₦airaland Forum

tarababy: He was not shocked or surprised.He said spitting is no big deal,afterall he uses the same mouth to give me mouthaction.
can u imagine him comparing spits to mouthaction?

this one na serious case o, i think its beyond what i can say anything about again.
Well, thank God you have your job and you are not dependent on him, just move on with your life as you have decided, and of course d enviroment is not good for the children's psychology at all, therefore, think about it very well, i cant imagine myself in this mess, im more valuable than this and i wouldnt allow anyone, not even my hubby to reduce me to nothing......haba, is it a crime to be married?...anyway i wish you what you wish yourself.
May God help us all.

Since it is legal and documentations are involved, one can involve his lawyer

Definately, i will feel bad, but one can never know what can be done until it happens.
However, i pray it never happen to me.

Disposable, all d way, but anybody that cant afford d disposable ones can go for washable ones, is not bad and should not be something to be ashamed of, afterall, if anybody refuse to cut his coat according to his size, he will blame himself for it and pple will blame him as well.
For anybody that can afford it, disposable is d best.

tarababy: I have a job,so I can sustain myself and my two children financially.I have always been an independent women and so don't reliable on him for anything.

He spat on me again yesterday and i did mine back this time around.I have decided to move on in the new year,the environment is definately not good for my boy and girl.

good for you and what was his reaction when you spat on him back?
Expecting your response.

My wish for Nigeria is for Nigeria to be more peaceful.

@jidegirl, its not that its not good to assist, but problem is likely to occur because of d bond that may likely to be between d child and d surrogate mother.
Sincerely, i must tell you, i dont know how you look at it o, but carrying a baby for 9 months in your womb, breatfeed d baby for may be 10-12 months and then later hand over d baby to d original parent, dont you think there is likely to be a breach of contract as time goes on, my sister anything can happen.
I, personally, will recommend adoption for a childless couple, instead of surrogacy, especially in Nigeria, because anything can happen o .........anything can happen, sometimes, there is more than two sides to a coin.

Woged2005: Ok ma. Nice to get another perpective. I guess It's more about culture because young women do this all the time in USA, India and elsewhere. It's just our culture that an out-of-wedluck pregnant girl is 'bad market' for her family. But hei a woman is not a comodity. Here in Nigeria innocent pregnant teens are labelled wayward, irresponsible, etc thrown out of the house by parents while the man celebrates his manhood. In USA the girl is taken good care of. Govt forces the man to pay her child support until the baby turns 18(A practical belief in the sacntity of life, not just preaching it).

The alternative in this case for a desperate childless woman is to patronize baby miracle centres. We wonder why babies are being stolen from chuches and maternities. My Pastor once said "Talk is cheap because supply exceeds demand". Nigerians, let's have practical solutions to real issues.

Ma, I love your eye-opening perpective though. God Bless you.

hello, did you read my post at all, before writing this trash, what does miracle baby center, out of wedlock pregancies,etc, has to do with my post, pls, read all over again and modify your post. Thanks.

Whenever there is disagreement btw d partners, this is d type of utterances you are likely to hear:
From already made............will you sharap? Where were you or any of your family when i was making my money, is it not because of my money that you glue yoursely to me by force, abeg, leave me alone, you this poverty stricken fellow, gold digger........


From in d making guy........ I dont know why you just want to pull down d house u built by yourself, take it easy dear, so that another person will not reap d fruit of your labour. You know we both worked for this, dont let anger defaud you of your reward.....blah, blah, blah...
On a serious note, staying with in d making guy proves genuine love, both parties, and even everyone will be convinced of this truth.
However, if its d already made man, though, it may be with genuine love, but d genuinety of such love may be doubted, either by d man or by his pple or even by d friends.......they may be thinking d love is as a result of his wealth.
May God help us all.

afam4eva: I'm a very jelous person and i can't stand seeing my wife kissing another man on TV. Tufuakwa.

its like you and my hubby came from d same heaven, because, this is what he always say.........but seriously, why are u men so jealous?

I wait, but d day im so hungry and i cant wait, i will call and inform him that i want to eat my food o, and when he comes, i sit with him when eating, gisting till he finish eating.

chaircover: I am not sure what you are mostly against; the fact hat the pastor is in this families biz or effects of surrogacy on this woman. I cant speak for the pastors because I am not a pastor but I can speak as a mother.

Surrogacy is not something to be taken lightly and I personally wouldn't do it because its unlikely that i will give the baby up after he/she is born. The mother baby bond is a very tight one from the very first day pregnancy is confirmed and that is why you see many surrogate mothers refusing to give up the baby after birth and that is why, many women who put up their kids for adoption live with the guilt for the rest of their lives and many regret it . . . So there is an emotional side to it.

Now to the physical and practical side of things. . . This woman is 26 and so should be settling down with her own family round about now, but here she is carying a baby for another couple. She has also refused the money, so she doesn't even need the money, which will even make it harder to give up the baby after birth. Lets also not forget that Pregnancy does take its toll on the body and very few women revert 100% back to the way that they were before pregnancy. . . even if it is one faint stretch mark and a .00000001 percent gravity shift in her bosoms.

Surrogacy is not lending someone your car or lending someone your gele and it has to be thought about very carefully. The family is right to question it. i would certainly question my sister and make sure that she knows what she is doing even if she was 40 years old! and has the mental capacity to live with the effects of it for the rest of her life. We are talking about a baby here and that is my neice or nephew too at the end of the day.

heeeee, madam CC, u just hit d nail on d head.....Gbam!
Opolo yin o ni daru......amin.
Some pple just take decision without thinking about it properly.
Sometimes ago, i was still in school then, my sister confided in me that she wanted to do this type of thing for her friend, since she had stopped childbearing, i shouted on her and educated her as much as i could, of d dangers and impossibilities there, when i noticed she just kept to herself concerning d matter, i reported her to our mum, who rejected vehemently. Thank God she didnt do it, if not, only God knows what would have become of their friendship now. Anyway, u've spoken well and i pray the sister wise up. Thank you ma.
Btw, how was your xmas and family?
Happy new year in advance!

The conversation is nice, especially when it has to do with me and goodness.
I therefore, say amen to all d indirect prayers in d thread........... Amen.

May God help us, parenting is such a tasking job, that one may not succeed without d help of God.

k2039: [color=soyouquotedme]As much as my father isn't/wasn't responsible for my upbringing, all I can just learn from him is to be a better father for my children.

It's pointless hating him, I can just learn from his mistakes. [/color]

you are an intelligent and wise guy.
There are two ways you can emulate someone, you either learn to be like d person OR you learn NOT to be like d person.
May God help us all.

Callotti: He should involve NO ONE till a DNA test has been performed FIRST!


Not a family matter until the wife has been briefed!

fully supported!

Of what benefit is smoking before?
Whether HIV infected or not, what is d essence of smoking?..........its bad and will continue to be bad, even, d federal ministry of health confirms it.

Let them continue to gamble, but it will take a while for them to win, probably not in this their generation.
Nonsense!

I will definately try this. Thanks.

Im not condemning those who use to buy toy guns for their children, but as for me, i have never bought toy guns for them and i dont intend to ever buy it for them...........to me, it breeds violence in kids.
However, so many different types of toys out there, i prefer those ones to guns.

IGBEYAWO

Two things are involved here:

Its either he convince me and i support him or i convince him and he repent.

Disagreements are normal in marriages, only that, it should not unnecessarily linger for too long a time. However, im surprised here that some men are claiming that they reject food when there is disagreement because they are trying to avoid food poisoning. Hey.....excuse me, what type of marriage is that, for someone to be thinking that his wife will poison him thru food because of disagreement.........na wa o, some pple are better not called couple, abi, i dont understand o.........or am i missing something, well, may God help us all.

I will rather not comment, but i know that God in his infinite mercy will have mercy on us in this country.......amen.

If it turn out to be true, then RIP to him.

debrief08: The man is petty and wicked. So when the sisters start reporting and fighting with the wife now he will turn and say she is wicked.
Let the woman be, we cook and leave in the flask, everyone serves themselves, It is stinginess that makes people monitor who eats what. What is food ? Why should I monitor rations of adults?
Please people should stop being petty, allow people to eat.
The husband in this case is wicked, when the wife talks now they won't say it is their brother na madam go be culprit, if he doesn't like it can't he talk? Why does he want to throw her under the bus?

People who count meat and measure food for adults suprise me.
Where I am from and how I was raised we make sure everyone is fed, when I was younger all neighbors eat together in trays of food. Food is not an issue.

Lol @ counting meat or measuring food, is that possible?
Anyway, nothing wey no fit happen under d heaven sha, but, im kind of....can that happen to an adult?
Madam, how are you and family. How was your Xmas?
Happy new year in advance!

debrief08: The man is petty and wicked. So when the sisters start reporting and fighting with the wife now he will turn and say she is wicked.
Let the woman be, we cook and leave in the flask, everyone serves themselves, It is stinginess that makes people monitor who eats what. What is food ? Why should I monitor rations of adults?
Please people should stop being petty, allow people to eat.
The husband in this case is wicked, when the wife talks now they won't say it is their brother na madam go be culprit, if he doesn't like it can't he talk? Why does he want to throw her under the bus?

People who count meat and measure food for adults suprise me.
Where I am from and how I was raised we make sure everyone is fed, when I was younger all neighbors eat together in trays of food. Food is not an issue.

Lol @ counting meat or measuring food, is that possible?
Anyway, nothing wey no fit happen under d heaven sha, but, im kind of....can that happen to an adult?
Madam, how are you and family. How was your Xmas?
Happy new year in advance!

Once there is healthy relationship between them, i dont think its wrong, if its food that is involved. What even happen is that i serve my hubby first or betterstill, i keep his own portion inside d cooler and thereafter everybody serve themselves, who want die, especially, during festivities, abeg, serve yourself is our system.
However, if its soup, i would rather not allow that once i have already put my hand, its either i serve everybody or d SIL serve everybody, i dont like more than one person's hand in a soup.
My opinion anyway.
May God help us all.

as for me o, my own man never refuse to eat when there is disagreement. He calls me and request for his food, d only thing is that, there may not be jokes cracking, but will definately not reject d food and at d same time, makes sure d disagreement do not last beyond a day.

This is a lesson, nobody should be trusted.

What about;
1.Ti Oluwa ni ile.
2. Thunderbolt........by mainframe.
3. Madam Dearest....featuring Yemi Solade et al.
4. Things fall apart....featuring Pete Edochie et,al
5. Dangerous Twins....featuring Ramsey Noah et,al