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[quote author=Mynd_44]Not really. The fact that you have each other's passwords does not make either of you anymore faithful than your next door neighbour.

Marriage is all about trust and if your partner needs to have your password before he/she can believe you are faithful then there is something wrong.

But hey what do I know?[/quote]hey, i never asked for it, hes d one that will tell me willingly, even his ATM pin,once he opens any account, he tells me....hey honey, i just opened an account now and so..so..so is d pin number, same with all his social account. And thank God i never betray his trust on any of them, not even with his phone.......but i think that is own way of being open.
May Gd help us all.

CrazyMan: More like breach of privacy...but since it works for you and you hubby, I'd say carry on.

holy spirit is my witness, i never checked on any of his social account, not even his phone, but he is just trying to be open in his own way

This is what happens when we so much trust pastors like they are super-humans. Abeg, pastors are human too, with evil instinct/desire, d4, we should thread softly when we are dealing with them and every other person.
As for this young girl now, i doubt if she will want to practice christianity with what she has just experienced.
Hhhhhmmmm, call me an unbeliever, if you like, but i dont indulge any pastor beyond necessary, infact, im more cautions in a matter, when it involves any so-called MOG.
I wish d man(pastor) is properlly and lawfully dealt with, so that, it will serve as detterent to other people in d same shoe with him.
May God help us all.

Nndabawa said the suspect, Mr. Udeh Sabastine, allegedly killed his wife, AbigailSabastine, at 4am, yesterday, after a disagreement.......................
Not again, in this new year....
This is what we are saying o.....if d woman had ran away befre it got to this stage, maybe, she would still be alive. Inasmuch as i dont support divorce, i dont support physical abuse neither, i will rather advise d woman to run for her dear life, before d man take a terrible step like this one, because she must have been seeing d signal that this may happen someday.
RIP to d poor woman, maybe, in her next life, she would learn to be wiser.
May God help us all.

No! It breeds DISTRACTION FROM ACADEMICS to both of you.

Yes, my hubby have them all, and i have all his........

Its called faithfulness and openess in marriage.

Hhhhmmmm.......pathetic!

tobechi74: D guy must be paying for his sins since of insulting JONATHAN

indeed!

Ehhhhhheeeeee, nothing wey i no go see fr NL!
Na wa o, i wonder what d op want to do with this information when supplied.

Where is d mother of d baby? was she supportive? why is d mother not mentioned at all, because a 4-months old baby should be beside/with d mum, so where is d mother.... The story is not completed without mentioning d mother.
Hhhhhmmmm, wicked world!

I will like this question/thread to be trashed.

Pathetic!.......my hubby told me sometimes ago about a guy in their place of work, who had an encounter with another guy who is into hard drug business. During d course of their discussion, he asked how and where he usually get to buy d drugs from and how he is not been arrested by d police, and he confided in d guy that he use to get d drugs from NDLEA officers, that they normally sell out d drugs seized from their victims and that it was even a police officer who linked them (d harddrug seller and d NDLEA officer)together.
Isnt this pathetic?
Well, may God heal our land...... Amen.

I support d op.

A married man..............WTF



serve him right!


Rest in pieces!

As for me o, traditionally, there is a defined role for each at home.
The husband, being d head of d family is to see to d finances, discipline, securityetc, while d wife is d home maker.......sees to d affairs of d home,house chores children and all that.
Agreed, no two marriages are d same, what works for marriage A may not work for marriage B.
Personally, i dont believe in 50/50 sharing in marriage, i believe in complementary.....yes, when it comes to finances, i add my own, but not actually my duty/role, im only been reasonable in complementing my hubby's effort with my finances and i think it should be appreciated. Likewise, when my hubby assist me in housechores like bathing for kids, cooking, sweeping, etc, it is not his duty/role, he is only reasonable to complement my effort and should be well appreciated. Each time my hubby helps out in housechore, i go to him after a while and thank him with a very looong kiss, d same thing he does, anytime i offer to clear a certain bill, he thanks me with a looooog kiss, that is to say that, each of us identify our roles and we appreciate each other when we complement our efforts. I think it shouldnt be....enh, since i also share d bill, you should also share d housechores with me.......that is competition, i dont compete with my hubby, never will i, even, if he doesnt help, i can only appeal not enforce or spell it out to him to help, but, like i've said earlier, to each, his own. Know what works for your marriage and do it accordingly. May God help us all.

thatchic: You started a thread in 2009 that you had doubts about your son’s paternity. Twenty two months later you were making enquiries about a sperm boosting drug. So from your previous threads I can deduce that you have male factor infertility (I may be completely off). Are you grasping on because you truly love your wife and son/stepson or you are just desperate and want to maintain the status quo. This is the second separation within months and it seems your wife already put your business out there: self-preservation or she wanted to shame/humiliate/embarrass you. Her actions have spoken louder than words and you need time alone to think, do not make/take decisions based on emotions and fear. If you can, go and see a urologist and a fertility specialist and sort your medical issues out. Life is too short and should not be spent, begging undeserving people to remain in your life. Your marriage may be over and your wife holds the entire cards, if the boy is not yours, visitation may not be possible. And that might be your greatest pain/fear, your child (you have been there since day one) taken away, my prayers are with you.

sincerely, with this your "digging -down"......you have actually helped d op to solve his problem, it now depends on him if he is ready to do d right thing or want to form a pity party all around himself.
On behalf of d op, i say, thank you.

@op, read thatchic's post over and over again, and do d right thing and you can as well add DNA test,.... may God help you.

desertboom: Sister, you understand the situation better. Many at times I wonder how life will be like for my parents when I finally get married and move out of the house to stay on my own.

I wonder, who will take good care of my parents when I finally leave
Maybe, we'll all have to stay together both my wife and parents as one family. Yes, that will be the best option. Yes, yes and yes

staying together with your parents when you get married? And you think that is going to be d best solution? why dont you talk to them into adoption or betterstill, into getting a maid.....because, this your decision.....ehn, if you try it, you are likely to regret in within a short while......talking about interference in your marriage by your parents, which your partner may find offensive or rather irritating.....well i wish you goodluck, but, as a sister, i will want you to have a rethink over this. May God help you.

Kslib: Mehn,it aint easy oh...
Lonliness: i have so gotten used to it that i like isolating myself from people and being alone... Mum keeps treating me like a little child,if i no gree eat,she go dey vex say i dey starve myself....
I always compromise to always make her happy cos i dont want her to feel like i'm taking advantage of being her only child...
Mum always likes to dictate how i should live my life and gets angry when i oppose...
Inshort,being the only child has made me shun most of what i liked doing cos i want to always make my mum happy... It aint easy atall... I jealous people who have siblings and wish i had one,but there are some things in life that you just cant get..
Well my mum loves me to pieces that it scares the hell out of me to disappoint her.. So i'm always under pressure in how i behave and live my life....
Mum wants to know my friends,where i go and my private life and all.. Like seriously,WTF...
Lastly and most importantly,mum thinks she owns my life and wants me to live it to her taste... The thing don tire me but i no wan break this woman heart cos women are fragile....

chai! D lady you will date/marry must and should be extra ordinarily patient and tolerant, because your mum might not take some things easy with her, infact, she has to please your mum always before she could really win your heart.........just thinking how that is gonna be....... May God help you ooooooooooooooo.

I love this, shows how strong and healthy d baby was at birth.

My kids call me "my mummy"


very funny, they never call without adding "my"

i call my own mother....."maami"

i never get time to watch any movie this year.

Hanihairy: Hmm....na wa oh. One day sumone wil wake up n wil want 2 knw if he can really ease himself wifout first undressing n d first place 2 air such a topic wil b on nairaland.....were are the good old days

hhhhmmmm, and you think this is not a good debatable topic...... I doubt if you can identify any good topic on this forum.......smh.......

[quote author=Mercy-u]She said d guy is hot tempered,beats her,and anytime they quarel,d bf will destroy every single thing hes ever bought 4 her.[/quote]you this pple will never stop to amuse me, so, this type of guy is worth considering? abi? Anyway, its her life, she cant die twice, because, if she tries settling down with him, one day, when there is disagreement, he would have killed her before his eyes are opened, by then, it would have been too late.

Abeg, this is new year........ Good riddance to bad rubbish!

And you think that one is possible, have you forgotten about "individual differences"?

I dont believe in all this new year resolution stuff jare....do i have to wait till d end of a year before i can make new reslutions.....its all crap!

Yeah, you are right, i know quite some nairalanders, who their opening and finising points is not beyond front page.

How i wish they actually keep to d vows and not just trying to satisfy their dad, because of the affection between them..........we've heard of notorious virgins, desperate virgins, and even, wicked virgins.