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@op, thanks for this beautiful thread. But your thread title should have been directed not only to men(husbands) but also to women (wives) as well. Something like '5 signs of irresponsibility shown by married people' would have been better.

Let everyone who is guilty of any of these bad signs adjusts and make amends for the sake of one's marriage.

Olorun a ko wa moo se o. Amin.

You are not wicked at all. Once bitten, twice shy.

That's why one's antecedents matters in almost everything in this life.
That's the price to pay for not having integrity.
My personal opinion, please.



And BTW, op, change that "I'm" to "Am" in your title.
Thanks.

My sister, I chose not to make any post for a while, but, 1, I can't see your thread and overlook it, and 2, the thread is too beautiful to be overlooked.


Honestly, I don't know why and how people have misunderstanding with their MILs. Honestly, anyone who could not love her MIL like her own mother do not have business getting married to the son of the said mother. Walahi!


But my sister, you'll need to grow a thick skin for this your thread o, because you're going to be attacked front, back and centre. That is NL for you. However, those who will take your message will also take it. As for me, that's my secret.............treating others the way I will like to be treated.
May God help us all.

@ op, the black women may have problems, but I think he has more problems. If he had these issues with all the black women he came across, then, something must be seriously wrong with him.


And besides, the same way he's claiming he can't date black women is the same way some men claims they can't date white women. Each to his own.

kolod:
I really think this topic should end becos some fools are finding it as an excuse to insult God.U marine spirited individuals and idol worshipers that had the mind to insult God becos u have an avenue to type ur stupidity,ur end will be like a sudden interuption of power by Nepa,I tell u.Date d day u insult God and write it out plain. I only weep 4 ur wasted soul.

Are you threatening him?
Where is the manifestation of the love of God in this your post?

lol......

at least both of them will never forget this year for 2 things.
One for voting their preferred candidates and two for their proposal.

Goodluck to them both.

perfectionist:
@ ZACHIE
Thanks for updating your previous post.
My wife called me while they were still quarrelling, before the fight started.
I hope to God this issue is resolved amicably. I've already started the mediation process but it's not easy 'cos my mother would have none of it. Her terms for reconciliation are rather steep, necessitating the departure of my wife from the home.

yeah, your mother has every right to be annoyed, but plead with her to forgive her for your sake and the kids's sake. Let her(your mother) realise that you need both of them in your life. You can even tell her that, what if it was your own sister that did the same with her own MIL, won't your mother wish the rancour be settled instead of instisting on the wife going.
God will give you wisdom to handle this, there's a foundational cause to all this, seize this opportunity to settle all.

As for the family members present, it's non-issue, once your mother forgives, she's the one to speak to them.


But honestly, your wife did very wrong to lay hand on your mother.

Another MIL-DIL thread.



Why is your wife suspicious of your mother?
What has their relationship been like?
Why will your wife refuse your mother to take her grandchildren's picture?
Can she do the same with her own mother?
This is what we're saying, your wife couldn't tolerate your own mother, but i'm sure she will with her own mother.
Anyway, let your wife realise that what she did is wrong, except you're the one who instructed her to do what she did. Then take her to go and beg mama. Before then, beg your mother to forgive you for your own sake and the little kids' sake to please forgive your wife, tell her (your mum) to always ask you what she want instead from your wife and thereafter take your wife to go beg her with all sincerity from her.

My personal opinion, please.

qbd2:
A blood pressure monitor? Or blood sugar monitor. One of those digital monitor products.

i go with this. He really need it and may not know that he needs it, especially if he's above 50.

Your moniker says it all. Keep acting, who knows? You might become our Patience Ozokwor or our Olu Jacob very soon.

Keep hallucinating, it's allowed.

Team the spoon position!
I love that position very very well.

But how do people do it. Choosing craziness instead of peace. Can one actually monitor everything that is happening to his or her spouse all the time? Some people get time sha. Undiluted craziness! I swear.

God forgive me, before I opened the thread, I had already concluded that it can only happen in Nigeria.




There's something I have noticed.
When a wife cheat against her hubby, the man faces his wife, but when a man cheats against the wife,the woman faces the other woman whom the husband cheated with, instead of the man who is the cause of the heartbreak. Why is this always the case in most cases?




And for that school authority, ehn, Na wa for them.

I don't think it's a must, more of cultural thing, I think.


But honestly, until I read this piece, I never knew there could be a grown up man in Africa that wouldn't have been circumcised. Only God knows how the guy would be feeling against his parents now. Na real wa!

There is nothing I'll do than to be laughing.

@op, remember we're all sinners saved by grace.



However, I've never been in your shoes, so I never knew how it pinches, but you yourself know yourself better. If you know that you can absolutely forgive without resentment, regret, referral and revenge in the future, then do, but if you can't, please, let go of the relationship in peace and with maturity.


My personal opinion, please.

The most important things of life..........


~Patience.
~Contentment.
~Good name.
~Good/happy home/family.




If you have these, you can have every other things you desire in life.

@op, Sooo happy for you guys.


However, not every AS/AS couple like that can be so lucky as your parents had been, so, it shouldn't be encouraged.

So, to all SS(single and searching), before your love/relationship becomes "i can't do without him/her", go for genotype test.

I love this!
Kudos!

Why even asking this?
The 3 basic/primary needs of life are food, shelter and clothing. All other needs are secondary, including education.


And the poster above me have explained it better.

@ op, please go and see a doctor, preferably a gynaecologist for proper orientation for you guys on the best and befitting contraceptive for madam. You can't afford to perpetually live in fears...........fear of pregnancy and fear of getting fat. Its too much for you guys.
All the best dear.

When he knew that the state is this broke, why did he then contest for the second term

Another Mother in laws and daughter in law thread


Actions and reactions are always the same and opposite, if you respect your MIL, she will respect you back, if you treat her like a mother she really is, she will in turn treat you like a daughter you really are.

Every DIL is a potential MIL.
Everything is not about what is said or not said, body languages and facial expressions are enough to decode which level one is with one's MIL. All MILs wants peace in their son's homes, so, their corrections sometimes may look like intruding, but instead of standing up to them,it is wiser to ask their sons to intervene for peace to reign and also out of respect for her and one's husband.

Hypocrisy is when one can tolerate one's mother's inadequacies but find it weird and unacceptable to do same for one's MIL's.
Love is the greatest and it conquers all................my secret.
May God help us all.

I love this!

It's funny, educative and as well very correct and accurate.
May God help us all in our marriages. Amen

Happy Anniversary!
Many many more years together.
And my regards to that little cute.

May her beautiful soul continue to rest in peace!

Am I the only one who observed that they were more beautiful before undergoing plastic surgery.

babyosisi:
I personally don't see anything wrong with this.A respected familander some Christmases ago happily announced her lovely Christmas gift and we were happy for her.maybe I am just thinking about the crew of women I call my friends.If we can talk deep things and advise each other on very important life altering issues,telling them I am going to be spending a weekend at the Waldorf Astoria or them telling me their hubby just gave them 5k for Christmas or landed them a diamond rock on their finger is a piece of cake.it actually shows the man in a good light IMHO

not all friends have good heart, besides, you only know those who you truly and genuinely love and you don't know those who truly and genuinely love you among them. So, it's better to thread carefully among the so-called friends.
May God help us all.

Gboliwe:
Oga take it easy. Why are you already on the attack mode? What exactly did I say to warrant the rubbish you wrote up there? If you have the vaguest idea what chronic liver failure is, its the last thing you should wish upon yourself and you would with speed go and get a second opinion.

another one?