.....show face now now

Congrats, my dear, wishing you safe, stress-free and less pain delivery.......amen.


See you next year and expecting you to open another thread with d title that will look like, "rejoice with me as my bundle of joy arrives"

happy new year!

Why dont you talk about getting a new heart to do good for d new year instead of new clothes?

jidegirl12: Tough one..... call grandma and have a serious mother son talk with her.... she's crossing her boundaries and your wife's gonna lose it on her one day and its not gonna be long.....Good luck

Hello my people Debrief, Greatgod and my sister chaircover ..... I wish y'all happy new year in good health and abundant wealth!

happy new year to you too, my dearling sister......how is everyone up there....love you!

Ofcourse, we dont need to loose hope, we shall get there very soon, i believe....lets all join hand together to lift Nigeria up....may God help us all.

FG is just saying all these because it has just affected one of them......they want to give good impression about themselves, well, lets wait and see if those words are not going to be swept under d carpet within some weeks.
Mtchew.....

Staying faithful requires
D E C I S I O N& CONTEMPTMENT...... nothing more.

Happy married life to them.... Amen.



Ibrahim chatta, i love that guy, he acts naturally......acting seems easy and natural to him.....
I wish him well in this his new journey.

Serving God with grudges among themselves for over 20 years......hhhhhhhmmmmmmm, God dey see ya all.

oluface: 99% of Nigeria police are Animals in Uniform... Damboroba Seige... Kutu ubanka.. Dan banza... Awon Were.

haba! Kilode? Wetin dem do you?

chuks49: Help the police to help you

are you a police officer?


##No offence, just asking##

No!

And Jesus said.......they honour me with their mouths, but their hearts are far from me.............hypocrites

And Jesus asked........when i return, will i still meet faith on ground?

And this pple will claim to be christians, they will also claim they are serving God, can anybody fool God? Can anybdy mock God?............. Nooooooooooo!..........they are fooling themselves, they are mocking themselves..

This is what happens when pple turn service to God into business venture.

djeezy: In the church(Anglican). I just love the cross over service. Afterwards, I'll proceed to league of fireworks. I love new year fireworks...

we are both Anglican family.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Greedy!

I think your mother is suffering from insecurity, hence, seeing her as a rival and not as a daughter in law. She is dominative and do not want anything/anyone, not even your wife to be in-between both of you....you are d one to fight for your freedom, for your right, try to educate her, as important as she(your mother)is in your life, she cannot perform your wife's role, so, confront her respectfully and demand for your freedom and right.
May God help us all.

Even me, sef fit do this, so its not a bad idea, atleast, it will help to caution

i really sympatise with you for what you are passing thru, everyone has one thing or d other they pass thru in their marriage, ther is no perfect marriage anywhere, all that counts is tolerance and compromise,but with your decision to get a 2nd wife will not solve your problem either, why dont you try and cool down with her, ask her why she normally run away after disagreement, that is if you are not d one causing it in d first instance, have a long chat with her, try to woo her back. If she still repeat what she does after you have talked with her, you can involve someone whom she respect very well to help you talk to her,or you involve a councillor betterstill. Make everything possible to make your marriage work, consider your children, your status and you and your wife's happiness befre thinking otherwise. Introducing polygamy into your life and marriage will add more to your problems, believe me, im frm a polygamous family, and i know what im talking about, i cant wish my enemy polygamous experience, no, i cant be that wicked.
May God help us all.

i really sympatise with you for what you are passing thru, everyone has one thing or d other they pass thru in their marriage, ther is no perfect marriage anywhere, all that counts is tolerance and compromise,but with your decision to get a 2nd wife will not solve your problem either, why dont you try and cool down with her, ask her why she normally run away after disagreement, that is if you are not d one causing it in d first instance, have a long chat with her, try to woo her back. If she still repeat what she does after you have talked with her, you can involve someone whom she respect very well to help you talk to her,or you involve a councillor betterstill. Make everything possible to make your marriage work, consider your children, your status and you and your wife's happiness befre thinking otherwise. Introducing polygamy into your life and marriage will add more to your problems, believe me, im frm a polygamous family, and i know what im talking about, i cant wish my enemy polygamous experience, no, i cant be that wicked.
May God help us all.